Babysitting can be a very sore subject in some families. On the one hand, many people are happy to help the parents out from time to time. On the other hand, there are moments when they might feel like they’re being taken advantage of way too often. However, the situation changes if you’re financially or otherwise dependent on the folks asking you to babysit their munchkins.

Mom u/Otherwise_Pepper_24 went viral on the internet after asking the members of the AITA community for help with a particularly difficult situation at home. She asked whether she was wrong to kick out her sister who had been living with her, after she refused to be a babysitter for a little while. Bored Panda has gotten in touch with the author to hear more about what happened, and we’ll update the post once we hear back from her.

Family members who live together have to learn to support each other when needed. If one person is a freeloader, it upsets the entire dynamic

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A woman went online to explain how her sister’s unwillingness to help her out with some basic babysitting damaged their relationship

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Disagreements between siblings don’t go away just because they grow up. Proper communication and active listening are essential to avoid bigger issues

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Different people will argue about different things due to their values, dynamics, and living situations. However, there are some common trends across the board for parents with children who are kindergarten age.

According to the Institute for Family Studies, American couples most often argue about chores and responsibilities. 49% of couples with small kids reported this. The result? Less happiness and less satisfaction with the physical side of the relationship.

Other major sources of conflict are related to money (43%), children (41%), sex (38%), leisure time (33%), in-laws (29%), and affection (22%).

However, Investopedia posits that money and sex are the main two sources of marital disagreements.

Meanwhile, Everyday Health explains that adult siblings can argue for a wide range of reasons, whether that’s disagreeing over parenting styles or fighting over money.

“Unresolved childhood issues, power struggles, and differing values and personalities can also often play a part. You may be able to work through these conflicts by setting boundaries, discussing expectations, and focusing on common goals.”

The best way to resolve these conflicts among adult siblings is to focus on improving a few key skills. For example, active listening, setting boundaries, discussing expectations, as well as learning to apologize when necessary.

Reciprocity is a fundamental part of healthy coexistence. Both sides have to put in the effort if they want a good relationship

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Of course, in some cases, the situation may be so concerning that you may need to reach out to a mental health specialist to mediate the conflict. Or you may end up cutting ties with your sibling altogether if the relationship gets too toxic and ends up harming your mental and emotional health.

To put it bluntly, authentic relationships and real friendships need to have a give-and-take dynamic. It’s a problem if one side constantly puts in lots of effort and makes sacrifices while the other party doesn’t reciprocate.

Even though familial relationships shouldn’t devolve into a robot-like, instrumental, and utilitarian quid pro quo dynamic, there still needs to be gratitude, effort, and the willingness to help out when needed. It’s one thing to say that you support someone, but it’s another thing entirely to prove this through your actions.

If you want to evaluate whether there’s mutual respect in any relationship, a good rule of thumb is to think about how many resources (time, energy, money, emotional support) you’re committing to the other person versus what you’re getting.

If you’re constantly doing someone favors but they’re reluctant to help you when you ask for assistance, you need to reconsider the relationship. Do they always come up with an excuse? Are they constantly too busy to help you?

Someone who is only around you when times are good is known as a fairweather friend (or, well, relative). When the going gets tough, when you actually need a bit of help, they’re nowhere to be found… until everything’s fine on your end again. True friends, on the other hand, will always be there for you: to celebrate your victories as well as to support you in your defeats.

What’s your take on the situation the mom found herself in, Pandas? Do you think she was right to kick her sister out when she refused to be a temporary babysitter? Or do you think she rushed things a bit too much? What’s the biggest argument you’ve gotten into with your siblings? If you feel like you’d like to share your experiences and opinions, feel free to do so in the comments at the bottom of this post.

Later, the author answered some people’s questions and opened up more about the situation at home

Most internet users supported the older woman. Here’s their take on what happened

Some readers thought that everyone was at least partly responsible for how everything escalated

A small number of people called the author out for how she handled the disagreement

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