Waaait wait. So according to the comments this MIL lied im the face of the parents saying all the mushrooms were for her own dishes, not for the child? This means she deliberately made these dishes in secret to bully the kid. That is NASTY and a red flag. I totally agree to getting that woman out of the house. If she is that disrespectful to OP and their child, imagine what else she would do.

I'm not in any way a picky eater but I have two things I just can't bring myself to eat: eggplant and beet root. I tried them from time to time but my body refuses to swallow them and I start gagging. I just started liking some mushroom dishes (Mushrooms often have a lightly slimy texture and a strong aroma). Forcefeeding is never ever a solution! Never! But I like the idea that a kid has at least to taste the unknown food. If it dislikes it, it can eat some other basic food or it can pick out the components which it dislikes. My bachelor's thesis evolved around foreign food and I read, that a child has to taste an unfamiliar flavour up to 13 times until the brain gives the "okay" that some item is edible and tastes good. 🤯 Trying out new tastes should aways be fun, because eating is a wonderful thing 😍

Thing is, kids that hate a specific food will often decide later in life that they do like it after all. Your tastes change. MIL sounds old school, like my parents (I’m 62 now, and my parents had been married 19 years before I came along as the baby of five kids). I can’t tell you how many times I had to sit at the dinner table after dinner was over because I hadn’t cleaned my plate, or at least eaten all my [whatever dish or side dish I couldn’t abide]. Usually it was beets, which my mother absolutely adored and I STILL hate (no offense meant if you like them, but for me the taste, consistency, etc are just yuck). Sometimes though, it was spinach. Hated spinach as a child, but in my twenties I discovered better ways to serve it than mushy and gross, and have loved it ever since. MIL is the cruel and abusive a*****e here, the Wicked Granny, and her idea of “tough love” just lost her a free place to live. Wonder if she was that way with her son—-her grandchild’s father—-and that’s what he’s totally on OP’s side? If so, looks like his siblings are perpetuating MIL’s cruelty by thinking it’s OK to starve a child until they’re so desperately hungry they’ll even et a food they hate. Way to breed resentment, as well as become persona non grata with your son and his family, Granny.

Hated mustard, lima beans, Jello, and bierocks. As an adult, I like mustard and beirocks, still hate jello and lima beans. You don't have to like everything.

Wow, my step mum used to make me eat mushroom soup despite knowing I hated (hate - still do) but I was so scared of her I just ate it

I'd make a dish using ingredients MIL doesn't like and force her to eat it.

Growing up, I disliked mushrooms, green onions, and cilantro. I love them now, but not when I was a kid. My mother used to call me stupid for not liking them. Yeah, she was that type.

NTA. It's not your MIL's business to raise your daughter. And from what was told in the story the child is also doing pretty fine without it. With your MIL's actions she is propably fuling your daughters dispite for mushrooms even further. Also calling you a bad mother because you value your career is a prime example of whataboutism and propably a sign, that your MIL do know, that she is doing the wrong thing.

People are allowed not to like certain foods - I also can't stand mushrooms. I'd be very tempted to make the mother-in-law dishes centred around things she doesn't like.

You wanna know what I hated as a kid: mushrooms, gyros, and aubergines. You wanna know what I love now: mushrooms (all kinds, cooked all ways, in all cuisines around the world), gyros (I make my own regularly), and aubergines (like mushrooms I love them prepared all sorts of ways minus raw). I wholeheartedly believe children should be exposed to all sorts of foods growing up but not one thing should be forced. Sometimes it does take time to develop our tastebuds and understanding food textures. Sometimes it never quite clicks, and that is ok too. But forcing unwanted foods will just create bad relationships with food either completely or with that one item.

Your house your rules an thank dad for sticking by your side. What if she was allergic to a food an mil decided that feeding her only they would cure her? I'm sure you guys never asked what your kid had for dinner when you would get home? Or the then morning? Cuz I'm sure it would have stopped a little sooner. Yeah out the door mushroom queen. Lol. Try just having your kid explain it to these people bad mouthing you. "Hey I don't like mushrooms. I can't stand them. They make me sick thinking about them. Guess what? That's all she would make for dinner when my parents weren't home. On purpose. To get me to like them. Then if I didn't want to eat it? I. Got. Nothing. Ask her to explain starving me over mushrooms!" I wanna force feed that woman the food she dislikes.

I am 30 years old and would rather starve than eat a mushroom dish. Tried them, hate them, will cringe and chew threw it if I'm eating in front of others and there's pieces of it in the dish to save face. NTA. It's one thing if the kid won't eat any of her dishes, but one small ingredient? That's overkill. Also, even if we didn't want to eat what my mom fixed us, she'd remind us there was sandwich bread and a jar of peanut butter to fix a sandwich so we weren't starving.

Glad to hear OP's husband is 100% on her side. So often the husband takes his mom's side or tries to stay out of it. Block MILs number already, and the SILs too if they don't stop. MIL was way out of line!

My family teased and bullied me about not eating raw tomatoes, saying I was being "a baby" whenever a small piece of raw tomato flesh even touched my tongue. Guess what? I'm allergic. Found out at 30 or so when I ate a bunch of Mexican food where they were so cleverly spiced and hidden I didn't know until I'd eaten a good deal of them. Vomited myself into a nosebleed and passed out from the sheer violence and being unable to breathe. So... sometimes your body is warning you about stuff, too.

There are a couple foods that were forced on me, not to this extent, as a child. And to this day I still can't eat them because of the memories. If they're mixed in and I don't realize, I tend to be fine, it's all mental at this point. (But I still don't like mushrooms)

I've always hated mushrooms. Being vegetarian, it's super tough because it's a huge substitute. So I've managed to accept some dishes over the years if the mushroom is cut up really, really small but I still can't deal with mushrooms as a whole. And it's a taste that leeches into the rest of the dish, you can't just pick them out. MIL is an AH for sure. I bet there's at least one food in the world she doesn't want to eat (even if it's something unusual to Western culture like locusts)

What does gma hate in the way of food and put that in every dish you serve. Then teach your daughter to cook some simple meals.

My mom never made mushrooms because she didn't like them. Once I tried them and loved them, she let me learn to make them for myself. But I still hate liver and other organ meats,while they love it. Different tastes

I'm with the daughter. Mushrooms are the devil's food. 🤢🤢🤢

It's a similar thing in my family, growing up my brother wouldn't (knowingly) eat a mushroom, I don't care for most varieties of rice or corn off the cob -- everyone has their own tolerances for tastes and textures...

I mean she should overcome the fungus fear.

That's a nasty MIL there. Trying nicely to get a kid on occasion to eat their veggies is one thing but purposely cooking mushrooms all the time when she hates them. I don't get it, just because she's a child, why is she not entitled to dislike a certain food? Many adults are even like that. I hate anchovies, would she do that to an adult and constantly cook me dishes with anchovies in it? That's child abuse really.

I'm with the kid on this one I loathe mushrooms!!! Bleh!!!

I just want to know how MIL is so dense as to not understand that now OP's daughter is going to have an even stronger aversion to mushrooms because there's now yet ANOTHER negative connotation to them. So now on top of just not liking them, now they're directly associated with being a punishment, effectively. That is horrid behaviour. I disliked sweet vegetables like carrots and corn when I was a kid, so my mom made them for the rest of the family and steamed broccoli for me instead (it's such a strange quirk - as an adult it seems I can't really taste bitterness like other people do, so things like 90% dark chocolate and black coffee are things I love, but I'm ultrasensitive to sweet tastes). But as an adult, I don't hate the vegetables I disliked as a child, and I'm sure part of that comes down to the fact that I wasn't forced to eat them.

I'm with the kid. I don't like mushrooms either!

children are always not going like something. that doesnt give you the right to starve them. how horrible!

Granny needs to mature and learn to adapt to the initial family agreement between parents and child. It's the parent's house and that's their rules.

If someone isn't a picky eater, but they happen to dislike one food, it's pretty typical for it to turn out that they're actually allergic to it. That happened to me. I hated celery as a kid and I hate it now. It tastes like the smell of a hot tire to me. I thought it was weird when I found out other people don't taste it like that. Turns out I'm allergic to latex, the stuff rubber is made out of, which apparently also exists in celery. My body was trying to warn me to avoid it. You really shouldn't force a kid to eat something they don't like if they've already proven they're an adventurous eater. There could be a good reason for it.

I love and worship the fungus gods, but why would I waste the good ones on others? As the only one who likes them in the house, I get small quantities of really excellent/expensive ones and it's affordable... Pearls for swine, to buy them for the others.

Unless there is a food allergies. Such as in peanuts. I personally at allergic to jalapenos, have been for years. Every time I go anywhere, certain dishes have to be done without . And I can't afford the epi pen 🖊️.

haha ppl are so spoiled, its just food jesus what a spoiled kid she couldve just eaten around the mushroom. people really have no idea what real abuse is or feels like. not saying shes right, there's kinder ways to introduce a new food. but ppl saying this is bullying or abuse, nah just old fashioned parenting ppl so spoiled. they are not going to kill her, kid sounds like a brat

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She is not starving the kid. She isn't being nice, and she would have been better off making dishes without telling her there's mushrooms in it. I hope the parents enjoyed their free childcare.

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Maybe the MIL just didn't feel like cooking two meals to accommodate the granddaughter. My best friend hated celery but it was thanksgiving and stuffing requires celery. It certainly wasn't the only ingredient but it was there.