Pizza is incapable of being racist. If you don't like pizza, you're wrong.

My uncle (by marriage) was Italian. To the point where he was in his 30s before he learned English. He would have been grateful for the food. And grateful to you for providing it. If he had complaints it would be there wasn't enough of it! And even then he'd never say it (prior to his stroke at least, sadly after it he grew paranoid that there would never be enough). He was fussy about "Italian" food when going to a restaurant, but if it was impromptu, or homemade, he'd gush over the fact you thought to feed him at all. His son (previous marriage) came over for his funeral and couldn't thank the caterers enough (in broken English) for pizza and sandwiches at the wake. These people are ungrateful and insulting. It was never about the pizza.

I think it’s time to break up ma’am. He didn’t bother defending you over something any American does when they want a quick meal. Red flags everywhere

I am Asian. Please order sushi. I would not be offended, and honestly, I would eat any free food. Also, who shows up to other people's homes and expects to be fed without notice...

Stopping by late for dinner with no notice. They should have BROUGHT dinner, in that case. Methinks they want a 'nice Italian girl' for their son. And he doesn't have your back. Get out now.

If I showed up and was served sushi or anything they consider Asian, that'd be cool. Because I'm not looking for s**t to be offended by.

The expectation was for you to scramble to provide a homemade meal that would “prove your worthiness” for their precious son. As a bonus, it would indicate that you have no boundaries and we’re eager to please. Both the parents and bf were displeased by you not meeting this expectation. Either your bf gets inside and shuts his parents down hard or you should end this relationship.

His parents sound exhausting. My guess is that if they identify with their Italian ancestry so much then the real issue is that they think he should have an Italian girlfriend. I find the attitude odd in this day and age since white Americans rarely ever segregate like that anymore. I have English/Irish ancestry but I don't identify as either. I also know a first generation Italian American and she doesn't make a big deal about it. Anyway, his parents were looking for a reason to be upset and it is a major red flag that the boyfriend took their side. I would rethink that relationship.

I'm Welsh...if someone served me Welsh cakes I'd be grateful for their hospitality.

I hope he's just an ex-boyfriend now.

Ummmm, this is SOOO...not about pizza it makes my head swim. OP was on the bf's parents' sh*t list long before "pizza night in hell " & it's unlikely anything she does will mitigate this. BF's parents are classic emotional hostage- takers & it's BF's business to free himself. OP needs to accept she's powerless here & it's unlikely BF's parents will change how they do business. IMO OP ought re-evaluate this relationship & her future w/ BF.

Hm. I have had italian (like "lives in Italy) relatives popping by when they where on holiday. They had bags of food and sort of invaded the kitchen, serving us delicious food. No expectations of spontaneous cooking from our part.

Throw away the BF. It's only going to get worse. Too many red flags.

As an Italian I couldn't be happier if she ordered pizza. They clearly aren't true Italians, we don't invite ourselves last minute and we are really really appreciative of who hosts us. All my family was upset reading this because it draws such a bad image to us Italian. No Italian would ever think this is racist or inappropriate, we would actually never even think this is made on purpose, we would just be happy for the pizza

So...his parents don't like her. Got it. Why don't they just say that instead of all the mind games?🤷🏼 I'd say her boyfriend doesn't like her all that much either based on the way he handled the situation. You can't make up all these ridiculous and secret expectations and expect a person to deliver. I'm sure she told him she was ordering the pizza...I mean they are HIS parents sooo you think he'd know that they'd be offended by pizza AND TELL HER THAT! Which tells me they are all full of it. Racist?...puhlease. Wouldn't you have to actually be a different race to be racist? If I had to guess, I'd say they were also literally just as American as her since it didn't specify that they were actually from Italy themselves just that they have family of Italian origin. Why not just say, "We don't like you." and call it a day?

Just throw him and his family away. Are you seriously living together but only dating for 7 months?

I always wonder what real Italians (you know, those born and living in Italy) feel about Americans that fool themselves to be Italians.

I'm English... is someone served me Yorkshire pudding if probably kiss them

If people don't like you, every breath you take is wrong

Wait. They came over unannounced, at dinner time, and expected you to cook? Then got made at what you served them to eat, and then your boyfriend sided with them?! I say dump the whole darn family, and don't look back. If my parents ever stopped by unannounced when my ex and I were married to see their granddaughter, they'd apologize, ask us if we had, had dinner, lunch, etc...whatever mealtime they dropped in on, and then they'd offer to take us out to dinner, or to pay for take out, our choice. They wouldn't of been so entitled, and they would've told us that they knew that we weren't expecting two other mouths to feed, so they'll pay, but my parents were taught right, and so were my ex and I, and so was my daughter. If it bothered your boyfriend so much, then why didn't he cook for them instead of expecting you to after you've been working? Nope. That's a no go.

What did they expect when they invited themselfs for dinner "without warning", probably knowing, you've been working all day? It's a hot meal that's popular with almost everyone. They would probably have complained about sandwiches too, which under the circumstances, would have been an adequate alternative to any ordered food.

Anyone upset about receiving free pizza is automatically the azzhole.

As someone whose parents were actually born in Italy, that's absolutely ridiculous. My parents would never be so insecure to act that way. Obviously they are the assholes, and pro-tip...don't date Italian boys that are close to their moms.

Clearly not the a*****e but are you really living with this guy after only dating for 7 months?

This is WHY while growing up, my Italian friends, (more like acquaintances) as none of them were close with anyone that also wasn't Italian, ended up only marrying Italian girls. They were all very inflexible in their beliefs as to what any GF or future wife's role in the relationship was going to be. Basically, they were all of the mindset that the man was king of the home and that he and yes, his parents as well, were to be catered to by her. Not a single one of them could keep a non-Italian GF for more than a month or so as no non-Italian girl was going to tolerate their domineering attitudes. Op's BF and parents are of the mindset that Op is a second-class person that needs to KTA. She needs to just dump that loser and find someone that respects her as a person and treats her as an equal, not a servant.

Gaslighting and narcissism seems to run in the bf's family. It will never, ever in a million years, get better. It will ONLY get worse. These people will NOT change. This girl needs to run far, far away.

The father’s attempt at a “How wound you like it if…” actually works against him. I would most definitely serve visiting Japanese parents foods they are familiar with. And I would certainly respond with an enthusiastic “Yes!” If asked if I would like it if they served me McDonalds if I came over.

Lol ofc not. They came as guests you served food. Am I missing something? They're lucky they got food at all.