"It is possible to commit no mistakes and still lose. That is not a weakness; that is life." - Jean-Luc Picard

I tell my daughter this bc I want her to be prepared when I'm not here anymore. I will fight for her tooth and nail but I still don't know exactly what she's going through only she does and she needs to learn how to advocate for herself even if it means a raging angry fight.

True. Also, don't ever stop being kind to people. It's a win-win. They feel valued and you sleep better.

SO...just keep being you-it works.

Being fat is not a moral failing.

And sometimes there’s nothing you can do but keep plowing along

YEP

I wish this was talked about more. I've been married to a "pushy" guy for 20 years. The implication in this post is that it veers towards sexual or physical abuse, but it doesn't always. My husband is neither, but his pushiness has destroyed parts of our life that we can never fully repair. Pushy people aren't all motivated by the same things, but the end result will be horrifying regardless, if unchecked. Rule #1 in life, set clear boundaries. Rule #2, maintain those boundaries at all costs.

“That’s life And as funny as it may seem Some people get their kicks Stomping on a dream But I don't let it, let it get me down Cause this fine old world, it keeps spinnin' around” -Frank Sinatra

So many toxic people in so called romantic films and books, I hope the examples set will get better over time

My parent's issues were each other. One night when I was 15, they got into a huge fight. I had had enough of this in my life. I got up, took my mother's car and left. I came back the next morning to get some clothes, and my mom shows up. I told her I was leaving and would not come back until they divorced, and I didn't. She gave me $200 and the car to use. I left town, and they divorced. We were all happier. Parents should never stay together " for the kids." All you end up with is mentally disabled children. I speak from experience.

"Good girl" mentality is a prime example of internalized misogyny.

Just because you’re not good at something you love, doesn’t mean you should stop doing it ❤️ you don’t have to be a master at everything you do, if ur a bad singer, sing your heart out, if you’re a bad drawer, draw everyday:) be kind to yourself, you deserve it

Sad but true.

As every trans kid with unsupportive parents can attest to...

I'm a runner and it gets harder every year to keep going. Got a peloton to see if that's easier. It's not. Exercise and watching your calorie intake is the only thing that keeps you feeling good at every age. You will still go through middle age and gain weight and have pain and have some issues w your health but taking care of yourself is all you really have that helps ease aging

Say it louder for the people in the back!

It does sometimes. I was severely depressed for years in my early twenties, it gradually got better (meds and therapy) and I haven't had a trace of it for the last ten years. It doesn't go away on it's own, but it can go away

The only one you can trust is YOU.

It's truly the only way you can be independent and not have to rely on anyone

It always baffles me at how much love and respect I feel for friends or distant family, and how little I get back. It hurts me to know that they don’t care about me like I care about them and it confuses me, like am I a bad person? Is that why they don’t return my respect. You would think it’s just common courtesy

You can count on both, just don’t let yourself wait too long to get motivation.

Yeah, and just because someone is good at something doesnt' mean they have an interest in pursuing a career out of it or will do anything for you for free. If you really value someone's craft, then put value in it in return by paying them.

Oh I don't know... I think I get on my husband's case about health issues far, far more than he would if he was alone.

I'm always confused. Throwing another human in the mix doesn't make my brain work

Ooh, it's called reparenting in some therapy models. Learning to talk to yourself in a nurturing parent voice and learning to advocate for yourself is hard but worth it.

And we do. For whatever reason, we go above and beyond to help. Over and over again. I finally had to delete a couple of people from my life, literally. It's hard, but I am better for it.

Be clean and do your job. Nobody notices you as much as you notice yourself.