https://www.reuters.com/article/us-health-domestic-violence-men/male-victims-of-domestic-violence-struggle-to-disclose-abuse-idUSKCN1UC2EF

There are a ton of articles and stories out there.

Your original statement was that if men speak up, they are made fun of. This article (and others) show that men ***fear*** they will be made fun of, so don't speak up. There are tons and articles and statistics out there on that, that's true. But I was asking about the statistics and articles about it actually happening, not the fear of it happening - if that makes sense? "It" = being made fun of for speaking up, I mean. You've provided a personal anecdote of men being told to "suck it up", but there is no such thing as anecdotal evidence/statistics (equally why my personal experience - which is the opposite of yours, it seems - isn't really meaningful in establishing facts). So are there any statistics on "when men disclose domestic abuse, they are dismissed"? I can't find it (lots of stuff on the fear of being dismissed of course), and while it seems like it would be true, I haven't seen it in personal experience nor in the media.

I can only give my personal experience not those of any other men but my 1st wife didn't hit me as such but she'd do this thing, especially if we were out in company and i said something she didn't like she'd reach under the table and pinch really hard on my inner thigh because she knew it was really painful. Most of the time I'd try not to react - i'm pretty private anyway and hate the idea of public rows, this was also something she knew and relied on. The one time I did call her out on it there and then in front of a mixed group I did get laughed at as though it was something i was a baby for even being hurt off a pinch. The only time in a group where the others there didn't laugh about her behaviour was when she screamed at me during a dinner party 'why can't you just f*****g die?' - i had cancer at the time - that made everyone take it seriously. The 2nd abusive ex was never physically violent but did things like constantly belittle me for my disability &financial control

and i never discussed that one with anyone until i'd got away from her because i was embarrassed as hell for being in that position, and times had changed then and i wasn't laughed at for that one when i did because i guess by then times had changed a little and most right-minded people recognise that abuse can happen to anyone, even big military veterans.

@Generic Panda09 I am so extremely sorry you had to suffer through this. I appreciate how hard it must be to share this. Size does not matter when it comes to abused/abuser and this is a very important lesson that people need to learn. Are you doing ok these days? Were you able to get help?

@ Q B F T I hope these help some but I have to get on with my day and I hope you have a great one.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3175099/

https://www.njrestrainingorderlawyers.com/blog/can-men-be-victims-of-domestic-violence/

Thanks for this. Not too sure about the second "article" as it is literally from a restraining order lawyer service (so while it may be correct, the same pinch of salt is required for that and an article about how kale is good for you on buykale.com) - but that first link is right on the money and gives good examples of actual research. Hopefully, attitudes are changing now - and surely the prolific nature of this case will go some way to making it easier for men to disclose domestic abuse.

Fear of being dismissed comes from experiencing toxic masculinity firsthand. Men are told from childhood not to be "like a girl" and tv, movies, literally everything portrays being "beat up by a girl" as a laughable occurence. You're nitpicking in asking for proof of actual incidents, as opposed to fear of said incidents.

Yes, I am aware of that. I was hopeful that the world was a bit better and it was only the fear of a dismissive response was preventing men from disclosing abuse rather than the response itself. As the response to Johnny Depp has been positive (that I have seen, anyway) and as I've seen similar positive responses to men disclosing abuse in my own experience, i was wondering if the fear was ungrounded. Regardless of whether it is or not does not diminish the fear and its impact, however. And it seems that we're still a way off that better world yet, though, according to the research shared by Beth S. This public case should help push society a step or two closer, though - I hope.

Auntriarch, that's really sad. As mentioned above, I've had the opposite experience, hence my hope that really it was the fear that was the issue. Sad to hear it's still a real experience and the fear is not just impactful, but also very valid for men to have (valid is probably the wrong word - a fear is valid whether it's reasonable or not - hopefully you get what I mean :) )