The most important issue here is who decided that a 14 year old should carry her baby to term... especially when the father is AWOL and money was already tight for the family? Maybe the parents are religious nutjobs who wouldn't even let that girl think of an abortion.

If twin sis had the baby at 14, and they’re both now 18, the kid has to be four, or close, so we’re not talking about an infant demanding 24/7/365 care and attention, we’re talking a four year old who can be content for a while sitting at a table with paper and crayons. They’re now pre-school age, and next year kindergarten age. Half days in school for two years. Twin sis can then go get a part time job—-or enroll for part time classes at a local college—-either of which she can do full time when the kid hits six and is in school all day. Plus many colleges, especially community colleges, offer daycare (good practice for their Pre-School Education majors). That way, Twin sis can eventually be a self-supporting single mom making a decent salary, instead of freeloading off their parents as a forever child who never leaves the nest. So yeah, OP isn’t hamstringing anyone by going on to college out of state right now. I say leave, go limited contact, have fun in your college years, graduate, go on to grad school if you want, have YOUR life, and don’t look back. Misery loves company, and when they can’t find any, they try to create some. OP’s family is miserable with the way things are, and they’re trying to make OP join them in their misery too. Don’t do it girl!

Why do you think it ok for the baby and a girl stupid enough to get knocked up at 14, to have priority? Your Patents are TAH for neglecting one child so gravely. Why did you give them your money?? Run and dont look back -none of this is your problem or your responsibility

Sis, you're being gaslighted and have been psychologically abused by your parents, Mary, and her child. You're being made to suffer for Mary's behavior, and I would laugh in their faces as I left that house for good. Don't you dare give up this opportunity to finally be free. Tell Mary that she made her life hard so she's going to have to roll with her decision to have a baby baby. Your parents need to hear that they punished you and by mistreating you, you're leaving. Bet they will miss your wages and babysitting more than you. Girl, go to college and find a family of your own creation. Don't look back!

From her other comments not shown here it sounds like Mary is just sharing my with no job while OP has been working hard at school and at home and giving her earned money to the family. It's time to leave and reap the rewards of her hard woek, and create space for Mary to be required to step up. Mary needs to get a job and/or go to community college and start contributing to the family, especially since the child is old enough for preschool and soon kindergarten.

Why was adoption not an option? If OP was a male, would he be asked to give up a near full ride at an out-of-state college? Also, these parents sound abusive. No 13 year old child should be looking for "action" on a first date.

Sister chose to have a baby, parents chose to support her (indefinitely it seems), so how the hell is that the sister's problem? If the parents made her keep it, they assume 100% responsibility. Sister is now 18 with a 4 year old, there's no reason that kid can't go to pre-K and sis go to work. Messed up priorities.

Ask what sacrifices any of them have made for YOU in the past 3 years, and what will they sacrifice for you in the next 3years? Go to college and don't feel any guilt. They didn't consider you, so you have to look after yourself.Well done.

Isn't sex with a minor, I'd think that 14 is a minor, also called statutory rape? Why in all that's holy has she had the child? Hasn't the OP been parentified? So many things that have gone wrong that OP has born the brunt of. The one who got pregnant should be working by now. It's her child and it is not up to her sister to support her.

Girl, you are not Cinderella, and these are not your wicked step mother and step sister. Don't let them make your life choices for you now that you're making a real life for yourself. Run and enjoy the fruits of your hard work while you can.

Why tf is a 14 yo keeping the baby, if she hid it until she couldn't abort it it would be one thing, but even then she should probably had given it up. OP is being neglected and financially abused and needs to get tf away from there. Also OP's sister needs a therapist having a kid at that age may have side effects, also she was 14, a legal kid and under the legal age of consent where I live which is 15.

The parent are toxic. Going to college is the ticket out of that. In reading the comments I have to agree with all of them but one really caught my eye. Contact the college and let them know to NOT cancel the scholarship should anyone call asking for it. You don't have to go into detail with the college about anything. Just say some in your family are against your going to college. I understand women wanting to keep their babies and it's so dang hard to give them up for adoption. I'm adopted. I found my natural mother's family long after she died. Her husband who turned out to be my natural father said my mother could never talk about me it killed her so much. I have pictures of her and I look just like her and I love it. BUT, she did what she felt she had to. It was the mid 1940's and women just didn't get pregnant out of wedlock much less keep the babies. I call it the dark ages and yes I'm a boomer and proud of it. Go get that education and free yourself girl!

It's her sister, not her daughter. NTA Go to college, get a good education and have a life.

Definitely stay in touch with the college and the sponsor of the scholarship and make sure they know that they need to contact you immediately if someone calls and tries to unenroll you from school or cancel the scholarship. At this point I'd go if I had to take out student loans to get out. No one forced your sister to have and keep that child and if they did, then THEY can raise her. That child should have been put up for adoption, but since she wasn't, she's not your problem. Get out as soon as you can!

You have done MORE than enough, far more. If you don't leave now, you will soon be asked to help with your niece's middle school, diving her to her games, helping pay for HER college. This was never your responsibility. You say you're a pushover: do these things for yourself no matter what: arrange to pick up mail at a friend's house or at a P.O. Box at the Post Office (they're pretty inexpensive). Route all your mail to that address. Anything that is yours, try to move it out of the house so that it can't be "mistakenly misplaced." Your family are not only great saboteurs ... they are also great at gaslighting you to think they're doing things in everyone's best interest. Swiping, misplacing, disposing are not above them. Congratulations on the scholarship and good luck!!!!

YNTA your parents and sister are! Your parents are responsible for her and she’s responsible for the consequences of getting pregnant 2 times. Move, go to college and get on with YOUR life.

Wow, stay at home and change your name to Cinderella. In all seriousness, this family have taken her teenage years now they want the rest. Time to cut loose.