"It is possible to commit no mistakes and still lose. That is not a weakness; that is life." - Jean-Luc Picard

I tell my daughter this bc I want her to be prepared when I'm not here anymore. I will fight for her tooth and nail but I still don't know exactly what she's going through only she does and she needs to learn how to advocate for herself even if it means a raging angry fight.

True. Also, don't ever stop being kind to people. It's a win-win. They feel valued and you sleep better.

SO...just keep being you-it works.

Being fat is not a moral failing.

And sometimes there’s nothing you can do but keep plowing along

YEP

I wish this was talked about more. I've been married to a "pushy" guy for 20 years. The implication in this post is that it veers towards sexual or physical abuse, but it doesn't always. My husband is neither, but his pushiness has destroyed parts of our life that we can never fully repair. Pushy people aren't all motivated by the same things, but the end result will be horrifying regardless, if unchecked. Rule #1 in life, set clear boundaries. Rule #2, maintain those boundaries at all costs.

“That’s life And as funny as it may seem Some people get their kicks Stomping on a dream But I don't let it, let it get me down Cause this fine old world, it keeps spinnin' around” -Frank Sinatra

So many toxic people in so called romantic films and books, I hope the examples set will get better over time

My parent's issues were each other. One night when I was 15, they got into a huge fight. I had had enough of this in my life. I got up, took my mother's car and left. I came back the next morning to get some clothes, and my mom shows up. I told her I was leaving and would not come back until they divorced, and I didn't. She gave me $200 and the car to use. I left town, and they divorced. We were all happier. Parents should never stay together " for the kids." All you end up with is mentally disabled children. I speak from experience.

"Good girl" mentality is a prime example of internalized misogyny.

Just because you’re not good at something you love, doesn’t mean you should stop doing it ❤️ you don’t have to be a master at everything you do, if ur a bad singer, sing your heart out, if you’re a bad drawer, draw everyday:) be kind to yourself, you deserve it

Sad but true.

As every trans kid with unsupportive parents can attest to...

I'm a runner and it gets harder every year to keep going. Got a peloton to see if that's easier. It's not. Exercise and watching your calorie intake is the only thing that keeps you feeling good at every age. You will still go through middle age and gain weight and have pain and have some issues w your health but taking care of yourself is all you really have that helps ease aging

Say it louder for the people in the back!

It does sometimes. I was severely depressed for years in my early twenties, it gradually got better (meds and therapy) and I haven't had a trace of it for the last ten years. It doesn't go away on it's own, but it can go away

The only one you can trust is YOU.

It's truly the only way you can be independent and not have to rely on anyone

It always baffles me at how much love and respect I feel for friends or distant family, and how little I get back. It hurts me to know that they don’t care about me like I care about them and it confuses me, like am I a bad person? Is that why they don’t return my respect. You would think it’s just common courtesy

That's just me. My parents and teachers both do not understand me enough. My mum does not try to understand me and bit. No matter what I do mom is only able to see the bad in it. But I'm okay. I hope.

What is it with this thread's depressing posts? I disagree with this entirely. If you think people will only think the worst of you, then some self-love is needed asap. This is not a healthy mental state to have and should not be encouraged come on!

Nope. Not even a little bit. The people who think the worst of you may do so no matter what. Those people don't matter. Most people like to know good people and look for that in others. If you live your life with the massive negativity and judgement on this list you might be putting out some petty and ugly vibes.

Jealousy is ugly.

I would change this to "some people" ...not just a blanket statement encompassing everyone.

So ...let them... I always say what you eat doesn't make me sh@! and what you think of me is none of my damn business!

Let them. That's their misery and they only want company!

What until you have kids. Then come back later and see if your opinions changed on parenting.

Yep. A bad reputation may be a good thing. Depends on the set!

I learned this lesson hard. A co-worker I helped with a new car, 401k, security cameras, she couldn't read or write but had amazing credit and life. There happen to be an investigation into a worker for suspicion of how they got their job in another department. It was scandal. She said I knew things I didn't. She threw me under the bus. She admitted that she knew people could lose their job if she named others, she lost her one and only job since she was 18 and at 40, she had no other skills, she was banned from ever returning. I helped that old woman through so much, my mother before she passed away warned me not to trust her... I was naive.

You needed to start that sentence with "some insignificant..."

This is sad but true. It's a reality check to find out what people really think about you even though you thought you were just being a good person.

What you think about yourself is what matters.

I don't find this to be true, in most cases, around me. People do learn what they can expect of you, I wouldn't call that "the worst", in me... By far.

They can think what they want. It's what YOU think that matters. Words of advice: Never let an a$$hole rent space in your head. Always make sure the juice is worth the squeeze.

That only works if I care what people think about me

The key is whole heartily, not caring what others think. I love it.

People are always gonna see what they want and believe what they want don't ever go out of your way to try to get someone to accept you. Anyone that can accept you for you and like you as a person you are don't need to be in your life anyway so why even bother

Is that the correct location for that piece of clothing ?

You can count on both, just don’t let yourself wait too long to get motivation.

Yeah, and just because someone is good at something doesnt' mean they have an interest in pursuing a career out of it or will do anything for you for free. If you really value someone's craft, then put value in it in return by paying them.

Oh I don't know... I think I get on my husband's case about health issues far, far more than he would if he was alone.

I'm always confused. Throwing another human in the mix doesn't make my brain work

Ooh, it's called reparenting in some therapy models. Learning to talk to yourself in a nurturing parent voice and learning to advocate for yourself is hard but worth it.

And we do. For whatever reason, we go above and beyond to help. Over and over again. I finally had to delete a couple of people from my life, literally. It's hard, but I am better for it.

Be clean and do your job. Nobody notices you as much as you notice yourself.