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If you had to put people into groups based on the ways they fuel their energy, you could distinguish two broad categories of extroverted and introverted people. Extroverted people feel best and most energized when they are interacting with others, while introverts recharge by being on their own and social interactions drain them to exhaustion.

Introversion is a personality trait and not a mental health condition, but it is often confused with social anxiety disorder. Introverts aren’t necessarily anxious in a busy social environment, but it just takes a lot of energy to be engaged, while for people suffering from social anxiety, such an environment causes nervousness and fear, although some research suggests that introverts are more likely to feel social anxiety compared to extraverts.

It seems that this could be the case as evident from a thread started by Reddit user Sarayka81 who asked, “What situation is an introvert's nightmare?” Many people noticed that redditors started listing situations that are more dreadful for people with social anxiety instead of introvertedness and concluded that they might not be able to make a distinction between them if they have both, although a big chunk of them related to the scenarios mentioned.

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Introverted And Anxious People Reveal That These 30 Situations Are A Nightmare For Them Phone calls. Receiving and twice as bad having to make one.

Isand0 , idleman Report

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TheAquarius1978
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't know why but i Also hate having to make them, mostly to strange people, which is wierd because Im not introverted, i can be and i am shy, but if anything Im an extroverted person.

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It seems that the definitions of introversion and social anxiety are different, but as many people in the thread pointed out, the terms get mixed up and socially anxious people might think that their fears are just part of being an introvert.

Bored Panda reached out to Distinguished Professor at University of California Riverside Sonja Lyubomirsky, who teaches at the Department of Psychology, to find out what causes the misconception.

She explained to us, “My guess is that it’s because socially anxious people often say little in social interactions and appear uncomfortable (like they prefer to be alone). Introverts actually DO enjoy alone time, but not because they are afraid of social interactions. Just a lot of socializing exhausts them.”

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Introverted And Anxious People Reveal That These 30 Situations Are A Nightmare For Them Teacher: "Everyone find a partner!"

tidita7889 , lori05871 Report

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Jenn C
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Especially when your one friend wants to partner with someone else this time.

Peej Maybe
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or on school trips, the dreaded "Sitting next to the teacher on the bus because no one else would buddy up with you"

Lizzy Crit
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Always getting paired with a teacher because there were an odd number of students and being the one left over

Rhea Williams
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That’s a really mean thing to do. Much better for the teacher to put into pairs; that way no one gets left out.

Lady Lava
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nightmarish, especially in classes where I wasn't popular and there was an odd number of students. I ended up pairing with the teacher or having to form a group of three with two others who not necessarily liked that...

Raegan Johnson
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or that moment when you look to the one person you’re willing to work with and they’re looking at someone else.

LittlePiggie
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or when people rush to pair with you because they know you'll do all the work for them to make sure you keep high marks in the class... 😒

Mike Loux
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Teacher: "For this next exercise, we're going to break up into small groups." Me: "FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU--"

StrangeOne
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No one ever wanted to be my partner. I'd rather do the project myself. But then the teacher would find someone to group me with.

Winter Eleven
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

15 years of that bulshit. Now in college if someone says that i just tell them I'm doing whatever on my own

The weird one
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This. I feel this in my soul and I hate it when teachers freaking do this

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Introverted And Anxious People Reveal That These 30 Situations Are A Nightmare For Them Let’s all introduce ourselves

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Nathaniel
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hello I am Nathaniel and merely saying this in front of everyone makes me want to curl up and cry.

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Introverted And Anxious People Reveal That These 30 Situations Are A Nightmare For Them Your social butterfly friend begs you to go to a party with him. You go there and he wanders off to talk to literally everyone there while you follow him like a puppy.

Nomadic_View , gabia party Report

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Kathryn Baylis
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If the party is at someone’s house, find out if they have a dog or cat, and spend your time with them instead of draining your social battery on a bunch of people who are probably already, or are well on the way to being, sloppy drunk, and highly gross and annoying, anyway.

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Whether you’re an introvert or an extrovert depends both on your genetics and your effort. Sonja Lyubomirsky has read studies that said “that the heritability of this trait is 40 to 50%. However, just like with anything that’s heritable (most human traits), this doesn’t mean that we can’t change it with deliberate effort.”

The professor gave herself as an example: “I myself was 'born' an incredibly shy person (a trait related to introversion) but with a great deal of effort and willpower, I have transformed myself into a huge extrovert. But it takes work.”

#6

Introverted And Anxious People Reveal That These 30 Situations Are A Nightmare For Them People randomly showing up to hang out at your own place

Girly_Sylvia , joel Report

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Nathaniel
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The knock on the door, the ring of the doorbell, unless you have pre announced your visit, I am not in.

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#7

Introverted And Anxious People Reveal That These 30 Situations Are A Nightmare For Them Being picked out of the crowd at an assembly, concert, magic show etc.

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You may think that trying to analyze your personality traits is useless, but you may benefit from knowing whether you're an introvert or extrovert. Sonja Lyubomirsky believes in what Francis Bacon once said, which is “knowledge is power,” because “It helps you understand that your reactions (e.g., need to rest after a party or take breaks) are normal and healthy.”

It is important to know because her observation is that “In the U.S., extroversion is relatively highly valued (e.g., in leaders, in job interviews, in speaking up in teams, on dates).” So she thinks that it is easier for extroverts to live in the current society in the US, but introverts shouldn’t think that something is wrong with them and their reactions, rather that it’s just how their brain and body works.

#8

Introverted And Anxious People Reveal That These 30 Situations Are A Nightmare For Them "Wanna hang out this Saturday?"

"Sure!"

*Saturday arrives, 10 minutes before hangout time*

"Oh also I invited my friend you have never met before to join us"

"..."

drflanigan , Nicolás Boullosa Report

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Birgit M
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This!!! I hate this so much! I‘m always convinced this person will hate me.

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#9

Introverted And Anxious People Reveal That These 30 Situations Are A Nightmare For Them As a child my worst nightmare was when my parents got visitors and I'm stuck upstairs hungry and thirsty because I can't access the kitchen.

mikasott , Elaine Report

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Duesvolent90
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes, you finally try to ninja your way to the fridge and one of them see you and alert the rest like a chimpanzee

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#10

Introverted And Anxious People Reveal That These 30 Situations Are A Nightmare For Them “That’s not loud enough, I said ‘GOOD MORNING TEAM!’”

mysecretissafe , Infrogmation of New Orleans Report

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Kathryn Baylis
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No. I was never interested in being a cheerleader for my school, and still not interested in becoming one for the company. So f**k no. Besides, it’s all fake b******t anyway, like Potemkin Villages (just look it up) for corporate. F**k them.

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Do you feel that any of these situations are unbearable to you? Do you think you are actually introverted or have you been confusing it with social anxiety? Let us know your thoughts in the comments and if there are any “nightmares” that weren’t mentioned in the list, tell us about them as well!

#11

Introverted And Anxious People Reveal That These 30 Situations Are A Nightmare For Them When the person you've been forced into meaningless small-talk with just straight-up does not read your subtle cues that you prefer to be left the f**k alone.

modern_aftermath , Chris Lott Report

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LittlePiggie
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Especially when you have earbuds/headphones in/on or are actively reading a book.

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#12

Introverted And Anxious People Reveal That These 30 Situations Are A Nightmare For Them Comments like "Look who finally came out of their room" or "Oh wow you can talk!" When I finally step a bit out of my comfort zone.

True_85 , lisaclarke Report

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#13

Introverted And Anxious People Reveal That These 30 Situations Are A Nightmare For Them People barging into my personal space uninvited

GDog507 , dat' Report

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Krystol Grayson
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We rent the basement from my in-laws and every Summer they invite the whole huge family. Guess who has to give up all of her space without any complaints if I don't want to lose the only affordable housing in my small expensive town?

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#14

Introverted And Anxious People Reveal That These 30 Situations Are A Nightmare For Them Being forced into public speaking last moment.

Ultrabigbutt , Matt Harasymczuk Report

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zak
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If I have to be the focus of attention like that, I will start blushing. Then, I will think "people can see me blushing" and I will just get redder and redder until basically ALL of my blood is in my face. 🤬

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Introverted And Anxious People Reveal That These 30 Situations Are A Nightmare For Them Crowds

ransom0374 , Cameron Norman Report

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Kathryn Baylis
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Some people get off on being a part of a big and boisterous crowd. I just get claustrophobic and want to get the f**k out of there. Especially if people have been drinking. Cannot stand sloppy drunks individually, totally despise them collectively as a crowd.

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Introverted And Anxious People Reveal That These 30 Situations Are A Nightmare For Them School presentations.

GabThePretto , Virginia State Parks Report

#17

Introverted And Anxious People Reveal That These 30 Situations Are A Nightmare For Them Waiter/waitress bringing cake and singing happy birthday in front of the whole restaurant

watermelown-1999 , Ralph Daily Report

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Duesvolent90
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah, I have that to look forward to tonight. When you ask them in the most serious tone you can muster not to have them sing for you, they will ALWAYS SNEAK OFF TO THE "BATHROOM" TO ASK THEM TO SING..I SAID NO FOR GODSAKE THAT MEANS NO!

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#18

Introverted And Anxious People Reveal That These 30 Situations Are A Nightmare For Them A party where all people do is stand around and talk. For hours. I just want to be in bed with a book thanks

Radioactivocalypse , Luis Guerrero Report

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When we get back home we need a 3-hour nap just to recuperate.

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Introverted And Anxious People Reveal That These 30 Situations Are A Nightmare For Them My college has put me in a shared room with a stranger who doesn't speak English. There is no where for me to go and re-charge my social battery. I am losing my mind- don't get me wrong, I like my roommate. She seems real sweet but by god I need a minute to myself.

dum_biatch , Jonathan Chen Report

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Kate
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My college roommate and I bunked our beds. She took the bottom and put a curtain up around her space, and my top bunk was above eye level. Voilà, semi-privacy.

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Introverted And Anxious People Reveal That These 30 Situations Are A Nightmare For Them Here's mine: meeting a coworker that you don't know very well on the train, locking eyes and having to engage in conversation for the next 30-40 minutes.

All you want to do is read your book, but there's no way out and you decide to put up a brave front.

They're not thrilled to see you because you already have a reputation for being kind of weird. The more you talk the weirder they think you are. You can see it in their eyes. Already you can hear the office gossip in your head: "Oh my God, guess who I was stuck on the train with..."

Nightmare fuel. Work from home was a blessing in this regard.

jew_biscuits , Tom Page Report

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Kathryn Baylis
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have a problem associating names with faces, unless I spend a lot of time with people—-and even then, if I haven’t seen them in years, chances are good I don’t remember their names, or don’t want to anyway, if they were assholes to me. So situations like this are extremely awkward for me, and I usually try not to let them see me.

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#21

Introverted And Anxious People Reveal That These 30 Situations Are A Nightmare For Them Finding a job

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

interviews are the worst! Having someone stare at you while you're having to "sell" yourself and your skills

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#22

Introverted And Anxious People Reveal That These 30 Situations Are A Nightmare For Them Small talk. If I'm gonna give you my attention and take myself out of my inner world you'd better have something stimulating to talk about.

anewstartforu , ePi.Longo Report

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Introverted And Anxious People Reveal That These 30 Situations Are A Nightmare For Them Networking events

normal-girl , Fruitnet.com Report

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Kathryn Baylis
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You mean talking a lot of b******t and acting like you like people you actually can’t stand, just to get ahead.

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#24

Introverted And Anxious People Reveal That These 30 Situations Are A Nightmare For Them My wife: "Hey, do you wanna leave the house today?"

Bobisburnsred , Poppy Thomas Hill Report

#25

Introverted And Anxious People Reveal That These 30 Situations Are A Nightmare For Them ice breakers

Ready_Difficulty_622 , Rod Library Report

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Kathryn Baylis
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If they’re natural and spontaneous they’re not a problem, especially if the conversation then flows organically. If they’re forced and fake, f**k no.

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#26

Introverted And Anxious People Reveal That These 30 Situations Are A Nightmare For Them Public marriage proposal which they want to turn down.

disco_di_piscio , Waterford_Man Report

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Kathryn Baylis
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’m glad my husband proposed to me in private. If he’d ever publicly put me on the spot like that, I would never have married him. Respect the other person’s sense of privacy and never put them in such an uncomfortable position, ever. If you can’t do that, you don’t deserve to be married, because marriage is based on trust. That includes trusting the other person to never make you uncomfortable or embarrass you, ESPECIALLY in public.

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#27

Introverted And Anxious People Reveal That These 30 Situations Are A Nightmare For Them Afterparties.

You mean there's more stuff to do after the stuff we planned on doing? I only have so much energy to deal with people and it was already used up.

Nyctomancer , Joe Mabel Report

#28

Introverted And Anxious People Reveal That These 30 Situations Are A Nightmare For Them A total surprise party for me at my place with everyone and their significant other so I’m essentially the 49th wheel at my own party. Kill me now.

Edit: I exaggerated the number but I have been a 9th wheel at a couples party (I did NOT know it was going to be all couples) but glad to know this is so relatable 🥲

Anneboleyn33 , Bart Everson Report

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TheAquarius1978
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Do that to me, and i'l be exiting the same door i entered 10 seconds later, i really really don't like surprise parties to me, or any other type of party for that matter.

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Introverted And Anxious People Reveal That These 30 Situations Are A Nightmare For Them A large wedding. Being the center of attention for an entire day sounds f*****g terrible. Especially with a lot of family members I don’t particularly care for, or haven’t seen in years and having to pretend like I’m happy to see them and “oh my gosh it’s been soooo looong”.

Nooooo thank you.

Sun-Public , demxx Report

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Mother Of Magpies
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Literally my worst nightmare. Been in a relationship for 27 years. But I will not ever ever EVER get married. Mostly for this reason.

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#30

Introverted And Anxious People Reveal That These 30 Situations Are A Nightmare For Them Being asked to do some group activity on such short notice and being put on the spot without having a legitimate reason for not wanting to do it aside from “I just don’t feel like it”

Jopast22 , Benedikt S. Vogler Report

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#31

Introverted And Anxious People Reveal That These 30 Situations Are A Nightmare For Them Your parents force you to go to a summer camp because "they loved going to camp when they were kids!". It's one where you're not allowed a phone, sleep in a cabin with 12 other kids plus two of the most peppy, overly upbeat, overbearing camp councilors ever to exist.

It's day one of a week long camp. The morning starts with a 6am wakeup shout from Councilor A, who leads the cabin in a morning song before you're led to the communal showers. After everyone is dressed it's time for breakfast at the mess hall, where the camp leader has everyone sing the camp motto song before food is served. The food is everything you hate in particular.

The day is then filled with a barrage of group activities: Rockwall, group crafts, a talent show, swimming in a gross pond (in a bathing suit you hate that makes you feel self conscious), more camp songs, a SECOND talent show (WHY?!), overly competitive sports, etc.

Finally after singing for the 100th time dinner is over and people return to their cabins to sleep. Your councilors however decide before bedtime everyone needs to sit in a circle and share with the group about their lives. This share circle is going to happen every night of camp. One final obstacle each day to the minor reprieve that is lights out.

It's been six days of this level of constant over hyped interaction. It's lights out after the last day. You've done it, you survived. You go to sleep knowing tomorrow you get to go home. At 6am you are startled awake by your camp councilor. You're filled with a sense of deja-vu and dread. It dawns on you that this is Day 1 of camp all over again. You're stuck in a time loop groundhog's day style. An eternity of summer camp on repeat. An eternity in hell.

WorkLemming , George Ploaie Report

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How bad do you have to act up to get solitary confinement or be sent home?

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#33

Introverted And Anxious People Reveal That These 30 Situations Are A Nightmare For Them Introverted cop here. Testifying in court sucks, especially when you're doing it solo and don't have a prosecutor just asking you questions. Solo is like 90% of all testimony though.

codyak1984 , MittenStatePhototog Report

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TheAquarius1978
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Did that once, however i need to say that Português courts do not work like the American movie courts lol, here you go to a courthouse, you enter an Office, you give you're " declaration " and you're done, no audiences, no jury, nothing like that.

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#34

Introverted And Anxious People Reveal That These 30 Situations Are A Nightmare For Them I am introverted but have good social skills, and these comments are purgatory. I am wincing at all of them.

Thanks, I hate it.

Also— **Karaoke Night**.

Girhinomofe , UKM Report

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I went on vacation with my mother once while my husband was in China and one night was karaoke night. She filmed me while the guy (the entertainer) had his hand on my butt. I didn't even noticed. My husband and my brother noticed when my mother showed it around. My husband just laughed.

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#35

Introverted And Anxious People Reveal That These 30 Situations Are A Nightmare For Them Traveling to an event, like a big conference, where you’ll be with coworkers the entire time for two days, and you share a hotel room with two of them.

Literally no time away to yourself.

And you arrive home Sunday night, and you work on Monday at 0730.

Aspiring_Polymath_3 , Douglas Neiner Report

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Kathryn Baylis
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Get. Your. OWN. Room. Make up some plausible excuse not to share—-pay for it yourself if you have to (it’ll be well worth the extra expense, believe me). Make it as far away from the event goers’ cluster of rooms as possible. Do NOT, under any circumstances, tell anyone your room number. Even if they’re usually trustworthy, when people get drunk, they also get loose-lipped. Tell the front desk to take messages, specifying whose calls you’re OK with them putting through. Separate yourself as much as you realistically can from the crowd, so you can carve out that much-needed alone time without interruptions from overly enthusiastic (or just drunk and without inhibitions) coworkers and other attendees.

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#36

Introverted And Anxious People Reveal That These 30 Situations Are A Nightmare For Them something we have in the Netherlands that is called "hospiteeravonden".

Basically students here share a house (like a normal, family house) where each person rents a room and you share a living space, kitchen and bathroom together. And to get one of those rooms, the rest of the house usually has to pick you as their new room mate. So they organize these evenings where you go to the house and you meet the people living there, show the room and they get the chance to get an impression of you and possibly pick you to rent the room.

It's the worst because you constantly have to show them how much fun you are and how great you are and it is literally my nightmare and one of the reasons I never rented a student room lol

Apprehensive-Pen-531 , Oregon State University Report

#37

Introverted And Anxious People Reveal That These 30 Situations Are A Nightmare For Them A ad-hoc talent show with co-workers. As someone who's maybe not a full introvert but has a limit on my extroverted'ness... this happened to me and I basically said "no thanks".

Flat_Establishment_4 , Kensburg Report

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