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Woman With Anxiety Makes A List For Her Boyfriend Of How To Deal With Her, And Everyone Needs To Read It
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Woman With Anxiety Makes A List For Her Boyfriend Of How To Deal With Her, And Everyone Needs To Read It

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According to the World Health Organization, anxiety disorder is the most common mental illness, and as many as 1 in 13 people globally suffer from it. Constant anxiety and panic attacks can disrupt a person’s life, making it hard for them to accomplish even the simplest everyday tasks. However, most people who never had any mental health issues find it hard to understand the weight of these anxiety attacks. Furthermore, many are left wondering how they suppose to act when someone close to them has a mental breakdown

Actress Kelsey Darragh who admitted to having panic attacks and an anxiety disorder shared an intimate ‘to do’ list she wrote to her boyfriend. To help him understand her condition, she wrote down 15 things he can actually do to help her get dealing with stress and surviving through a panic attack. The list was highly appreciated and went viral. If you or someone close to you suffer from similar mental disorders, this is a must-read!

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Actress Kelsey Darragh suffers from panic attacks and an anxiety disorder

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She recently  shared a list she wrote for her boyfriend

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She wrote down 15 things he can actually do to help her get through a panic attack

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Kelsey encouraged her followers to share what helps them get through panic attacks

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Mn gooze
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I use an abbreviated version of the Bene Gesserit litany-against-fear from the novel "Dune" by Frank Herbert. "I will not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. I will face my fear. I will let it pass through me. When the fear has gone, there shall be nothing. Only I will remain." Rinse and repeat till I'm calm again. Like a mantra

diane a
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I had bad panic attacks years ago - i found it helpful to read up and understand the actual physical processes that are going on in the body which result in panic attacks/severe anxiety. I found that knowledge made them much less scary and they would pass more quickly

diane a
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Whenever I feel the panic beginning to rise I remind myself "This isnt real - there's nothing to be afraid of, it's purely physical- a surge of adrenaline hormones in my body making me feel this way". Then I focus on looseniing the muscles in my upper body, as my lower arms/hands can go into spasm. and breathing slowly and deeply. I can usually stop an attack in it's tracks this way.

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BREAK YOUr perceptions
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

this is beautiful. i am going to ask my fiance to make this list for when she feels stressed out. it can change the world for someone to know they will be looked out for.

A Ghost
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's so important that people understand that "breathing deeply" doesn't help most panic attacks. It's really stressful to be told you're doing something wrong while you're already panicking.

WellSea7
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I never know when a bad one will happen, thats the toughest part for me, never knowing when. I can be doing anything and have one.. I've found somethings that help me, smell helps, smelling something I like, holding my dog , he knows when its bad and starts to comfort me through licking my hands / face. If I cry he races to catch every tear. Sometimes if its really bad , I'll have to alter my plans, go home, and stay if possible. The best thing I've done for myself is, years ago, I stopped feeling bad about this and stopped beating myself up for not being "normal" when I gave all that up and allowed myself to just be me, even embracing this ME, it helped me so much... This is a good idea for anyone to know who's going to be around someone who suffers anxiety and panic.

Alia Ris
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I always got anxiety attacks before and or after my epileptic seizures, up to a point where I almost believe Dementor in HP is real. Finding one thing to watch without emotion/brain required really helps me, and for me, it's the cheesy and cutesy rom com. It won't end it completely, but still better than nothing.

nek0kitty
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Same, I have my cutesy and super fluffy animes that I love to watch when Im having anxiety issues or relapsing into depression.

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FuzzyWuzzy
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is so sad that some people go thru this type of thing on a almost daily basis. I can't even come close to imagining the hell they must be going thru and applaud their attempts at fighting it. Having good mental Health is something we tend to take for granted but there are so many "unseen victims" around us all the time. It's something to think about when dealing with someone who seems "weird or off" to us.

orenji
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

For those who have panic attacks, google "Tapping for Panic Attacks". It helped me a lot :)

Calypso poet
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Thank you! I have never heard of that. Self hypnosis works for me sometimes but if I’m way too anxious this might be an easier start for me.

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Annette Blanks
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I got medicine for mine and it didn’t take long for them to stop. It’s hard for me to remember that I used to have them.

frederic eeckman
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The struggle is real. I suffer from panic attack and this morning during a thunderstorm, a lightning hit right next to the house while we were sleeping. I went from "fully asleep and dreaming" to "fully awake with a pounding heart"... My heart rate is my main trigger for an attack, if it feels weird then I feel like I'll have a heart attack and die... Usually it lasts half an hour, I walk, and walk, and walk, I talk to myself, I remind me that it will pass, and that it's a panic attack... Today my dear husband said the ONE thing that didn't help : "come on it's ridiculous you know you're fine". Well, 4 hours later I was still not snapping out of it, so I went to the doctor (usually having an authority telling me I'm okay helps). Now I'm fine, but it's so exhausting. So PLEASE, people, if someone you know suffer from panic attack, NEVER tell them that it's in their heads and that they know nothing will happen. Believe me, we would just feel humiliated and it will be worse...

Danie L
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I do understand you so well!! I am having the same trigger for panic attacs. I just could not stop paying attention to my heartbeat, sometimes I feel like it's way to fast and then it feels like it does not beat at all. Walking around helps me, too. I usually try to just let it happen, knowing that it will end, soon. I also went to see a doctor who then told me that yes, I have a fast heart rate, but nothing to worry about. Since then, it is getting better and the attacs are getting rarer. When it is a hard one, my mouth gets dry and I have the feeling that I can't swallow and might choke as well. I then try drinking little sips of water because I then have the feeling of control and it makes me realize that my body works just fine. Hope your husband realized that his behaviour did not help at all...

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Marnee DeRider
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And hopefully she asked him to make a list of what she can do to help him recuperate later on from having to deal with all this in JUST the right way.

Furious_Lover
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Finally! It been awhile since we had good content! This can actually help people around the world help others! Thanks Bored Panda!

MeBituman
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Here is a word of advice. Forgetting to breath is a major problem but also your though patterns are what usually causes the anxiety in the first place. The biggest problem is all or nothing type thinking or thinking the worst outcome is what will happen. Try to be conscious of your thoughts and catch yourself if you dwell on negative outcomes.

MeBituman
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Also try to avoid situations that can trigger an attack such as noisy environments or in my case certain types of lighting.

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Leslie Parker
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Thirty years ago, when I was just in my twenties, no one knew what panic attacks were. I thought I was going crazy. No meds, not much understanding from others. My mom became my center. All I needed is to hear her voice tell me that I was alright and everything will be OK. I lost her just four years ago. I have meds now but nothing worked better than love.

Kat D
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is an excellent piece of advice, and probably the most important thing to remember is that COMMUNICATION IS KEY. These steps she wrote down work for HER, and if you know someone with a similar disorder, talk with them about what works for THEM. Many of the items suggested here (especially the meds part) can be considered almost universal but quiet, calm, patient communication is always key.

Gabby
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I just want to say, reading this is making me cry. She's asking for the same things I did with my ex but he made me believe that I was being unreasonable, immature, and controlling. He told me that I was causing my own attacks and would leave me hanging for hours on end. He'd refuse to help or come to me unless I stopped crying or screaming. It got to the point where I really started to believe that I was inconveniencing him and I was at fault for having anxiety. Seeing this list is so relieving for me to knlw that asking for these things is common for anxiety ridden people.

Rua Uílliam (Brithem)
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

#9... definitely. We're already feeling embarrassed (beyond words) and guilty (AF) for dragging whatever loved one is closeby into our panic attack, and we're freaky snappy to boot. We're sorry.

Lena Feliciano Hansen
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

my senior design thesis was about how to cope with anxiety using grounding techniques with the aid of tactile jewelry: http://www.coroflot.com/lenafhdesign/Tactx-coping-with-anxiety-through-tactile-jewelry

Caroline Espenschied
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm not suffering anxiety, but I learned that the human brain CANNOT think two thoughts at the same time, so you can trick it out by requesting the person to repeat a random serie of numbers, to distract their mind and ground it in the here-and-now.

Kiahna
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am so going to show this to my friends. They never seem to get it when I have a panic attack. I have the same thing as her and it's really difficult to find people that understand the struggle. :(

Michèle Gyselinck
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I do get anxious, but don't remember attacks per so. However, has any of you considered getting a psychiatric service dog?

Virginia Llorca
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In a serious panic attack, you probably aren't going to be able to think of all this. My last one, I was home alone and it came on very suddenly. It was the worst one I ever had. I have to close my eyes because my vision goes awry. I could only think of getting a xanax. I would try to keep my eyes open to see the way. I had to walk through the kitchen. I was so disoriented and dizzy, I was feeling along the walls. I kept finding myself at the top of the exit stairs. It was terrifying. When I finally got the xanax, I was able to lie down and deep breathe. But by then it is pretty much over.

Bastette Cat
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What is a "dissociative" panic attack? I had panic attacks for years when I was young, starting from when I was a child. Anti-depressants now help with that so I rarely have them. But I never thought of them as dissociative. I know what it means, I just don't know how it applies to panic and anxiety. Thanks.

xyz
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

he's really cute. also side note, i'm so happy i don't date someone with these issues.

Damien McDallydally
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Dad jokes.. Honestly they are the kind of distraction that will make me think about them just long enough to be distracted.

Kelly
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Bless that boyfriend. I never expect people around me to face my cancer, nor my consequent depression.

DE Ray
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Kelsey is, btw, f*****g amazing. If you don't know her work, look it up.

Melissa D
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have anxiety disorder as well. Sometimes bad (I'm actually not having them much any more... knock on wood) but when I do I have to remember to do breathing exercises. If it gets bad I talk to my mom. But mostly I let myself cry. It might sound like it shouldn't help, it sometimes does if the attack isn't too bad. I also listen to music , especially The Beatles. I also would put on something funny. Sometimes I need a hug or a little help reminding me to do the breathing techniques (but that is when my anxiety attacks are extremely bad, which hopefully don't have any time again)

Sarah Storm
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

WHat I was taught to do during panic attacks was to breathe, which often times I was physically unable to do. But about 2-3 years after I was diagnosed, I discovered another way. By writing or drawing or doing simple addition or subtraction problems (576-345, 213+920, 1133-450,etc), I could slow down my mind enough to do the breathing exercises.

Sarah Storm
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or, if I'm with another person, I make them play a super simple game with me, like tic-tac-toe. Really as long as y mind is moving, and not fixating, I will calm down.

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Noah Westeneng
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

For me, it somtimes helps to look at art, or pictures of art when I am alone and it happens. Sometimes, but mostly in the last phases, I pick a book with pictures. I have some on my bookshelf, so I don't have to search for them. In those moments, I am not able to read the words, but looking at artworks can be really distracting for me. I wouldn't recommend all kind of artworks, but for me it helps to have something before me that I love, with a lot of details. Last time I had a book of Da Vinci, I really like his Annunciation, there is a lot of detail in the wings of the angel.

Alberto Ramírez Sifuentes
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hey people! I got a new method to disappear disorder like this. It's new and very easy, mostly on 3 sessions the problem its solve. Please, contact me if you want a free demo by call. SERIOUSLY WORKS! 7=^D

Helena
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It is always great to have someone you can trust in these moments, someone who's hand you can hold, and who's hug will help you feel safe. When I have a panic attack and I am with someone I can't trust, I always hide or run away. Sometimes, by the fact if I stay or I hide from the person during the attack, I judge and understand what are my real feelings for that person. You never should be with a someone whom you can't trust in these moments.

Malia Ogden
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A walk, a jog, jumping jacks. Anything anaerobic seems to help the adrenaline move through my system and thusly, decrease the severity of the attack.

Tiffany
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is one of the best things I've seen that describes and explains some of the most helpful things to do with anxiety. Letting it float over you and not fighting it--relaxing EVERYTHING--is SO KEY. Thanks for sharing.

Randomcthulu
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I like to sort/arrange things, it calms my mind and gives me some potentially productive to do

Paul Osborne
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've had anxiety before and never really realised it. Unless you've experienced it, it really is hard to describe, rationality goes out the window

Randy Inbred
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What a great list! Even a moron like me could follow it in a situation where my natural reactions almost certainly would make things worse. I wish women could make more lists for me to follow!!

JacekEU
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

ohh, poor snowflake, I'm so special that I panic when something is not going is in my imagination.

Danny VD
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

how about male problems?does anybody f*****g care to deal with male problems?because as far as i'm concerned not even guys with no problems are cared much for

Alexander Hamilton
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Panic attacks are not exclusive to females. You're simply incorrect and think the world revolves around you.

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Francisco Rio Doce Martins
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Isn't she the drunk girl from a youtube channel? If so, she should stop drinking and pretending to be funny.

Aunt Messy
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm claustrophobic, and I have the occasional panic attack if I'm in a crowd. I need to go somewhere were I can't see other humans, but I MUST be able to see the outdoors. DO NOT put me in a room with no windows. Don't talk, don't touch me, and NO media of any kind, NO phones. I need silence. Your "soothing music" is like fingernails on a blackboard. Walk away. Make sure no one bothers me.

Actually, 2019 is my year
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think you’re misunderstanding what snowflakes are. It’s a pejorative term for liberals who have bleeding hearts, who respect the trigger warnings of others, who are feminist, anti-racism, pro-gay marriage, pro-gender neutrality, pro-gun control etc. no reason a “special snowflake should vote you down”- in fact, the very opposite. However, you’ve lost my snowflake sympathy with that name-calling.

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birdhouse
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Again I don't understand why the world has to change for you? I deal with depression and anxiety every day. However I understand it is my problem, my issue. I don't expect people to treat me special or change their habits for me. Learn to deal with your own problems and stop projecting them on the world.

Weezie Ray
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow, buddy. Here in the real world, it is distressing to see someone you love and care about have a panic attack, and people are very happy to know how to help. I'm very sorry if you don't have someone like that in your life, and I hope you will reach out and let someone help you. This is the way partnerships, family, friends, community, and society works. We are all interdependent. Of course it's a good thing to face up to your problems and deal with them, and an emotionally mature person knows that part of dealing with your problems is knowing when to ask for help. These lists ARE them doing something to deal with it.

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Ttam Ttocs
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6 years ago

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Sounds like a lot of effort mate. Suggest finding another girlfriend

John Anderson
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I find that TRUE Panic attacks are rare and most are "I am overwhelmed and just want someone to baby me". Like the woman in this story. Poor guy probably has to walk on eggshells and cater to her every whim. As so not to trigger an "Attack"

Warawk
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wow so many people with anxiety problems! how special you are ! (irony)

Julie James
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Not to scared to take loads of selfies of yourself though.

Amelia Junge
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THIS GIRL IS FROM BUZZFEED!!!!!I LOVE HER SOOOOO MUCH!!!!

Paul Godfrey
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Dear Kelsey, OK. Sorry to see you have Panic Attacks, and its interesting what you wrote for your boyfriend to help you when you do have them and al the advice from others viewers of Bored Panda, however if your interested, I have a much more workable way for you to actually understand and totally handle your (and others who have them) Panic Attacks. There's a brilliant book called DIANETICS, whuch means "through the mind" and in their vebsire, you can see a short video explaining all this, you'll see exactly where and how to totally handle your Panic Attacks, without the use if Meds. It's much simpler than you think and wil benefit you immensely. (www.dianetics.org) Hope this helps. Regards, Paul Maxwell Godfrey (Artist)

Marnee DeRider
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Get out of here with your Scientology cult BS. Hey, have you found Shelly Miscavige yet? The wife of the leader has been missing since 2007. Seems a bit suspicious.

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Michael Smith
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Maybe you should make a list on how YOU should deal with life, instead of forcing everyone else to work around your shortcomings.

jetmastergames
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

people with anxiety or other mental disabilities are STRONGER than normal people because we need to control, and often hide, our disabilities EVERY. DAY.

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Peter Kunder
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Is this bs for real? Looks more like a hysterical broad craving for attention. Maybe slapping her once or twice will allow to bypass all those other laughable steps. This is a made up diagnoses that didnt exist twenty years ago. Helping unemployed actress get noticed.

Marija Mihajlovic
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Are you serious?? A MADE UP diagnosis?? Please stop being stupid and hurtful and educate yourself. https://adaa.org/

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Ben Smith
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The quicker fix is to just break up with her. That's a one-item list guaranteed to get results.

John Smith
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She looks fairly fuckable, so perhaps the guy will humor her on some of The List. Otherwise, head for the hills buddy and find a chic with her s**t together!

Mn gooze
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I use an abbreviated version of the Bene Gesserit litany-against-fear from the novel "Dune" by Frank Herbert. "I will not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. I will face my fear. I will let it pass through me. When the fear has gone, there shall be nothing. Only I will remain." Rinse and repeat till I'm calm again. Like a mantra

diane a
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I had bad panic attacks years ago - i found it helpful to read up and understand the actual physical processes that are going on in the body which result in panic attacks/severe anxiety. I found that knowledge made them much less scary and they would pass more quickly

diane a
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Whenever I feel the panic beginning to rise I remind myself "This isnt real - there's nothing to be afraid of, it's purely physical- a surge of adrenaline hormones in my body making me feel this way". Then I focus on looseniing the muscles in my upper body, as my lower arms/hands can go into spasm. and breathing slowly and deeply. I can usually stop an attack in it's tracks this way.

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BREAK YOUr perceptions
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

this is beautiful. i am going to ask my fiance to make this list for when she feels stressed out. it can change the world for someone to know they will be looked out for.

A Ghost
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's so important that people understand that "breathing deeply" doesn't help most panic attacks. It's really stressful to be told you're doing something wrong while you're already panicking.

WellSea7
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I never know when a bad one will happen, thats the toughest part for me, never knowing when. I can be doing anything and have one.. I've found somethings that help me, smell helps, smelling something I like, holding my dog , he knows when its bad and starts to comfort me through licking my hands / face. If I cry he races to catch every tear. Sometimes if its really bad , I'll have to alter my plans, go home, and stay if possible. The best thing I've done for myself is, years ago, I stopped feeling bad about this and stopped beating myself up for not being "normal" when I gave all that up and allowed myself to just be me, even embracing this ME, it helped me so much... This is a good idea for anyone to know who's going to be around someone who suffers anxiety and panic.

Alia Ris
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I always got anxiety attacks before and or after my epileptic seizures, up to a point where I almost believe Dementor in HP is real. Finding one thing to watch without emotion/brain required really helps me, and for me, it's the cheesy and cutesy rom com. It won't end it completely, but still better than nothing.

nek0kitty
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Same, I have my cutesy and super fluffy animes that I love to watch when Im having anxiety issues or relapsing into depression.

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FuzzyWuzzy
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is so sad that some people go thru this type of thing on a almost daily basis. I can't even come close to imagining the hell they must be going thru and applaud their attempts at fighting it. Having good mental Health is something we tend to take for granted but there are so many "unseen victims" around us all the time. It's something to think about when dealing with someone who seems "weird or off" to us.

orenji
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

For those who have panic attacks, google "Tapping for Panic Attacks". It helped me a lot :)

Calypso poet
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Thank you! I have never heard of that. Self hypnosis works for me sometimes but if I’m way too anxious this might be an easier start for me.

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Annette Blanks
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I got medicine for mine and it didn’t take long for them to stop. It’s hard for me to remember that I used to have them.

frederic eeckman
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The struggle is real. I suffer from panic attack and this morning during a thunderstorm, a lightning hit right next to the house while we were sleeping. I went from "fully asleep and dreaming" to "fully awake with a pounding heart"... My heart rate is my main trigger for an attack, if it feels weird then I feel like I'll have a heart attack and die... Usually it lasts half an hour, I walk, and walk, and walk, I talk to myself, I remind me that it will pass, and that it's a panic attack... Today my dear husband said the ONE thing that didn't help : "come on it's ridiculous you know you're fine". Well, 4 hours later I was still not snapping out of it, so I went to the doctor (usually having an authority telling me I'm okay helps). Now I'm fine, but it's so exhausting. So PLEASE, people, if someone you know suffer from panic attack, NEVER tell them that it's in their heads and that they know nothing will happen. Believe me, we would just feel humiliated and it will be worse...

Danie L
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I do understand you so well!! I am having the same trigger for panic attacs. I just could not stop paying attention to my heartbeat, sometimes I feel like it's way to fast and then it feels like it does not beat at all. Walking around helps me, too. I usually try to just let it happen, knowing that it will end, soon. I also went to see a doctor who then told me that yes, I have a fast heart rate, but nothing to worry about. Since then, it is getting better and the attacs are getting rarer. When it is a hard one, my mouth gets dry and I have the feeling that I can't swallow and might choke as well. I then try drinking little sips of water because I then have the feeling of control and it makes me realize that my body works just fine. Hope your husband realized that his behaviour did not help at all...

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Marnee DeRider
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And hopefully she asked him to make a list of what she can do to help him recuperate later on from having to deal with all this in JUST the right way.

Furious_Lover
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Finally! It been awhile since we had good content! This can actually help people around the world help others! Thanks Bored Panda!

MeBituman
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Here is a word of advice. Forgetting to breath is a major problem but also your though patterns are what usually causes the anxiety in the first place. The biggest problem is all or nothing type thinking or thinking the worst outcome is what will happen. Try to be conscious of your thoughts and catch yourself if you dwell on negative outcomes.

MeBituman
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Also try to avoid situations that can trigger an attack such as noisy environments or in my case certain types of lighting.

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Leslie Parker
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Thirty years ago, when I was just in my twenties, no one knew what panic attacks were. I thought I was going crazy. No meds, not much understanding from others. My mom became my center. All I needed is to hear her voice tell me that I was alright and everything will be OK. I lost her just four years ago. I have meds now but nothing worked better than love.

Kat D
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is an excellent piece of advice, and probably the most important thing to remember is that COMMUNICATION IS KEY. These steps she wrote down work for HER, and if you know someone with a similar disorder, talk with them about what works for THEM. Many of the items suggested here (especially the meds part) can be considered almost universal but quiet, calm, patient communication is always key.

Gabby
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I just want to say, reading this is making me cry. She's asking for the same things I did with my ex but he made me believe that I was being unreasonable, immature, and controlling. He told me that I was causing my own attacks and would leave me hanging for hours on end. He'd refuse to help or come to me unless I stopped crying or screaming. It got to the point where I really started to believe that I was inconveniencing him and I was at fault for having anxiety. Seeing this list is so relieving for me to knlw that asking for these things is common for anxiety ridden people.

Rua Uílliam (Brithem)
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

#9... definitely. We're already feeling embarrassed (beyond words) and guilty (AF) for dragging whatever loved one is closeby into our panic attack, and we're freaky snappy to boot. We're sorry.

Lena Feliciano Hansen
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

my senior design thesis was about how to cope with anxiety using grounding techniques with the aid of tactile jewelry: http://www.coroflot.com/lenafhdesign/Tactx-coping-with-anxiety-through-tactile-jewelry

Caroline Espenschied
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm not suffering anxiety, but I learned that the human brain CANNOT think two thoughts at the same time, so you can trick it out by requesting the person to repeat a random serie of numbers, to distract their mind and ground it in the here-and-now.

Kiahna
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am so going to show this to my friends. They never seem to get it when I have a panic attack. I have the same thing as her and it's really difficult to find people that understand the struggle. :(

Michèle Gyselinck
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I do get anxious, but don't remember attacks per so. However, has any of you considered getting a psychiatric service dog?

Virginia Llorca
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In a serious panic attack, you probably aren't going to be able to think of all this. My last one, I was home alone and it came on very suddenly. It was the worst one I ever had. I have to close my eyes because my vision goes awry. I could only think of getting a xanax. I would try to keep my eyes open to see the way. I had to walk through the kitchen. I was so disoriented and dizzy, I was feeling along the walls. I kept finding myself at the top of the exit stairs. It was terrifying. When I finally got the xanax, I was able to lie down and deep breathe. But by then it is pretty much over.

Bastette Cat
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What is a "dissociative" panic attack? I had panic attacks for years when I was young, starting from when I was a child. Anti-depressants now help with that so I rarely have them. But I never thought of them as dissociative. I know what it means, I just don't know how it applies to panic and anxiety. Thanks.

xyz
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

he's really cute. also side note, i'm so happy i don't date someone with these issues.

Damien McDallydally
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Dad jokes.. Honestly they are the kind of distraction that will make me think about them just long enough to be distracted.

Kelly
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Bless that boyfriend. I never expect people around me to face my cancer, nor my consequent depression.

DE Ray
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Kelsey is, btw, f*****g amazing. If you don't know her work, look it up.

Melissa D
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have anxiety disorder as well. Sometimes bad (I'm actually not having them much any more... knock on wood) but when I do I have to remember to do breathing exercises. If it gets bad I talk to my mom. But mostly I let myself cry. It might sound like it shouldn't help, it sometimes does if the attack isn't too bad. I also listen to music , especially The Beatles. I also would put on something funny. Sometimes I need a hug or a little help reminding me to do the breathing techniques (but that is when my anxiety attacks are extremely bad, which hopefully don't have any time again)

Sarah Storm
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

WHat I was taught to do during panic attacks was to breathe, which often times I was physically unable to do. But about 2-3 years after I was diagnosed, I discovered another way. By writing or drawing or doing simple addition or subtraction problems (576-345, 213+920, 1133-450,etc), I could slow down my mind enough to do the breathing exercises.

Sarah Storm
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or, if I'm with another person, I make them play a super simple game with me, like tic-tac-toe. Really as long as y mind is moving, and not fixating, I will calm down.

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Noah Westeneng
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

For me, it somtimes helps to look at art, or pictures of art when I am alone and it happens. Sometimes, but mostly in the last phases, I pick a book with pictures. I have some on my bookshelf, so I don't have to search for them. In those moments, I am not able to read the words, but looking at artworks can be really distracting for me. I wouldn't recommend all kind of artworks, but for me it helps to have something before me that I love, with a lot of details. Last time I had a book of Da Vinci, I really like his Annunciation, there is a lot of detail in the wings of the angel.

Alberto Ramírez Sifuentes
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hey people! I got a new method to disappear disorder like this. It's new and very easy, mostly on 3 sessions the problem its solve. Please, contact me if you want a free demo by call. SERIOUSLY WORKS! 7=^D

Helena
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It is always great to have someone you can trust in these moments, someone who's hand you can hold, and who's hug will help you feel safe. When I have a panic attack and I am with someone I can't trust, I always hide or run away. Sometimes, by the fact if I stay or I hide from the person during the attack, I judge and understand what are my real feelings for that person. You never should be with a someone whom you can't trust in these moments.

Malia Ogden
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A walk, a jog, jumping jacks. Anything anaerobic seems to help the adrenaline move through my system and thusly, decrease the severity of the attack.

Tiffany
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is one of the best things I've seen that describes and explains some of the most helpful things to do with anxiety. Letting it float over you and not fighting it--relaxing EVERYTHING--is SO KEY. Thanks for sharing.

Randomcthulu
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I like to sort/arrange things, it calms my mind and gives me some potentially productive to do

Paul Osborne
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've had anxiety before and never really realised it. Unless you've experienced it, it really is hard to describe, rationality goes out the window

Randy Inbred
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What a great list! Even a moron like me could follow it in a situation where my natural reactions almost certainly would make things worse. I wish women could make more lists for me to follow!!

JacekEU
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

ohh, poor snowflake, I'm so special that I panic when something is not going is in my imagination.

Danny VD
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

how about male problems?does anybody f*****g care to deal with male problems?because as far as i'm concerned not even guys with no problems are cared much for

Alexander Hamilton
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Panic attacks are not exclusive to females. You're simply incorrect and think the world revolves around you.

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Francisco Rio Doce Martins
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Isn't she the drunk girl from a youtube channel? If so, she should stop drinking and pretending to be funny.

Aunt Messy
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm claustrophobic, and I have the occasional panic attack if I'm in a crowd. I need to go somewhere were I can't see other humans, but I MUST be able to see the outdoors. DO NOT put me in a room with no windows. Don't talk, don't touch me, and NO media of any kind, NO phones. I need silence. Your "soothing music" is like fingernails on a blackboard. Walk away. Make sure no one bothers me.

Actually, 2019 is my year
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think you’re misunderstanding what snowflakes are. It’s a pejorative term for liberals who have bleeding hearts, who respect the trigger warnings of others, who are feminist, anti-racism, pro-gay marriage, pro-gender neutrality, pro-gun control etc. no reason a “special snowflake should vote you down”- in fact, the very opposite. However, you’ve lost my snowflake sympathy with that name-calling.

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birdhouse
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Again I don't understand why the world has to change for you? I deal with depression and anxiety every day. However I understand it is my problem, my issue. I don't expect people to treat me special or change their habits for me. Learn to deal with your own problems and stop projecting them on the world.

Weezie Ray
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow, buddy. Here in the real world, it is distressing to see someone you love and care about have a panic attack, and people are very happy to know how to help. I'm very sorry if you don't have someone like that in your life, and I hope you will reach out and let someone help you. This is the way partnerships, family, friends, community, and society works. We are all interdependent. Of course it's a good thing to face up to your problems and deal with them, and an emotionally mature person knows that part of dealing with your problems is knowing when to ask for help. These lists ARE them doing something to deal with it.

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Ttam Ttocs
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Sounds like a lot of effort mate. Suggest finding another girlfriend

John Anderson
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I find that TRUE Panic attacks are rare and most are "I am overwhelmed and just want someone to baby me". Like the woman in this story. Poor guy probably has to walk on eggshells and cater to her every whim. As so not to trigger an "Attack"

Warawk
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wow so many people with anxiety problems! how special you are ! (irony)

Julie James
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6 years ago

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Not to scared to take loads of selfies of yourself though.

Amelia Junge
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6 years ago

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THIS GIRL IS FROM BUZZFEED!!!!!I LOVE HER SOOOOO MUCH!!!!

Paul Godfrey
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6 years ago

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Dear Kelsey, OK. Sorry to see you have Panic Attacks, and its interesting what you wrote for your boyfriend to help you when you do have them and al the advice from others viewers of Bored Panda, however if your interested, I have a much more workable way for you to actually understand and totally handle your (and others who have them) Panic Attacks. There's a brilliant book called DIANETICS, whuch means "through the mind" and in their vebsire, you can see a short video explaining all this, you'll see exactly where and how to totally handle your Panic Attacks, without the use if Meds. It's much simpler than you think and wil benefit you immensely. (www.dianetics.org) Hope this helps. Regards, Paul Maxwell Godfrey (Artist)

Marnee DeRider
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Get out of here with your Scientology cult BS. Hey, have you found Shelly Miscavige yet? The wife of the leader has been missing since 2007. Seems a bit suspicious.

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Michael Smith
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Maybe you should make a list on how YOU should deal with life, instead of forcing everyone else to work around your shortcomings.

jetmastergames
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

people with anxiety or other mental disabilities are STRONGER than normal people because we need to control, and often hide, our disabilities EVERY. DAY.

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Peter Kunder
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Is this bs for real? Looks more like a hysterical broad craving for attention. Maybe slapping her once or twice will allow to bypass all those other laughable steps. This is a made up diagnoses that didnt exist twenty years ago. Helping unemployed actress get noticed.

Marija Mihajlovic
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Are you serious?? A MADE UP diagnosis?? Please stop being stupid and hurtful and educate yourself. https://adaa.org/

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Ben Smith
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The quicker fix is to just break up with her. That's a one-item list guaranteed to get results.

John Smith
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She looks fairly fuckable, so perhaps the guy will humor her on some of The List. Otherwise, head for the hills buddy and find a chic with her s**t together!

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