"I aM nOT jeLoUs!". Yeah right lady :) Then explain to us where the betrayal lies... EDIT: I like that "nice girl" comment - this really is female incel behavior.

All of the YIKES! She doesn't own this guy or own her best mate. Noone was sneaking around. Years ago a mate staying in my spare room got together with my old school friend - and they are now married with 2 cute kiddos. Y'know because my friends being happy is a GOOD thing.

YTA 100%. Are you even listening to yourself? You and Jayden are roommates and friends, nothing more. Yet you accuse him of betraying you, being rude and ungrateful, and sneaking around? You have no ownership over his private life or your best friend's private life. You either have a thing for Jayden or a thing for your best friend if you're having this reaction.

This is very "I bought you dinner and now you owe me *something* nudge nudge wink wink." I was so uncomfortable reading this. I hope Jayden got out.

wtf did I just read? Is it roommates or a relationship?

Yta. You're jealous. There's no other reason to consider that a betrayal. If you aren't jealous you'd be happy your best friend and him hit it off well. Simple.

She reminds me of one of those mean girls in high school *eye roll* And her response is very telling of her personality

This woman needs therapy to teach her that you don’t have ownership over other human beings. Weird, possessive and weird again

Wow. She's insane.

Aw, that reminds me of my flatmate - back then what I thought was a super close friend - who was FURIOS with me for hooking up with his best friend. As far as I know he never was mad at his friend, who made the move. Let's just say we're less than in touch by now.

I used to be friends/housemates with a girl who went mental at me because I sent a Facebook message to a friend of hers that I met at our housewarming party. "He's my friend, not yours! You didn't even ask me first if you could send him a message! Why did you talk about your boyfriend to him?? (Um, because he asked me how it was going?) Now he thinks you're really weird. Don't ever talk to him again!" Psychotic behaviour, she really was crazy. I'm so glad I cut her out of my life. Sas, if you're reading this, I hope you got some therapy.

How did he betray her? They aren’t in a relationship and her friend is a consenting adult. I think she’s just mad because Jayden only liked her as a friend and felt betrayed when he wasn’t interested.

If she's not jealous because she's crushing on Jaden, she's jealous that two of her 'friends' might like each other, and spend time together without her. This is very controlling and jealous behaviour, and even if there is no romantic interest on her part, she's still trying to isolate Jaden from having other relationships. Jaden needs to run far, far, away.

Maybe she has feelings for her female bestie and not him.

in what way has he "betrayed" OP? the ONLY way it could be betrayal is if OP has feelings for him. they don't get to dictate his love life because they did him a favor

Plot twist - she's actually crushing on her best friend. Still an a*****e, tho.

Congrats, your attitude has been selected to be a script for a future episode of nypd... seriously, Jayden, if you read all these, RUN!!!!!!

This woman needs professional help stat!!! Psycho!!

I can kind of see getting upset in this situation as a "don't s**t where I eat" type thing, where one could be upset at the boundary crossing and messiness of it, especially if they didn't give her a courtesy heads up. Because if best friend and roommate date and then break up, it could get ugly, fast, and lose her her sweet live in housekeeper deal, which sounds awesome. And one is always allowed to be upset when friends lie to them, or hide things which affect them (though that doesn't really seem to be the case here; she learned about the dalliance quite quickly) But all of her talk about how much she's doing for him, and for him to 'betray' her, sounds more like she views him as hers. Like in the sense that she is his owner/ employer, and she just found out he's seeking a new situation. Like this is Downton Abbey and Carson, the butler, decided to get a new job.

what an idiot how is this a betrayal

Jayden, if you are still there, please do yourself a favour and hightail it along with Lia. Your landlord (because I pretty much see it as is) seems like she only wants you all to herself despite BSing that she ain't attracted to you. Get out with Lia now!!!

Wow if this was the other way around a man and she was a single mum she'd be kicking off but because she's the woman she just doesn't see it

This one's fake, right?

There has to be more to this story than she put here. I was all on her side until she crossed the not a relationship line. I get being out of work with a small child and needing help. She stepped up and gave them a place to stay which ended longer than they thought it would be. She is shouldering the finances. He is being nice and helpful otherwise. She has all compliments for him. He is an amazing person so she says. They just never had a DTR talk. Who watched the kid when he worked part time? I bet she did. They have a dynamic family relationship. She sounds like she had it in her head that it was more than friends. Thus the feelings of betrayal and surprise that he would kiss someone else.