"It is possible to commit no mistakes and still lose. That is not a weakness; that is life." - Jean-Luc Picard

I tell my daughter this bc I want her to be prepared when I'm not here anymore. I will fight for her tooth and nail but I still don't know exactly what she's going through only she does and she needs to learn how to advocate for herself even if it means a raging angry fight.

True. Also, don't ever stop being kind to people. It's a win-win. They feel valued and you sleep better.

SO...just keep being you-it works.

Being fat is not a moral failing.

And don't wait for someone else to come along to love your body just so you can, too.

I don't know how to do this. I wish I could. I used to be extremely athletic, competed at national level and one day, one accident destroyed my career and my ability to do any sort of exercise as my legs work for walking but are useless otherwise. Suddenly I can't even look at food and not pick up weight. I've taken down all mirrors below the neck in my house because I can't stand looking at myself. Most people ask about my physical healing when they see me but all the physical issues is nothing compared to the self-hate I'm experiencing.

Just don't let it get out of control. After my mother died, I subscribed to that mentality, I stopped doing diets and just ate whatever I want. Also a bit of depression to help. Get 30kg heavier and also got diabetes. So no, there's no perfect heaven. Obesity is bad for your health and will charge it's cost more and more as you get older.

Sometimes it can be unhealthy though. If your fat because of unhealthy reasons, then that’s not a good thing. But if your are healthy in general, and are fat, then your perfectly fine. Same with being skinny. (I don’t really like using the word fat, but it’s kinda hard to say it in a way that doesn’t seem offensive.)

Fat is something you have, not something you are. A person can have extra fat deposits, but that does not define who you are.

Being yourself, loving yourself...is important on so many levels.. We are givien one body.. and that body is beautiful!

I'm not fat. I'm happy.

Preach,so true waste of time hating your own body lesson learned.

Thor taught me that you don't need visible abs to be worthy.

One great secret to life.

Just because you are not thin does not mean that you are FAT.

Damn, saddens me how many of you just resigned. If you really want you can look exactly the way you want to don't give me that it's fine I am not immaculate s**t. I've been both very obese and extremely skinny and bony but after I committed myself to the gym day after day for years I'm getting more and more the way I actually WANT to look like not the way I HAVE to because I don't want to put in the work it requires. Accepting your flaws is giving up before even seriously trying

It's a difficult thing to learn, that: loving our body in the face of all the media imagery.

once I stopped living to eat and I ate only to live things change for me I was overweight most of my life always told you're so pretty if you would just lose weight. I was a size 14 16 and I was considered fat by my school peers. I was treated like crap because of it. once I eliminated animal products from my diet I dropped to a size 4. it's not so much eating healthy it's what you choose to eat. those people who are diabetic and have high blood pressure can choose to change their lifestyle and be healthy and not have to live on insulin and supplements and not be so uncomfortable. my mother was morbidly obese and died because of it she was ashamed of herself and how she looked and refuse to go out in public. how sad to live like that I'd rather give up bacon and steaks and be able to able to walk around in public.

By all means, eat two portions at every meal and then be angry at middle age diabetes for body shaming you. It's your life and obviously exciting your taste buds is more important than watching your grandkids grow.

Not expecting perfection is not the same as not even trying to control yourself. Our country has an absolute epidemic of obesity that trickles down to all aspects of life from self esteem to plane rides to healthcare. I recently read that 70% of age eligible recruits could not pass the basic physical requirements to enter the military. That is a BIG problem. (Pun not intended but fitting) People should not put themselves under the pressure to be supermodels but allowing yourself to be fat isn't the answer either

HAES!

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Yeah, but at the same time, expect to only live to 45.

And sometimes there’s nothing you can do but keep plowing along

YEP

I wish this was talked about more. I've been married to a "pushy" guy for 20 years. The implication in this post is that it veers towards sexual or physical abuse, but it doesn't always. My husband is neither, but his pushiness has destroyed parts of our life that we can never fully repair. Pushy people aren't all motivated by the same things, but the end result will be horrifying regardless, if unchecked. Rule #1 in life, set clear boundaries. Rule #2, maintain those boundaries at all costs.

“That’s life And as funny as it may seem Some people get their kicks Stomping on a dream But I don't let it, let it get me down Cause this fine old world, it keeps spinnin' around” -Frank Sinatra

So many toxic people in so called romantic films and books, I hope the examples set will get better over time

My parent's issues were each other. One night when I was 15, they got into a huge fight. I had had enough of this in my life. I got up, took my mother's car and left. I came back the next morning to get some clothes, and my mom shows up. I told her I was leaving and would not come back until they divorced, and I didn't. She gave me $200 and the car to use. I left town, and they divorced. We were all happier. Parents should never stay together " for the kids." All you end up with is mentally disabled children. I speak from experience.

"Good girl" mentality is a prime example of internalized misogyny.

Just because you’re not good at something you love, doesn’t mean you should stop doing it ❤️ you don’t have to be a master at everything you do, if ur a bad singer, sing your heart out, if you’re a bad drawer, draw everyday:) be kind to yourself, you deserve it

Sad but true.

As every trans kid with unsupportive parents can attest to...

I'm a runner and it gets harder every year to keep going. Got a peloton to see if that's easier. It's not. Exercise and watching your calorie intake is the only thing that keeps you feeling good at every age. You will still go through middle age and gain weight and have pain and have some issues w your health but taking care of yourself is all you really have that helps ease aging