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Mom Livid Her Daughter Was The Only One In Her Class Not Invited To A 7-Year-Old’s Birthday Because She Bullied The Birthday Girl
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Mom Livid Her Daughter Was The Only One In Her Class Not Invited To A 7-Year-Old’s Birthday Because She Bullied The Birthday Girl

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Bullying is usually associated with teenagers, but it’s a behavior that can be observed in various age groups. The difference is in the way the bullying manifests. Usually small children don’t get violent, but use hurtful language or lie. Because adults know how bad bullying can be, this behavior in comparison doesn’t seem that serious and can get brushed off.

It’s difficult when the parents don’t realize that this kind of behavior is actually bullying and if it’s not fixed now, it can grow into a much bigger problem. This woman seems to be contributing to the problem as she tries to convince her daughter’s classmate’s mom that her child bullying her daughter is not a reason to leave her out of the party that everyone was invited to.

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Mom left out one of her daughter’s classmates from her birthday party but she feels she had to do it

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The Original Poster (OP) has a 7-year-old daughter who goes to a small private school and has 20 other kids in her grade. Payton’s birthday is next month and her mom is planning a party for her, so she gave out invitations to the parents of the girl’s classmates.

The kids are pretty excited about it because Payton’s birthday parties are already known to be really fun. The mom actually hired a party planner and allowed Payton to go wild with her vision.

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A mom is throwing a birthday party for her daughter Payton and the school knows how fun and extravagant they are

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In a reply to a comment, the mom revealed what that vision was: “It’s Barbie-themed but with princess appearances instead of a Barbie appearance. And a superhero appearance for the boys. Spider-Man will meet Ariel. There’s face painting, she wants a Barbie box for pictures with a balloon arch around it, everything is pink. Someone to come do balloons, but not a clown because some of the kids are scared of them and an ice cream, cupcake, donut bar where the kids can decorate their own. A big white bouncy castle with pink balloons on the side. Oh, and she said a magician would be nice. We also usually have a DJ and then she’ll be choosing the food this weekend. She said, ‘Mommy, that’s just some of my ideas right now.’”

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She invited her daughter’s classmates but left out a girl because she has bullied Payton in the past and the birthday girl is not friends with her

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It will be a lavish party for sure, but one person in the class was purposefully uninvited. It was Payton’s bully. This girl would say that Payton is ugly, chubby and wouldn’t allow her to play with other girls, among other things.

The bullying was constant and the OP had several meetings with the girl’s parents and the school, but it seems that the matter wasn’t settled and that the other girl’s parents didn’t understand the gravity of the situation, judging from their exasperated reaction to finding out that Payton didn’t want the bully at her party.

Who would want their bully at their party? The bullied person knows they don’t like being around them, the bullies make them cry, they are afraid of them and they are definitely not friends, so it’s only logical that they are not invited.

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The OP explained to the mom that the girl isn’t welcome at the party because of her daughter’s previous behavior and she is sorry that her child is upset, but it’s Payton’s birthday and she deserves to be happy and comfortable at the party.

The bullying included mean words and not allowing Payton to play with other girls in her class

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What rubbed the OP the wrong way was that the girl’s mom still tried to make her change her mind by offering an apology letter. That’s not to say that apologies don’t mean anything, but in this case, the offer is clearly not sincere. The mom said in the comments, “I’m not refusing an apology, I’m refusing an apology in exchange for an invitation. Sincere apologies don’t come with strings attached or conditions.”

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However, the OP is a mom too and she does feel sorry for the girl because she is feeling excluded and won’t be able to have fun at this extraordinary party. On the other hand, people in the comments reminded the mom that actions have consequences and because she was bullying her daughter, she won’t be allowed at the party.

However, the bully’s mom thinks that making her daughter the only one not invited makes her the bullied kid

Mom Livid Her Daughter Was The Only One In Her Class Not Invited To A 7-Year-Old’s Birthday Because She Bullied The Birthday Girl

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A retired psychologist also joined the conversation and shared their insights: “Based upon your comments I’m going to say that this is one of the few appropriate reasons to exclude a single child from a party. The bullying issue has been ongoing and has not improved despite meetings and conversations with parents and school, right? Why on earth would it ever be expected that you would invite your daughter’s bully to your home to celebrate the life of your daughter?”

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They added that not only will the bully learn that bad actions have repercussions, but Payton also is correctly taught to have boundaries and not to give in to someone’s cries about feeling bad as if they weren’t the ones who earned such treatment.

This quarrel put a wedge between the two moms and it comes up every time they meet

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However, child psychotherapist Zara Kadir gives a different perspective. Bored Panda reached out to Zara Kadir who works with children aged 4-12 to find out if this situation is as simple as people in the comments made it seem. In the experts opinion, the OP wasn’t being fair.

She told us, “I think the bully’s mum had a right to be informed so she could protect her child” and added, “I think the birthday girls mum should have invited her closest friends only.” It is because “Excluding a child who’s bullying (and obviously struggling with something) is only going to create further issues.”

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Payton’s mom understands that the bully is just a kid who wants to go to a party, but her daughter deserves to have a carefree party

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Zara Kadir explained further, “Bully’s need to be empathised with especially at a young age. I wonder if the bully is being bullied at home or struggling with low self worth and acting it out by making her peers feel bad about themselves. If I was the birthday girls mother I would either suggest inviting a small group or seeing it as an opportunity to mend the relationship by inviting the bully and finding common ground.”

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We would like to hear your thoughts about this situation. Do you think the bully’s mom truly doesn’t think that her daughter has done anything wrong? Or maybe she understands but doesn’t want her to face the consequences? Do you agree that excluding the bully will make matters worse? Let us know your theories in the comments.

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People in the comments were on Payton’s mom’s side as they couldn’t comprehend why a kid should invite their bully to celebrate their birthday together







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Katie Lutesinger
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I really hate it when people get accused of bullying because they wisely chose to shun an actual bully. It's just gaslighting BS cowards use to deflect blame away from themselves and their own bad behaviour.

Diane Knight
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Do on to others" comes to mind. So, too is the idea of ignoring the poor manners of someone (bully) that the victim's poor manners could be ignored by the lack of an invite. As a parent, if my child was treating a child poorly, and was not given an invite, I'd look at it as a blessing, because no way would I feel comfortable in sending her to a party where she'd be in the company of someone who might retaliate in the same way. Might feel bolder in her own home than at school. (where the poor behavior is not being taken care of )

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bElLa sTairZz
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

because inviting the entire grade exept one student to a party is a fairly big deal

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Scott Crowe
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's like those people who get all riled up at couples that want a child-free wedding. Are you paying for the wedding ? No ? Then STFU !!!!!!!!!

Amy Taylor
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have kids and never get offended when people want a child free wedding.

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Michelle C
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Usually at parties people invite their friends...those 2 girls are not friends, problem solved. Just because the whole class was invited but the one girl means nothing, the party isn't happening on school grounds but at a private home...and Peyton doesn't want her bully in her home.

somegirlwho
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think the fact the whole class was invited except one particular kid is everything in the context of 7 year olds.

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Mrs.Pugh
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow, people think the bully should be invited because she's the one with the hurt feelings now? She's apparently being "bullied" for not being invited to a birthday party I'm sure the birthday girl wouldn't want her at? Actions have consequences, y'all. We can't just pretend that we aren't hurt only to keep other people's feelings safe. This a good lesson for a seven year old.

Tunk
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2 years ago

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I was wondering Mrs Pugh but your 'y'all' says it all for me really. Have a nice day now won't you. The country that loves telling everyone else how to live. No thanks.

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Luthor
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had a similar thing when my daughter was 7 y.o. There was a girl, a real bully, caused a lot of problems to not only my daughter but many others. Constant meetings with the school etc. When it came to a birthday party itwas really tricky. I knew the bullying child was having problems at home which lead me to a real problem of conscience.. leave the one child out to be further alienated or invite her. I chose to invite her. As this was my childs party, I could keep an eye on events. The bullying child did act up. I took her aside and said that this behaviour was not accepted in my house. After that she woud not leave my side. She asked when she could join in, how the games were played, when was her turn etc. ALL the children had fun playing together. When it was time to leave she didn't want to go home and hid. It was sad. I often think of her, even now. The school bullying continued but not with my daughter. I saw the 'child' in the bully that day and the fun she had with the others.

Luthor
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She was just a 7 year old little girl, not the devil. I'll never know what happened to her. Added: Because of her bullying behaviour parents of other children would yell at her whilst she was waiting for a parent to arrive to pick her up from school (always late). I used to step in and tell them to stop.. saying "Redacted, come stand by me." and the parents who didn't know me would scream and yell at me asking if I was the parent. The amount of times I had to tell grown a**e adults to leave her alone was just sad. I get it, I was angry with her too... but she was a child. It was ALL just so bloody sad. I don't know the answer.

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Joroches
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And that bully learnt a valuable lesson today. Maybe she will realise actions have consequences and think twice in future. It feels like the birthday girls mother is being a better mum to the bully than her own mother.

somegirlwho
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I doubt she will have learned a lesson as the mother seems not to have done anything about the bullying until kid got upset she was left out. I can see the mother not explaining to the kid why she was left out and instead blaming it on the other mom. This is probably the same reason the kid continued bullying the girl in the first place- if she is being taught one thing at school or in the context of school and something totally opposite at home.

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Will Cable
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA> Having never had a birthday party I wouldn't know about any 'rules'. However, the way the bully childs mother is saying how her own child is being bullied by not inviting her seems typical of a lot of modern parenting these days. From the way the bully child parent is acting it seems obvious that is where the child is learning the bullying from by using any 'tool' available to bully others.

Paddling Panda
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hope that, if you want to have a birthday party, you get to have one where the people you care about celebrate you.

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Conan Maschingon
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would have said if you taught your kid how to be decent to others then she wouldn't be excluded from events and not to be surprised if this happens more often to her for her behavior and then offer the mom a book on parenting since she doesn't know how and hang up

Craig Reynolds
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA. So, mom is livid that her bully daughter was not invited! Gee, I guess we know how that kid learned to be a bully, don't we?

J Rob
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't understand this?? I'm teaching my daughter to be a bully? This has got to be made-up...

MiriPanda
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's what the bully's mother accused the victim's mother of doing by not inviting her daughter.

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Jukki Line Johansen
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sounds like the bully and her mom had plenty of chances to make things right, but they didn't. Payton's mom is just doing her job of being a mom and protecting her child. Although the bully is only 7 years old, she needs to learn that actions have consequences and it's her mom's job to help her understand that.

patricia Torres
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This wasn't an accusation. This is a consequence to her bullying. Yes, it's sad but kids must learn and life is an excellent teacher when parents are not doing anything accidentally or on purpose. Really this is the best time to learn. The bigger problem is the parent being angry about this,as if she's a victim. Monkey see monkey do. Trying to force a child onto another child's space on their birthday is abusive. Get counseling and learn how to teach morals. The bully has time and youth to change and even make friends with kids that feared her. Children are smarter than you think , they just need the right direction. Most of them anyhow. But in all fairness, this whole scenario is fair. Consequences do not scar , not protecting your child in your own home on their own birthday, will. And it is up to the parent of the bully to help her child evolve into a healthy human being, not for other parents to cater too.

Grace and Lucy
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Teaching your child to be a bully is a bad idea. I get the feeling that this woman is teaching her daughter to win. Negotiationing is different from winning at all costs. Wondering if bullying behavior is exemplified at home. Let's get real - nobody wins all the time and 7 years old is too young to teach how to win friends and pummel your enemies in 5 easy steps. Life can be about acceptable compromises.

Amy Taylor
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In no way should this kid be rewarded for bad behavior. If that happened to one of my daughters, I would say "well, maybe next time you'll think about how you treat others and this won't happen again"

Mad McQueen
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If bully came the party would be about the bully. When will she bully? What would she destroy or say to get attention? Every kid would be on edge around that girl. Personally I wouldn't want my bully at my party just to appease a parent that apparently hasn't taught her child to behave. Even at school that kid is acting up. To get attention. So good for mom standing her ground.

Rose
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Since when did it become ok not to want certain people at your party? No one should have to put up with people they don't like at their own events. The world has gone crazy entitled. It's ok for someone not to be invited somewhere, they won't die from not going to a birthday party, it's not going to ruin their lives. What will though is not learning to take a no with grace

DC
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

About learning a lesson: Look at grown up who see their freedom of speech violated just because someone else has the same freedom, but a different view. Very one sided, and not really understanding the concept of said freedom to the slightest. It usually is not about bullying, but about their precious little angle, unable to do any wrong, not being treated like the Prince or Princess they are, which is a major catastrophe of biblical amount and importance. In that age, you gotta get through to the parents, or no one will get through to the child ... and, this hasn't come to being by nothing.

Odin Schmidt
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Definitively NTA. The Bully's Mom is now trying to bully the OP!

Dre Mosley
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's your kid's party. Why ruin it by stressing her out and making her uncomfortable by allowing her tormentor to come to the party? NTA.

Luthor
Community Member
2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sorry accidentally posted twice. See other post. Sorry. xo

somegirlwho
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I get all the NTA, but can we remember that the kid is 7 years old. This could have been an opportunity to turn things around. Maybe amends should have been initiated by the mom beforehand, but that's not the kid's fault. Don't punish the kid because at 7 years old, it's the mom that's the problem and the mom that didn't make it right. Being the only person left out of a class of 20 people is a huge deal for a young child. Invite the kid but bar the parent. The kid didn't come out of the womb a bully and maybe a little unexpected and perhaps undeserved kindness could help the situation. I can't imagine leaving this kid out made the bullying any better going forward. Maybe I am in the minority by trying to look at it this way, but I don't think we can forget that these are 7 year olds.

Diane Knight
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'd tell the mother (with some sense of entitlement) that because she doesn't take my child's feelings into how her daughter treats 'Payton' why in the fudge would I ever treat her differently? I don't give a fudge either if her feelings are hurt, maybe a counselor would, and might be a good day to have that appointment so she has that time filled and wouldn't wonder what she's missing.

Karin Morris
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think this should have been turned into a teaching opportunity instead of let's isolate one child because she was raised poorly.

Diane Knight
Community Member
2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

why are some people thinking that if 15 or more children are invited that all will come, hello? people have lives outside of school. This OP is delusional if her self-professed belief that Payton's party's are well known and the other horse-hockey statements are facts that it will be well attended. And what about the other mom? she thinks that too? They both need to be taken down a few notches. So an 'isolated' is projecting a bit. Reality is 1/3 will attend and the others will not and go to regular activities that they normally do.

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The Other Guest
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why was it necessary to invite the entire class (less one)? I find it hard to believe that little Payton is actually friends with 18 out of 19 classmates. Also, 18 guests (that we know about) for a 7-year-old? I'm not a parent so please correct me if I'm mistaken, but my understanding is the general rule of thumb is one guest per each year of age (ie 5 guests for a 5-year-old's party; 7 guests for a 7-year-old's party) to help keep things from turning to chaos. (Edited to correct typo)

Corrsfan
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Lol let's just assume the family made the guest list based on their preferences rather than some arbitrary rule about how many kids they "can" invite. Even if they only invited the rest of the class to send a message to Bully, that's still fine. This is an appropriate way for a 7-year old to learn that actions have consequences, especially since her parents don't seem to be teaching her that lesson.

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The Blinking Duck
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You absolutely don't have to invite the bully to your child's party but does anyone else have problems with a 7 year old having a reputation for throwing over the top parties and that the mom had to mention their "wealth"?

Xenon
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Alternate title: 7 yo gets karma for bullying, her mother piles on with her whining in addition to the entitled daughter.

Kat Min
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hmm...I'm a bit undecided on this one. Of course, you don't invite your child's bully to their birthday. On the other hand throwing over the top parties for the whole classe EXCEPT this oen kid is alos a kind of bullying. I feel the moms really need to get their s**t together and sort this out. Their duaghters will be in the same classe for several years and this is not helping.

Mrs.Pugh
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The party isn't for the class, it's for Payton because it's her birthday. The class is invited. The bully wasn't invited because she's a bully. How is that bullying?

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Baali Venomax
Community Member
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wouldnt want my nemesis at my birthday party either. I would just *forget* to invite them. I think Mom did the right thing. If the bully is upset, tough, thems the breaks kid. Maybe now she'll learn her actions DO have consequences and stop the bullying, maybe not. Depends how set in her ways she already is.

Richard Jung
Community Member
4 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The mother of the "bully" is more to blame than the child. Knowing her child was acting in such a manner and not taking corrective action only encourages her child to continue. Hopefully someone will explain to the child the reason behind the action and get her to realize she needs to modify he behavior. You do not reward bad behavior.

millac
Community Member
5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The mom is the a*****e and just lost the high ground with the school. Most schools have policies that either less than half of a class can be invited or the entire class must be included. The other mom also offered to have the kid apologize and make up for her actions, the goal the school was trying to achieve. Which was rebuffed and then punished. The school will no longer take the LW's side and will view this as a mutual situation where both are bullying each other.

D C
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Unpopular opinion: Mom did wrong.. what a perfect opportunity to destroy your enemy by making them your friend. And teaching a valuable lesson in forgiveness and being the kind of person you want to be regardless of anyone else.

Sandra Mingelgrun
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why would anyone invite someone into THEIR home so that they might treat them like garbityage? You might bully me in school, but I'll be damned if I allow it in my own home. Mom is upset because her daughter was called out. Oh well. It's called karma. She's crying now, but how many times has the Bday girl come home from school crying? And the comment about a 7 year old having an over the top party.....do you live under a rock? Have you never seen how the Kardashians or Beyonce or Cardi or any of those moms throw parties for their kids? This mom's party was nothing compared to theirs.

Celtic Pirate Queen
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA. Maybe bully's Mom will finally get a clue (doubtful). If there's any fallout towards the birthday girl, I hope you deal with it swiftly. You might also want to let the school staff know exactly WHY the bully was excluded, just in case.

Danielle LI
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA, though, why doesn't one invite only close friends, surely this child isn't close with the entire class.

Key Lime
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think the "bully" has learned the phrase "#uck around and find out" at a young age.

Rob Ramcharan
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This Zara Kadir person sounds like she's advocating rewarding the aggressor and punishing the victim.

Francesca Peel
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think the mother of the bully seriously needs to get some professional help because school bullies generally are a reflection if their parents. I congratulate Payton's mum for standing firm. It amazes me how anyone could think that it is okay for a 7 year old to invite someone who makes her life miserable. Also why does this bully want to go to a person who she obviously dislikes, house?

Marnie
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

To me it's weird to invite an entire class of kids. (And who wants to shepard 20 kids from the class, plus the kid's home friends, plus possibly siblings and cousins? Who would do that to themselves?) I would expect the kid to invite her literal friends. Nobody has 20 friends. Her friends from the neighborhood and friends from the classroom, plus a couple of extras, plus cousins - maybe 10 kids at most.

Fred Jacobson
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They should invite the little sh it and when she shows up hog tie her and the parents up in the back yard and give all the kids aluminum baseball bats for a round of entrails piñatas. That'll teach those miserable cu nts to be nice. BUT THOLE!

Enlee Jones
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Now is a good time for the bully to learn that her actions have consequences.

SheamusFanFrom1987
Community Member
2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA, but hearing "over the top" parties has me intrigued and I'd like to be invited just to see how it's goes. Maybe it's time to buy Payton some candy or be her cheerleader at her cheerleading sessions for a bit XP *joking except for the candy and cheerleading part*

Deanna Crichley
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I used to take my niece to dancing school, from the time she was 2 years old. There was a snotty little girl there, who was never nice to my niece. We were early one day, and Nasty Little Girl said "I got a new video today. Telletubbies. My niece said "Oh, that's for babies." Nasty girl said "No it's not!" My niece said "yes it is. It's for babies." I said, "Nasty Little Girl" is trying to be nice. Niece said, "she was never nice to me before.' Niece was right.

BeepBeepBoopBoop
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

a class of 20 kids? to me that sounds really small, if I understand what the parent means. It could be a class, like who the teacher teaches, or a class, as in how many students are in the grade. English is weird. Anyways, this sounds pretty fake ngl. Bullying like this definitely happens, but it just gives off a vibe.. idk. If it's real, poor kid for having a bully, and the bully needs to learn how she was wrong

genevieve.delangie
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i don’t think it is fake. bullying happens more often than you would think in school.

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Tunk
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This post and some comments proves why most adults would be better off rethinking their choices of having kids in the first place. Grown adults justifying the bullying of a 7 year old girl is just gross. And then write a pitiful 'aita' while naming the kid she is talking about. No decency. She just wants people to say she is right and she got what she wanted. As all these 'aita' do. Cringe.

Tunk
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Always have to question the wholesome motives of people who post AITA questions?

Tunk
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She is the arsehole. A grown adult ostracizing a seven year old from her entire class. It would of been a great way to show kindness and teach the whole group a valuable lesson. She has in turn bullied a child because 'principles'. Its not kids that are the problem. Its always the entitled adults.

JustJackie
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You would willingly ruin you own child's birthday party, by inviting their bully into your house? Why?... Why would you want to put your child through that? That's crazy to me. Please also look up the definition of bullying. Lots of people in the comments seem unsure about what it actually means.

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Tatjana P
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As a person bullied in 3 different schools, I can say that what the OP did is bullying as well. She could have invited 70 percent of the class. As it is, it seems like a superintentional retaliatory move. Yes, she can invite and not invite anyone, that is not the point, but this seems a bit reactive and spiteful, singling the girl out. No, she should not be invited, but there was no need ti make her the only one not invited.

Beth L
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And how is the OP supposed to decide which kids to punish for doing absolutely nothing wrong?

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Katie Lutesinger
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I really hate it when people get accused of bullying because they wisely chose to shun an actual bully. It's just gaslighting BS cowards use to deflect blame away from themselves and their own bad behaviour.

Diane Knight
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Do on to others" comes to mind. So, too is the idea of ignoring the poor manners of someone (bully) that the victim's poor manners could be ignored by the lack of an invite. As a parent, if my child was treating a child poorly, and was not given an invite, I'd look at it as a blessing, because no way would I feel comfortable in sending her to a party where she'd be in the company of someone who might retaliate in the same way. Might feel bolder in her own home than at school. (where the poor behavior is not being taken care of )

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bElLa sTairZz
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

because inviting the entire grade exept one student to a party is a fairly big deal

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Scott Crowe
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's like those people who get all riled up at couples that want a child-free wedding. Are you paying for the wedding ? No ? Then STFU !!!!!!!!!

Amy Taylor
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have kids and never get offended when people want a child free wedding.

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Michelle C
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Usually at parties people invite their friends...those 2 girls are not friends, problem solved. Just because the whole class was invited but the one girl means nothing, the party isn't happening on school grounds but at a private home...and Peyton doesn't want her bully in her home.

somegirlwho
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think the fact the whole class was invited except one particular kid is everything in the context of 7 year olds.

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Mrs.Pugh
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow, people think the bully should be invited because she's the one with the hurt feelings now? She's apparently being "bullied" for not being invited to a birthday party I'm sure the birthday girl wouldn't want her at? Actions have consequences, y'all. We can't just pretend that we aren't hurt only to keep other people's feelings safe. This a good lesson for a seven year old.

Tunk
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I was wondering Mrs Pugh but your 'y'all' says it all for me really. Have a nice day now won't you. The country that loves telling everyone else how to live. No thanks.

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Luthor
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had a similar thing when my daughter was 7 y.o. There was a girl, a real bully, caused a lot of problems to not only my daughter but many others. Constant meetings with the school etc. When it came to a birthday party itwas really tricky. I knew the bullying child was having problems at home which lead me to a real problem of conscience.. leave the one child out to be further alienated or invite her. I chose to invite her. As this was my childs party, I could keep an eye on events. The bullying child did act up. I took her aside and said that this behaviour was not accepted in my house. After that she woud not leave my side. She asked when she could join in, how the games were played, when was her turn etc. ALL the children had fun playing together. When it was time to leave she didn't want to go home and hid. It was sad. I often think of her, even now. The school bullying continued but not with my daughter. I saw the 'child' in the bully that day and the fun she had with the others.

Luthor
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She was just a 7 year old little girl, not the devil. I'll never know what happened to her. Added: Because of her bullying behaviour parents of other children would yell at her whilst she was waiting for a parent to arrive to pick her up from school (always late). I used to step in and tell them to stop.. saying "Redacted, come stand by me." and the parents who didn't know me would scream and yell at me asking if I was the parent. The amount of times I had to tell grown a**e adults to leave her alone was just sad. I get it, I was angry with her too... but she was a child. It was ALL just so bloody sad. I don't know the answer.

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Joroches
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And that bully learnt a valuable lesson today. Maybe she will realise actions have consequences and think twice in future. It feels like the birthday girls mother is being a better mum to the bully than her own mother.

somegirlwho
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I doubt she will have learned a lesson as the mother seems not to have done anything about the bullying until kid got upset she was left out. I can see the mother not explaining to the kid why she was left out and instead blaming it on the other mom. This is probably the same reason the kid continued bullying the girl in the first place- if she is being taught one thing at school or in the context of school and something totally opposite at home.

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Will Cable
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA> Having never had a birthday party I wouldn't know about any 'rules'. However, the way the bully childs mother is saying how her own child is being bullied by not inviting her seems typical of a lot of modern parenting these days. From the way the bully child parent is acting it seems obvious that is where the child is learning the bullying from by using any 'tool' available to bully others.

Paddling Panda
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hope that, if you want to have a birthday party, you get to have one where the people you care about celebrate you.

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Conan Maschingon
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would have said if you taught your kid how to be decent to others then she wouldn't be excluded from events and not to be surprised if this happens more often to her for her behavior and then offer the mom a book on parenting since she doesn't know how and hang up

Craig Reynolds
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA. So, mom is livid that her bully daughter was not invited! Gee, I guess we know how that kid learned to be a bully, don't we?

J Rob
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't understand this?? I'm teaching my daughter to be a bully? This has got to be made-up...

MiriPanda
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's what the bully's mother accused the victim's mother of doing by not inviting her daughter.

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Jukki Line Johansen
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sounds like the bully and her mom had plenty of chances to make things right, but they didn't. Payton's mom is just doing her job of being a mom and protecting her child. Although the bully is only 7 years old, she needs to learn that actions have consequences and it's her mom's job to help her understand that.

patricia Torres
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This wasn't an accusation. This is a consequence to her bullying. Yes, it's sad but kids must learn and life is an excellent teacher when parents are not doing anything accidentally or on purpose. Really this is the best time to learn. The bigger problem is the parent being angry about this,as if she's a victim. Monkey see monkey do. Trying to force a child onto another child's space on their birthday is abusive. Get counseling and learn how to teach morals. The bully has time and youth to change and even make friends with kids that feared her. Children are smarter than you think , they just need the right direction. Most of them anyhow. But in all fairness, this whole scenario is fair. Consequences do not scar , not protecting your child in your own home on their own birthday, will. And it is up to the parent of the bully to help her child evolve into a healthy human being, not for other parents to cater too.

Grace and Lucy
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Teaching your child to be a bully is a bad idea. I get the feeling that this woman is teaching her daughter to win. Negotiationing is different from winning at all costs. Wondering if bullying behavior is exemplified at home. Let's get real - nobody wins all the time and 7 years old is too young to teach how to win friends and pummel your enemies in 5 easy steps. Life can be about acceptable compromises.

Amy Taylor
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In no way should this kid be rewarded for bad behavior. If that happened to one of my daughters, I would say "well, maybe next time you'll think about how you treat others and this won't happen again"

Mad McQueen
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If bully came the party would be about the bully. When will she bully? What would she destroy or say to get attention? Every kid would be on edge around that girl. Personally I wouldn't want my bully at my party just to appease a parent that apparently hasn't taught her child to behave. Even at school that kid is acting up. To get attention. So good for mom standing her ground.

Rose
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Since when did it become ok not to want certain people at your party? No one should have to put up with people they don't like at their own events. The world has gone crazy entitled. It's ok for someone not to be invited somewhere, they won't die from not going to a birthday party, it's not going to ruin their lives. What will though is not learning to take a no with grace

DC
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

About learning a lesson: Look at grown up who see their freedom of speech violated just because someone else has the same freedom, but a different view. Very one sided, and not really understanding the concept of said freedom to the slightest. It usually is not about bullying, but about their precious little angle, unable to do any wrong, not being treated like the Prince or Princess they are, which is a major catastrophe of biblical amount and importance. In that age, you gotta get through to the parents, or no one will get through to the child ... and, this hasn't come to being by nothing.

Odin Schmidt
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Definitively NTA. The Bully's Mom is now trying to bully the OP!

Dre Mosley
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's your kid's party. Why ruin it by stressing her out and making her uncomfortable by allowing her tormentor to come to the party? NTA.

Luthor
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sorry accidentally posted twice. See other post. Sorry. xo

somegirlwho
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I get all the NTA, but can we remember that the kid is 7 years old. This could have been an opportunity to turn things around. Maybe amends should have been initiated by the mom beforehand, but that's not the kid's fault. Don't punish the kid because at 7 years old, it's the mom that's the problem and the mom that didn't make it right. Being the only person left out of a class of 20 people is a huge deal for a young child. Invite the kid but bar the parent. The kid didn't come out of the womb a bully and maybe a little unexpected and perhaps undeserved kindness could help the situation. I can't imagine leaving this kid out made the bullying any better going forward. Maybe I am in the minority by trying to look at it this way, but I don't think we can forget that these are 7 year olds.

Diane Knight
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'd tell the mother (with some sense of entitlement) that because she doesn't take my child's feelings into how her daughter treats 'Payton' why in the fudge would I ever treat her differently? I don't give a fudge either if her feelings are hurt, maybe a counselor would, and might be a good day to have that appointment so she has that time filled and wouldn't wonder what she's missing.

Karin Morris
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think this should have been turned into a teaching opportunity instead of let's isolate one child because she was raised poorly.

Diane Knight
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

why are some people thinking that if 15 or more children are invited that all will come, hello? people have lives outside of school. This OP is delusional if her self-professed belief that Payton's party's are well known and the other horse-hockey statements are facts that it will be well attended. And what about the other mom? she thinks that too? They both need to be taken down a few notches. So an 'isolated' is projecting a bit. Reality is 1/3 will attend and the others will not and go to regular activities that they normally do.

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The Other Guest
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why was it necessary to invite the entire class (less one)? I find it hard to believe that little Payton is actually friends with 18 out of 19 classmates. Also, 18 guests (that we know about) for a 7-year-old? I'm not a parent so please correct me if I'm mistaken, but my understanding is the general rule of thumb is one guest per each year of age (ie 5 guests for a 5-year-old's party; 7 guests for a 7-year-old's party) to help keep things from turning to chaos. (Edited to correct typo)

Corrsfan
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Lol let's just assume the family made the guest list based on their preferences rather than some arbitrary rule about how many kids they "can" invite. Even if they only invited the rest of the class to send a message to Bully, that's still fine. This is an appropriate way for a 7-year old to learn that actions have consequences, especially since her parents don't seem to be teaching her that lesson.

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The Blinking Duck
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You absolutely don't have to invite the bully to your child's party but does anyone else have problems with a 7 year old having a reputation for throwing over the top parties and that the mom had to mention their "wealth"?

Xenon
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Alternate title: 7 yo gets karma for bullying, her mother piles on with her whining in addition to the entitled daughter.

Kat Min
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hmm...I'm a bit undecided on this one. Of course, you don't invite your child's bully to their birthday. On the other hand throwing over the top parties for the whole classe EXCEPT this oen kid is alos a kind of bullying. I feel the moms really need to get their s**t together and sort this out. Their duaghters will be in the same classe for several years and this is not helping.

Mrs.Pugh
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The party isn't for the class, it's for Payton because it's her birthday. The class is invited. The bully wasn't invited because she's a bully. How is that bullying?

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Baali Venomax
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wouldnt want my nemesis at my birthday party either. I would just *forget* to invite them. I think Mom did the right thing. If the bully is upset, tough, thems the breaks kid. Maybe now she'll learn her actions DO have consequences and stop the bullying, maybe not. Depends how set in her ways she already is.

Richard Jung
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4 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The mother of the "bully" is more to blame than the child. Knowing her child was acting in such a manner and not taking corrective action only encourages her child to continue. Hopefully someone will explain to the child the reason behind the action and get her to realize she needs to modify he behavior. You do not reward bad behavior.

millac
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5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The mom is the a*****e and just lost the high ground with the school. Most schools have policies that either less than half of a class can be invited or the entire class must be included. The other mom also offered to have the kid apologize and make up for her actions, the goal the school was trying to achieve. Which was rebuffed and then punished. The school will no longer take the LW's side and will view this as a mutual situation where both are bullying each other.

D C
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Unpopular opinion: Mom did wrong.. what a perfect opportunity to destroy your enemy by making them your friend. And teaching a valuable lesson in forgiveness and being the kind of person you want to be regardless of anyone else.

Sandra Mingelgrun
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why would anyone invite someone into THEIR home so that they might treat them like garbityage? You might bully me in school, but I'll be damned if I allow it in my own home. Mom is upset because her daughter was called out. Oh well. It's called karma. She's crying now, but how many times has the Bday girl come home from school crying? And the comment about a 7 year old having an over the top party.....do you live under a rock? Have you never seen how the Kardashians or Beyonce or Cardi or any of those moms throw parties for their kids? This mom's party was nothing compared to theirs.

Celtic Pirate Queen
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA. Maybe bully's Mom will finally get a clue (doubtful). If there's any fallout towards the birthday girl, I hope you deal with it swiftly. You might also want to let the school staff know exactly WHY the bully was excluded, just in case.

Danielle LI
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA, though, why doesn't one invite only close friends, surely this child isn't close with the entire class.

Key Lime
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think the "bully" has learned the phrase "#uck around and find out" at a young age.

Rob Ramcharan
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This Zara Kadir person sounds like she's advocating rewarding the aggressor and punishing the victim.

Francesca Peel
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think the mother of the bully seriously needs to get some professional help because school bullies generally are a reflection if their parents. I congratulate Payton's mum for standing firm. It amazes me how anyone could think that it is okay for a 7 year old to invite someone who makes her life miserable. Also why does this bully want to go to a person who she obviously dislikes, house?

Marnie
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

To me it's weird to invite an entire class of kids. (And who wants to shepard 20 kids from the class, plus the kid's home friends, plus possibly siblings and cousins? Who would do that to themselves?) I would expect the kid to invite her literal friends. Nobody has 20 friends. Her friends from the neighborhood and friends from the classroom, plus a couple of extras, plus cousins - maybe 10 kids at most.

Fred Jacobson
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They should invite the little sh it and when she shows up hog tie her and the parents up in the back yard and give all the kids aluminum baseball bats for a round of entrails piñatas. That'll teach those miserable cu nts to be nice. BUT THOLE!

Enlee Jones
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Now is a good time for the bully to learn that her actions have consequences.

SheamusFanFrom1987
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA, but hearing "over the top" parties has me intrigued and I'd like to be invited just to see how it's goes. Maybe it's time to buy Payton some candy or be her cheerleader at her cheerleading sessions for a bit XP *joking except for the candy and cheerleading part*

Deanna Crichley
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I used to take my niece to dancing school, from the time she was 2 years old. There was a snotty little girl there, who was never nice to my niece. We were early one day, and Nasty Little Girl said "I got a new video today. Telletubbies. My niece said "Oh, that's for babies." Nasty girl said "No it's not!" My niece said "yes it is. It's for babies." I said, "Nasty Little Girl" is trying to be nice. Niece said, "she was never nice to me before.' Niece was right.

BeepBeepBoopBoop
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

a class of 20 kids? to me that sounds really small, if I understand what the parent means. It could be a class, like who the teacher teaches, or a class, as in how many students are in the grade. English is weird. Anyways, this sounds pretty fake ngl. Bullying like this definitely happens, but it just gives off a vibe.. idk. If it's real, poor kid for having a bully, and the bully needs to learn how she was wrong

genevieve.delangie
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i don’t think it is fake. bullying happens more often than you would think in school.

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Tunk
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This post and some comments proves why most adults would be better off rethinking their choices of having kids in the first place. Grown adults justifying the bullying of a 7 year old girl is just gross. And then write a pitiful 'aita' while naming the kid she is talking about. No decency. She just wants people to say she is right and she got what she wanted. As all these 'aita' do. Cringe.

Tunk
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Always have to question the wholesome motives of people who post AITA questions?

Tunk
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She is the arsehole. A grown adult ostracizing a seven year old from her entire class. It would of been a great way to show kindness and teach the whole group a valuable lesson. She has in turn bullied a child because 'principles'. Its not kids that are the problem. Its always the entitled adults.

JustJackie
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You would willingly ruin you own child's birthday party, by inviting their bully into your house? Why?... Why would you want to put your child through that? That's crazy to me. Please also look up the definition of bullying. Lots of people in the comments seem unsure about what it actually means.

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Tatjana P
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As a person bullied in 3 different schools, I can say that what the OP did is bullying as well. She could have invited 70 percent of the class. As it is, it seems like a superintentional retaliatory move. Yes, she can invite and not invite anyone, that is not the point, but this seems a bit reactive and spiteful, singling the girl out. No, she should not be invited, but there was no need ti make her the only one not invited.

Beth L
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And how is the OP supposed to decide which kids to punish for doing absolutely nothing wrong?

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