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The whole idea of keeping secrets from people has a lot of negative connotations to it. In our minds, it can be interpreted as a sign of distrust, or it could be somehow used against us, or, just, straight up, why keep secrets from someone? Are they not good enough to know?

Well, Redditors have actually been listing things and situations that should be kept a secret because that's the good and right thing to do. It can be because folks need to have some degree of privacy, or because not saying something is better than actually saying it. Whatever the case, there is a legit reason to be secretive sometimes, even if it is your significant other.

The now-viral post on AskReddit, posing the question what things should be kept private from your SO, no matter how healthy your relationship is? and having over 46,300 upvotes as of this article, aims to legitimize having some secrecy in a relationship.

So, scroll down, upvote, sideways comment, do what you do best in the comment section below, explaining secrets you think should be kept as far away as possible from your significant others!

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Despite How Close You Might Be With Your Partner, Folks Online Suggest You Never Share These 30 Things So That Your Relationship Will Last Journals. My partner writes in one every night before bed and I have no idea what any of it says. If she wants to share with me she can. Those are her private thoughts and feelings until she decides differently. Same goes for me.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wrote a journal for many years but stopped when as an adult my mum took my journal (not the one I was writing) and read it. She later told family members what I'd written and used it in arguments against me. That was several years ago and I stopped writing the day I found out my trust had been broken. I recently bought a house with my partner and he told me if I wanted to write again he promised me he would never look. So I am back writing every day, my journal ives on my desk and I have no doubt my partner will keep his word. The only time I will move it is when my mother visits!

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's so awful! Like she never had thoughts that could be used against her. My folks read my diary when I was a teen. Worst part is they never gave it back!

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This goes for children's journals too.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes! Absolutely!

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Actually, just want to give a tip. :) When my husband and I moved last time, I had to lug the massive box of our letters and cards from practically 20 years of being together. I decided then to buy a journal and since, we no longer exchange cards. Holidays, birthdays, special occasions, and little lovenotes are all now in this ONE journal. It has been surprisingly nice! Just a cute idea for other couples. :)

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Fortunately most people have a hard time reading my journals because my writing is so tiny.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My mother taught me that 'if you don't want someone to read it, don't write it down." I live by that creed.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

yea my exhusband used to hunt for my journal so he could read things to be mad about. i would lock it hide it,but he would find it. i had to burn it because he wouldnt leave it alone. i wish i still had it - i had ben writing since i was a young teen

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A.journal can contain things like “ If I die suddenly if”s because of my spouse”, etc. Yes, I watch too many crime shows.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I habitually write mine in code... weird, I know, but it's a habit I developed in high school. It could pretty easily be cracked, but it keeps curious wandering eyes from "accidentally" stumbling upon something. If a person has to sit down, work out a code and then translate it word by word, the guilt will probably creep up on them before they get very far. And if it doesn't, I'll creep up on them at that point. Not that my journals would be all that interesting...

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wish I could journal, but could never trust partner not to read it.

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Despite How Close You Might Be With Your Partner, Folks Online Suggest You Never Share These 30 Things So That Your Relationship Will Last My steady supply of jokes.

I set up my android to send me a joke every night at 5 pm and I tell it to my husband later on, before I jump in the shower.

He always asks where I'm getting this stuff from and I just laugh and shut the bathroom door.

I would like him to continue thinking of me as this endless joke fairy for the rest of our lives.

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Despite How Close You Might Be With Your Partner, Folks Online Suggest You Never Share These 30 Things So That Your Relationship Will Last My wife is sensitive about animals, so anytime I see/read some sort of tragedy related to an animal, I hide it from her.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As a fellow animal lover to the max, let me say Thank You on behalf of your wife.

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Despite How Close You Might Be With Your Partner, Folks Online Suggest You Never Share These 30 Things So That Your Relationship Will Last Even though my wife and I have been happily married for 6 years, we decided we would never go for a s**t while the other is in the shower. We're just not going there.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm sorry, but just what the HELL is going on in this photograph?

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Despite How Close You Might Be With Your Partner, Folks Online Suggest You Never Share These 30 Things So That Your Relationship Will Last Bearttousai37 said:
My ex-wife used to interrogate me after every therapy session I had.

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Wow I’m so sorry. Therapy is a very personal and private thing. My wife and I are both in therapy and after we just ask “good session?” It opens the door to talk about stuff IF you want to but creates no pressure. 95% of the time we just go “yep” or “not really” and that’s the end of it.

Glad you are taking steps to be mentally healthy. Keep going, you got this!

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I imagine when people ask their SO's about their sessions, they're really asking, "Did you talk about me?"

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Despite How Close You Might Be With Your Partner, Folks Online Suggest You Never Share These 30 Things So That Your Relationship Will Last So my short answer is nothing.

The longer answer is that they should be prepared for the answer and be adult enough to be able to handle it.

When my (now) wife and I were still dating, but we both knew it was serious, I let her know that anything she wanted to know I would tell her. I also said that she needed to be absolutely 100% sure that she really wanted to know that answer because I wouldn't lie to her. We've been together over 2 decades and there were a couple times when she asked something, usually when alcohol was involved, where I thought it a bad idea to answer but just said "Are you sure you want the answer"? Each of those times, maybe 3 of them, she reconsidered and said "no".

Now there are time I steer answers away from the asked question but that's not for privacy, just to make sure feelings aren't hurt. We've been together for a very long time and there has been weight gain (for both of us) and typical trope where she looks at me and says "I'm fat" or "I'm old". I look at her and say "You're beautiful". I'm not lying. She is beautiful in my eyes. I'm just steering away from that conversation which would hurt her feelings. The answer of "I love you", "You're beautiful", "I love your body" or "we're old and have had a great lifetime together" are all truths and they go far, and should be said to your partner.

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Despite How Close You Might Be With Your Partner, Folks Online Suggest You Never Share These 30 Things So That Your Relationship Will Last The unkind s**t you think when you're angry and tired, it will absolutely never help at all to say any of it out loud and even if you don't have a particularly big fight or break up over it you'll still regret it and they'll still remember. Possibly also what you think about how hot other people are, depending on how jealous/insecure your SO is.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My ex said one nasty thing to me. He is a great guy, and I screwed up the marriage, not him. He said it in 1988. I still haven't gotten over it, which would upset him.

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Despite How Close You Might Be With Your Partner, Folks Online Suggest You Never Share These 30 Things So That Your Relationship Will Last Where I hide the secret, spare pair of scissors I keep for when he's lost all the other 11 pairs of scissors we own and I need to trim a chip bag down to make getting to the chips easier.

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Despite How Close You Might Be With Your Partner, Folks Online Suggest You Never Share These 30 Things So That Your Relationship Will Last I do 12 step stuff, and I won’t tell her what I hear in the rooms.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

🤔 I have never been to a group therapy, but I would think, all of those are confidential. And not meant for outsiders.

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Despite How Close You Might Be With Your Partner, Folks Online Suggest You Never Share These 30 Things So That Your Relationship Will Last solblurgh said:
My midnight snack stash. I don't have any, but I think I should have some.

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> "I don't have any."
Sounds like something someone with a snack stash would say. Speak up you candy-hoarding raccoon.

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> "Speak up you candy-hoarding raccoon."
Sometimes I was afraid our generation's Shakespeare would get buried in the noise. Glad to see I was wrong

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had one but I ate it all when I had Covid and was locked in my room

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Despite How Close You Might Be With Your Partner, Folks Online Suggest You Never Share These 30 Things So That Your Relationship Will Last Other people's secrets. They’re not yours to share.

What I mean by this, is agreeing to keep something confidential and then going against it.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm not married. But I will say, when I tell a married girlfriend a secret, I assume she'll tell her husband. If she doesn't, great. But I assume she will. I'll often make it easy and tell them it's cool if they tell "hubby," just no one else.

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Despite How Close You Might Be With Your Partner, Folks Online Suggest You Never Share These 30 Things So That Your Relationship Will Last No matter how healthy a relationship is, there'll always come a time where you have resentful thoughts of your spouse. Those should be kept to yourself, as most of them pass quickly. The only time you should share them is if they're persisting in some behavior that is hurting you, and then it should be done calmly and not in the heat of the moment. For instance, if you got home from work tired to find your spouse binge watching a TV show, but the sink is full of dirty dishes, the impulse may be to lace into them. Don't. Go ahead and do the dishes, and tomorrow, when that initial flash of anger has passed, discuss the issue.

People say arguments can be healthy in a relationship, but it all comes down to *how* you argue. Spouses, at least if they're good ones, know intimate details about you, your past, and how you think and feel. This gives them weapons to hurt you, and it may be tempting to use such weapons when angry. But if you know your spouse has a sore spot about their dad, and you say in anger "this is why your dad never loved you", you have permanently damaged your relationship. And that damage builds up over time. Successful relationships survive because people rein themselves in in that moment. Even when they're angry, they don't want to inflict wounds like that. So whenever the impulse arises to use those weapons in anger, resist the temptation! You may forget what you did quickly, but they won't.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This. Or cursing at each other and calling them nasty names during an argument (obv any other time, too). Don't let temporary anger ruin a good thing.

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Despite How Close You Might Be With Your Partner, Folks Online Suggest You Never Share These 30 Things So That Your Relationship Will Last It's not that it should be kept private, as in forcefully, but I believe both persons in a relationship should have privacy in their devices.

My SO has all my logins, and passcodes for my phone and tablet, but this doesn't give her the right to go snooping for stuff that will never be there. She can totally grab my phone, if it's nearest, to search on google, or grab someone's phone number. But we've agreed that if either of us snoop, you better be sure that there's going to be something to find, because if there isn't, then you deserve the trouble that you've caused.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He would find cat pictures. Lots and lots of cat pictures.

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Despite How Close You Might Be With Your Partner, Folks Online Suggest You Never Share These 30 Things So That Your Relationship Will Last Things that you don't like about their body. They just don't need to know.

If you are concerned about their *health or hygiene* that warrants a conversation but making comments about physical flaws—completely unnecessary.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This picture gives me 'Dead Tom's dead!' vibes. I don't know why.

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Despite How Close You Might Be With Your Partner, Folks Online Suggest You Never Share These 30 Things So That Your Relationship Will Last The location of your ships while playing Battleship.

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Despite How Close You Might Be With Your Partner, Folks Online Suggest You Never Share These 30 Things So That Your Relationship Will Last Which of your friends or family don’t like them.

It will do nothing but upset them, and worse create a bigger problem between them.

I would also like to add to that if one of your friends or family members don’t like your s/o and you aren’t at the very least making them be polite and respectful when they have to be around each other you are the main problem in that scenario.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Defend your SO without telling them who insulted them or talked bad about them!

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Despite How Close You Might Be With Your Partner, Folks Online Suggest You Never Share These 30 Things So That Your Relationship Will Last Your reddit username and password.

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Despite How Close You Might Be With Your Partner, Folks Online Suggest You Never Share These 30 Things So That Your Relationship Will Last Things you aren't ready to talk about yet. I have a lot of trauma and I'm not always ready to talk or explain. However, I'm lucky my partner respects that and has let me open up at my own pace.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes, but when asked, don't say that nothing's wrong when it's obvious that something is wrong. Instead, say, "Yes, something is wrong, but I'm not ready to talk about it." At least you're not misleading your partner, then pulling the rug out from under them later (when you are ready to talk about it).

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Despite How Close You Might Be With Your Partner, Folks Online Suggest You Never Share These 30 Things So That Your Relationship Will Last I don't like the idea of sharing absolutely everything with one's partner like it's a proof of healthiness. I think it's healthy to maintain some sort of individuality, personal mental space, your secret garden that only you can access. You are not only a couple, you don't only exist through your partner, you also are an individual human being with your own inner world that you don't have to share entirely with someone else, and no one can take that away from you. I feel like if you completely merge with someone else you lose yourself.

I don't think that's avoidant attachment style, I'm clearly not. I just think it's normal if my SO has things she doesn't want to talk about with me, won't share every single thing. She's not me, and as much as I like to say she's mine, she's not really "mine" either.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So much this. I am a person, not just half of a couple. Besides - if my partner shared everything with me, I'd get bored at some point. I love that he still can surprise me with a thought or an opinion after 22 years <3

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Despite How Close You Might Be With Your Partner, Folks Online Suggest You Never Share These 30 Things So That Your Relationship Will Last mostpeopleheresuck12 said:
That you know you’re the Pet’s favorite person.

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Oof, I am absolutely both of our dogs favorite person. We both know it but I would never ever say that to my wife.

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No one deserves to be told such a thing.

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Not only not say it but I also had to deny it on a regular basis despite it being abundantly obvious to literally everyone.

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One dog was my dog. She'd do anything I told her to do, but sometimes she'd just stare at my wife like, "who are you?" (She was my hunting dog, and loved to go out in the field with me.) Another dog loved us both equally. And a third dog was definitely my wife's dog, who would play with me but clearly preferred her. We miss them all.

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Despite How Close You Might Be With Your Partner, Folks Online Suggest You Never Share These 30 Things So That Your Relationship Will Last This is a really subjective answer and I'm sure [folks] will disagree, but for me:

Bathroom time.

I got 3 kids and one of them is my full-time responsibility as her mom isn't around. I live and breath for my kids and I love them, but doing my morning and evening bathroom events I really love the solitude.

The last few women I dated were great, but they would just kinda barge in no matter what I was doing. To me, showering at the end of the day, brushing my teeth, using the toilet are all kind of "zen" for me. I just don't like sharing a shower or being interrupted while doing so.

That's just me. I'm single so... Maybe there's a reason for that ;P

For those saying "just lock the door" I want to say my daughter is almost 5. When I shower I can't just *leave* her alone. That's how horrible accidents happen. Yea, she can pour herself water and use the potty alone but I can't shut her out. If she has a problem I need her to be able to come in. I live alone and her brothers are only around ever so often due to custody orders. Locking my bathroom door just isn't a good idea with a toddler running around.

She sits on my bed and usually watches TV while I shower. Idk if the women I've dated just saw this as an open opportunity, but locking the door to my kiddo just isn't a good idea.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I get that. It'll take awhile longer before you can shower without too much worry. And respect costs nothing, giving someone the smallest piece of privacy is the very least you can do..

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Despite How Close You Might Be With Your Partner, Folks Online Suggest You Never Share These 30 Things So That Your Relationship Will Last The sexual habits of past relationships.

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Nobody is perfect. But if I'm asked—yes, you are the most handsome, best partner ever, etc. I don't understand how people say anything different for their current partner but you know, different folks.

If you're partner is doing something wrong in your relationship in general you obviously should communicate with them about it. My comment was more about being my partner's biggest cheerleader and building them up—purely that angle.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't understand any other way of thinking. That's your star player. Are you really going to tear them down to your friends? Best man in the world, smartest, most manly, kindest, best father, etc.

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If your SO has been in combat, don’t ask about the details. In the unlikely event they want you to know, they’ll tell you.

This is not to say they should not seek/you should not encourage them to get the appropriate medical support, nor is this to say that you shouldn’t know they’ve been in combat or listen to them if they experience emotions around it; however, seeking out the details are a red line of inquiry.

It’s important to note that I deliberately call out “details” as the red line. Acknowledging to your partner that you’re willing to listen to what they want to share and/or to be part of their support system (in whatever way is in integrity for your relationship) is always the priority.

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I'd rather not know about detatched limbs and grown men screaming for their moms. Understanding the dread of war is more than enough.

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Despite How Close You Might Be With Your Partner, Folks Online Suggest You Never Share These 30 Things So That Your Relationship Will Last That I know you keep a secret stash of chocolate in the tampax box. Not my business?

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have chocolate hidden from my wife in so many places I'm sure I've forgotten a lot of them. When we die and the kids clean out the house, they're gonna find a lot of old chocolate. (I don't hide it to hoard it. I hide it so she won't eat it all in one or two sittings. She has poor impulse control when it comes to chocolate.)

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Despite How Close You Might Be With Your Partner, Folks Online Suggest You Never Share These 30 Things So That Your Relationship Will Last Confidential work-related things that I'm legally not supposed to tell anyone outside of the project/case.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Same goes for patient data! You never talk about patient related things. You should however talk about your feelings, if not with you SO then with someone else. If you don't you burn out faster than a candle that burns on both ends! I'm treating cancer patients, mostly children, and sometimes my one hour commute isn't enough to decompress. Then I need my husband to listen to me or hold me when I cry bc I lost one of my patients.

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Despite How Close You Might Be With Your Partner, Folks Online Suggest You Never Share These 30 Things So That Your Relationship Will Last Sometimes, no matter how attractive your partner is to you and no matter how much you love them, there is an aspect to them that is unchangeable but that you find gross or annoying or just generally less than attractive. Clogged nose pores, a laugh that sounds like a muppet, big toe nails that just look a little bit weird, or that single long hair growing from inside their ear that just keeps coming back no matter what they do. If it’s going to make them feel insecure or unloved, this is something you should just keep to yourself.

In a relationship, you learn each other’s weak points and vulnerabilities, and using them against your partner is a boundary that, once you cross it, you can’t come back from. Once you make someone feel like they can’t trust you with their vulnerable self, your relationship is on its way out.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As my husband has gotten older, he has sprouted some impressive ear hairs. I will 100% trim those suckers down for him as and act of love. He's not offended. It's just funny how our bodies change as we age.

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Despite How Close You Might Be With Your Partner, Folks Online Suggest You Never Share These 30 Things So That Your Relationship Will Last Your internet browser history.

You take that s**t to the grave.

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Despite How Close You Might Be With Your Partner, Folks Online Suggest You Never Share These 30 Things So That Your Relationship Will Last My dad has mentioned a few times that in their 40+ years of marriage, he’s never gone in her top dresser drawer or purse.

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Despite How Close You Might Be With Your Partner, Folks Online Suggest You Never Share These 30 Things So That Your Relationship Will Last Where your secret stash of band aids is.

I dunno about the rest of you, but my wife and kids will go through an industrial size case o band aids faster than you can say supercalifragilisticexpealidocious and the twice a year I actually need one. They’re never there.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This made me laugh.. in my parents house it's my dad who uses an inordinate amount of bandaids.. blood thinner and crepe paper skin will do that.

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#31

Despite How Close You Might Be With Your Partner, Folks Online Suggest You Never Share These 30 Things So That Your Relationship Will Last If your relationship started under potentially offensive pretenses (e.g. they were madly in love w you but for ~~you~~ they were just ~~the~~ rebound).

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would hope at some point you’d be able to joke about it. Like years down the road. They may have started as a rebound or a fling but clearly you were drawn to each other if it’s grown into a loving relationship

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Despite How Close You Might Be With Your Partner, Folks Online Suggest You Never Share These 30 Things So That Your Relationship Will Last The huge [wing-dang-doodle] of your ex-boyfriend and how much more satisfying it is to have someone with a "normal" one. Trust me. I know its not logical but no dude wants to hear that. Don't question it, just trust me.

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Despite How Close You Might Be With Your Partner, Folks Online Suggest You Never Share These 30 Things So That Your Relationship Will Last Anything wanted private that has no direct impact on the relationship. People don't need to be sharing text messages, diary entries, detailed itineraries when apart etc. Any insistence on that kind of sharing is paranoid and unhealthy. Trust is important as is understanding people may still need their space regardless of relationship status.

Obviously, there are grey areas. Itineraries are useful because of safety concerns, but that's a trust issue too. You are sharing it with someone you trust voluntarily, rather then feeling coerced into providing a constant stream of data.

If you wish to share things cool, because that's a choice freely made.

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Despite How Close You Might Be With Your Partner, Folks Online Suggest You Never Share These 30 Things So That Your Relationship Will Last When you poop.

We share everything but that bathroom door stays closed when I'm doing my business. It's the only bit of mystery we have left.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hey, to each his/her own. I ask my SO if he has to use the toilet before i go to poop and he is sometimes nice enough to show me the same courtesy.

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Despite How Close You Might Be With Your Partner, Folks Online Suggest You Never Share These 30 Things So That Your Relationship Will Last I'm comfortable with who I am at my age so there's absolutely nothing I wouldn't share with my SO if they asked. The other side of that is I'm perfectly comfortable with who I am so I won't force them to tell me anything they don't want me to know, I'd rather show them they can be 100% authentic with me.

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