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Husband Asks His Friend To Leave So His Worn-Out Wife That Works In Healthcare Can Rest, Friend Lashes Out
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Husband Asks His Friend To Leave So His Worn-Out Wife That Works In Healthcare Can Rest, Friend Lashes Out

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Everyone knows that there are a few things in life that a person absolutely must have – well, having a secure and healthy friendship is one of them. Our peers help us grow into these outstanding individuals, and with them, we’re much closer to living that stress-free life that everybody yearns to have.

Of course, finding that strong connection can sometimes feel like a rocky journey. We’re all different people with contrasting mindsets, and there’s a big chance that your once dearest friend will turn into an individual that doesn’t hold the same values anymore. Growing together doesn’t always result in an everlasting bond, but what’s crucial is for you to remember to put your well-being first, even if it means cutting off a friend or two.

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Sometimes an argument provoked by a simple request leaves you no other choice than to reconsider your friendship

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This online user took his concern to one of the most popular online communities to discuss his somewhat absurd situation. “AITA for kicking my friend out of my bedroom so my wife could take a nap?” A fight provoked by a simple request bothered the author enough to seek help from fellow Reddit users, as he wanted to find out whether he’s indeed the villain of the story. The post received over 20K upvotes and 2.5K worth of comments discussing his friend’s toxic approach.

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Redditor wondered if he’s indeed a jerk for asking his friend to leave as his overworked wife wanted to rest after her nursing shift

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The author of the post began his story with an introduction; he’s a 28-year-old husband to his 27-year-old partner who is a certified nursing assistant. The wife works day and night and is also attending school to become an autopsy technician, so the woman often comes back home quite exhausted.

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The man revealed that his significant other constantly picks up extra shifts, works doubles and even triples, and due to such a busy lifestyle, she frequently takes a nap once she comes back home from her duties.

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However, a rather unpleasant situation occurred one day involving the OP’s friend. The author shared that his wife and the friend do not get along as he tends to make the woman uncomfortable, yet they’ve agreed not to stand in between their friendships just because one of them doesn’t get along with someone. Well, the friend was over at their house, playing video games with the OP when his wife called to let him know that she was on her way home. The man disclosed that the woman sounded pretty exhausted, and he even asked her if she would be okay driving or if he should come and pick her up.

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The woman said that she was fine to drive and that she’d see the OP later. The guy also decided to reveal that the only TV they have is located in their bedroom, where he and his friend were playing the aforementioned video games. A couple of minutes later, the author’s wife came back home and he went to greet her.

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The poor woman then practically collapsed into her husband’s arms and said that she could really use a nap. The OP took her to their bedroom and politely told the friend that it was time for him to leave, as his wife needed to rest. The friend then began to talk back and asked these unnecessary questions, suggesting that the woman could just sleep there while they were playing, yet the author explained that the silly game could wait as his wife’s needs always come first.

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The friend then asked another question and wondered why the OP’s wife couldn’t just crash on the couch; the man says that he wasn’t going to make his overworked wife sleep on their sofa just because he wanted to keep playing the video games. As expected, the overly audacious friend decided to cause a scene, so he slammed down his controller and went to leave – however, before he did, he turned to the woman and told her “I bet you’re happy he always feels like he has to pick you over anyone”.

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Later on, the OP’s friends bombarded his phone, basically saying that what he did was against the infamous “bro” protocol and that it was rude to kick the friend out just so that his wife could sleep. On the other hand, the man revealed that all of his married friends are totally on his side, so, perhaps this situation is a matter of maturity.

Fellow online users shared their own thoughts and opinions

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Darja is a Content Creator at Bored Panda. She studied at the University of Westminster, where she got her Bachelor's degree in Contemporary Media Practice. She loves photography, foreign music and re-watching Forrest Gump.

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I am a visual editor here. In my free time I enjoy the vibrant worlds of art galleries, exhibitions, and soulful concerts. Yet, amidst life's hustle and bustle, I find solace in nature's embrace, cherishing tranquil moments with beloved friends. Deep within, I hold a dream close - to embark on a global journey in an RV, accompanied by my faithful canine companion. Together, we'll wander through diverse cultures, weaving precious memories under the starry night sky, fulfilling the wanderlust that stirs my soul.

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Monika Pašukonytė

Monika Pašukonytė

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I am a visual editor here. In my free time I enjoy the vibrant worlds of art galleries, exhibitions, and soulful concerts. Yet, amidst life's hustle and bustle, I find solace in nature's embrace, cherishing tranquil moments with beloved friends. Deep within, I hold a dream close - to embark on a global journey in an RV, accompanied by my faithful canine companion. Together, we'll wander through diverse cultures, weaving precious memories under the starry night sky, fulfilling the wanderlust that stirs my soul.

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Twodogsandapicnictable
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm 47 with a mortgage and full time job and have a friend thats been on disability or workers comp or something for his entire adult life because of a car accident. Recently texted me that I'm a piece of s**t friend because I don't "hang out" anymore. Sometimes you gotta just tell somebody to f@#$ off and get their own life.

Powerful Katrinka
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think he should have asked his "friend" to leave BEFORE his wife got home. She didn't need to hear that bullsh*t.

Gary Harkins
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Maybe he should have but let's not forget he's 27. He's still young and he did the right thing by sending him on his way when he did. A lot of other guys that age would not have. He did right by his wife! And to the person that said he should demand an apology and cut off anyone who wouldn't, sorry but you are wrong! He shouldn't even give them the opportunity to apologize!! Just straight cut them off! It's one thing to be immature, but at 27 saying something so absurd is just down right disrespectful and will probably never change!

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Kusotare
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Is it any wonder that all the "bro" friends are single, while all the married friends get it? E, and all his bros, are AHs. Let them be incels without you. This may be the very first time I've ever quoted the Bible, but "when I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: But when I became a man, I put away childish things."

Stefi Stoyanova
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well said. OP needs to ditch the single assholes he calls friends. And give E the finger.

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Casey McAlister
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

WTF? If you are being a guest in somebody's house and they tell you it's time to leave, you don't question it. You don't own their house, don't pay the rent. you have absolutely no right to demand anything and tell them they should sleep on the couch because you aren't done in their bedroom. The audacity.

Inclusion2020
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My fiancé wouldn’t have someone over to the house that made me feel uncomfortable. This dude sounds like a good guy, but he really needs to drop his idiot friends. This should really be a wake up call for him. His wife felt bad for wanting to sleep in her own bed? Clearly his rude friends have made her feel second class in her own relationship. No wonder these guys make her uncomfortable.

Nubis Knight
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Bros before h**s"? How old are they? Your family and wife (and real friends) come before people using such terms!

Nikki Sevven
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If people are intimating that you're wife is a whore, even in jest, they're not your friends. If that one "friend" is angry that your wife wants to use her bed in her home, and you support her, he's not your friend either.

Mary Jeffries
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People in healthcare often develop a good sense for others. I’d say if she didn’t like him in the first place, there is a good reason. He just showed you how right she was.

Georgia Hebert
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You should tell him to fvck right off! You're married to her, not him. Sounds a lot like jealousy to me.

S
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Bro's before hoe's is not a thing when you're married. If you think otherwise, please don't get married.

abby smink
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As someone who works in healthcare, I WISH my ex would have done something like this instead of staying up until 3am only making the problem worse most of the time. The sleep deprivation I experienced was horrible.

Don't Look
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You might miss your friend for a while. You'll get over it.

Moezzzz
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is no "hoe", it's is GD wife!! Our spouses come first and SHES EXHAUSTED FROM WORKING ALL THE TIME!! Of course dude is not the AH here!! E is a douche bag and needs a time out for life from coming over. What an ass

Allison B
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When my best friend got married, it became harder to see him since he spent so much time with her instead of hanging out with me. While it made me sad and a bit jealous that we didnt spend as much time together as before, more so I was happy he found someone he loved. I got over it and now while we still don't see each other in person too much we talk a lot. E is an a*****e and OP did the right thing.

The Starsong Princess
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Frankly, your friends shouldn’t be in your bedroom at all - that private space, not entertaining space. Move the tv and get better friends.

Christopher Doke
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This cant be real right? What are you 16? I'm sorry but you should never have to ask someone to leave your house twice in a row.

SweetsEve
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Probably younger than 16. This wife comes home and collapses? They have a couch in the living room but not a TV? The wife after working doubles and triples apologizes and days she could have moved to the couch? He says mine and my wife's house instead of our home or just at home? This writer is a child.

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Seedy Vine
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Dude should've asked his friend to leave right after he got off the phone with his wife. Then she wouldn't have been subjected to his horrible friend's rage.

Erik Ivan
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How old is the friend? 12? Because it cannot be an adult.

Andrew Osborne
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Forget that idiot. You don't needs "friends" that act that way. Your wife is your best friend.

Rachel Ainsworth
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The friends are selfish and arw only thinking about what they want. In future, if you want to hang out with them, consider going to their place instead of inviting them to your place.

Shawn McBride
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your friend E and all the other friends who took his side are not your friends. You are married and your wife is not a hoe. I am so sorry that you think that he's a friend and that those other people are too. And you can tell that POS E that the day you guys said I do mean she will always come first before anybody and everybody else. That is how a marriage works. NTA

Tempest
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Bye looser. It's HER HOUSE AND BED. Not 1 word..not 1. Never let that creep back in the door EVER.

L1z
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Lmao! Screw those "friends" lol this guy is awesome for treating his wife with such care <3

Shelley
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Overall, this guy sounds like a really good husband! But his friends are awful and he does need to distance himself from them, not just to protect his wife, but because they’re a bunch of entitled, immature, sexist 16 year old twats who clearly believe their wants override others’ needs.

Juanjo
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i think the only thing i would've done different, is to warn the friend that in a few minutes wife will be home, nap will happen, and he will need to leave (wife already exhausted on the phone so 2+2=4). if friend still behaved like a 3y old kid, he wouldn't be my friend anymore.

Mark Gibbs
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yo………WTFFFF??? You need to cancel ALL THOSE ASSHOLES IMMEDIATELY!!! What In Sam Hill is wrong with some people??? That is some really DISRESPECTFUL S**T & your Wife sounds like a great person!!!

Rahul Pawa
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hope OP doesn't apologize. That's emotional manipulation. E is withholding connection to get what he wants. OP politely asked his friend to leave, he doesn't need to apologize for that. If anyone in this situation should be apologizing, it should be E for his selfish behavior. The friends texting in E's defense were pretty shitty too. Why were they even getting involved? It wasn't their business.

Bljurg
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You're a great husband and a caring person, NOT an AH! Any people that have such juvenile and selfish reactions, like your "friend" E, an other "friends" that support him, are not worth keeping around. "Bros before h**s" my ass, they're not your bros, they're selfish, entitled pricks whose mentality got stuck in middle school.

Sherita Judkins
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA. Your friends sounds like they had only one night stands to the point where the women could only stand them for one night. Stick with your married friends it seems like y'all have more in common. Again NTA AT ALL.

Craig Reynolds
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA but apparently all of your friends are and I'm guessing none of them are married. Your wife comes first. You should tell all of your friends you are done with them.

Andrea Gemmell
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’d get rid of they friends when u get married ur vowing to put that persons needs above all others ur wife’s decent enough to work like crazy while going to school and letting ur friends into ur home without complaints and they treat her like mud that’s not on

K Brooks
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My ex did something similar to me, not as bad though. I'm a nurse. I actually got off on time from work and made it home by 7:45pm. I turn the corner and my driveway is full of cars, causing me to have to park on the street (mistake #1). I get in the door about 5 of his friends are sitting around and one was looking in the refridgerator (mistake #2). Then ex asks me why was I home (mistake #3). I say because I live here and WTF is doing he in my refridgerator when he didn't buy anything to go in it? After I said that, I proceed to the bedroom. Soon I hear the front door open and cars cranking. This dummy had the nerve to ask why I came in the house with an attitude and ran his friends away. I tell him, "there should never be a time where I have to park on the street in front of my house. Plus after working a long day, I don't always want to look at your face, let alone your funky ass friends." Within 5 minutes he was gone and I had a peaceful night alone.

Iam Knucks
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People who say "Bros before Hoes" need to go. A sure sign of a toxic friend.

Mindy Haun
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The husband isn't the a*****e but the so called friend is. If he were a true friend it wouldn't matter that the husband put his wife and her needs first. The "friend" is a garbage person who has a lot of growing up to do, as well as the guys who blasted the husband with the bros before ho's crap.

Aleksandra
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If your friends don't respect your wife/husband/partner and don't understand that a partner comes first, they shouldn't be your regular friends. Married or unmarried, doesn't matter, both should be able to understand that.

MiriMe
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Bros before what now?! She is your wife! That's why they are not married cause they are misogynistic assholes! Why are you friends with them?! Seriously. How can you be friends with people that say s**t like that?! Your wife is your partner that you chose to spend your life with and anyone disrespecting her should not be in your life. Ever. I would have a huge problem with my husband being friends with scum like that.

Alyson Frazier
Community Member
2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If paying more attention to your buddy is more important than your wife, then you could make your "bro" the happiest dude in town- single and free to play video games with him instead of having a real life with a wife. Maybe bro doesn't have the nerve to approach real life and video games is all he can handle.. Bro and all those other bros who blasted your phone with messages, should now be on your no contact list. Find other grown-ups and leave the toddlers behind.

Brent Hollett
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Bros before hoes, but Wife is LIfe. Characterizing someone's wife as a 'hoe' is really not the cool plan people think it is.

Aine Kelly
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You can always tell what type of person someone is based on how they treat their controller 🎮

Dibs
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Why can't she sleep on the couch"? Because it's her mother f*****g bed b***h. Gtfo.

E Hall
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Are you seriously even asking if you're the a*****e? That childish d**k would never come into my house again! Grow up, and ditch your idiot frat boy friends! Why would you even have people like that in your life?

Eva Gaberscek
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If a total stranger has to sleep I am pooling my child away to not disturb. It is not matter of wich person but which need is more important. The friend is probably having issues with gaming. He is sick person. I only wonder how that other friends are supporting this sick behavior?

MagNat
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes, thank you. It's not even "who comes first", it's that one has way more serious needs (and rights, since it's her freaking bedroom) than the other.

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Valerie Smart
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA tell your friend to go f**k himself and find new friends . Send him back home to his mommy so he can play video games all day long without interruption . The f*****g nerve .

Ashley Kelly
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It sounds like you should listen to your wife when she says someone makes her uncomfortable. He's a nut burger. And the other friends are stupid children.

Tempest
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That you didn't show your buddy the door before she got home makes YOU a jerk as well. You KNOW and say how tired she is and make coming home uncomfortable for her because HE MEANS MORE?! WHO DID YOU MARRY?!

Lily
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Good heavens, what a selfish friend. Anyone with any sense would have left without question, wouldn't even have had to be told. Husband has a lousy friend. There's a reason why wife doesn't like him. He's the ASH.

Menacia Jones
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My husband blocked his best friend from childhood as he (the friend) starting to believe in conspiracy theories and would send him articles and every conversation would include something about them. He was coming for a visit back home and my husband told him he could not come over due to his vaccination status (not vaccinated) which led him to not only send my husband another article but wanting to start sending stuff to me as well. I always thought this guy was a complete narcissist and did whatever he wanted regardless of the consequences. Good riddance.

Laura Dawson
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sounds like this dude is a bit of a pushover. That guy E is a little boy who probably nearly 30 & still acting like he’s 18. Ditch him.

P.A.B.
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You’re only TAH if you apologized to that guy you THOUGHT was your friend.

Joy Hart
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

MY QUESTION IS FOR THE HUSBAND, why are you laying on the bed playing video games with your friend? Your exhausted wife is working double and sometimes triple shifts AND goes to school. Do you have a job ??? I think she needs to get rid of some dead weight, your friend e and YOU. GROW UP AND SUPPORT YOUR WIFE. To hell with your loser friends.

Mine Truly
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You didn't even prioritize your wife above your friend. You prioritized your wife's health needs above your friend's video game playtime. It sounds like he was already brittle over some other slight and snapped on you. I still would keep him and his bros before hos crowd at a distance. It's not like you have to stop seeing them over this, but... What would you want to put much effort into fair weather friends? Have them over for the occasional party and focus on developing your friendships with your more mature friends.

David Force
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Initially I thought this is an easy problem to solve, just a get another cheap tv, even a used one if money is tight. However, after his friends immature and selfish behavior he needs to be cut loose unless he sincerely apologizes to both you and your hard working wife. Personally I would never have any man in my house that made my wife uncomfortable. You’re a good husband for sticking up for your wife and she is obviously a sweetheart too by saying she could have slept on the couch instead of calling your friend what he really is, an Ahole.

Joe Knight
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I see no mention of this so called husband working. I guess that's the way it is now, lay on your worthless lazy ass while your wife works her butt off. I can see why and how these lazy butt brain warped millennials will let this once great country go down the drain.

Mtg Wolfie
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The bros before h**s mentality is 1, toxic AF. And 2, wasn't intended to mean "you must hang out with bros before any female". It was intended as "if a bro and a random vagina-haver both need help, help the bro". It wasn't meant to be used to disparage significant others. And E is an AH for using it that way.

Skully Bats
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm just gonna guess that none of the single guy "friends" never actually spoken to a woman nor have ever touched grass before because they all sound like they have the mentality of a spoiled 5 year old. OP had every right to ask him to leave so his wife can sleep and not to mention he should probably end the friendships he has that are still mentally stuck in kindergarten.

Gizmo TeknoDekkeR
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hm. Nta. But I do think it could have been avoided by some communication with your friend. But then again, a true friend would never be offended by being asked to leave!

Tina Newman
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA.. you are right to put the person who is working her butt off first. It is her house and your friend is SO lucky your wife is nicer than I am. I would have told to "f" himself and given suggestions for just how hard he could do it.

Levi Marker
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Woulda stomped a new hole in that guys ass. Open your mouth about my fiance and you're gonna get reminded where the line is

Catherine Osborn
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You are a good husband. And it sounds like you are much more mature than your friends.

Erin E
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yikes. Sounds like his friend group needs to shrink 😬

MagNat
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Bros before hoes" - ok, bro, you need to get in the bin.

S. Mi
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think I have an idea why some of OPs friends aren't married. Partner's needs outweighs friends wants. Almost always.

Frankenfrog
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A wife is not a hoe and if you think so, that's probably why you're single

MagNat
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Some guys think that everyone with a vagina (except for their mommy, of course) is a "hoe".

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Rob Kneepkens
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

These AITA stories are getting more and more stupid. Am I the a*****e for asking someone politely to leave while my wife collapses in my arms out of sheer exhaustion (not gonna lie, think there might be some exaggeration for drama there)

n o u n
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can't believe the poster even needs to ask this question. Oh my gosh. He's not in the wrong here. E was horrible and totally not considerate. The world doesn't revolve around E.

Rahul Pawa
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can believe it if E triangulated and got a bunch of others on his side. It's a form of gaslighting, and it's effective at clouding the target's judgment.

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Reyn-Guo
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

THIS is WHY most friendships with single (non-committed friends) do not survive your marriage. THEY cannot accept the FACT that your now wife is your priority. This is as it should be, with no exceptions. You need new friends that are less self-entitled.

Jonathan Zagrodnik
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think the line "all my married friends are on my side" is all he really needs to know that he's not the a*****e.

grandma
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

His wife comes first. Let the "friend" go to amother friends to play video games. By the way, why is the wife killing herself with school, full time job, extra shifts and the husband is playing video games like a little kid?????? Time to get a second job, buster, and help the wife. Believe me, I did all that and raised two kids. Video games need to go.

Georgie Gal
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'd like to say this is an awesome husband. You can always have time to make more friends, but you can't always make time to be a quality husband if you're not backing your wife and her needs over that of ah friends. I'd hope the friend isn't married, because that woman is in for a rude awakening.

Lynne Schultz
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is not even just a matter of who is more important but whose need is more important. Video games are play Responsibilities come first. Sleep is a rare commodity when you're working so much but also very important for doing your job. Anyone who doesn't recognize that hasn't grown up yet.

celery g
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Obviously, most toddlers need a type of warning that game time is over and you failed to give it, tsk tsk!

Melissa M
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sounds to me that the friend is a jerk and not much of a friend. I’d said find better friends

gary patton
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As a nurse, working triples is not legal but not sure why cna can. Your body cannot take that abuse long pulse you become danger to your patients . As for your friend, get rid of him. Toxic and probably will cause you to ultimately choose ending in major issues.

Katie Brown
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA...... wife. Not a hoe. And even if you kicked them out because a prostitute you just met wanted to nap in your bed.... it's still your bedroom, and you can still kick him out, and it's absolutely rude and disgusting for your friend to react that way.

Saint Lynnie
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sounds like he has middle schoolers for friends instead of actual grown men. He was right for being attentive to his wife's needs over his friend's desire to keep playing video games. "Bros before hoes" ?! I would dropkick those guys for referring to your wife as a hoe. It's your wife, not some hit it and quit it side piece

P Webb
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

His friend should not have been in the bedroom to begin with. Friends hanging out in a married couple's bedroom is just creepy. But yeah, NTA. Ditch him and every "friend" who blew up your phone. Go out and meet married friends, mutual friends who you BOTH get along with.

Marloes Nieuwenhuis
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's her home too, she has a right to sleep in her own bed, the 'friend' does not.

Vee
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I bet you E, and the other friends are not married and probably radiate "r/niceguy" energy. Maybe they're 18-23 years old, cause they all sounded like they were 16 year olds with no job.

Vee
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And another thing, if I wanted to sleep in my own bed, in my own house, where I pay the rent, I can. If I wanted to kick you out my own house, I can. And if I wanted to whoop your ass after you threw a fit for having to leave my own damn house, I sure as hell can.

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rn42
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"My wife and E do not get along" well no s**t, OPs wife seems to be the only one of the three to have her stuff together, hopefully OP is on the way there.

SW Dad
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He's the a*****e for failing to recognize why his wife had a problem with "E" in the first place. This didn't come out of nowhere. Clearly this dude needs a better caliber of friends, and he should be taking a good hard look at the quality of the ones he has if they're going to pull "bros before h**s" in reference TO HIS WIFE.

MotherMayhem
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The little boys need to grow up. When you marry, your spouse comes before your friends. End of story. Bye bye. See you later.

Melissa
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How about F the bro code an opt in for some just human decency. My husband and I are married and are extremely happy and I always tell him go out and hang out with your friends, his friends are single. But his friends also have an understanding that he’s married and are totally cool with it they don’t act like immature jackasses.

Luis Gomez
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The fact that this lame is even asking such a stupid question in the first place is cause for concern. If he doesn't realize right off the bat that his friend is a whiny little b***h who needs to respect his wife and home, and actually has to go online to ask a bunch of random strangers if he's in the wrong, that's pretty damn pitiful

Alan Woodman
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Honestly this could have been solved by not having the gaming equipment in the bedroom

Joe Knight
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This whole thing has nothing to do with this friend, that's just a symptom of the problem. Look at the big picture. This ridiculous self serving generation is beyond sickening. All over this country there are these lazy butt guys that find a woman with a good job and shack up with her or marry her and expect her to work her butt off while they lay on their lazy good for nothing ass all day playing video games or smoking joints etc etc. You don't even know who built this great nation. If men would have had this ridiculous millennial attitude after WW 11, this country would not have survived. You are the up and coming generation, you better WAKE UP!!!!

Pamela Kever
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ok. Those friends and yourself need a reminder. If you want your life to improve you have to have friends that has what you want in live!! If not generosity can only go so far until a fire starts!! I know in life fe I can always find a casual friend for a few week if I really wanted. Just don't I do not like that stress of differences. It took long enough to even find my husband to get alone with me and vise versa!!! Married 28 years!!! He should have been able to go to his friends house to play those games if he was a true friend that really had the same interests!!

SCP-3998
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If "bros before hoes" is still in your vocabulary, you clearly arent mature enough for adult relationships and should stay in high school and college.

Random Anon
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm not married and I think that "friend" is acting like a brat. Hell even I would tell guests to leave when I want to call it a night. No bro, you need to leave unless you want to be my b***h. No? Yes, the door is that way.

Izzy Curer
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nta, but tv's are moveable. Tbh, we move ours around all the time, if need be

Karoline Constance Dahl
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If I had come home exhausted n found my bf with friends being noisy he wouldn't even think twice about telling them it's time to go home guys. N if they had refused to leave? We BOTH woulda just yeated them out the front door by the twig n giggleberries lol.

SAF saf
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This story sounds made up honestly. I doubt this ever happened.

deanna woods
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Spouses always come before friends. E is acting like a spoiled brat and the OP needs drop him now.

Nicole
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA maybe E is secretly in love with you or your wife? Or is that just a plot twist only seen in movies?

Bored Turtle Princess
Community Member
2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Although these sort of things happen in real life, in this situation E seems more like someone who thinks they are still 15, and forgets that their 'friend' has a life outside of their little friend circle and video games. Edit: fixed some small typos.

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Emily Sansone
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Agree with everyone else...and am I the only one wondering why this woman has to work SO many hours while her husband is home playing video games??

Cheryl Tirrell
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

On husband asks his friend to leave because of worn out wife. Yes...sleep comes before play! Question? What do you do to help financially in your marriage so your wife doesn't have to have it so rough? Do you also work double shifts? Or even work for that matter? How come your friend can seem to come over morning..noon or night? Does he work? Could be a good question as to why they act so spoiled. If you work your butt off you know hiw important your sleep is to survive for the next shift. Big deal if yoyr fantasy land play has to wait for real world expenses so you have electricity to play your games!

Queen Kuki
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

First off you're a grown man child! Your wife not only goes to school full time but she also works full time hell sometimes double/triple shifts, you should be working them doubles/triples instead of her killing herself while you're at home playing video games! Secondly, you are a married man, you shouldn't have "friends" over playing video games in the same room your wife sleeps in, that is a private room. If you only have one tv, move it into the living room in order for you and your friends to play video games. Third, you definitely need better friends, you married your wife not your friends and for your "friend" to try and say bro's before hoes is rudely and disrespectfully calling your wife a hoe so he deserves to get his teeth knocked out!!

Kam Mason
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Im 52,..my wife 50,...and even at this age,..if anyone disrespects her like that,...im taking a swing and PC be damned....

Alexis Bleu
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So OP's wife works a thousand shifts and he is at home playing video games with his friend? I don't get the feeling that this was just his "day off." To add to that, why is his POS friend in their bedroom. Immaturity all around.

K Brooks
Community Member
2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA, but exactly why is his wife having to work double and triple shifts, while he's at home playing video games? I'm sure she is paying for school, but at what point does she get a break? Exhausted to the point of collapsing, only to have to deal with the a**hole of a friend. In addition to getting some new friends, maybe he should be the caring husband and put down the controller and work a few extra shifts in order to give her a break.

Michael Fred
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

AITA for wondering what this guy does for a living? I mean why is she working triple shifts? There's legitimate reasons as to why. I just kept wondering this the further I read.

Scarlett Barbee
Community Member
2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

While OP on initial take comes across as a nice, concerned and caring husband, I had a change of opinion. He is not the a$$hole for telling his friend to leave. He is the a$$hole for not telling his friend to leave before his wife got home. He is the a$$hole for not anticipating that she would need to rest once she got home, since she sounded so exhausted that he asked if she wanted him to come pick her up. He is also the a$$hole for having a friend over that his wife doesn't like, even though she doesn't tell him who to hang out with, more so for having this friend in their bedroom. He is the a$$hole for even writing in about this. And a$$hole again for not figuring out that he should have not been an a$$hole. And @$$hole once more for still being in the bedroom once she got home, as he should have figured she would be that tired. This is not a one-off, it is a regular occurence with her schedule. While his friend is an @$$hole, he is one many times over.

CL Rowan
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Does her husband work? She's doing triple shifts *plus* school?? She needs to reevaluate her life~~his part in it! Nice that he made his d**k of a friend leave, but frankly it's time hubby gets his act together!

SweetsEve
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2 years ago

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Oh my gosh this read like a 14 year old fantasy novel. I wasted so much time reading this fictional drama.

Twodogsandapicnictable
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm 47 with a mortgage and full time job and have a friend thats been on disability or workers comp or something for his entire adult life because of a car accident. Recently texted me that I'm a piece of s**t friend because I don't "hang out" anymore. Sometimes you gotta just tell somebody to f@#$ off and get their own life.

Powerful Katrinka
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think he should have asked his "friend" to leave BEFORE his wife got home. She didn't need to hear that bullsh*t.

Gary Harkins
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Maybe he should have but let's not forget he's 27. He's still young and he did the right thing by sending him on his way when he did. A lot of other guys that age would not have. He did right by his wife! And to the person that said he should demand an apology and cut off anyone who wouldn't, sorry but you are wrong! He shouldn't even give them the opportunity to apologize!! Just straight cut them off! It's one thing to be immature, but at 27 saying something so absurd is just down right disrespectful and will probably never change!

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Kusotare
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Is it any wonder that all the "bro" friends are single, while all the married friends get it? E, and all his bros, are AHs. Let them be incels without you. This may be the very first time I've ever quoted the Bible, but "when I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: But when I became a man, I put away childish things."

Stefi Stoyanova
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well said. OP needs to ditch the single assholes he calls friends. And give E the finger.

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Casey McAlister
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

WTF? If you are being a guest in somebody's house and they tell you it's time to leave, you don't question it. You don't own their house, don't pay the rent. you have absolutely no right to demand anything and tell them they should sleep on the couch because you aren't done in their bedroom. The audacity.

Inclusion2020
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My fiancé wouldn’t have someone over to the house that made me feel uncomfortable. This dude sounds like a good guy, but he really needs to drop his idiot friends. This should really be a wake up call for him. His wife felt bad for wanting to sleep in her own bed? Clearly his rude friends have made her feel second class in her own relationship. No wonder these guys make her uncomfortable.

Nubis Knight
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Bros before h**s"? How old are they? Your family and wife (and real friends) come before people using such terms!

Nikki Sevven
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If people are intimating that you're wife is a whore, even in jest, they're not your friends. If that one "friend" is angry that your wife wants to use her bed in her home, and you support her, he's not your friend either.

Mary Jeffries
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People in healthcare often develop a good sense for others. I’d say if she didn’t like him in the first place, there is a good reason. He just showed you how right she was.

Georgia Hebert
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You should tell him to fvck right off! You're married to her, not him. Sounds a lot like jealousy to me.

S
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Bro's before hoe's is not a thing when you're married. If you think otherwise, please don't get married.

abby smink
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As someone who works in healthcare, I WISH my ex would have done something like this instead of staying up until 3am only making the problem worse most of the time. The sleep deprivation I experienced was horrible.

Don't Look
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You might miss your friend for a while. You'll get over it.

Moezzzz
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is no "hoe", it's is GD wife!! Our spouses come first and SHES EXHAUSTED FROM WORKING ALL THE TIME!! Of course dude is not the AH here!! E is a douche bag and needs a time out for life from coming over. What an ass

Allison B
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When my best friend got married, it became harder to see him since he spent so much time with her instead of hanging out with me. While it made me sad and a bit jealous that we didnt spend as much time together as before, more so I was happy he found someone he loved. I got over it and now while we still don't see each other in person too much we talk a lot. E is an a*****e and OP did the right thing.

The Starsong Princess
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Frankly, your friends shouldn’t be in your bedroom at all - that private space, not entertaining space. Move the tv and get better friends.

Christopher Doke
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This cant be real right? What are you 16? I'm sorry but you should never have to ask someone to leave your house twice in a row.

SweetsEve
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Probably younger than 16. This wife comes home and collapses? They have a couch in the living room but not a TV? The wife after working doubles and triples apologizes and days she could have moved to the couch? He says mine and my wife's house instead of our home or just at home? This writer is a child.

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Seedy Vine
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Dude should've asked his friend to leave right after he got off the phone with his wife. Then she wouldn't have been subjected to his horrible friend's rage.

Erik Ivan
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How old is the friend? 12? Because it cannot be an adult.

Andrew Osborne
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Forget that idiot. You don't needs "friends" that act that way. Your wife is your best friend.

Rachel Ainsworth
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The friends are selfish and arw only thinking about what they want. In future, if you want to hang out with them, consider going to their place instead of inviting them to your place.

Shawn McBride
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your friend E and all the other friends who took his side are not your friends. You are married and your wife is not a hoe. I am so sorry that you think that he's a friend and that those other people are too. And you can tell that POS E that the day you guys said I do mean she will always come first before anybody and everybody else. That is how a marriage works. NTA

Tempest
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Bye looser. It's HER HOUSE AND BED. Not 1 word..not 1. Never let that creep back in the door EVER.

L1z
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Lmao! Screw those "friends" lol this guy is awesome for treating his wife with such care <3

Shelley
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Overall, this guy sounds like a really good husband! But his friends are awful and he does need to distance himself from them, not just to protect his wife, but because they’re a bunch of entitled, immature, sexist 16 year old twats who clearly believe their wants override others’ needs.

Juanjo
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i think the only thing i would've done different, is to warn the friend that in a few minutes wife will be home, nap will happen, and he will need to leave (wife already exhausted on the phone so 2+2=4). if friend still behaved like a 3y old kid, he wouldn't be my friend anymore.

Mark Gibbs
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yo………WTFFFF??? You need to cancel ALL THOSE ASSHOLES IMMEDIATELY!!! What In Sam Hill is wrong with some people??? That is some really DISRESPECTFUL S**T & your Wife sounds like a great person!!!

Rahul Pawa
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hope OP doesn't apologize. That's emotional manipulation. E is withholding connection to get what he wants. OP politely asked his friend to leave, he doesn't need to apologize for that. If anyone in this situation should be apologizing, it should be E for his selfish behavior. The friends texting in E's defense were pretty shitty too. Why were they even getting involved? It wasn't their business.

Bljurg
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You're a great husband and a caring person, NOT an AH! Any people that have such juvenile and selfish reactions, like your "friend" E, an other "friends" that support him, are not worth keeping around. "Bros before h**s" my ass, they're not your bros, they're selfish, entitled pricks whose mentality got stuck in middle school.

Sherita Judkins
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA. Your friends sounds like they had only one night stands to the point where the women could only stand them for one night. Stick with your married friends it seems like y'all have more in common. Again NTA AT ALL.

Craig Reynolds
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA but apparently all of your friends are and I'm guessing none of them are married. Your wife comes first. You should tell all of your friends you are done with them.

Andrea Gemmell
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’d get rid of they friends when u get married ur vowing to put that persons needs above all others ur wife’s decent enough to work like crazy while going to school and letting ur friends into ur home without complaints and they treat her like mud that’s not on

K Brooks
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My ex did something similar to me, not as bad though. I'm a nurse. I actually got off on time from work and made it home by 7:45pm. I turn the corner and my driveway is full of cars, causing me to have to park on the street (mistake #1). I get in the door about 5 of his friends are sitting around and one was looking in the refridgerator (mistake #2). Then ex asks me why was I home (mistake #3). I say because I live here and WTF is doing he in my refridgerator when he didn't buy anything to go in it? After I said that, I proceed to the bedroom. Soon I hear the front door open and cars cranking. This dummy had the nerve to ask why I came in the house with an attitude and ran his friends away. I tell him, "there should never be a time where I have to park on the street in front of my house. Plus after working a long day, I don't always want to look at your face, let alone your funky ass friends." Within 5 minutes he was gone and I had a peaceful night alone.

Iam Knucks
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People who say "Bros before Hoes" need to go. A sure sign of a toxic friend.

Mindy Haun
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The husband isn't the a*****e but the so called friend is. If he were a true friend it wouldn't matter that the husband put his wife and her needs first. The "friend" is a garbage person who has a lot of growing up to do, as well as the guys who blasted the husband with the bros before ho's crap.

Aleksandra
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If your friends don't respect your wife/husband/partner and don't understand that a partner comes first, they shouldn't be your regular friends. Married or unmarried, doesn't matter, both should be able to understand that.

MiriMe
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Bros before what now?! She is your wife! That's why they are not married cause they are misogynistic assholes! Why are you friends with them?! Seriously. How can you be friends with people that say s**t like that?! Your wife is your partner that you chose to spend your life with and anyone disrespecting her should not be in your life. Ever. I would have a huge problem with my husband being friends with scum like that.

Alyson Frazier
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If paying more attention to your buddy is more important than your wife, then you could make your "bro" the happiest dude in town- single and free to play video games with him instead of having a real life with a wife. Maybe bro doesn't have the nerve to approach real life and video games is all he can handle.. Bro and all those other bros who blasted your phone with messages, should now be on your no contact list. Find other grown-ups and leave the toddlers behind.

Brent Hollett
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Bros before hoes, but Wife is LIfe. Characterizing someone's wife as a 'hoe' is really not the cool plan people think it is.

Aine Kelly
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You can always tell what type of person someone is based on how they treat their controller 🎮

Dibs
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Why can't she sleep on the couch"? Because it's her mother f*****g bed b***h. Gtfo.

E Hall
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Are you seriously even asking if you're the a*****e? That childish d**k would never come into my house again! Grow up, and ditch your idiot frat boy friends! Why would you even have people like that in your life?

Eva Gaberscek
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If a total stranger has to sleep I am pooling my child away to not disturb. It is not matter of wich person but which need is more important. The friend is probably having issues with gaming. He is sick person. I only wonder how that other friends are supporting this sick behavior?

MagNat
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes, thank you. It's not even "who comes first", it's that one has way more serious needs (and rights, since it's her freaking bedroom) than the other.

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Valerie Smart
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA tell your friend to go f**k himself and find new friends . Send him back home to his mommy so he can play video games all day long without interruption . The f*****g nerve .

Ashley Kelly
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It sounds like you should listen to your wife when she says someone makes her uncomfortable. He's a nut burger. And the other friends are stupid children.

Tempest
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That you didn't show your buddy the door before she got home makes YOU a jerk as well. You KNOW and say how tired she is and make coming home uncomfortable for her because HE MEANS MORE?! WHO DID YOU MARRY?!

Lily
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Good heavens, what a selfish friend. Anyone with any sense would have left without question, wouldn't even have had to be told. Husband has a lousy friend. There's a reason why wife doesn't like him. He's the ASH.

Menacia Jones
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My husband blocked his best friend from childhood as he (the friend) starting to believe in conspiracy theories and would send him articles and every conversation would include something about them. He was coming for a visit back home and my husband told him he could not come over due to his vaccination status (not vaccinated) which led him to not only send my husband another article but wanting to start sending stuff to me as well. I always thought this guy was a complete narcissist and did whatever he wanted regardless of the consequences. Good riddance.

Laura Dawson
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sounds like this dude is a bit of a pushover. That guy E is a little boy who probably nearly 30 & still acting like he’s 18. Ditch him.

P.A.B.
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You’re only TAH if you apologized to that guy you THOUGHT was your friend.

Joy Hart
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

MY QUESTION IS FOR THE HUSBAND, why are you laying on the bed playing video games with your friend? Your exhausted wife is working double and sometimes triple shifts AND goes to school. Do you have a job ??? I think she needs to get rid of some dead weight, your friend e and YOU. GROW UP AND SUPPORT YOUR WIFE. To hell with your loser friends.

Mine Truly
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You didn't even prioritize your wife above your friend. You prioritized your wife's health needs above your friend's video game playtime. It sounds like he was already brittle over some other slight and snapped on you. I still would keep him and his bros before hos crowd at a distance. It's not like you have to stop seeing them over this, but... What would you want to put much effort into fair weather friends? Have them over for the occasional party and focus on developing your friendships with your more mature friends.

David Force
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Initially I thought this is an easy problem to solve, just a get another cheap tv, even a used one if money is tight. However, after his friends immature and selfish behavior he needs to be cut loose unless he sincerely apologizes to both you and your hard working wife. Personally I would never have any man in my house that made my wife uncomfortable. You’re a good husband for sticking up for your wife and she is obviously a sweetheart too by saying she could have slept on the couch instead of calling your friend what he really is, an Ahole.

Joe Knight
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I see no mention of this so called husband working. I guess that's the way it is now, lay on your worthless lazy ass while your wife works her butt off. I can see why and how these lazy butt brain warped millennials will let this once great country go down the drain.

Mtg Wolfie
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The bros before h**s mentality is 1, toxic AF. And 2, wasn't intended to mean "you must hang out with bros before any female". It was intended as "if a bro and a random vagina-haver both need help, help the bro". It wasn't meant to be used to disparage significant others. And E is an AH for using it that way.

Skully Bats
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm just gonna guess that none of the single guy "friends" never actually spoken to a woman nor have ever touched grass before because they all sound like they have the mentality of a spoiled 5 year old. OP had every right to ask him to leave so his wife can sleep and not to mention he should probably end the friendships he has that are still mentally stuck in kindergarten.

Gizmo TeknoDekkeR
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hm. Nta. But I do think it could have been avoided by some communication with your friend. But then again, a true friend would never be offended by being asked to leave!

Tina Newman
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA.. you are right to put the person who is working her butt off first. It is her house and your friend is SO lucky your wife is nicer than I am. I would have told to "f" himself and given suggestions for just how hard he could do it.

Levi Marker
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Woulda stomped a new hole in that guys ass. Open your mouth about my fiance and you're gonna get reminded where the line is

Catherine Osborn
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You are a good husband. And it sounds like you are much more mature than your friends.

Erin E
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yikes. Sounds like his friend group needs to shrink 😬

MagNat
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Bros before hoes" - ok, bro, you need to get in the bin.

S. Mi
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think I have an idea why some of OPs friends aren't married. Partner's needs outweighs friends wants. Almost always.

Frankenfrog
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A wife is not a hoe and if you think so, that's probably why you're single

MagNat
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Some guys think that everyone with a vagina (except for their mommy, of course) is a "hoe".

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Rob Kneepkens
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

These AITA stories are getting more and more stupid. Am I the a*****e for asking someone politely to leave while my wife collapses in my arms out of sheer exhaustion (not gonna lie, think there might be some exaggeration for drama there)

n o u n
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can't believe the poster even needs to ask this question. Oh my gosh. He's not in the wrong here. E was horrible and totally not considerate. The world doesn't revolve around E.

Rahul Pawa
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can believe it if E triangulated and got a bunch of others on his side. It's a form of gaslighting, and it's effective at clouding the target's judgment.

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Reyn-Guo
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

THIS is WHY most friendships with single (non-committed friends) do not survive your marriage. THEY cannot accept the FACT that your now wife is your priority. This is as it should be, with no exceptions. You need new friends that are less self-entitled.

Jonathan Zagrodnik
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think the line "all my married friends are on my side" is all he really needs to know that he's not the a*****e.

grandma
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

His wife comes first. Let the "friend" go to amother friends to play video games. By the way, why is the wife killing herself with school, full time job, extra shifts and the husband is playing video games like a little kid?????? Time to get a second job, buster, and help the wife. Believe me, I did all that and raised two kids. Video games need to go.

Georgie Gal
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'd like to say this is an awesome husband. You can always have time to make more friends, but you can't always make time to be a quality husband if you're not backing your wife and her needs over that of ah friends. I'd hope the friend isn't married, because that woman is in for a rude awakening.

Lynne Schultz
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is not even just a matter of who is more important but whose need is more important. Video games are play Responsibilities come first. Sleep is a rare commodity when you're working so much but also very important for doing your job. Anyone who doesn't recognize that hasn't grown up yet.

celery g
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Obviously, most toddlers need a type of warning that game time is over and you failed to give it, tsk tsk!

Melissa M
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sounds to me that the friend is a jerk and not much of a friend. I’d said find better friends

gary patton
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As a nurse, working triples is not legal but not sure why cna can. Your body cannot take that abuse long pulse you become danger to your patients . As for your friend, get rid of him. Toxic and probably will cause you to ultimately choose ending in major issues.

Katie Brown
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA...... wife. Not a hoe. And even if you kicked them out because a prostitute you just met wanted to nap in your bed.... it's still your bedroom, and you can still kick him out, and it's absolutely rude and disgusting for your friend to react that way.

Saint Lynnie
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sounds like he has middle schoolers for friends instead of actual grown men. He was right for being attentive to his wife's needs over his friend's desire to keep playing video games. "Bros before hoes" ?! I would dropkick those guys for referring to your wife as a hoe. It's your wife, not some hit it and quit it side piece

P Webb
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

His friend should not have been in the bedroom to begin with. Friends hanging out in a married couple's bedroom is just creepy. But yeah, NTA. Ditch him and every "friend" who blew up your phone. Go out and meet married friends, mutual friends who you BOTH get along with.

Marloes Nieuwenhuis
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's her home too, she has a right to sleep in her own bed, the 'friend' does not.

Vee
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I bet you E, and the other friends are not married and probably radiate "r/niceguy" energy. Maybe they're 18-23 years old, cause they all sounded like they were 16 year olds with no job.

Vee
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And another thing, if I wanted to sleep in my own bed, in my own house, where I pay the rent, I can. If I wanted to kick you out my own house, I can. And if I wanted to whoop your ass after you threw a fit for having to leave my own damn house, I sure as hell can.

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rn42
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"My wife and E do not get along" well no s**t, OPs wife seems to be the only one of the three to have her stuff together, hopefully OP is on the way there.

SW Dad
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He's the a*****e for failing to recognize why his wife had a problem with "E" in the first place. This didn't come out of nowhere. Clearly this dude needs a better caliber of friends, and he should be taking a good hard look at the quality of the ones he has if they're going to pull "bros before h**s" in reference TO HIS WIFE.

MotherMayhem
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The little boys need to grow up. When you marry, your spouse comes before your friends. End of story. Bye bye. See you later.

Melissa
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How about F the bro code an opt in for some just human decency. My husband and I are married and are extremely happy and I always tell him go out and hang out with your friends, his friends are single. But his friends also have an understanding that he’s married and are totally cool with it they don’t act like immature jackasses.

Luis Gomez
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The fact that this lame is even asking such a stupid question in the first place is cause for concern. If he doesn't realize right off the bat that his friend is a whiny little b***h who needs to respect his wife and home, and actually has to go online to ask a bunch of random strangers if he's in the wrong, that's pretty damn pitiful

Alan Woodman
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Honestly this could have been solved by not having the gaming equipment in the bedroom

Joe Knight
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This whole thing has nothing to do with this friend, that's just a symptom of the problem. Look at the big picture. This ridiculous self serving generation is beyond sickening. All over this country there are these lazy butt guys that find a woman with a good job and shack up with her or marry her and expect her to work her butt off while they lay on their lazy good for nothing ass all day playing video games or smoking joints etc etc. You don't even know who built this great nation. If men would have had this ridiculous millennial attitude after WW 11, this country would not have survived. You are the up and coming generation, you better WAKE UP!!!!

Pamela Kever
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ok. Those friends and yourself need a reminder. If you want your life to improve you have to have friends that has what you want in live!! If not generosity can only go so far until a fire starts!! I know in life fe I can always find a casual friend for a few week if I really wanted. Just don't I do not like that stress of differences. It took long enough to even find my husband to get alone with me and vise versa!!! Married 28 years!!! He should have been able to go to his friends house to play those games if he was a true friend that really had the same interests!!

SCP-3998
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If "bros before hoes" is still in your vocabulary, you clearly arent mature enough for adult relationships and should stay in high school and college.

Random Anon
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm not married and I think that "friend" is acting like a brat. Hell even I would tell guests to leave when I want to call it a night. No bro, you need to leave unless you want to be my b***h. No? Yes, the door is that way.

Izzy Curer
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nta, but tv's are moveable. Tbh, we move ours around all the time, if need be

Karoline Constance Dahl
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If I had come home exhausted n found my bf with friends being noisy he wouldn't even think twice about telling them it's time to go home guys. N if they had refused to leave? We BOTH woulda just yeated them out the front door by the twig n giggleberries lol.

SAF saf
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This story sounds made up honestly. I doubt this ever happened.

deanna woods
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Spouses always come before friends. E is acting like a spoiled brat and the OP needs drop him now.

Nicole
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA maybe E is secretly in love with you or your wife? Or is that just a plot twist only seen in movies?

Bored Turtle Princess
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Although these sort of things happen in real life, in this situation E seems more like someone who thinks they are still 15, and forgets that their 'friend' has a life outside of their little friend circle and video games. Edit: fixed some small typos.

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Emily Sansone
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Agree with everyone else...and am I the only one wondering why this woman has to work SO many hours while her husband is home playing video games??

Cheryl Tirrell
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

On husband asks his friend to leave because of worn out wife. Yes...sleep comes before play! Question? What do you do to help financially in your marriage so your wife doesn't have to have it so rough? Do you also work double shifts? Or even work for that matter? How come your friend can seem to come over morning..noon or night? Does he work? Could be a good question as to why they act so spoiled. If you work your butt off you know hiw important your sleep is to survive for the next shift. Big deal if yoyr fantasy land play has to wait for real world expenses so you have electricity to play your games!

Queen Kuki
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

First off you're a grown man child! Your wife not only goes to school full time but she also works full time hell sometimes double/triple shifts, you should be working them doubles/triples instead of her killing herself while you're at home playing video games! Secondly, you are a married man, you shouldn't have "friends" over playing video games in the same room your wife sleeps in, that is a private room. If you only have one tv, move it into the living room in order for you and your friends to play video games. Third, you definitely need better friends, you married your wife not your friends and for your "friend" to try and say bro's before hoes is rudely and disrespectfully calling your wife a hoe so he deserves to get his teeth knocked out!!

Kam Mason
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Im 52,..my wife 50,...and even at this age,..if anyone disrespects her like that,...im taking a swing and PC be damned....

Alexis Bleu
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So OP's wife works a thousand shifts and he is at home playing video games with his friend? I don't get the feeling that this was just his "day off." To add to that, why is his POS friend in their bedroom. Immaturity all around.

K Brooks
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA, but exactly why is his wife having to work double and triple shifts, while he's at home playing video games? I'm sure she is paying for school, but at what point does she get a break? Exhausted to the point of collapsing, only to have to deal with the a**hole of a friend. In addition to getting some new friends, maybe he should be the caring husband and put down the controller and work a few extra shifts in order to give her a break.

Michael Fred
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

AITA for wondering what this guy does for a living? I mean why is she working triple shifts? There's legitimate reasons as to why. I just kept wondering this the further I read.

Scarlett Barbee
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

While OP on initial take comes across as a nice, concerned and caring husband, I had a change of opinion. He is not the a$$hole for telling his friend to leave. He is the a$$hole for not telling his friend to leave before his wife got home. He is the a$$hole for not anticipating that she would need to rest once she got home, since she sounded so exhausted that he asked if she wanted him to come pick her up. He is also the a$$hole for having a friend over that his wife doesn't like, even though she doesn't tell him who to hang out with, more so for having this friend in their bedroom. He is the a$$hole for even writing in about this. And a$$hole again for not figuring out that he should have not been an a$$hole. And @$$hole once more for still being in the bedroom once she got home, as he should have figured she would be that tired. This is not a one-off, it is a regular occurence with her schedule. While his friend is an @$$hole, he is one many times over.

CL Rowan
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Does her husband work? She's doing triple shifts *plus* school?? She needs to reevaluate her life~~his part in it! Nice that he made his d**k of a friend leave, but frankly it's time hubby gets his act together!

SweetsEve
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Oh my gosh this read like a 14 year old fantasy novel. I wasted so much time reading this fictional drama.

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