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Welcome to r/EntitledKids! The subreddit where people share stories about all the spoiled and whiny children they encounter. It's hard to accurately describe its menu, but here you will find a range of behaviors that vary from small daily displays of spoiled-ness (trying to blow out your sibling's candles on their birthday) to full-on schemes (ordering $300 worth of toys without your parents knowing) that are supposed to get the world dancing according to your tune. Here are some of the all-time most-upvoted posts you can find on the sub!

#1

Saw This On Facebook Today, Made Me Giggle A Bit

Saw This On Facebook Today, Made Me Giggle A Bit

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Parenting expert Amy McCready calls this type of behavior “The Me, Me, Me Epidemic,” and believes it happens in tiny little ways every single day, even when parents aren't conscious of it.

"We've all known kids (maybe even in our own families) who feel entitled to have things go their way, who expect the best of life without rolling up their sleeves, and for whom gratitude is not a part of their attitude," McCready wrote in TODAY

"While these kids can be hard to live with now, over-entitled kids eventually become high-maintenance employees and demanding spouses with the same childish attitudes, only on a greater scale. It’s a big problem because kids who feel entitled to call the shots all the time are unable to handle it when things don’t go their way (like here in the real world)."

The good news? She says it's totally curable.

#2

This A-Hole Kid Who Ages 20 Years In The Last Panel

This A-Hole Kid Who Ages 20 Years In The Last Panel

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#3

Nice Try Kiddo

Nice Try Kiddo

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Romenriel
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wouldn't call this guy entitled, he is to young to understand how selfish he is. If his parents won't let him get away with it, he will be just fine.

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"While we can point fingers and blame social media, reality TV, and a host of other outside influences, one of the biggest factors in the spread of this 'epidemic' is us — the parents," McCready explained.

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Of course, moms and dads want the best for their kids and none of them intend to raise an entitled child, but McCready believes that often in their loving attempts to do the best for their little ones, people over-parent.

"We over-indulge, over-praise, and mow down any obstacle in their path with ninja-like swiftness. And when we do? We rob kids of the opportunity to do for themselves, learn from mistakes, or overcome adversity."

#4

Ek Lies To Mum To Try Get My Girlfriend In Trouble

Ek Lies To Mum To Try Get My Girlfriend In Trouble

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Chucky Cheezburger
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Thisnis the kind of thing that makes me want to wear a body cam so I dont get thrown under the bus when some entitled crotch goblin gets out of hand.

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#6

Kids Smash Glass Artwork Whole Parents Stand Back And Film

Kids Smash Glass Artwork Whole Parents Stand Back And Film

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For everyone's sake, McCready suggests considering these five strategies:

1. Expect more and give your kids some credit. "They can and SHOULD make meaningful contributions to the family. Expect your toddlers to teens to do Family Contributions (not “chores”) on a daily basis and expect them to take on increasing amounts of responsibility through the years. After all, they are part of the family and everyone’s contributions matter. When you hold your kids to a higher standard, they WILL meet it — and often exceed it. What they’ll get in return will be life skills they need to head out into the world as happier, more successful and self-sufficient human beings. And you? You get to know that you helped to make that happen. (Way to go!)"

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#7

I Found This While Looking At Reviews For An Okay Gaming Headset

I Found This While Looking At Reviews For An Okay Gaming Headset

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Kristof De Smet
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Beats aren't actually that good, and they are way overpriced. There's better stuff for less money.

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#8

Found This Gem

Found This Gem

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NeonDisco
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I remember the good old days when u got £2 a week pocket money, but only if u did ur chores.

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#9

Sounds Like Someone Needs To Either Stop Playing, Or Get Anger Management...

Sounds Like Someone Needs To Either Stop Playing, Or Get Anger Management...

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Foxxy (The Original)
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If that is a child then the parents need to stop buying him TV's or ban him from playing fortnite.

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2. Give up on giving in. "Do you ever say YES when you really want to say No? Cave at the candy counter at checkout? Pacify with the treat when your kid is throwing a fit? It’s time to turn over a new leaf and have the courage to say “NO” and mean it! You’ll teach your kids that life won’t always go their way and that’s OK. You’ll be establishing — and sticking — to healthy boundaries. And your little ones and big ones will learn that fit-throwing, eye-rolling, and pouting isn’t going to do the trick. Now, for all of you who struggle with this — repeat after me: I’m NOT being a bad guy — I’m being a good PARENT. You can do this!"

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#10

A Child In My Daughters School (They Are Both 14)

A Child In My Daughters School (They Are Both 14)

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Scagsy
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have an irrational hatred of people who say 'I could care less' when what they actually mean is 'I couldn't care less'. Really grinds my gears. Particularly when it's coming from a self-indulgent tiktoker.

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#11

We Told Someone That We Couldn’t Sell The Fish And Their Kid Threw A Tantrum And Threw A Decoration Through The Tank

We Told Someone That We Couldn’t Sell The Fish And Their Kid Threw A Tantrum And Threw A Decoration Through The Tank

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#12

The Face Makes Me Want To Flush Her Down The Toilet For Good

The Face Makes Me Want To Flush Her Down The Toilet For Good

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Foxxy (The Original)
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would have tried to return them or donated them just to teach a lesson. Although I'm curious to know how kids are purchasing things online? If a child can do it, what's stopping others who may get hold of your phone. Not very secure.

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3. Hand over the reins. "Every time we rescue our kids from their mistakes, intervene on their behalf, or smooth the way so things are easier for them, we rob them of a learning opportunity — the chance to be responsible, to figure it out for themselves, or to face a scary situation. Little by little they just stop trying. It’s time to hand over the reins to their rightful owner. Instead of rushing the homework to school so your kids don’t get in trouble, let them know with love (and plenty of training so they can be successful) that it’s their responsibility to remember what they need each day."

Instead, let them know that having their own conversations with teachers, coaches, and peers about issues that arise is a powerful part of growing up. "You can help prepare them by role-playing so THEY can have respectful conversations and learn problem-solving skills," McCready said.

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"Trust in your kids’ ability and turn over the reins so they can learn from their successes and failures. You’ll be there to support them — but they’ll feel so much more empowered by handling things on their own without you intervening or rescuing."

#13

Teen Thinks That His Actions Don’t Effect People On The Other Side Of His Screen

Teen Thinks That His Actions Don’t Effect People On The Other Side Of His Screen

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#14

The Photo Says It All

The Photo Says It All

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cybermerlin2000
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you can afford it, buy it. Then give it either to someone else in the family, a charity shop or, just to be the most vindictive, some random little kid. Just don't give it to your kid

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#15

This Happened A While Ago, Still Not Really Sure If This Person Was Messing With Me Or Not

This Happened A While Ago, Still Not Really Sure If This Person Was Messing With Me Or Not

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NsG
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Really shouldn't have continued to engage. Block the kids number and move on.

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4. Shut down the ATM. "Instant gratification is king in today’s society. 'I want it, I get it. Now.' The best way to fight this phenomenon with our kids is to stop handing over $20 whenever they ask for it."

"Set a specific allowance amount per week and a list of expenses your child is now responsible to cover. Little kids can use allowance for 'treats' when they go to the store, big kids can be responsible for school lunches, school clothing, and entertainment. Allowance is an essential tool to teach delayed gratification and fiscal responsibility — how to spend wisely, save, budget, and give charitably. How will our kids be successful with a real paycheck and bigger expenses if they don’t learn those important life skills at home? Teach them the tools and help them flourish."

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#16

I Have No Words

I Have No Words

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#17

Wow The Cajones On This Entitled Kid

Wow The Cajones On This Entitled Kid

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#18

"My Chocolate Is More Important Than Your Groceries!!!!"

"My Chocolate Is More Important Than Your Groceries!!!!"

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#19

My Sister Who Is 7 Years Old Wanted A Frappuccino At 9 O’clock And Has School Tomorrow Is Throwing A Tantrum Because My Mom Didn’t Let Her Get It Late At Night

My Sister Who Is 7 Years Old Wanted A Frappuccino At 9 O’clock And Has School Tomorrow Is Throwing A Tantrum Because My Mom Didn’t Let Her Get It Late At Night

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Otter
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Dear God, what is the little monster like *after* she gets all hyped up on sugar and caffiene?

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5. Un-center their universe. "The research is clear that those with an 'attitude of gratitude' in life are happier, less depressed, take stress in stride, and see life with healthy optimism. In our over-indulged culture, we know that gratitude takes practice. It’s something we have to teach our kids."

Try to model for kids and let them know the world doesn’t owe anyone anything — we all have to do our part to make it a better place.

"Help kids learn to appreciate their circumstances. When you practice daily gratitude rituals at home, actively seek to do random acts of kindness, and find opportunities to serve others throughout the year (not just during the holidays) — you are helping to set your children and your family on the path to a much more rewarding life," McCready concluded.

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Of course, these tips may not solve all your problems. Every child and every situation are different. But they can lead to huge improvements.

#20

Trash Dumping, Seat Kicking Gremlin

Trash Dumping, Seat Kicking Gremlin

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Chich
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well, you just bend over to pick it up and let a good long chilli fart fly in their face. I mean butt cheek flapping quality.

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#22

Girls Pushed A Random Guy Into A Frozen Lake And After Being Called Out Here's What They Said

Girls Pushed A Random Guy Into A Frozen Lake And After Being Called Out Here's What They Said

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Hannah Edwards
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They’re clearly just horrible people. I hope this act of random violence isn’t the precursor to more serious offences. Little psychos.

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#23

Ek Came Into My Store Today And Made A Mess. When She Couldn’t Find What She Wanted She Had A Full Blown Tantrum And Rolled Around On The Floor Crying. She Was Like 8 Jesus. I Love My Job

Ek Came Into My Store Today And Made A Mess. When She Couldn’t Find What She Wanted She Had A Full Blown Tantrum And Rolled Around On The Floor Crying. She Was Like 8 Jesus. I Love My Job

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#24

This Entitled Bratt

This Entitled Bratt

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LuckyL
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I kind of get that it's really hard for a 15 year old who has been an only child for 14 years to suddenly share everything. And I also think it's the parents fault if he or she has to include the sister in every plan. Still, saying something like that is really the worst. But also, kids need to learn and say mean things in the heat of the moment

Joanna
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sure, this is something that happens all the time, but what makes this kid stand out is the fact that they weren't sure whether they were the asshole here.

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Scagsy
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I blame the parents here. The kid should have been part of the decision to adopt and they should have explained the reasons behind the adoption. It's a big change to deal with at that age. Clearly the kid needs to be more compassionate but again that comes from his/her upbringing. Yes, he is the asshole but with caveats.

classbag
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Totally agree. Adopting another child when you have a teen should be a family decision, and there should be a lot of discussion about needs and expectations. The kid lashed out and said something horrible, which all kids do. Is it right? No. But I 100% blame the parents because you can not expect a kid that age to have the emotional maturity to deal with this situation thoughtfully or rationally.

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MiriPanda
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What she said to her new sister was quite horrible, but who strips a 15 (!) year old teenager of her entire privacy (room, own friends, has to share everything) and expect her to be understanding, when she was not even included in the decision?

Mohsie Supposie
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In this case, the parents are totally TAs. Expecting a 15-year old to suddenly adjust to having a 14 year old sister thrusted upon her is totally not fair. I would not call this 15-year old spoilt or entitled in any way. The use of that language only goes to show how much of an effect this is having on her. How would you feel and react if you were in her position?

Jess Ovo
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Especially when they don't even have a separate room for the other kid-

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Dodo
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Parents' fault. The kid is 15, with all the awful moods that comes with, and suddenly not only has to deal with a sibling close in age but must share everything *including a room* with her? She snapped and I'm really not surprised.

Stephanie Cunningham
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The parents share some of the blame here. I was 11 when my mom got married, and I went from being an only child to the oldest of four within 18 months. My stepsister and I were forced to share a room for years and it was HARD. At that age, it's difficult to see past your own wants and needs. The parents should have at least provided separate rooms for the girls, and allowed the biological daughter to spend time with friends on her own. That being said, though, they should also be trying to teach the 15-yo about compassion and empathy, and not letting her lash out at her sister. No matter how upset I got with my stepsiblings, I knew what kind of behavior my mom expected from me, and I did not act out that way.

Tania Rueda Finnegan
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The fact is that the kid knew what they said was wrong, yet denied it and was happy for the parents to think the adopted child was the liar. Yeah, I do think the parents messed up here, big-time, and it is a lot for a teen to take in, but still: she did not own up to what she did, even if it was said in anger / frustration and could be understood.

Jayne Kyra
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oooh, I remember reading this one way back on AITA. She got ripped to shreds in the comments and it went really viral in a bad way on other subreddits. (Post may have been fake, as are many others on AITA. I hope it was fake.)

Pamela
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The family needs some counseling. Relationships don't always succeed automatically, and there are lots of ways to work around & through various dynamics and situations.

Norah Ivcevich
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Honestly, and I don't want this to sound bad and it might so sorry, but the 15yo isn't the asshole. I get that not knowing where your family has to suck and my heart goes out to the 14yo. I am not blaming her a bit, she just wants to be part of something when she never was before. I'm blaming the parents. Family is about trust and communication and the fact that they gave this kid little to no warning about a new sibling, adopted or not, is f****d up. This is entirely the fault of the parents. Maybe of they had given her some warning and gotten her used to the idea of having a new family member in her life, then this never would have happen

Carolee Samuda-Bailey
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wont call this one an AH, because parents clearly didn't discuss having a sibling with her. Moreover, although bonding with her sister is the right thing to do, you can't force it. You have to let it happen naturally. They should encourage the new sister to make her own friends.

Pink Floydian Panda
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Those words are going to haunt the poster far more than her adopted sister. She has some valid issues and I think we should have empathy for her. She is clearly capable of compassion and empathy and is able to understand her adopted sister's side of things. But that will only make it worse. She has no idea how much shame she will feel in the quiet moments when she is alone with her thoughts and thinks about the things she said that day. I sincerely hope she able to atone and forgive herself for the mistakes any 15 year old could have made.

Maxwell Kunz
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm going to say NTA. Yet. Get into counseling stat. This girl is just a child and has many feelings she can't process or understand because she is just a child.

Giette Hulsbosch
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"I strongly believe it's because I was not good enough for them." Looks like she has bigger issues at home than not getting along with her new sibling

Meami
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The kid might need therapy. She gets a new sibling after 14 yrs of being an only child ("I think they got her because I'm not good enough" is telling.) She shouldn't have to include her in everything so maybe the parents could use some advice as well.

Samuel Zhao
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This kid did something wrong, but, to be fair, his parents should have told him beforehand

Elizabeth Sundby
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

ur the a*****e. but on another note, I kinda get it bc she cant be involved in EVERYTHING you do. pls don't be mad at me

Jessica Julian
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

To be honest, the parents should have discussed this with their daughter, before a decision was made. They should've consulted mental health professionals, too. This is a recipe for disaster.

The Angry Crow
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Honestly? I get it. She went from being an only child to having no privacy and having to share absolutely everything, right down to her friends, and she wasn't even involved in the decision. Her parents just wanted another kid and they likely didn't even consider that their current kid might be upset about that. Especially the more you read into it-- 'I think I'm just not good enough for them'. There's a whole lot of resentment loaded in that sentence alone.

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Riley Quinn
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If, and this is a big if, if this 15yo is telling the truth about her parents springing a sibling on her, then I can only imagine her pain and loss of self-worth. Sure, she's wrong to attack her innocent and equally pained sister, but unfortunately, most of us lash out at what's in reach.

Estelle Winwoode
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This one's different. This kid was 14 when without asking her, her parents brought a strange girl into the home, made them share a room and told her to treat her as a sister. She HAS to share everything, including friends, with her. Does she have any time for herself? She started crying so she probably was feeling bad about speaking that way to her, but she's still a kid, and she's overwhelmed. She's NTA, her parents are, for putting her in this situation and not helping her make it work.

speedy_gonzales
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA, need to control ur words but at the same time having a sibling sprung on you and doing an sharing everything with you isnt fair

C Pryce
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I also smiled sadly at the line "I had to wipe my tears before my parents saw" - methinks he doth protest too much that he did this so they wouldn't give credence to the girls complaints: I think this guy has probably had to be a brave little soldier and suffer in silence for a good while 🥺

C Pryce
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have a lot of sympathy for this young man. Of course to adopt a child is always, always a wonderful thing to do: a Good Action. But the parents clearly didn't discuss it with this guy before the adoption; didn't explain it properly, didn't understand the way it might make him feel - usurped in their affections and priorities, at a volatile and challenging time in anyone's life They should have explained this girls background, how important it is for adoptions to take place, how much more difficult her life has been: they also should have stood back and let a bond grow organically between the kids, not forced her into his private world: what other 15 yr old boy has to accept his kid sister tagging along, and how does that make *her* feel, anyway!?

MeshaChelle
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Honestly? The kid’s not a complete AH. Shouldn’t have said that, but the feelings behind it- if what they said is true- are 100% valid. And I don’t think it belongs in the entitled section. Most teenagers can be insensitive, entitled or not.

Shelley Dawson
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Actually, if her parents the child without explaining why to their daughter, it's mainly their fault. I don't believe this story as social services or some other counselling service would have been involved. There is something really wrong with this story, I'm not saying she's not telling the truth, or partly telling the truth, but there is something dodgy here.

Debby Marengo
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She really needs to talk to her parents about how she feels. She shouldn't have to share everything with this stranger. One day at a time.

Karl Geisel
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What he said is bad but It must be hard to adjust to sharing after 14 years, he should probably get some therapy

Briana Landers
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Tbh this is understandable but still out of hands. Parents need to talk to their kids. Chances are k1 is adopted too. Breaking that news to them (even if they arent and playing a lil prank) might help. Some therapy. Whateves. Punishments for bad behaviors. Kid is still a jerk. Id never. Even as a kid.

Em Johnson
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You don’t adopt overnight and you don’t usually adopt without having the adoptee in your home at some point, except maybe an overseas/child from another country adoption. Still, it’s not an over night situation. Somebody must have come to the home to inspect, must have met the other in home family members to discuss the family situation etc. How did the adoptee come to be a total shock, out of the blue sibling to the “sister”. Something is wrong with this story. I don’t think we’ve gotten the whole true background story.

Gilda Farrell
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She may be expressing it in a very immature way, but I don't blame this kid for her anger. If what she says is true and she had no say on the adoption of someone so close to her own age was really a bad play on her parents' part. Suddenly being told you had to share your parents and all your possessions, as well as your room, with a whole new person -- including leaving her out of the decision completely -- might be expecting too much sharing to expect from a person. 15 year olds are old enough to choose what parents they want to live with in a divorce. They should be allowed to express an opinion on whether they want a sibling.

somnomania
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ehhh she gets a partial pass, that's a rough period in life, and a rough time to suddenly have someone you have to share your space with.

Leesa DeAndrea
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The parents handled this badly. Did they even consider the effect of having to share her room & her privacy with a stranger? Did they explain why they are adopting this teenager out of the blue?

Valerie Page
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Try living with 2 or 3 strangers because your parent remarries! When one of them has to share your bedroom it's even worse

Diana Hockley
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I understand fully how you feel, and it is not surprising. At your age, I feel you should have been consulted at least on how you felt about it. It is very hard for any child, whatever age to adjust to having an instant sibling. You don't appear to have been given much time to get to know her before having to share a room, share everything in fact - including your parents. It's hard for you to "suck it up" now that she is in your family, and do wish your parents would give you some leeway to adjust to the situation. You need to think also about how hard it is for this girl to be brought into a family at 14, after being abandoned by her parents. She is trying to adjust too, but her insecurity is causing her to be somewhat "aggressive" in her approach to "fighting" for her place in the family. I would suggest a round-table discussion with your parents about the natural problems that you - and she - are experiencing. If this doesn't work, then is there a school counsellor you can talk to?

Lady Robin Elizabeth Budd
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Since the circumstances around the adoption are vague at best, we (and the OP) dont know if this was a relative, family friend who had either passed or had serious issues and couldn't parent any longer. That said, if Op is still reading responses I would say this...I DO understand, and after a life in care, I also understand a young teens being brought into a safe, stable family, and their need to feel not just loved but accepted, and understand COMPLETELY your side too. Whilst we KNOW it's unlikely that your new sibling will ever 'go away' since this was an adoption, not a foster, I can only say this. Talk with a school counselor/teacher you trust, they should be able to at some point support/help you suggest that you get a FAMILY counselor. I found having a family counselor who did Private sessions with me and Then group family sessions, made a HUGE difference! Best of luck, and hun, it DOES get better!XXX

bdunbar@kcls.org
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You're both at hard ages. You're trying to find our who "you" are. Regardless, while living in your parents home, you need to live with decisions I'm sure they put a lot of thought into. My cousins lived with my sister and me growing up. We were expected to take care of each other and be inclusive. Sometimes it was a pain, but it also gave us some of the best times and memories. We could be hard on each other and knew exactly which button to push. They were my best friends (even my sister, who was a spoiled brat). I lost her 2 years ago, and cousin closest in age 9 mths ago. I miss them every day. I hope you can find the good times in with the bad.

malenchki
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Have to share friends? That would be crap the kid did react badly though

Samantha Hurrell
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wonder how much he massaged the story and if he was posting the whole thing, because I doubt anyone would adopt without a proper discussion.

Kelli Lindsay
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah, I don’t buy for one second that they just one day surprised her with a sister. I think what OP is throwing a fit about is OP’s “NO” didn’t make them stop in their tracks and forget about the adoption. I feel for the kids, but BP is being WAY too easy on this little asshole. Manipulative little f**k has been doing s**t like this their whole life, and will continue to, I bet. I hope the entirety of the internet coming down on them was a massive wake up call.

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KieLeaHar
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I sincerely hope this came up on the parents front page and they had to read this. What a little grub this rat is.

Rosemary Paul
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She's a kid who obviously wasn't getting any kind of love from her parents. I would feel exactly the same way as she did. Her parents got another daughter more to their liking. There must be boundaries. Let the younger child find some friends of her own. The older sister may have said some harsh things, but at 15 she's still a kid too, a hurt kid who feels she's been replaced. All I can say to the older girl is, in 1 yr, you'll be able to work an afterschool job, save your money in a bank, not where the younger one can find it. Then, in 2 more yrs, you can go to college or out on your own. I'm hoping her homelife gets better though. The whole family needs to go into counseling.

tamèreestchaude
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I didn't change throughout the whole post. I have friends who are adopted, and that sort of thing is extremely sensitive to adoptee's, especially if they are older than 5 and know whats happening. It's not okay to hold someones family life over their head.

kai
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As an adoptee I don't think a lot of biological kids under stand the feeling of being adopted by a different set of parents there are feelings of being unwanted, uncared for, and unlovable. I agree that the parents sould talk to their child about this but the sibling might be struggling with some or all of these feelings and be clinging to the one closest in age to them because their parents might say they understand (and if they are an adoptee than they can understand the pain the child is going through) but parents that are trying to understand them is different than having parents that understand them and it is very lonely. ( I am an interracial adoptee where I am a south korean adoptee and my parents are white) (I am alos not saying what I went through is the same as them because everyone's experience is different) My older sibling is also an adoptee from South Korea and so I can't understand what this person is going through but I hope that they talk through their problems.

kai
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

because communication is key in all relationships and I find it hard to believe that the parents came home one day with another freaking child like "meet your new sibling honey"

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Verified Losr
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah, I'm not getting so much entitled vibes here... Just a child who's very emotionally volatile and her parents don't seem to be helping by basically forcing a relationship on her she doesn't want and isn't ready for. They need to let these kids get on organically otherwise there will be HUGE amounts of resentment between everyone that could waste YEARS of their time being upset or angry and fighting each other. And imo her parents should have involved her more in such a big decision at her age. I get wanting to be a good person but you can't at the expense of your own kid no matter how much.

Aélia Potter
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It must be terrible to finally get adopted and then have a big sister who hates you

Julianne M
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Bruh i have a little sister who is 10 years younger than me ... just be glad she didn't say "go away i don't like you" to you when she wanted space

Lobo
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You know, for as many people that get on their liberal soapboxes here and complain about people "assuming gender", or generalizing because of race/sex/whatever, you do a lot of assuming an OP is male with no indication of that whatsoever. Fn hypocrites.

Ilene Dover
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can understand the stress level, but think of the stress the girl is going through. Who knows what her past was like. What her biological parents are like and why she needed to be placed. Also, one last thing, are you aware how hard it is for a child of that age in need of foster parents or even ones that will adopt? Most kids of that age who are still in the system will be kicked out when they turn 18. In short, look at from her perspective, she has never had anyone in her life that was willing to accept her. How would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot? Be glad that you've had loving parents your entire life. She hasn't.

ALVan
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Can't really blame the parents when the only side of the story we hear is from a self-proclaimed liar.

S U
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’m not saying what you did was right, but it could have been worse.

Cursedwolf Gaming
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

15 years as an only child and suddenly one day BOOM you have a sibling 1 year younger than you. Definitely NOT an easy adjustment. Shes honestly lucky she was adopted at all. As soon as you hit around 13 SHTF (Shìt hits the fan) and your odds of being adopted are slim to none. I'm speaking from knowledge as I was adopted as a baby.

Ur local weirdo
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

First up, what’s the big deal with you and your sister, theirs nothing wrong about including her in your games, Second, she’s adopted, give her a break she probably had some hard times, Third, your like one year older than her, she is almost the same age as you so why are you bulling her and saying things behind her back? (I know she wont here this but just in case she does i hope she learns how stupid she’s acting)

R De Backer
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This young person is being very mature in his post and human in his reactions. His parents forced a situation on him and it’s understandable that this needs time to be digested and the new family configuration is work in progress. Not TA in my opinion. Enough is enough. You cannot be expected to just all of a sudden develop a liking for someone. Give them time. Him and his family.

Jane Alexander
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not fair to have no personal life or private space. No fair not to have been included in the discussion about the adoption. Not fair of your parents to expect you to suddenly give her half of everything in your life. That said, they are the ones who should have been hearing about the problem. I'm guessing the girl has no 'true family' or she wouldn't be up for adoption, has no friends nor activities yet or she wouldn't ask to be included. Hopefully soon she have friends and interests of her own and the two of you can get together at you parents about those separate rooms you both need.

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Lenka Smetanová
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

well... I think that kid needs professional help actually. What the kid did is bad for adopitve sister, but If what I read is true. He feels insecure. He is probably mentally unstable, nobody really talked with him about their decision. And he decribed that as "he's not good enough for them". This seem s to me like a psychological disorder. I hope this posts reach the parents and they found a psychologist for their kid... and for themselves too, to understand what is wrong. That kid is insecure, dont feel support from anybody, feeling like he is not good enough, and have no privacy and freedom... This not justified what this kid did to that girl, but i think the professional help from spychologist will help and that kid would probably go and apologise after put himself together and understand what happened fully.

Sam
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I understand how it feels being the older sibling and not getting more love and attention . But !! Basically , Your getting so mad bcs ur parents dont give u attention..... Think of ur sister !! She litreally had no parents !! If it is hard for u to accept the fact , its hard for her too !! Treat others like u wanna get treated

#AnimalLover 2024
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Okay but even so you should not have said those things to her, let alone deny it. Try to be a bit understanding towards your parents and your adopted sister. I get that it's gonna be really frustrating having to share all your things, but be rational.

alex
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i get it's hard to accept a new kid into the family, especially one that's so close to your age, but there's no way of knowing what this new kid has gone through and what kind of bio family they come from.

Bear42212
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It doesn't matter. She doesn't deserve to have all of her privacy and property and friends torn away from her.

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snipergun
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I read it till end, my opinion didn't change since the title.

Jo Choto
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I do have sympathy that her life changed so quickly, and her parents definitely owed it to her to let her know what was happening. But at 15, you should be mature enough to have some empathy and compassion for another human being.

Sydnie Laney
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i dont understand, im adopted with my two younger sibs, we all get along all 8 of us when we came here, you cant say things like that, your parents can choose what they want, they didnt get her to make you happy, you need respect, and you deserve it, at least her parents wanted her, your stuck with yours

Violet Vapor
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The kid is absolutely entitled to their feelings without being consulted about bringing an adopted child into the household but the comment to the adopted child was nothing less than cruel. They even lied to protect themselves and wanted the adopted child to be punished for some reason instead. They are absolutely the ah for that nastiness.

Kim Smith
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I find it suspicious that your parents never discussed adopting another child with you.As a matter of fact your whole boohoo poor me story is suspect.Regardless,being hateful is ugly and God doesn't like ugly.

Hailey B
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

YATA YATA YATA YATA I am the older sister by 4 years and it’s hard having a younger sister, but for gods sake she is still your sister, adopted or not. She is your family and family is family even without a blood bond. Please think about things before you say them. Again, I understand your anger, but still.

CrystalM Albert
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

15 is old enough to know better and think beyond yourself. As the child of an adopted person I hate how my mothers ‘sister’ treats her to this day, she’s always being reminded she is ‘less then’ because she’s not ‘real family’. Keep in mind this woman thinks she is also entitled to win a Best Aunty award from me so to this day we have a contentious relationship. My grandparents died quite young and haven’t been able to address or correct this behaviour. My mother raised me to be supportive and always understand where other people are coming from. I’m glad she didn’t let the negative things affect her, and in turn affect me. Selfishness is an epidemic we don’t often acknowledge.

Patrick Thompson
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I disagree. I think that someone needs to learn sime compassion. Also, what my parents said, i did. Thats how it should be. If you cannot find it in your heart to be compassuo ate to someone less fortunate then you have a lot of growing up to do. I do believe the pafents should have discussed it first but the attitude is inexcusable. You never know, show some compassion and you may end up with a new best frie friend

China Nolan
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What an unfeeling, incompassionate little person. God don't like ugly and son you is U-G-L-Y!!! May God have mercy on your selfish, cruel soul.

CJ M
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not even reading it, the title alone is enough for me to send this fker to the gulag

PeachPossum
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A lot of commenters are assuming the OP is a 15-year-old boy. Note that OP states "Obviously since we share the same room..." What parents in their right minds would adopt a teen child of the opposite sex of their natural teen child, and then put them in the same bedroom? No, I seriously want to believe the OP is also a teen girl.

Kyan
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i am sorry to the poster but i just couldnt read it by the amount of entitlement......it's just horrible

JJM
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You sound as if you are 5 years old. Not that you are not entitled to your feelings but how about talking to your parents and let them know how you feel. Incidentally you should not be sharing a room with your sister.

Persephone
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hope some people care about what this is doing to the adopted daughter... To not have a family until 14 is awful, I'm sure they all need counseling.

Kim Holmes
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Definitely YTA, spoiled, entitled and mean. Sweetie, what if it were an unplanned pregnancy? You would still have a sudden sibling. Instead of someone who could have had your back and been closer than a friend, you have an enemy in your own house. Please sit down and find another way to look at this. She must have gone through something terrible to be in that situation, or she wouldn't be there. Your parents are trying to make sure she can still have a good life and you are making it worse. What if it were you? Would you want to be treated like this during the worst time of your life? Maybe you should try talking to your parents about her backstory and what led them to their decision. Yes, they should have talked to you first, but if it was an emergency, they might not have had time.

LolaBrio
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Would you tell your kid to suddenly include the baby in EVERYTHING and force them to share EVERYTHING? That’s the issue.

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Katie Sullivan
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This kid is FIFTEEN? No, this is not acceptable. I can understand feeling out of place and having to get used to it, but then have that conversation with your parents! I honestly believe now that maybe they DID adopt a new daughter because their first one sucks.

maya P.K
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i hate her. i really hate this, this basically has been happening to my friend (her being adopted ad having a spoiled step-sister like this) and the parents have been taking their real daughters side, and my freind is a MESS and shes seriosly hurting herself and stuff, these parents shouldnt be trused with kids

Nothanks L. Walk
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NOT COMFORTABLE!? wooooooow.... I'd want to sticky his post until all of reddit had seen it just to be SURE his parents found it.

BleeBloo
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this wasn't written by a 15-year-old

Kelli Lindsay
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I gave you an upvote even though I’ve known a few hyper-intelligent 15 year olds. It’s precisely why I don’t buy this little f***s story. I believe they found out about an adoption and threw a bloody fit, OP probably said something along the lines of “you can’t make me speak to her” and parents said “oh yeah? BOOM, y’all now share EVERYTHING until you learn to get along” and this long, melodramatic sob story was their last ditch effort to drum up support and it backfired in their face.

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Lynne Monteith
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Wow. Perhaps the parents could keep the younger sister and put the older one up for adoption.

Bear42212
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why? How would you like it? Be 15, all of a sudden have a 14-year-old adopted sister, have to share everything you owned, have to share your FRIENDS, have to include a freaking STRANGER in all of your plans, and have NO privacy? The only a******s in this situation are the parents - and the entitled 14-year-old by who couldn't let her "sister" do something without threatening to tell on her if she couldn't do it, too.

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This girl didn't develop a soul in 15 years, the little sociopath is unlikely to ever develop one.

Valley Girl
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In response to everyone's comments here, the parents did not have to ASK permission to adopt. Do other parents ASK their kids to bang and have a kid?

Me Oh My
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I'm sorry but what the actual f**k. Spoiled little brat. EDIT: I would like to clarify that I was reacting mainly to the older sibling telling the adopted sibling to "go back to her family" and then telling her to shut up when she, understandably, got upset as a result.

Pearl
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

try having a grown sibling pushed into your life out of nowhere. OP acted how she felt.

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would have understood a little better if OP was like 10 but 15?? grow up

MiriPanda
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I understand her BECAUSE she is a 15 year old teenager, who all of a sudden has no privacy at all, not even amongst her friends. The parents are the assholes here. Would have been easier had she been only ten.

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Otter
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Seriously, how did the parents not factor the fact that their biological daughter is a spoiled little bitch into their plans to adopt a child?

H Edwards
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How did they not involve their already grown child in the decision to bring another grown child to live with them? Sounds like the parents are handling this REALLY badly.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Soccer ball = conceivably an accident. Chair = brother pays for new TV.

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