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People react differently to when a loved one dies. Some of them heal from grief by leaving the person’s things as they were when they were alive, but others decide to clean up and move on to a new chapter in their lives without that person present.

While cleaning up all the things that a person left behind in this world, you may stumble upon something that they never showed you and it could make you see them in a different light. Of course, not everyone has dark shocking secrets, but you just discover a part of their life or personality that you were not familiar with.

People shared such experiences when Scary-Brandon asked “People who had to clean out rooms of someone who had died (family, friend or otherwise), did you find anything you shouldn't have found and how did it make you feel?”

Did you ever discover anything interesting when cleaning rooms or houses of people who passed away? Did it make you feel differently about that person? Share your stories in the comments!

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“People Who Had To Clean Out Rooms Of Someone Who Had Died, Did You Find Anything You Shouldn’t Have?” (30 Answers) My grandma passed when I was 16 after getting cancer for the third time. My grandad moved into a smaller apartment and my cousins and I helped to clean out their house. (A side note... There are 9 of us, aged at the time from 12 - 26).

In the house, we found more than 20 wrapped presents and envelopes of money, addressed to all of us. They were for the big occasions that she knew she wouldn't live to see us have. Before she had passed away she had organized 21st birthday presents for those of us who weren't yet 21, engagement presents, and wedding presents, each with a card written by hand. I remember being so overwhelmed with emotion. She was an incredible woman who loved her family dearly and wanted to celebrate her grandchildren, even if she couldn't be there herself.

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“People Who Had To Clean Out Rooms Of Someone Who Had Died, Did You Find Anything You Shouldn’t Have?” (30 Answers) This one is actually kind of heartwarming...

My dad was a pretty reserved guy. While I knew in my heart he would lay down and pass away for me without a moment's hesitation, he never said "I love you" or "I'm proud of you" or anything like that. It's just who he was.

After he passed away of cancer, we went to his office to clear it out. I'd never really been in his actual office since, on the rare occasions I'd see him at work, he'd usually meet me at reception.

Well, when we went in there, it was practically a shrine to me and my sister. Every certificate, photo, newspaper clipping, program, etc. was hung up on the walls of his office. A number of people came by to pay their respects as we were clearing things out and, again and again, I heard "he was so proud of you." "I've heard so many things about you, it's nice to meet you in person." "You were so special to your father. He spoke the world of you."

Honestly, you could have knocked me over with a feather. Definitely one of the more bittersweet moments in my life...

RIP, Dad. Miss you...

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everyone's favorite person
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

this is so sweet. it can be hard for some people to show love verbally, because of different circumstances and stuff, but I think it's awesome that their dad was still able to show love in his way. awesome story!

Auntriarch
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My parents have never told me "I love you". Am I upset? Hell no. Because I KNOW they love me, deep in the marrow, and even now, when they are frail, they would kill or die for me.

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Marek Čtrnáct
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When my father was dying, I contacted two of his best friends so they could see him while they still could. We went there, the three of us. When we left, one of his friends said: "You know, he was always talking about how proud he is of you." I replied: "Maybe he should have said to ME sometimes." He never did, and he didn't get another chance.

Memere
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Same thing with my father. He never said anything to me - he would say it to my mom & she would pass it on. Never got any hugs either. And I was the one who would drop whatever I was doing to drive an hour to their house to help, with anything. He would say things to my younger siblings about how he loved them & was proud of them, but NEVER to me. He died alone in the veterans home.

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Suz66
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My father had a very difficult time with my affection. His Mom was the same way. Once he knew he had only weeks to live, he became very demonstrative with me. It meant a lot.

Kaz
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My Dad never actually said he loved me but I knew he did by his actions. He also wasn't very touchy feely. After my Mum died suddenly he started to always give me a hug and a kiss when I left after visiting. He did also once tell me that he was proud of me for being different. I miss my parents every day.

Paddling Panda
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My dad recently passed away and as we sorted through his things, we discovered that he had kept every business card for every job that each of us three kids has held, up to and including our current jobs. Made me tear-smile.

Parmeisan
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh look, now we are censoring words without showing that we are censoring them! I checked the Reddit link, OP did not say "lay down and pass away".

phil blanque
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is so sad. If it was all about his children, they would know. But this seems to be about his pride. Pride is a devilish thing.

Momma Panda
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My dad died when I was 19. Many people I met after he died had told me that he really loved me and was so proud of me. My family was not the kind that shows emotions.. so today, when I'm a mom myself I make sure to tell my daughter I love her every day

LGuevara
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It’s like that Reba McEntire song.. the Greatest Man I Never Knew.

Aussie Atheist
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Pretty sure my mother made a small bonfire of every single picture of me

Kim Bush
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I will always remember the only time I heard my father say "I love you" to me. He was 42, bedridden, and a few weeks away from dying of cancer. We would take turns helping him smoke a cigarette (it wasn't the cause of his cancer and his dr said if it he got comfort from it then there was no reason to deny him). As I was lighting the cigarette I heard him try to speak, words that sounded like "I love you" although I'll never be sure that was what he was trying to say. I told him "I love you too" and the moment passed... Less than a month later he was gone. I was 18. Over 36 years ago and it still tears at my heart.

JP Purves
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is bittersweet. Please everyone, tell all of those close to you that you care and love them, that they are appreciated, often!

Londo Cotto
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Dammit . . .just f***ing SAY IT !! I never heard it either and to this day it hurts . . .just f***ing SAY IT !!

David Henry
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is why we don't emotionally stunt people...they grow up unable to express themselves and end up never saying all the things they were supposed to....

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“People Who Had To Clean Out Rooms Of Someone Who Had Died, Did You Find Anything You Shouldn’t Have?” (30 Answers) My grandmother passed after a blood clot incident. She had several conditions that no doubt led up to this. For example, her medical team decided not to treat her breast cancer because they figured she would pass away before it would spread.

My father, uncle, and my sisters were left to clean out her things from her apartment. She had a lot of old, expired food. Like ketchup that had gone completely black. We found things from when she was well and social, like her quilting and handmade soaps, which were beautiful. She has a quilt that had the names of all of our family, but the names were sewn in the individuals handwriting style.

However, one day it was just my dad and me going through her bedside table. We found her journal. Toward the end, all of the entries were about how lonely she was, how she only got to see her grand children twice a year, and how her own children never saw her unless they needed something. She said she wanted to die. My dad threw it away so his brother would never have to see it.

So, um, yeah. Go hug a grandparent.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It sounds like family didnt take a lot of time to check on her and her environment. I make sure to call my mom a couple of times a week even if I cannot make it to see her.

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“People Who Had To Clean Out Rooms Of Someone Who Had Died, Did You Find Anything You Shouldn’t Have?” (30 Answers) My boyfriend passed in a car accident while I was pregnant with our first child. When I was cleaning out our room to move, after the accident, I found a shoe box full of things for our son. Some of the items included were a note to our son about the future, what dreams and hopes he had had, some Pokémon cards, tips on fishing, and a letter to give to me upon his death. Almost four years later and I haven't been able to open it.

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“People Who Had To Clean Out Rooms Of Someone Who Had Died, Did You Find Anything You Shouldn’t Have?” (30 Answers) My husband passed in 2009 of a heart attack.

He was a widower when I married him. I found a letter written by his first wife, before she passed away of cancer, telling him how upset she was with him and how he wasn't being supportive and how if she wasn't so sick that she would consider a divorce.

Their son (who became my son) was 3 when his mom passed and 12 when his dad passed. I destroyed that letter. I honestly think he never, ever needed to see that letter. I'd much rather he's left with the illusion that his parents had a perfect, if tragic, marriage.

MsAlign , Eric Lewis Report

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“People Who Had To Clean Out Rooms Of Someone Who Had Died, Did You Find Anything You Shouldn’t Have?” (30 Answers) Recently my boyfriends uncle passed away. He left his house to him in his will. We've been slowly going through the rooms, but on day one of the clean, we started in his closet.

We live in a very republican conservative part of Texas. Mind you, the man was never married, but was loved by all as he housed his niece who suffered from addiction.

When we went through his closet we found numerous sparkling thongs, and various phallic devices. We thought it was strange but when we moved to the bedroom we discovered photos of him and his "best friend"

Through his death we discovered that uncle was a gay man. Something he never came out with while he was alive . It makes us sad to think he had to hide who he was for his whole life as our families are pretty open and non Judgmental.

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“People Who Had To Clean Out Rooms Of Someone Who Had Died, Did You Find Anything You Shouldn’t Have?” (30 Answers) My grandma's house had money EVERYWHERE. Every purse had at least $100 cash. Suitcases had a few hundred more. Every coffee can or other container in her kitchen had rolls of money. There were even bags of frozen veggies in the freezer that had been split open and money hidden inside. And her bank accounts...thousands upon thousands of dollars. No one had any idea, she lived so simply and never spent a dime on anything unnecessary. I'm sure her financial​ paranoia was due to growing up in the Great Depression.

It made for the best scavenger hunt ever, though.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have an elderly friend whose dad was also from the great depression, and she is VERY prepared like her father was. We had an ice storm last year and our power was out for days, so she made sure to have a generator installed in case it happened again. If the apocalypse were ever to happen, her house is the place I'd go. Kindest soul I've ever met.

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“People Who Had To Clean Out Rooms Of Someone Who Had Died, Did You Find Anything You Shouldn’t Have?” (30 Answers) I personally packed up my little brother's room after he passed. He was only 8 years old when he passed, so I didn't find anything risqué. I did find a lot of rocks in his toy box though. Another 3 years later, I was helping clean out my grandmas house and found letters he had written her.

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“People Who Had To Clean Out Rooms Of Someone Who Had Died, Did You Find Anything You Shouldn’t Have?” (30 Answers) In 2005, my sister passed in a jet skiing accident out on the lake. She was 11, I was 9, and after the funeral my parents decided it was time to go through her stuff to pack up and donate. I'm really nosy, and I really needed something to do, so I was allowed to help them. I served mostly as a runner boy for the items as they went through it, just sorting it in the living room while they went through everything in her room. Now, understand that the last thing she said to me was "I hate you". We had gotten in a fight just before she got on the jet ski with my aunt, and that's the last time we spoke. Anyways, going through her stuff I found a picture she had drawn of me her and one of my other sisters, and a little note admit how much she loved her brothers and sisters (an art project for school of some sort if I'm not mistaken). This really helped put my mind at ease about the whole thing. I know she really loved me and that if she had known those would be the last words she said to me she would not have said it, but being 9 years old, watching her be in the hospital for three days, then waiting 4 more days for the funeral and what not to get to that picture. It was the hardest thing I've ever had to deal with, but that picture helped.

I never leave someone now when bad words have been exchanged. Not knowing if that's the last thing they hear me say, I cannot in good conscious leave on a bad note.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Whenever I say goodbye to my daughter I always tell her that I love her, even if we've had an argument. I have a lot of health issues and I'm determined to make sure that those three little words will be the last she hears from me. (Just in case something happens to me).

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“People Who Had To Clean Out Rooms Of Someone Who Had Died, Did You Find Anything You Shouldn’t Have?” (30 Answers) When my dad passed of lung cancer we found this really cool puzzle box. He had JUST passed and my closest relatives and I were gathered around as I solved the puzzle box to open it. We get it open and we found none other than a ton of pot. Was hilarious and awkward at the same time. But even better than that I found my two siblings he hid from the family for years. We're actually all currently sitting on the couch together. So, thanks you old hippie. RIP.

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“People Who Had To Clean Out Rooms Of Someone Who Had Died, Did You Find Anything You Shouldn’t Have?” (30 Answers) This isn't me personally finding the items but my grandfathers brother (let's called him Frank), passed away suddenly from a brain aneurism. My family had to clean out his room, and discovered almost his entire life he had been dressing as a woman and living as one without his family knowing. There were photos of him in women's underwear, and an entire cupboard of dresses, make-up, you name it. No one had any idea until after his death. Go Frank!
Frank was also a huge, muscly rugby player. A real mans man in his everyday life. I think that's what made it so blindsiding for my family - but I think that just makes it even greater!

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“People Who Had To Clean Out Rooms Of Someone Who Had Died, Did You Find Anything You Shouldn’t Have?” (30 Answers) After my grandmother passed away, i was helping clear her flat. She was apparently 87 when she passed away, but we also had suspicions that she was older. She had grown up in Nazi Germany, and crossed the Berlin wall as a Russian spy and then gave herself in. We had a lot of questions that she never answered.

Then i found a cupboard full of notebooks. They were detailed diaries, and gave a lot of answers. My mum was heartbroken though when she found the date of her birth... it only said "It was born today." and then a week later said "It has been named by my mother in law."

Her diaries were written in German and English, depending on where she was living at the time. She was in Glasgow at the time of my mums birth, and for the first two births as well. I am fluent in German, and yes you have das, which can be translated as it by some people. Sadly there is no wiggle room and she just distanced herself from my mum's birth

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

‘Kind’ as in ‘Child’ is neuter - so ‘das’. Kids are referred to as ‘das Kind’ and ‘es’. It’s not necessarily derogatory. I’m English, fluent in German and live in Hamburg. Letters from my kids’ schools asking parents to do stuff with / for our kids always reference ‘das Kind’ and use ‘es’. After 14 years living here it still seems odd because translated into English it sounds so harsh, but don’t assume those terms are meant to be impersonal based on a translation - it could easily just be grammar. Btw, the German word for girl (Mädchen) is also neutral, so girls are also ‘das’ and ‘es’. It’s just the way the language is. Granted I’ve not seen it used when referring to a specific child - especially your own, you then tend to use he or she - but she was old and languages develop over time. Maybe back then it was perfectly natural to use the neutral pronouns when referring to your own kids too. Also, that was in written prose and the language used in written German also tends to be way more formal and grammatically correct than when speaking. I honestly think there’s a good chance that wasn’t meant in the way it’s been interpreted.

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“People Who Had To Clean Out Rooms Of Someone Who Had Died, Did You Find Anything You Shouldn’t Have?” (30 Answers) My husband and I cleaned out my grandma's house after she passed, she was a big time hoarder but luckily of the "pack rat" variety so everything was neatly packed away in thousands of boxes and drawers. It took us nearly 3 weeks to get everything out of the house and we found so many things that I had never knew my grandma had done.

She built a boat with her first fiancé prior to marrying my grandpa, she travelled the world making friends with some of the most interesting people like a legit member of African royalty whom she had a long lived penpal friendship.

Among the cool memories we found beautiful jewelry, dresses that she had kept for us as gifts that we never received. I also found out that my dad had been a baby model for sears through the newspaper clippings she kept.

It was an emotional, wild ride for those 3 weeks. Her sons sold most of the non-keepsake items in a garage sale and made nearly $4,000, all things priced under $5 so you can imagine how much stuff she had accumulated through out the years.

She was the coolest, spunkiest grandma and I miss her everyday but I am glad I got to learn so much more about her through her collections (or junk as my dad would call it).

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“People Who Had To Clean Out Rooms Of Someone Who Had Died, Did You Find Anything You Shouldn’t Have?” (30 Answers) My wife and I moved into our granny's (wife's grandmother) house after she passed with a pretty aggressive cancer. While cleaning things out, moving our stuff in, we found a bunch of letters and cards the kids all made for her, she kept every single one next to her chair, and would often read them.

Most recently we found a cassette from an old answering machine that she kept full of messages from her husband, who had passed over 15 years before, saying how much he loved her and couldn't wait to see her. Sadly I'd never met the guy, but figured we'd have gotten along well.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Call me morbid, but I keep a random voicemail from my mom and dad just in case. Besides my husband, they're my best friends and I can't stand the thought of never hearing their voices again.

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“People Who Had To Clean Out Rooms Of Someone Who Had Died, Did You Find Anything You Shouldn’t Have?” (30 Answers) My great aunt passed at 100 years old, and I got her fairly new Samsung TV. The TV turned out to be 3D, but she only had one eye.

I couldn't shake the thought that some salesman sold an old lady with one eye a 3D TV.

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“People Who Had To Clean Out Rooms Of Someone Who Had Died, Did You Find Anything You Shouldn’t Have?” (30 Answers) Yes, actually. My mother and I found out my maternal grandmother was a spy during world war 2. We found her papers and gun in her dresser in a retirement home. Oh boy was that a crazy time.

I didnt mention my grandpa was in the NSA. He was just an IT guy, so he wasnt an agent or anything. But that should still earn some cool points haha.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Brother in law passed last year after living with us first the last 6 years. 4 months prior to passing, he bought a Taurus revolver hand cannon with 6" barrel and 2.5" chambers. Due to his failing health, I hesitate to guess why?!?!

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“People Who Had To Clean Out Rooms Of Someone Who Had Died, Did You Find Anything You Shouldn’t Have?” (30 Answers) We found details of my Nan's secret credit card. She had a gambling problem and didn't tell my Pop about the card...she had been paying a little off every week for years.

My Pop didn't have much money and he was really worried about how he was going to pay the bill. It turns out that he didn't have to pay the bill because she was deceased and it wasn't his debt.

He's an old, grumpy man from country Australia and was super proud of her for "sticking it to the bank".

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“People Who Had To Clean Out Rooms Of Someone Who Had Died, Did You Find Anything You Shouldn’t Have?” (30 Answers) After my grandfather passed, I found out that he worked for the army in Fort Monmouth. Whenever anyone asked what he did for a living he said he “makes coffee”. Turns out his actual job description was classified and nobody knew what it was. Not even my grandma.

I look just like him

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“People Who Had To Clean Out Rooms Of Someone Who Had Died, Did You Find Anything You Shouldn’t Have?” (30 Answers) When my great grandma passed away we were cleaning out her house and we found all these liquor bottles that were full of water from 40 years ago when my dad and my uncles had drank all her booze and replaced it with water lol.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I WIN !! My brothers and I knew what was in my fathers Liquor cabinet because we had seen it on numerous occations...first it was to be drunk on my older brothers confirmation,but no...other confirmations,no...then my wedding,but no...and so on till came his 90th birthday and we all felt now was the time to drink it.He brought it out of the cabinet..we all felt the suspense..caressed it.and put it right back....He passed 4 months later and first thing we did,sat down and finally opened the 200 years old Napoleon Cognac and toasted him...It was DIVINE !!!

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“People Who Had To Clean Out Rooms Of Someone Who Had Died, Did You Find Anything You Shouldn’t Have?” (30 Answers) After my grandmother passed away I helped my grandfather clean out some of her stuff and found a poem she wrote to the infant child that she lost some 50 years ago. I don't think my grandfather knew about the poem or he forgot about it.

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“People Who Had To Clean Out Rooms Of Someone Who Had Died, Did You Find Anything You Shouldn’t Have?” (30 Answers) After my dad passed a couple years ago, I went through a bunch of old pictures from his college days. He (let's call him Todd) and my mom (call her Nancy) met when they were both living in the dorms there. I found a picture of all the guys in my dad's dorm, and they'd all signed it. My dad's roommate had written, "Todd, you were the best roommate ever... since you hardly spent one night here since meeting Nancy..."

At first I felt a little uncomfortable, but in hindsight, it seems kind of sweet. My parents were never overtly romantic in front of my siblings and I, so although I knew they cared about each other, I never really thought of them as being "in love". I guess it's nice to know they were so crazy about each other when they first met.

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's hard to imagine your parents being anyone else but 'your parents.' I think we as a society can sometimes fall into the trap of feeling that we own our parents identities, because we see ourselves as the most important thing in their lives. Yet I'm sure I'm not alone in knowing with absolute certainty that my children are the most important people in my life, and not my parents. Vita Continuat. Edited to add: of course I realise this is not the case for many people and is meant as a generalisation.

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“People Who Had To Clean Out Rooms Of Someone Who Had Died, Did You Find Anything You Shouldn’t Have?” (30 Answers) Finally a post that I can contribute to! (though it may be too late to do so at this point but I will anyway) my mom passed away extremely unexpectedly and as her only child, it was my responsibility to clean out her belongings. We didn't have a great relationship to say the least. It was a lot of fighting among other things for years. However towards the end we did start to patch things up a bit. Regardless, when I was cleaning out her room, I found a collection of all of my achievements throughout school. Dating back from kindergarten to my senior year of high school. I didn't know that she kept things like this. There were things like random spelling tests or awards for the highest grade in English. It was really heartwarming and I honestly had no idea that she cared enough to keep all of those. Further more she ended up getting rid of a lot of her belongings when she moved shortly before passing so the fact that she kept and held onto all of this was amazing to me. I just wish that we had spent more time getting along instead of all of the rough patches.

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“People Who Had To Clean Out Rooms Of Someone Who Had Died, Did You Find Anything You Shouldn’t Have?” (30 Answers) Helping my mom sort through her cousin's belongings, it quickly became obvious that her cousin had led a lonely, yet eclectic life. In between beautiful pieces of modern art and Louis Vuitton luggage was stacks of letters that were never mailed and odd collections of random items. I came across a small cardboard box taped closed and labeled with "James" written in marker on the outside. I shook the box a bit, noting that felt full and was relatively heavy. I turned to my mom and told her that I thought her cousin meant for this box to go to someone named James, to which my mom said, "Oh no, honey, James is what is IN the box. Well, after he was cremated." Yep, my mother's cousin lived for years with her BFF James's ashes just hanging out in a cardboard box next to her luggage.

I quickly dropped the box of the complete stranger's ASHES and decided I had enough of packing for that day. Sadly, more than 20 years later, my family still thinks it is humorous to label gifts to me in boxes with a "James" written in black marker.

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“People Who Had To Clean Out Rooms Of Someone Who Had Died, Did You Find Anything You Shouldn’t Have?” (30 Answers) My parents divorced when we were kids and my dad remarried a couple years later. Thirty years later when my dad passed we (grown kids) went through his large office to determine what to keep or sell. In his desk my sister found a draft of a love letter he had written to the woman who would become his second wife while he was still with our mother, confirming our suspicions that he had cheated on her. Although it was generally assumed that this had happened, seeing the evidence was painful.

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“People Who Had To Clean Out Rooms Of Someone Who Had Died, Did You Find Anything You Shouldn’t Have?” (30 Answers) While cleaning out my mother's house after she passed away, I found numerous empty whisky bottles hidden amongst her belongings. I had no idea she had a drinking problem.

Also found paperwork regarding a recent marriage - and quick divorce - that I knew nothing about. Never even met the guy. Realizing that she hid so much from me made her death much harder to take.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Often times children forget that their parents had lives before they were born that they may not know about. It shouldn’t be taken personally!

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“People Who Had To Clean Out Rooms Of Someone Who Had Died, Did You Find Anything You Shouldn’t Have?” (30 Answers) When I cleaned out my grandpa's stuff the thing that caught me off guard the most was his wallet. There was still cash in it and I felt like I was stealing when I took it out. I didn't know what to do with his cash.

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Ria C.
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When my f-i-l passed there was $60 in his wallet, my husband and I took our niece, his only granddaughter to lunch and told her it was one last one from pop.

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“People Who Had To Clean Out Rooms Of Someone Who Had Died, Did You Find Anything You Shouldn’t Have?” (30 Answers) Had to clean up after my grandmother passed. Found a note from back when she was with her second husband (who passed in 1995) that she never gave him. She poured her heart out to him and said she couldn't be with him, she knew the timing was hard because he was sick, but she was just done. She must have had a change of heart, but it was hard to read something that carried so much of her pain and know how unhappy she was in his last year.

Like many have suggested, I believe this was a letter she wrote to vent and cope with the stress of caring for a sick and, from what I've heard, somewhat grumpy man. He apparently didn't handle pain in the best way and she never spoke ill of him later on, so this was a drastic shift in his temperament from the usual. She loved him, although it was clear that they were more companionate than passionate (as her true love was very clearly my grandfather, who passed in the late 1970s), but she was always warm and fairly happy when she spoke of him later on. I think this was just something she wrote to avoid blowing off steam at him, and she saved it so she didn't forget where she came from. It was simply surprising because she did always speak well of him and none of my family expected to find this. It didn't tarnish our view of her, it was merely hard to read.

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Kay blue
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Pain can really affect your personality, as can the medication you are given to combat it.

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“People Who Had To Clean Out Rooms Of Someone Who Had Died, Did You Find Anything You Shouldn’t Have?” (30 Answers) When cleaning out my mom's house last October to move her into memory care assisted living I found a note in a book from my grandma to me. It was written in 1982. It mentioned that my mom was married before marrying my dad. News to me! It hurt that in 35 years my mom never told me. Especially when i had gone through a divorce in my early 20s, 10 years ago. Later I found my mom and dad's marriage license. Her divorce was about 6 months prior to marrying my dad. So many questions! They divorced when I was 4.

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Potty pagan panda
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well, basically, I think, just my opinion, that it’s her life she doesn’t have to tell you anything. Your relationship with her shouldn’t be based on her past. IMO x

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“People Who Had To Clean Out Rooms Of Someone Who Had Died, Did You Find Anything You Shouldn’t Have?” (30 Answers) When we cleaned out my paternal grandparents' house, I found a few underground newspapers. Unfortunately, they were of the white supremacist variety. :(

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S. Mi
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In some parts of the world, that would be all too common. What's interesting to me is that either your parents or you seem to have not continued the family racism, as you were unaware. I consider that a win!

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“People Who Had To Clean Out Rooms Of Someone Who Had Died, Did You Find Anything You Shouldn’t Have?” (30 Answers) This isn't as serious as some others in this thread, but when my mom passsed, my siblings and I were going through her stuff to see if there were any sentimental things we wanted to keep. The usual you know, a necklace for my sister, some knick knack elephants for my brother, I kept a ring and some tshirts.

We then came across this small little baggie full of our baby teeth that she kept after the tooth fairy came to us. Some people might think it's cute or whatever, but we all thought it was pretty weird and creepy to come across. Thanks, mom.

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Jette Wang Wahnon
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My grandmother had tie-pins made out of gold and my father´s and uncle´s first tooth set as if a gem stone.I still have my father´s...use it occasionally together with other pins...looks nice.

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