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Woman Called Selfish For Wanting To Come Back To Her Own House After Renting It For 14 Years
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Woman Called Selfish For Wanting To Come Back To Her Own House After Renting It For 14 Years

Woman Called Selfish For Wanting To Come Back To Her Own House After Renting It For 14 YearsWoman Asks Tenants To Leave After Nearly 15 Years, They Call Her Selfish And A JerkWoman Asks Tenants Of 14 Years To Move Out, Receives Angry Messages Calling Her SelfishLandlord Divides The Internet After Asking If She’s A Jerk For Evicting Her Tenants Of 14 YearsWoman Wonders Whether She’s Wrong For Threatening To Evict Tenants Of Nearly 15 YearsTenants Are Kicked Out After The Owner Decides To Live There, Internet Decides Who’s The JerkLandlord Returns Nearly 15 Years Later To Reclaim The House, Faces Angry Tenants In ReturnWoman Wonders If She's A Jerk For Kicking Out Tenants Because She Wants To Live In Her House
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With fewer properties available to rent in many areas across the UK, the mismatch between supply and demand has pushed up costs for many people.

So landlords like Reddit user Aggravating-Aide-307 are more or less in control of the market. However, the woman who had been travelling around the world decided it was time to settle down and return to her house.

But after she notified the family that had been living in her property for more than a decade, they called her selfish and tried to persuade her to change her mind.

Unsure of the way she handled the situation, the landlord made a post on the subreddit ‘Am I the [Jerk]?’ asking the community to share their opinions on the matter.

This landlord told her tenants of 14 years they had 3 months to move out

Image credits: Ketut Subiyanto (not the actual photo)

But they thought it was a jerk move

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Image credits: Andrea Piacquadio (not the actual photo)

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Image credits: Aggravating-Aide-307

Even though they probably could’ve found a better way to go about it, we can still understand why the tenants got so emotional

The latest data from the Office for National Statistics (ONS) shows UK average annual rent increases accelerated to 5.3% in July.

High demand from tenants at the same time as landlords reducing the number of available properties are the key reasons behind the spike.

In fact, competition among renters is so intense that there are 20 requests to view each available property, according to recent figures commissioned by the BBC from property portal Rightmove, which is up from six in pre-pandemic 2019.

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So you can definitely understand why Aggravating-Aide-307’s tenants were so upset.

Whats worse, Tom Bill, head of UK residential research at estate agency Knight Frank, said: “The squeeze on tenants will not end any time soon.”

He said that there was more financial pain for tenants as the supply of rental property fell and rents rose.

“It is an imbalance compounded by the fact landlords now face higher mortgage rates,” he added.

Official data on wages and inflation have led analysts to suggest that there could be further rises in the Bank of England’s benchmark rate, which would mean ongoing pressure on landlords and homeowners through relatively high mortgage rates.

Image credits: Curtis Adams (not the actual photo)

Harshness can get you only so far

Conflicts, especially those where money is involved, can get messy. But in these times, it’s important to stay grounded.

Arthur Dobrin, Professor Emeritus of University Studies, Hofstra University and Leader Emeritus, Ethical Humanist Society of Long Island, told Bored Panda that kindness can be displayed in the most ordinary circumstances.

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“Some think that kindness is an often misplaced sentiment,” Dobrin, the author of Ethics for Everyone: How to Increase Your Moral Intelligence,  said. “For example, they may want a no-nonsense, knowledgeable, and skilled doctor who can fix the broken parts, not someone to hold their hand. Sentimentality can be a hindrance under certain circumstances, as it may be a distraction and stand in the way of making hard choices.”

Dobrin, who also has an online blog on living ethically, called Am I Right?, highlighted that the essence of kindness is giving someone your attention, recognizing them as a person, and treating them as more than a sum of their parts.

“Kindness builds up relationships while harshness tears them down. Kindness is a virtue that is good for everyone to have. And while random acts of kindness are to be valued, more significant is to make kindness an everyday occurrence with everyone you meet.”

Sometimes that’s legally right doesn’t feel so in the heart.  It’s a real family Aggravating-Aide-307 is dealing with. These people and their world suddenly turned upside down. And her inner doubts prove that she knows it. Hopefully, all of them will find the best solution out of this mess.

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As the story went viral, its author provided more information in the comments

Many who read what happened thought the landlord did nothing wrong

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But some believed she could’ve been more considerate

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After going through the replies, the woman thanked everyone for the feedback and said it made her reevaluate her actions

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Superb Owl
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you live in a rental, it should always be somewhere in the back of your mind that it could end at any time.

A Something
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yup. Renting 17 years and counting. Last year I had got a 2 month notice to up sticks and find something else as the landlords decided they wanted to sell the property as is their right, got a new place and out not even a month

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L.V
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Those YTA judgment are wild! She is giving more notice then is required, and just want to live in a place she owns! Unfortunately, when you rent there's always a risk to be given notice. And these tenants are pretty entitled to judge OP's lifestyle.

marcelo D.
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

half of them are "you are a landlord, so you are evil". I cannot understand how so many stupid people are.

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arthbach
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It should be noted the rental situations in the UK is VERY different from the USA. The standard contract is for 6, or 12 months, and from then on it's a rolling, month by month contract. They were not 'breaking the contract', instead, they were bringing it to an end. The legal requirement was to give 1 month's notice. They gave triple what was required.

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Superb Owl
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you live in a rental, it should always be somewhere in the back of your mind that it could end at any time.

A Something
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yup. Renting 17 years and counting. Last year I had got a 2 month notice to up sticks and find something else as the landlords decided they wanted to sell the property as is their right, got a new place and out not even a month

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L.V
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Those YTA judgment are wild! She is giving more notice then is required, and just want to live in a place she owns! Unfortunately, when you rent there's always a risk to be given notice. And these tenants are pretty entitled to judge OP's lifestyle.

marcelo D.
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

half of them are "you are a landlord, so you are evil". I cannot understand how so many stupid people are.

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arthbach
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It should be noted the rental situations in the UK is VERY different from the USA. The standard contract is for 6, or 12 months, and from then on it's a rolling, month by month contract. They were not 'breaking the contract', instead, they were bringing it to an end. The legal requirement was to give 1 month's notice. They gave triple what was required.

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