Woman Called Selfish For Wanting To Come Back To Her Own House After Renting It For 14 Years
With fewer properties available to rent in many areas across the UK, the mismatch between supply and demand has pushed up costs for many people.
So landlords like Reddit user Aggravating-Aide-307 are more or less in control of the market. However, the woman who had been travelling around the world decided it was time to settle down and return to her house.
But after she notified the family that had been living in her property for more than a decade, they called her selfish and tried to persuade her to change her mind.
Unsure of the way she handled the situation, the landlord made a post on the subreddit ‘Am I the [Jerk]?’ asking the community to share their opinions on the matter.
This landlord told her tenants of 14 years they had 3 months to move out
Image credits: Ketut Subiyanto (not the actual photo)
But they thought it was a jerk move
Image credits: Andrea Piacquadio (not the actual photo)
Image credits: Aggravating-Aide-307
Even though they probably could’ve found a better way to go about it, we can still understand why the tenants got so emotional
The latest data from the Office for National Statistics (ONS) shows UK average annual rent increases accelerated to 5.3% in July.
High demand from tenants at the same time as landlords reducing the number of available properties are the key reasons behind the spike.
In fact, competition among renters is so intense that there are 20 requests to view each available property, according to recent figures commissioned by the BBC from property portal Rightmove, which is up from six in pre-pandemic 2019.
So you can definitely understand why Aggravating-Aide-307’s tenants were so upset.
Whats worse, Tom Bill, head of UK residential research at estate agency Knight Frank, said: “The squeeze on tenants will not end any time soon.”
He said that there was more financial pain for tenants as the supply of rental property fell and rents rose.
“It is an imbalance compounded by the fact landlords now face higher mortgage rates,” he added.
Official data on wages and inflation have led analysts to suggest that there could be further rises in the Bank of England’s benchmark rate, which would mean ongoing pressure on landlords and homeowners through relatively high mortgage rates.
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Harshness can get you only so far
Conflicts, especially those where money is involved, can get messy. But in these times, it’s important to stay grounded.
Arthur Dobrin, Professor Emeritus of University Studies, Hofstra University and Leader Emeritus, Ethical Humanist Society of Long Island, told Bored Panda that kindness can be displayed in the most ordinary circumstances.
“Some think that kindness is an often misplaced sentiment,” Dobrin, the author of Ethics for Everyone: How to Increase Your Moral Intelligence, said. “For example, they may want a no-nonsense, knowledgeable, and skilled doctor who can fix the broken parts, not someone to hold their hand. Sentimentality can be a hindrance under certain circumstances, as it may be a distraction and stand in the way of making hard choices.”
Dobrin, who also has an online blog on living ethically, called Am I Right?, highlighted that the essence of kindness is giving someone your attention, recognizing them as a person, and treating them as more than a sum of their parts.
“Kindness builds up relationships while harshness tears them down. Kindness is a virtue that is good for everyone to have. And while random acts of kindness are to be valued, more significant is to make kindness an everyday occurrence with everyone you meet.”
Sometimes that’s legally right doesn’t feel so in the heart. It’s a real family Aggravating-Aide-307 is dealing with. These people and their world suddenly turned upside down. And her inner doubts prove that she knows it. Hopefully, all of them will find the best solution out of this mess.
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As the story went viral, its author provided more information in the comments
Many who read what happened thought the landlord did nothing wrong
But some believed she could’ve been more considerate
After going through the replies, the woman thanked everyone for the feedback and said it made her reevaluate her actions
If you live in a rental, it should always be somewhere in the back of your mind that it could end at any time.
Yup. Renting 17 years and counting. Last year I had got a 2 month notice to up sticks and find something else as the landlords decided they wanted to sell the property as is their right, got a new place and out not even a month
Load More Replies...Those YTA judgment are wild! She is giving more notice then is required, and just want to live in a place she owns! Unfortunately, when you rent there's always a risk to be given notice. And these tenants are pretty entitled to judge OP's lifestyle.
half of them are "you are a landlord, so you are evil". I cannot understand how so many stupid people are.
Load More Replies...It should be noted the rental situations in the UK is VERY different from the USA. The standard contract is for 6, or 12 months, and from then on it's a rolling, month by month contract. They were not 'breaking the contract', instead, they were bringing it to an end. The legal requirement was to give 1 month's notice. They gave triple what was required.
Personally, I would have been open to extending the notice period if they had asked politely but if they emailed me calling me selfish, etc., then it would be 90 days and not a day more. But I’m petty that way.
Herein lies my issue with them. Had they been kind and patient with me, I’d do my best to help them relocate. Calling me names creates an adversarial relationship which means I now need to cover my āss legally as quickly as possible.
Load More Replies...If they'd politely asked for 6 months, or for until the end of the school year, so the kids wouldn't be disrupted, they might have got it. Or they could have asked to buy at market price. Asking to buy at what she paid years ago is entitled a*****e behaviour. They rented a house. They were lucky enough to live there for 14 years. Now the house is no longer for rent, and they will have to rent a different house. That's just how it works. 3 months notice is fine. NTA.
It always blows me away how on the AITA forum people quickly forget something like this is a BUSINESS arrangement and not a personal one. I feel the OP could have offered to sell them the house at fair market value minus a percentage as they were already ensconced in the home and no real expense was created due to an easy sell. However, it's the OPs house and they have the right to live in. Period.
Wow! There are so many entitled AHs in the comments above. It doesn't matter how long they rented for, it is not their house. They got 3x of the standard notice. This is why so many landlords get out of being landlords. Too many AH tenants and their supporters think time equals special rights or privilege. 14 years in a rental? WTH? Why didn't they save to buy their own home all that time?
Agreed. And if the house needs a roof, a furnace, an update, the renters have Zero liability, other than a future rent increase.
Load More Replies...I inherited my grandparents home in 1998 & have been renting it to the same couple since 2003. They’re about a decade younger than me. It’s the corner house & my mom’s is next door on the side street. San Francisco has tenant-leaning laws, so I can only raise rent certain % and would have to move in as primary residence to evict them. Also, I rented it at 40% below market value which is now 50% below. We share one large backyard & they look after my mom, who I visit every weekend or so. They’re like family. We all acknowledge it’s my home & have talked about what would happen should my husband, kid & I move from HI to SF permanently. They’re both professionals, but couldn’t afford a comparable home. If we did move back, I’d move my mom in with us cos it’s much larger & offer my tenants her home to rent. Although, my son inherits hers when she leave it, so that may create problems when the tenants are very old. Something he’ll have to sort out when the time comes. I can’t fathom dumping them on the SF rental market.
I (partially) rented a house here in CA. It started out as two-year leases, but the landlord always let it go into month-to-month. However, it wasn't long before he evolved into a scumlord. When he sold the house (without my knowledge, of course), he tried to give me 60 days to move out. Fortunately, due to some structural issues, I had done my homework. As I had been living there for longer than 12 months (try 14 years!), by law he was supposed to give me at least 120 days to move out. However, according to the Relocation Ordinance, since I am 62 or older and legally disabled, that time period extends to 12 months. It took the Eviction Defense Center to put a stop to the nonsense. I fail to see how OP is an AH for giving three months' notice; she was being gracious. Had they asked nicely, it might have been extended twice as long. The entitlement of some people........
Load More Replies...If you live in a rental, it should always be somewhere in the back of your mind that it could end at any time.
Yup. Renting 17 years and counting. Last year I had got a 2 month notice to up sticks and find something else as the landlords decided they wanted to sell the property as is their right, got a new place and out not even a month
Load More Replies...Those YTA judgment are wild! She is giving more notice then is required, and just want to live in a place she owns! Unfortunately, when you rent there's always a risk to be given notice. And these tenants are pretty entitled to judge OP's lifestyle.
half of them are "you are a landlord, so you are evil". I cannot understand how so many stupid people are.
Load More Replies...It should be noted the rental situations in the UK is VERY different from the USA. The standard contract is for 6, or 12 months, and from then on it's a rolling, month by month contract. They were not 'breaking the contract', instead, they were bringing it to an end. The legal requirement was to give 1 month's notice. They gave triple what was required.
Personally, I would have been open to extending the notice period if they had asked politely but if they emailed me calling me selfish, etc., then it would be 90 days and not a day more. But I’m petty that way.
Herein lies my issue with them. Had they been kind and patient with me, I’d do my best to help them relocate. Calling me names creates an adversarial relationship which means I now need to cover my āss legally as quickly as possible.
Load More Replies...If they'd politely asked for 6 months, or for until the end of the school year, so the kids wouldn't be disrupted, they might have got it. Or they could have asked to buy at market price. Asking to buy at what she paid years ago is entitled a*****e behaviour. They rented a house. They were lucky enough to live there for 14 years. Now the house is no longer for rent, and they will have to rent a different house. That's just how it works. 3 months notice is fine. NTA.
It always blows me away how on the AITA forum people quickly forget something like this is a BUSINESS arrangement and not a personal one. I feel the OP could have offered to sell them the house at fair market value minus a percentage as they were already ensconced in the home and no real expense was created due to an easy sell. However, it's the OPs house and they have the right to live in. Period.
Wow! There are so many entitled AHs in the comments above. It doesn't matter how long they rented for, it is not their house. They got 3x of the standard notice. This is why so many landlords get out of being landlords. Too many AH tenants and their supporters think time equals special rights or privilege. 14 years in a rental? WTH? Why didn't they save to buy their own home all that time?
Agreed. And if the house needs a roof, a furnace, an update, the renters have Zero liability, other than a future rent increase.
Load More Replies...I inherited my grandparents home in 1998 & have been renting it to the same couple since 2003. They’re about a decade younger than me. It’s the corner house & my mom’s is next door on the side street. San Francisco has tenant-leaning laws, so I can only raise rent certain % and would have to move in as primary residence to evict them. Also, I rented it at 40% below market value which is now 50% below. We share one large backyard & they look after my mom, who I visit every weekend or so. They’re like family. We all acknowledge it’s my home & have talked about what would happen should my husband, kid & I move from HI to SF permanently. They’re both professionals, but couldn’t afford a comparable home. If we did move back, I’d move my mom in with us cos it’s much larger & offer my tenants her home to rent. Although, my son inherits hers when she leave it, so that may create problems when the tenants are very old. Something he’ll have to sort out when the time comes. I can’t fathom dumping them on the SF rental market.
I (partially) rented a house here in CA. It started out as two-year leases, but the landlord always let it go into month-to-month. However, it wasn't long before he evolved into a scumlord. When he sold the house (without my knowledge, of course), he tried to give me 60 days to move out. Fortunately, due to some structural issues, I had done my homework. As I had been living there for longer than 12 months (try 14 years!), by law he was supposed to give me at least 120 days to move out. However, according to the Relocation Ordinance, since I am 62 or older and legally disabled, that time period extends to 12 months. It took the Eviction Defense Center to put a stop to the nonsense. I fail to see how OP is an AH for giving three months' notice; she was being gracious. Had they asked nicely, it might have been extended twice as long. The entitlement of some people........
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