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ConstructionLower549 , Wyatt Fisher Report

People Would Have Preferred To Know These 30 Life Lessons Sooner, As Shared In This Online Group Never put your education/ job / plans etc on hold for a boyfriend / girlfriend especially while in college, especially when you’re 19.

Final score:

303points

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Amy Taylor 2 years ago

When I was 19 my brother was in university in England. I had never been to Europe (I live in CA) he offered me a free place to stay and wanted me to come out and travel all over Europe with him and his friends. My boyfriend at the time said he'd break up with me if I went, so I didn't go. Looking back, him leaving me over that would be reason enough to have gone.

123points

People Would Have Preferred To Know These 30 Life Lessons Sooner, As Shared In This Online Group Listen to your gut instinct. If something feels off about a person or situation, there’s a reason. Believe it the first time and walk away

LAESanford , Dushan Hanuska Report

Final score:

296points

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ArodTheHorrible 2 years ago

This is sound advice. You don't have to justify it, either... the fact that you are uncomfortable is reason enough to go

61points

Keating_5 2 years ago

“I’m uncomfortable” is enough of an answer that you usually shouldn’t have to explain any further to people.

0points

KombatBunni 2 years ago

As my Nan would always tell me, when in doubt don’t. Wise advice and I’ve done my best to listen

5points

Natalia Allen 2 years ago

Yes this is so true!

0points

Amanda Rose 2 years ago

I am always told that I seem to be able to figure out a bad situation before everyone else is clued in. I'm an introvert and a people watcher. Human behavior is made up of patterns. There's a reason why we get uncomfortable with deviations from the norm.

5points

XenoMurph 2 years ago

Some of the best people I know deviate from the norm. Many people are not kind. The kindest ones deviate from the norm. We get some weird signals "the first time, and walk away" that's just based on partial knowledge or prejudice. Some of the best people I know I didn't get on with on the fiorst meeting. You guys are ruining some great relationships because of fake "red flags".

2points

Seth 2 years ago

This one can go either way; that "gut feeling" can just be your prejudices or a trigger of some unresolved personal trauma. Don't ignore your instincts, but also don't blindly accept them as truth; use those feelings as a starting point for a more holistic analysis.

3points

NickTurtle 2 years ago

Doesn't work for people with anxiety disorder and phobias. We could never leave our homes, if we listened to our gut.

3points

piruoztek 1 year ago

Came here to say this.

0points

Lies Aerts 2 years ago

Should've listened to my gut and said "No" instead of yes when I got married. Would've created a sensation with the in-laws but would've spared me A LOT of misery!!

3points

Michael Largey 2 years ago

My gut is located too close to two parts of my body which have given me very bad advice in the past.

3points

Natalia Allen 2 years ago

lol

0points

Damon 2 years ago

Yeah… but you should probably have a critical think about it too

3points

clist414 2 years ago

This is a lesson I have avoided learning for 35 years... and I've chosen to listen to my gut (even just as an experiment). I've had so many misgivings and hesitations in the past that I haven't listened to, only to experience something negative later that I can trace back to not listening to that initial sense. My counselor has suggested that it sounds like I might be gaslighting myself when it comes toy doubts about my feelings. So now I say, listen to your gut. Even if you're wrong, you are being true to yourself. That matters.

2points

Peeka_Mimi 2 years ago

Yes. Yes. Yes. I had to learn the hard way. I'm almost 50 now and finally learned.

1point

Theoretical Empiricist 2 years ago

You're acting on information you don't know you have.

1point

Natalie H 2 years ago

THIS!! It’s absolutely true.

1point

Hetal Vyas 2 years ago

I always trust my gut instinct. If it feels wrong or right, that's the way to go

0points

Natalia Allen 2 years ago

Hell yes! If I had trusted my gut I would have saved myself from multiple traumatic relationships. I forgive myself. I do now trust my gut even if I am a little late to the party.

0points

Roland Nijveld 2 years ago

Unless you have that feeling about vaccines... then you're just crazy...

0points

Cranky Gurl 2 years ago

run don't walk

0points

Autistic McWolferson the Forth 2 years ago

"Listen to your gut instinct. If something feels off about a person or situation, there’s a reason. Believe it the first time and walk away." Sounds like the literal Modus Operandi of every racist that has ever lived. "I know nothing about this person but they dress different and have a different accent than me so I'm gonna tell this nice lady who's asking for directions that I"m 'walking away from you now' and, MOST IMPORTANTLY ... not going to tell her why.... SHE KNOWS WHAT SHE DID." This is good advice when explained properly but this is just a hot-garbage post the way it was posted. Literally has no useful discernable meaning except "oh and by the way it's okay to be racist" which is kind of what it alludes to... BUT THAT'S NONE OF MY BUSINESS...

0points

Natalia Allen 2 years ago

I dont think racism is a gut instinct. It's taught and learned and is more of a mental program / thoughts. No baby is born racist.

0points

Brooklynn Jackson 2 years ago

That’s ‘cause your gut instinct isn’t just a feeling, your body has subconsciously found out the warning signs which you’re not able to understand so GET. THE. F**K. OUT!!

0points

jules is the best 2 years ago

i know this but always still have doubt :(

0points

Jessica Cooney 2 years ago

I once had a bad feeling about a dude as a recruiter for a temp agency, turned out he was a pedo.

0points

Sean Sean 2 years ago

I'm a Scorpio, I get that feeling about everyone.

-1point

People Would Have Preferred To Know These 30 Life Lessons Sooner, As Shared In This Online Group Happiness is enjoying the things you have, not the things to come.

6ingiiie , Vladimir Kudinov Report

Final score:

293points

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Well-Dressed Wolf 2 years ago

What if all you “have” is depression and anxiety?

77points

People Would Have Preferred To Know These 30 Life Lessons Sooner, As Shared In This Online Group Sometimes you can do everything right and still fail.

puppet1987 , Hans Gerwitz Report

Final score:

271points

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Headless Roach 2 years ago

They say success is the ability to go from one failure to another with no loss of enthusiasm 🙃

63points

People Would Have Preferred To Know These 30 Life Lessons Sooner, As Shared In This Online Group That saying NO can save you a lot of trouble down the line.

manp117 , hans-juergen Report

Final score:

235points

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genevieve.delangie 2 years ago

THIS! no is 100 percent a full sentence.

58points

People Would Have Preferred To Know These 30 Life Lessons Sooner, As Shared In This Online Group I think, oddly, the lesson I learned is that there is no such thing as 'too late in life' - at 26, I was homeless, out of rehab, and broke. Things have changed dramatically for the better.

hockeyjoker , H. Michael Karshis Report

Final score:

213points

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Allen Packard 2 years ago

Great for you! Keep it up!

43points

People Would Have Preferred To Know These 30 Life Lessons Sooner, As Shared In This Online Group Look after your knees and your teeth.

Kickstone , maceelaine Report

Final score:

212points

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Russ Kincade 2 years ago

Brush at night to keep your teeth and brush in the morning to keep your friends!

77points

People Would Have Preferred To Know These 30 Life Lessons Sooner, As Shared In This Online Group You shouldn’t care what your high school experience was good or bad or what your classmates think of you because who cares about high school after 18?

If high school was your peak you have a sh**ty life ahead

TemporaryMine6771 , SOMANEDU Report

Final score:

207points

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Headless Roach 2 years ago

I can barely remember my university... what an old headless roach I have become 😏

28points

NoBodySpecial51 , Stephan Ridgway Report

#10

People Would Have Preferred To Know These 30 Life Lessons Sooner, As Shared In This Online Group That a death in the family brings out the worst in people.

Final score:

203points

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Well-Dressed Wolf 2 years ago

My dad died last year. My mother is still lying to people and saying my dad is still alive. She refused to even tell his brother and sister that he died. It isn’t a mental issue on her part - she’s just a mean, narcissistic a-hole who likes soaking up the pity points she gets for “caring for a disabled husband”.

84points

#11

People Would Have Preferred To Know These 30 Life Lessons Sooner, As Shared In This Online Group That you can't please everyone so you shouldn't worry about trying to

Hershie23 , Panca Satrio Nugroho Report

Final score:

180points

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Eat Dirt Crow 2 years ago

I can only please one person per day. Today's not your day. Tomorrow doesn't look good either.

50points

#12

People Would Have Preferred To Know These 30 Life Lessons Sooner, As Shared In This Online Group Don't bring things home from work.

I had a bad day at work. Came home and got in an argument with my gf about something...and stopped halfway. Yes, she really had done something, but the only reason I got so angry about it was because...I had already been angry, from work. Otherwise i might have just let it go.

From then on I learned to separate work from home. I was 28. I felt like this was a lesson I should have learned earlier.

TheDevilsAdvokaat , tdr28 Report

Final score:

177points

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genevieve.delangie 2 years ago

good job stopping before it escalated!

44points

#13

People Would Have Preferred To Know These 30 Life Lessons Sooner, As Shared In This Online Group Your boss is NOT looking out for YOUR best interests. He is looking out for HIS best interests.

Corporate has no loyalty to you. You are just a replaceable cog.

Nice guys rarely get promoted. They just get more responsibility. Semi-aggressive advancement planning and prioritizing the advancement tasks over items specified in job description is about the only way to advance salary faster than what is paid to new hires. Even then jumping ship is usually the best way to advance salary and get more responsibility.

Czech_Bob_13 , darkday Report

Final score:

174points

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Hugh Cookson 2 years ago

Always make sure you get yourself into a position where you know more than anyone else does in the organisation or are not easy to replace ; then play mind games with your immediate superiors. Hints about leaving are good, leaving an unfinished CV on your desk is better. Words in ears are even better .....

21points

#14

People Would Have Preferred To Know These 30 Life Lessons Sooner, As Shared In This Online Group You shouldn’t try doing a backflip for the first time when you’re drunk.

soulsoul111 , Barney Moss Report

Final score:

159points

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ArodTheHorrible 2 years ago

There is much more to the story that taught this wisdom that I would love to hear

71points

#15

People Would Have Preferred To Know These 30 Life Lessons Sooner, As Shared In This Online Group I know this sounds wrong but hear me out. DONT do what you love for a living, unless it pays well. Research your career path before choosing one and prioritize potential earnings and time off. Do what gets you the most money and benefits with the least amount of time invested. Do what you love in your free time, making it your career can ultimately make you resent it and lose your enthusiasm for the hobby you love most. Almost every job becomes a mundane chore if you do it every day, no matter how much you enjoy it now. I know it’s anecdotal, but, I always loved wrenching on cars. I started tinkering long before I could drive. I’m damn good at it and made a career out of it. The problem is, doing it every day has made me lose interest in doing it for fun. I don’t have cool projects anymore. I see cars as basic transportation now and have no interest in building/modifying anything. The pay isn’t terrible, but it isn’t great either. If I could do it again I’d have kept it as a hobby and gone into a field that is boring but pays for REAL life outside of work. Ultimately work is a means to an end for most people and all of the high minded ideals of “do what you love and you’ll never work a day in your life” stuff is b******t. Get that money, retire as soon as you can, and live life to the fullest while you can.

kandm1983 , Radek Kucharski Report

Final score:

158points

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Chucky Cheezburger 2 years ago

So true. If you turn what you love to do for fun into something you have to do to survive, it quickly becomes no fun to do anymore.

41points

#16

People Would Have Preferred To Know These 30 Life Lessons Sooner, As Shared In This Online Group People aren't thinking about you even a fraction of the amount you think they're thinking about you.

You're noise in a lifetime of experiences and a busy mind. This is a good thing. It means you can just get what you need from people and not over think it, safe in the knowledge that they'll forget you almost immediately.

AlterEdward , Francesco Report

Final score:

151points

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MsLou 2 years ago

I do struggle with this immensely...

22points

SoupIsForWinners , fromcolettewithlove Report

#17

People Would Have Preferred To Know These 30 Life Lessons Sooner, As Shared In This Online Group 1) Soul mates aren't a thing. 2) Learn to fight in a relationship without raising your voice and keep a check on your emotions, it's you and your SO against the problem not you against them.

Final score:

151points

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Max M 2 years ago

Whem me and my gf moved together, i was not used to being yelled at, and she was used to yell during arguments from home. My brain made some kind of shut off, and made me think, this is to noisy, i go away from the noise. She got pissed but with time we found common ground, talking in normal volume about problems, and i didnt walk away.

38points

#18

People Would Have Preferred To Know These 30 Life Lessons Sooner, As Shared In This Online Group We all make mistakes, dont dwell on it

Somethingidk9 , Daniel Simpson Report

Final score:

132points

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Mabelbabel 2 years ago

Don't dwell on it, certainly, but learn from it and find out how you can do better next time.

42points

#19

People Would Have Preferred To Know These 30 Life Lessons Sooner, As Shared In This Online Group If you made mistakes, always confront them and the consequences right away. Waiting doesn't make it better, it makes it worse.

Guggelima Report

Final score:

127points

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Deborah Harris2 2 years ago

True just get it over and done with. Bottling something inside you just adds to the guilt.

16points

#20

People Would Have Preferred To Know These 30 Life Lessons Sooner, As Shared In This Online Group Budget save and invest

Boring af but makes a huge difference

naxhh , alamosbasement Report

Final score:

127points

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Antz Online 2 years ago

If only I listened to people 20 years ago.

29points

#21

People Would Have Preferred To Know These 30 Life Lessons Sooner, As Shared In This Online Group You can lose a finger wearing a ring.

PDOUSR , Megan Anthony Report

Final score:

123points

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Chucky Cheezburger 2 years ago

And that's why I don't wear a ring. I do industrial maintenance and could very easily lose a finger or worse. My wife would prefer to have me fully functional. She knows I'm not going anywhere, ring or no ring.

90points

69_queefs_per_sec , Quinn Dombrowski Report

#22

People Would Have Preferred To Know These 30 Life Lessons Sooner, As Shared In This Online Group 1) You are not obliged to love your parents. This is a hard one but some parental behaviours get toxic and you can't possibly keep them happy constantly

2) You are not obliged to constantly help out / listen to people especially when they take too much help / vent to you too much. Let people make mistakes. Let them learn

3) Just because you did well in primary school doesn't mean everything will come to you automatically in life; learn to put real effort into your work

4) A lot of people you meet will be cold, cruel and selfish. You will get used. Life is a constant struggle to avoid being one of those people.

Final score:

116points

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Natasha 2 years ago

Love doesn’t mean they have to be in your life. Love just means doing what is best for that person you love. You can love your parents and want what’s best for them (like become less toxic) but that doesn’t mean you have to have them in your lives.

24points

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#23

People Would Have Preferred To Know These 30 Life Lessons Sooner, As Shared In This Online Group People will tell you a lot of things, but their actions are what is important. Someone will tell you that they will always be there for you, but that is not guaranteed. They will say they want you to be happy, but then do things that hurt you. Sometimes without knowing, sometimes on purpose, sometimes because they are a coward.

Holybull79 , Blondinrikard Fröberg Report

Final score:

113points

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Alexia 2 years ago

Sometimes because they are selfish and narcissistic.

43points

#24

People Would Have Preferred To Know These 30 Life Lessons Sooner, As Shared In This Online Group It's always better to do your work immediately rather than putting it off for later.

OG_Squeekz , Amtec Photos Report

Final score:

105points

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Deborah Harris2 2 years ago

I always leave the hardest task 'til last, I really wish I didn't.

22points

#25

People Would Have Preferred To Know These 30 Life Lessons Sooner, As Shared In This Online Group Be patient and wait. It's better to be alone than with someone that doesn't respect you.

No matter how much or good your are to someone, some of them will screw you over.

Always look after yourself first.

Start early with physical hobby and keep fit, you have one body and there is no replay.

If you love someone but they don't love you.. move on. It will hurt like hell but in the long run, you'll be happier.

Giving money doesn't equate to affection, the gratitude will be short lived and you'll only be an ATM to them in the near future.

BeauTofu , oatsy40 Report

Final score:

103points

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Nichole Harris 2 years ago

Yes yes yes yes yes!!!!!

14points

Woman Put A Water Fountain With A Camera In Her Yard, Here Are 24 Photos Of Regular Visitors (New Pics)

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#26

People Would Have Preferred To Know These 30 Life Lessons Sooner, As Shared In This Online Group Looking back so far, here’s my list of gotta dos:

1. Get a skill. College, intern, trade school, self taught - doesn’t matter. Get a skill.

2. Minimize your debt. Do anything to stave off picking up loans, racking up credit cards. Even with a skill, if half your money goes to paying debt, you’re gonna have a bad time.

3. Don’t chase others (relationships). Be the best you possible. Read. Work out. Think. Be happy by yourself. People like people who have a story to tell. Don’t live through others.

misterguydude , US Department of Educatio Report

Final score:

98points

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Thomas Ewing 2 years ago

Don't be a clingy dependant. Stand on your own two feet like a solid citizen.

2points

#27

People Would Have Preferred To Know These 30 Life Lessons Sooner, As Shared In This Online Group Never allow someone to treat you as their therapist. If they tell you all their problems but get defensive about your simple requests, they are not worth your time.

DiskPidge , ROSE PHYSICAL THERAPY Report

Final score:

86points

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JPotts 2 years ago

When they complain about the same problems over and over and never do anything to change.

35points

#28

People Would Have Preferred To Know These 30 Life Lessons Sooner, As Shared In This Online Group The value of responsibility, to me it's an ethical thing. Doing the right thing eases your conscience so much more than just doing what you feel like doing. Sure it can be stressful, but you sleep so much better and feel more at ease when you do what you know is right.

MettaMorphosis , Denise Krebs Report

Final score:

84points

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Powerful Katrinka 2 years ago

If you want self-esteem, do esteemable acts.

22points

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#29

People Would Have Preferred To Know These 30 Life Lessons Sooner, As Shared In This Online Group That flossing really does help.

WinifredZachery , Electric Teeth Report

Final score:

77points

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Karen O'Neill 2 years ago

NEVER floss when drunk!!

12points

#30

People Would Have Preferred To Know These 30 Life Lessons Sooner, As Shared In This Online Group That there IS hope for you to fix your mental health problems. I left things for 10 years not knowing there was decent help to be had. Although to be fair, things have progressed a lot since then

Skitsnacks , claire valej Report

Final score:

71points

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Rich Cronshey 2 years ago

Pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional, and the best way to experience more joy is to become more willing to experience disappointment and loss. Easier said than done for sure.

19points

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#31

People Would Have Preferred To Know These 30 Life Lessons Sooner, As Shared In This Online Group Dental hygeine should have always been a priority. Only really had a few bad years at end of teens/early 20s where I'd go to sleep without brushing teeth every day or go for regular checkups. The cavities are permanent. The crowns I have still feel weird to me ten years later.

To be straight up I think I am also just unlucky with genetics because I know people who don't care for their teeth almost ever and have no problems. But you really don't want to find out which person you are by not staying on top of things.

qigger , Lisa Zins Report

Final score:

30points

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Hill Branda 2 years ago

Very true. Not taking care of your teeth will cause you all sorts of grief that will last for years.

2points

Woman Moves Out Of Parents' Home After They Asked Her To Give Her Space To Brother, They Freak Out

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#32

People Would Have Preferred To Know These 30 Life Lessons Sooner, As Shared In This Online Group To become more comfortable being uncomfortable

anon , Jeffrey Report

Final score:

28points

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Headless Roach 2 years ago

The picture makes me uncomfortable

8points

#33

People Would Have Preferred To Know These 30 Life Lessons Sooner, As Shared In This Online Group If you don’t drink enough water and are constantly dehydrated, you could get kidney stones

spazmcgee1 , ponafotkas Report

Final score:

28points

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Hill Branda 2 years ago

Yes, not drinking enough can cause kidney stones to be difficult to pass, but how many stones form is often due to having a poor diet. Too much meat or salt can cause stones, or you may be genetically predisposed to forming stones.

8points

#34

People Would Have Preferred To Know These 30 Life Lessons Sooner, As Shared In This Online Group I should have had enough basic self-esteem to realise that, if I can attract (somebody I think is) the most wonderful girl in the world, then I can probably manage to attract another one.

(Rather than stay in a relationship that I knew wasn't making me happy, but at the same time, I didn't think I could ever be any happier.)

hymie0 , Eila Manuel Report

Final score:

25points

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Szirra 2 years ago

Never settle for a relationship that doesn’t make you happy.

17points

#35

People Would Have Preferred To Know These 30 Life Lessons Sooner, As Shared In This Online Group Live the life in front of you.

beatboxmike , Adam Bautz Report

Final score:

24points

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Rich Cronshey 2 years ago

There is no other

5points

Woman Refuses To Chip In For Babysitting Because She Doesn’t Even Have Kids, Asks If She’s A Jerk

#36

Don't give your 100% on someone if you're not able to give 100% on you.

xolofompila Report

Final score:

23points

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Scarlett 2 years ago

But that would mean I’d loose all my friends…

0points

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#37

I don't need many friends. I need self development.

Black_seagull Report

Final score:

19points

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Enlee Jones 2 years ago

Preach!

2points