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Marriage Hits A Breaking Point As Man’s Weaponized Incompetence Backfires On Him, Wife Is Fed Up
You know those people who suddenly become hopelessly bad at something just when it’s their turn to do it? It’s like watching someone “forget” how a dishwasher works or act like boiling some pasta requires a master’s degree. Convenient, right? It’s a clever little trick to dodge responsibility and make sure someone else picks up the slack.
One mom took to Reddit to spill some piping hot tea about her husband’s creative approach to avoid responsibility. And let’s just say, if weaponized incompetence were an Olympic sport, this guy might be going for gold.
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One woman considers divorcing her husband after he pretends to be very sick just so he doesn’t have to take the kids to daycare
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The woman wakes up early for work and asks her husband to take the kids to the doctor and daycare, but he says he is very sick and can’t get out of bed
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When she returns from work, the woman finds the house spotless and freshly-cleaned, but her husband is not sick in bed, he is out shopping
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Fed up with her husband’s weaponized incompetence, which is actually a repetitive pattern, the woman considers leaving him because of it
The OP (original poster) started her day at 6 a.m., as most moms do, waking up ready to tackle her shift at work. With her toddler’s audiology appointment scheduled for 8 a.m., she’d passed the baton to her husband to handle the drop-off duties. Easy, right? Wrong.
The husband claimed he was too sick to function, complete with sweating, a sore ear, and what sounded like a PhD-level case of “man flu.” Our supermom suggested he handle the morning duties anyway and then spend the rest of the day recovering in bed.
But nope, this dude flat-out refused, leaving her scrambling to take the kids to daycare and to the doctor, then get to work, running late because of his sudden, but very convenient “illness.”
At the end of the day, our mom went home, expecting to find her husband pitifully bedridden. But instead, he was casually at the grocery store, having miraculously recovered enough to go shopping and clean the house until it was spotless. I don’t know which miracle pill he took, but I sure would love to know the name of it.
The OP confesses that this behavior is part of a pattern, leaving her feeling more like a solo parent than an equal partner. And honestly, it’s no wonder she’s contemplating pulling the plug on the relationship. After all, there’s only so much weaponized incompetence a wife can take.
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So, what is weaponized incompetence? It’s when someone deliberately performs a task poorly, or pretends they can’t do it at all, to avoid responsibility. Think: “Oops, I can’t fold the laundry right!” or “I burnt the meat last time, are you sure you want me to cook dinner?”
The pros say that this manipulation technique is especially harmful for the kids, as it teaches them toxic behavior by showing them that one parent has no responsibility. The result? The other partner picks up the slack, creating an unequal dynamic that just breeds resentment.
But that’s not how a marriage works, now is it? Marriage should be a team effort, not a solo act. In other words, Supermom isn’t a nag—she’s just burned out, and understandably so. After all, when you start to feel like you’re parenting your partner, it might be time to reconsider things. And our OP did too, considering leaving her husband for his attitude.
When it’s time to end a marriage, there are a few signs that are hard to ignore. If every conversation turns into a fight, you feel more like roommates than partners, or your mental health is taking a hit, it might be time to reassess.
Sure, all relationships take work, but they shouldn’t feel like a full-time job with overtime. If your partner consistently makes you feel undervalued, unsupported, or downright miserable, it’s worth considering whether staying together is doing more harm than good. After all, life’s too short to spend it picking up someone else’s slack.
What’s your take on this story? Share your comments below!
Netizens say the man is a jerk for pretending to be sick to get out of parenting duties, encouraging the woman to stop enabling him
Poll Question
If you were in the wife's position, would considering divorce be justified?
Yes, it's a valid consideration, especially if this has been going on for a long time.
No, that's too drastic, no matter what.
Maybe, after some attempts to resolve it or couples' therapy.
I'm not sure.
What do you think ?
LonelyLittleLeafSheep 2 months ago
"Help" with the kids?! It's called PARENTING and he's responsible for taking care of his own children, sick or not. Since he's incapable of behaving like an adult, kick his a*s to the curb; it'll be less work!
Bi.Felicia 2 months ago
Unfortunately I can relate, a little too much, to this story. My ex husband sounds a lot like this tool here. He never wanted to do things with his 2 boys, unless I went with them. We were both full-time college students, at one point and we had planned to take turns getting everyone out of the house for a few to several hours, so the other can study/schoolwork. Every time I needed to study and he was to take the kids out, he would be blowing up my phone, the entire time asking questions or just aggravating me, only for him to be back in an hour or two. Unless he went to his mom's or out with his parents, bc they would help him take care of the kids, but I would be out all day, with them by myself. He also never gave the youngest, a bath, until our son was 10 months old! and this is only because his mother made him do it. My ex was/is useless, in every damn component of life and I was doing everything by myself, anyway, he was like having a third child, sometimes. I filed for divorce.
LonelyLittleLeafSheep 2 months ago
"Help" with the kids?! It's called PARENTING and he's responsible for taking care of his own children, sick or not. Since he's incapable of behaving like an adult, kick his a*s to the curb; it'll be less work!
Bi.Felicia 2 months ago
Unfortunately I can relate, a little too much, to this story. My ex husband sounds a lot like this tool here. He never wanted to do things with his 2 boys, unless I went with them. We were both full-time college students, at one point and we had planned to take turns getting everyone out of the house for a few to several hours, so the other can study/schoolwork. Every time I needed to study and he was to take the kids out, he would be blowing up my phone, the entire time asking questions or just aggravating me, only for him to be back in an hour or two. Unless he went to his mom's or out with his parents, bc they would help him take care of the kids, but I would be out all day, with them by myself. He also never gave the youngest, a bath, until our son was 10 months old! and this is only because his mother made him do it. My ex was/is useless, in every damn component of life and I was doing everything by myself, anyway, he was like having a third child, sometimes. I filed for divorce.
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