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40 Signs You Have Internalized Misogyny, Shared In Online Thread Assuming prestigious positions (judge, CEO, etc) are men before I know their gender. Caught myself doing it when my attorney referred to the judge who would be at our hearing as "her" and I was surprised.

It's scary how subtle it can be, and how it can pop up without you even realizing those things were internalized.

ohmygoyd , EKATERINA Report

Final score:

132points

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Anna Te 2 years ago

Also, listen to "Female murderers" at Parcast Podcast. In the intro they tell us "picture a murderer, a thief- did you picture a woman?". Interesting, how perception is at work.

15points

40 Signs You Have Internalized Misogyny, Shared In Online Thread My knowledge isn’t less valuable or accurate than a man’s knowledge.

SweetTeaGardenz Report

Final score:

130points

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ZAPanda 2 years ago

If I think of the top five smartest people I know (multiple doctorates etc), two are men and three are women, so yes.

16points

daisytre2020 , Anastasia Shuraeva Report

40 Signs You Have Internalized Misogyny, Shared In Online Thread That sex is not something women give to men, but something BOTH parties (should) enjoy.

Final score:

127points

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Brendan Roberts 2 years ago

In my opinion, a good sex life is essential for a strong relationship. And, in order for both parties to enjoy it, they need to communicate with each other. Saying that, I understand that this would probably not apply to asexuals.

34points

40 Signs You Have Internalized Misogyny, Shared In Online Thread That my worth and existence as a woman isn't entirely decided by my appearance. That I don't need to achieve a standard of prettiness before I'm worthy of respect, love and self-confidence

That my value as a human being won't suddenly disappear the second I turn 30. Even though on average women spend 65 years of our lives as an adult, we're only considered "young enough" for 12 of them. For the remaining 53 years, or 82% of our adult lives, we're made to feel like old hags by society. It sucks

flareon79 , Davide De Giovanni Report

Final score:

123points

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ZAPanda 2 years ago

whaaaaat? most people are only interesting after 30 and IMHO most women remain attractive well into their 50s. I'm late 40s and I look absolutely awful, people guess me to be a senior.

23points

40 Signs You Have Internalized Misogyny, Shared In Online Thread I don't have to dye my greying hair if I don't want to. On the flip side, I can have it rainbow coloured if I feel like it.

CrankyLittleKitten , cottonbro Report

Final score:

121points

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Otter 2 years ago

Just before the pandemic, I was at a dinner where there were six older women. Three had natural gray hair and three dyed, and of those who dyed, only one had chosen to maintain her original color. It's a totally free choice at this point.

20points

40 Signs You Have Internalized Misogyny, Shared In Online Thread It's OK to be outside with unshaven legs. It's hair. It's just hair

happyclamming Report

Final score:

116points

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ShriSha Kamboj 2 years ago

yes......hair is not unhygienic....unless a doc tells me so.....n this is not sarcasm ///

28points

Elegant-Cobbler-257 Report

40 Signs You Have Internalized Misogyny, Shared In Online Thread That I don't have to have a husband or kids to live a fulfilling existence. (Totally cool that some women do though!)

Final score:

112points

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Kimi Tomminello 2 years ago

I wish people would stop harassing unwed and childless women.

41points

40 Signs You Have Internalized Misogyny, Shared In Online Thread I was downtown one day and saw this woman in leggings, boots, and a jacket. She had a pony tail and Starbucks. I thought "Ha, look at this basic bi-" and had to stop myself. I then thought "No, she looks comfy and caffeinated, and that pony tail looks great!"

I often catch myself judging stereotypes for no damn reason.

NavyAnchor03 Report

Final score:

109points

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Something 2 years ago

There's nothing wrong with being "basic." You can stick out from the crowd and be awesome or blend in with the crowd and be awesome. Your worth is not dependent on your uniqueness. We're human, not collector's items.

62points

#10

40 Signs You Have Internalized Misogyny, Shared In Online Thread It's okay to age

Key_Evening3622 , Mikhail Nilov Report

Final score:

109points

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Yvette Desmarais 2 years ago

It's unavoidable

27points

#11

40 Signs You Have Internalized Misogyny, Shared In Online Thread That other women aren't my competition.

natkolbi , RUN 4 FFWPU Report

Final score:

106points

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Brendan Roberts 2 years ago

Women are always in competition with each other. Men are always in competition with each other. We all compete all the time. Whether it is in work, in relationships, or within family. It can be as destructive as it is beneficial, but we still do it.

6points

#12

40 Signs You Have Internalized Misogyny, Shared In Online Thread The not like the other girls trope. I'm just like other women, and I like most of them.

n1b1c000 Report

Final score:

105points

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Andy Acceber 2 years ago

If you think you're not like other girls, that's because you haven't met enough of them yet. Expand your horizon. Meet more people. Be honest. Be vulnerable. You have more in common with other girls than you think, and there's nothing wrong with that.

32points

#13

40 Signs You Have Internalized Misogyny, Shared In Online Thread The hatred of hairy armpits in pictures. Idk if I’ll ever unlearn this one. I just hate how it looks (particularly on me).

Zahnaynee , Billie Report

Final score:

102points

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ZAPanda 2 years ago

yep i hate it on myself as well, as a guy. I have no idea why the double standards though, or who decided that hairless is the female standard.

50points

#14

40 Signs You Have Internalized Misogyny, Shared In Online Thread That women who do make up, nails, or pay attention to the way they look are not shallow or self-conceited. “Girly” should not be an insult.

murhemursu , Marlon Schmeiski Report

Final score:

99points

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Something 2 years ago

Instead of looking down on women (and others) who like makeup, or on those who don't, we should all recognize that it should be a choice freely made and forcing people in either direction is bad. We don't all have to look the same or present ourselves the same.

28points

#15

That i dont owe prettiness to anyone

here’s a qoute by Erin Mckean about it:

“You don’t owe prettiness to anyone. Not to your boyfriend/spouse/partner, not to your co-workers, especially not to random men on the street. You don’t owe it to your mother, you don’t owe it to your children, you don’t owe it to civilization in general. Prettiness is not a rent you pay for occupying a space marked ‘female’.”

quesocremrobado Report

Final score:

97points

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Roxy Eastland 2 years ago

Thank you. It is years since I read this quote and I'd forgotten who said it.

21points

TheCravenRaven7 , Faruk Tokluoğlu Report

#16

40 Signs You Have Internalized Misogyny, Shared In Online Thread Formerly raised Christian woman here: sl** shaming. I'm much better about it now but basically do not judge women's character who are promiscuous.

Also women who are hyper feminine. As long as they don't tell me I need to be the same I can respect their lifestyle as long as it's for them not to solely please men when they don't even like wearing all that stuff.

That my first sexual experience was my choice and that virginity is a concept. That nothing was taken from me. I chose to do it and we did an action together. Period.

Final score:

90points

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ZAPanda 2 years ago

S**t shaming is ridiculous because men are not censured for the same activities, indeed they are praised.

48points

#17

That it's not my job to monitor everyone's emotional status, and take care of their feelings and mental health.

Bergenia1 Report

Final score:

90points

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ZAPanda 2 years ago

Actually it's called just being decent. The fact is, many men don't bother to do this, so actually the general practice SHOULD be to be decent to others. I've had to learn this the hard way.

14points

#18

That my worth isn’t based on my weight.

Iloverescuepups Report

Final score:

90points

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Something 2 years ago

And if you are someone who would be healthier at a different weight, low self esteem is not the way to get there.

28points

#19

It's okay to piss someone off by speaking up.

CrazyCatLadySLC Report

Final score:

84points

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Gaby Almodovar 2 years ago

No matter your gender, try to be diplomatic, if you can. But sure, you shouldn't hide your opinion, even if it pisses somebody.

18points

#20

40 Signs You Have Internalized Misogyny, Shared In Online Thread I can wear whatever length skirt or pants I want. I’m not a wh**e for wearing ones that end anywhere above my knee.

Mermoy , Art Laurence Luzon Report

Final score:

79points

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Petra, princess of Brigid 2 years ago

The girl in this picture is SO cute!!!!

20points

abroad_adizzybroad , medium photoclub Report

#21

40 Signs You Have Internalized Misogyny, Shared In Online Thread "Girls suck."

As a 90s kid, this was the theme and in order to not suck, you had to be "not like other girls."

And as soon as you realize they don't suck, you're pitted against each other and aren't able to enjoy how awesome they are.

Turns out, girls are the s**t and their virtues don't detract from yours!

Sometimes when I'm out and about I still feel this vibe coming at me from other women and I understand that where they're coming from has nothing to do with me. Now, I just give them a nice, big smile. 9 times out of 10 they break into the sweetest smile you can imagine and I love that moment. We friends, y'all.

Final score:

77points

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Susie Elle 2 years ago

Ah yes, the 90's. When we still thought women should either serve as an aesthetic or the target of insulting jokes.

24points

#22

40 Signs You Have Internalized Misogyny, Shared In Online Thread That I don't have to listen to men. I can't count how many times random men I barely knew started telling me deeply personal crap like it's my job to listen/care about their problems.

EMcNugget , mentatdgt Report

Final score:

77points

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Missy Moo Moo 2 years ago

Ha YES!! Like a man telling me that "xyz" isn't attractive... ah so what?? Like makeup, or some item of clothing. Eewww what makes them think I want to be attractive to them?

30points

#23

That saying no and having an opinion doesn't make me mean/unattractive

420punchingbag Report

Final score:

76points

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Daria Z 2 years ago

This!

13points

#24

Calling ppl pussies as a sign of weakness. Pussies are actually very resilient and strong.

Sweet_N_Vicious Report

Final score:

71points

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Yvonne Dauwalder Balsiger 2 years ago

Betty White famously said: Why do people say "grow some balls"? Balls are weak and sensitive. If you wanna be tough, grow a vagina. Those things can take a pounding.

108points

#25

40 Signs You Have Internalized Misogyny, Shared In Online Thread Referring to women in their 20’s and 30’s (including myself) as “girls”

[deleted] , Juliana Stein Report

Final score:

70points

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Ozacoter 2 years ago

This one is tricky because refering to 20 or 30yo as "a woman" sounds like they are much older (or at least for my spanish brain were señora means older age). We really need to resurrect gal as an opposite to guy

21points

#26

40 Signs You Have Internalized Misogyny, Shared In Online Thread I don’t owe my partner sex. For my whole life I’ve operated off this notion that my role as girlfriend is to give my boyfriend sex and if I say no too many times it’s legitimate cause for him to want out of the relationship.

Smileyfriesguy , cottonbro Report

Final score:

66points

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Monday 2 years ago

I dunno, it seems like a perfectly legitimate cause for someone to want out of a relationship. If I'm only okay with having sex once a month but my partner wants sex every 3 days then our sex drives are not compatible. There's no shame in ending a relationship for that reason.

76points

earthboundmoonmaid Report

#27

That when the house is dirty/messy it is not because I am a failure. Chores are not divided by gender and self worth doesn’t come from the outward appearance of perfection.

Final score:

63points

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ZAPanda 2 years ago

This one is heavily ingrained in women and I've tried with all my partners to ask them to not do it. As soon as guests are coming over, whooooosh the house gets a whirlwind clean. I mean really? They're my friends. They're much bigger slobs. They really won't see, know, or care.

17points

#28

Being "girly" is not wrong. The disrespect shown towards "typical" female interests, i.e. pumpkin spice, yoga, makeup, etc. is because it is considered female. Even though women are more than half the population, their interests are considered "silly".

Geneshairymol Report

Final score:

61points

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Something 2 years ago

Disrespecting "feminine" interests isn't good for anyone. Women are seen as silly when they pursue their "girly" interests and as fake when they are into other interests. ("Fake geek girl," for example.) And men are excluded from the "girly" interests for no reason.

24points

#29

40 Signs You Have Internalized Misogyny, Shared In Online Thread That I don't need to be "sweet" all the time. I was always so scared of being perceived as rough or mean. I felt that I needed to be nice all the time like a Disney princess, and never be bothered by anything ever. And never cuss cause ladies don't do that.

I don't go out of my way to be mean. It's good to be good. But that doesn't mean I pretend to be okay when I'm bothered or watch how I'm perceived all the time to be attractive to men.

Mella_20 , Lydia Turner Report

Final score:

60points

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lenka 2 years ago

Yep. I have actually had to consciously unlearn this one too - particularly when I am talking to my daughter. I try not to use the word 'nice'. She doesn't have a obligation to be nice to anyone. I tell her to be kind and/or respectful, but never nice.

16points

#30

Apologizing when it’s unnecessary.

Brielee Report

Final score:

60points

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Scagsy 2 years ago

As a resident of England, I hereby apologise for our continuing apologies.

25points

#31

ThAt I need to have a steady boyfriend or husband for my Survival and fulfillment. I. Do. NOT.

millsnour Report

Final score:

60points

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ZAPanda 2 years ago

I wish someone would tell the incels this so they can get over it as well.

25points

#32

Saying sorry for everything when you haven't actually done anything wrong. At least in the states this is a very common for women to basically apologize for existing or making someone else's life slightly inconvenient with their incredibly reasonable actions. "I'm sorry to bother you" when reaching out, someone holds the door "sorry, thank you", speaking up about something "sorry, but". We don't need to apologize for any of these things. Men rarely if ever do this.

chaparrita_brava Report

Final score:

59points

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XSpooky_Mint 2 years ago

One time I apologized because my sister pointed out that I looked really shaky, and then she gave me a weird look and I realized it was stupid to apologize and wondered why I did in the first place

13points

#33

Okay so pink and purple are neat colours, but mainly that there’s no need to feel guilty about not wanting kids. I know the person I am and I know I wouldn’t be a kind mother. Sometimes it’s good to know your limits

JudgementCazzy Report

Final score:

57points

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XSpooky_Mint 2 years ago

My dad thinks I'm lying about not wanting/liking kids because I like to babysit my baby cousin. I mean, dude, I like watching her because I don't have to do it everyday, I'd be an awful parent if I had to do it everyday

32points

#34

That women can be experts on things - often I’ll be watching the news and catch myself believing a woman specialist less than if she were a man. It’s the one misogynistic thing that’s really stuck in my brain and I catch myself out and correct myself every time but still it persists - so weird and annoying and against all of my values!

agua_viva_atom Report

Final score:

56points

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Leo Domitrix 2 years ago

You have no idea how often this one bites people in the a$$, medically speaking.

10points

#35

I might be a girl and I might be the oldest but it is not my job to manage my parents' feelings and expectations. It took nearly 50 years to learn that lesson but at least I did it - and hopefully I managed to pass it on to my kid, so that she won't waste nearly the time on it I did.

Gennywren Report

Final score:

55points

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Otter 2 years ago

I hope it also wasn't your job to babysit or raise you younger siblings. Sadly, lots and lots of eldest girls are stuck with that s**t, and very few eldest boys.

18points

#36

Rest isn’t just for men. My husband doesn’t do the dishes when he visits his parents and I feel bad for not always doing the dishes when I visit my parents.

sara9719 Report

Final score:

53points

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Jessica Gunn 2 years ago

One hundred percent THIS. I'd like to rest too, I hate being expected to help with cooking and dishes while the guys (brothers and husbands) don't!

15points

Dutch Swimmer Goes Viral For Super Revealing Trunks During 2024 Olympics: “Is This Legal?”

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#37

I don't see the men in my life putting the time energy or give-a-damn into: getting rid of body hair, or keeping their skin perfect, or being the perfect body 110% of the time. I'm allowed to just be me and be comfortable in that.... But sometimes it digs into my subconscious that I SHOULD want these things. Trying my best.

LaLaLaCAKE Report

Final score:

48points

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Otter 2 years ago

Some of us make a conscious decision that having a perfect body is more trouble than it's worth, and some of us make a decision that it's worth any amount of trouble! Now if only the two sides would stop looking down on each other...

4points

#38

It's okay if she isn't wearing something of conventional/"weird" clothing but something which she loves.

Sunsetfreedom Report

Final score:

47points

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ZAPanda 2 years ago (edited)

Again we're back on the clothing thing, but I must say it's definitely swung in favour of women at the moment. Try be a woman and wear a suit. You might get some sexist remarks that you are trying to be macho or dominating. Try be a man and wear a dress/skirt. If you don't get beaten up you will certainly be insulted. I get insulted for merely wearining non-blue clothing. Literally. Maybe this is a side-effect of living in Africa. We had a case where one guy publicly announced that he'd beat a woman who was wearing pants... but he was a rural guy. In cities, women wear pants all the time. I've only ever seen a man in a skirt at a scottish parade.

19points

#39

That women who sleep around a lot aren't bad

stickyapplejuice Report

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43points

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LuckyL 2 years ago

they just enjoy their sex life (wrote sex live at first and realized that's a whole different topic)

17points

#40

I can not like another woman for whatever dumb reason I care to name, but if I go after her looks instead of the real issue between us I am the one in the wrong.

haelesor Report

Final score:

40points

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ZAPanda 2 years ago

But that's correct. If you dislike someone for [some reason], that's possibly a legitmate reason. But if you dislike someone just for their looks, regardless of whether you're male, female, intersex, trans, whatever, you are not a nice person.

19points

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#41

When someone talks about a doctor, i shouldn't immediately picture a man

imthelightbringer Report

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20points

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ZAPanda 2 years ago

Funny I usually picture a woman. But maybe that's from being in a university for a long time.

5points

#42

Girly things are great. I don't have to prove shit.

Raaqu Report

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18points

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Goth mouse (they/them) 2 years ago

Ive always loved girly things and im not a girl!

1point

#43

I don't have to wait around for my husband or need my husband's permission to do things that I enjoy

kourabie Report

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18points

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ZAPanda 2 years ago

whaaaaaat?

5points

CatrionaShadowleaf Report

#44

Pink did not do anything wrong. It's a colour.

Final score:

17points

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Otter 2 years ago

The pink-crap-for-females industry is not the fault of a perfectly innocent and lovely color! But I've stopped wearing it anyway. Oh well.

8points

popeyesbeansandrice Report

#45

That my worth is NOT directly related to my appearance.

Final score:

17points

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Nugua 2 years ago

Not indirectly either.

1point

#46

I'm no less attractive just because my legs are not as smooth as a baby seal

skyrites Report

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17points

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Otter 2 years ago

Baby seals are furry! What's wrong with a little fur!

8points

50 Of The Most Incredible Shots That Were Submitted To The Comedy Wildlife Photography Awards

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#47

When I get angry at a man I’ll be precise, “he’s lazy/rude/annoying” etc.

But when I’m mad at a woman I have to stop myself from using the slurs that were always used against me.. she’s not a bitch, she’s being lazy/rude/annoying. My disappointment with another women shouldn’t result in dehumanizing her with gendered slurs. I don’t use the word bitch/hoe etc out loud anymore. I’m working on getting them out of my mind too

ColorMeHealed Report

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17points

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XSpooky_Mint 2 years ago

I feel like we should start making swear words more gender neutral, like ya know, calling men bitches and women dickheads

4points

#48

That being able to cook, clean, and even take care of kids/babies does not automatically give me a leg up in the dating pool.

I do this all the time thinking that it’s of more value than other things that women have to offer. In reality I’m just trying to justify the fact that I was forcibly raised to be a proper housewife in a generation where it doesn’t really apply. These are important life skills that ALL genders should have some basic knowledge of to take care of themselves.

Saturns8th Report

Final score:

16points

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Mary Montejo 2 years ago

I try to get all my kids to learn those basics. Always tell them they shouldn't depend on anyone to do things for them.

2points

Woman Moves Out Of Parents' Home After They Asked Her To Give Her Space To Brother, They Freak Out

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#49

If they are over 18 they are not a girl. Over 18 is no longer a child stop addressing people as such.

damnit_joey Report

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15points

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Zozo🤟 2 years ago

I prefer to call young women ladies. It doesn’t make them sound too old, and it keeps the maturity.

2points

#50

That I don’t need a man to feel like a woman.

disco_tits_0 Report

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15points

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Dillon Hughes 2 years ago (edited)

No you need self respect. All these libtard snowflake Karen's need to learn that. And I don't need a woman to make me feel like a man. It does help though!

-2points

#51

I can say no to men

Firethorn101 Report

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14points

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XSpooky_Mint 2 years ago

You can say no to everyone else too

7points

#52

I look at women and sexualize them automatically —judging and assessing I’m a straight woman

Nancy_McG Report

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14points

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Dillon Hughes 2 years ago

Cool that your honest! First like that here! I sexualize anyone I find sexy men or women, I'm straight, its an internal complament .

1point

Aggravating_Sea_140 Report

#53

That beauty isn’t synonymous with my worth. And people who treat me badly based off it are just bad people, it doesn’t have anything to do w me

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13points

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Hann 2 years ago

Yes!

1point

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#54

I'm not special or different from other women. I am like other women, we all have significant similarities and differences and that's great.

Liking common things (certain clothes, bands, iced coffee) that are popular isn't basic or bad. They're so popular because they have great qualities.

satisfyer666 Report

Final score:

13points

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Otter 2 years ago

Actually, women are ALL different. Lots of men have trouble grasping the concept that women are all individuals and their tastes vary, and some of the more clueless one keep looking for things that will put them over with... all women. As if all women liked the same things.

7points

#55

That I have to look a certain way to be pretty

KopyKet Report

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12points

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Dillon Hughes 2 years ago

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serial_heartbreakee Report

#56

The only time I would be called strong or tough was when I didn't look too "girly" or behaved in a tom boyish manner. I grew up believing this, but I finally put an end to it.

depressedllama13 Report

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12points

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Dillon Hughes 2 years ago

What looks tougher, manicured nails or calious hands?

-2points

#57

Women who post sexy stuff on the internet are not necessarily doing it for attention or validation. I'm so judgmental of that sometimes and I really hate myself for it

Final score:

11points

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ZAPanda 2 years ago

Anyone who posts ANYTHING s3xy on internet is TOTALLY doing it for validation, regardless of gender. Sorry, there's ZERO reason to post private stuff online, etc., unless that is what you want. In fact, anyone who posts anything at all online, e.g. insta/facebook, is just looking for validation.

24points

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#58

Honestly all of it. I was a nightmare as a teen. I actually argued against abortion in health class. Obviously I've learned better since, but I hate old me so much.

Sensitiverock85 Report

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11points

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Andy Acceber 2 years ago

I knew quite a few anti-abortion teenagers. I think it must be easier to believe in black-and-white solutions before you realize how complicated the world is. It's easy to condemn abortion until you have a friend, family member, or coworker who has one and you realize her ability to make choices for her life is the same as your ability to make choices for your life. She knows her life best. Hopefully the poster will help other anti-abortionists realize that fact.

9points

#59

Referring to all animals as "he." Male is not the default.

okokimup Report

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11points

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Sarcastic Cow 2 years ago (edited)

In our language is default cat gender 'she'. Dog is 'he'. Cow -she. Horse - he. Fox -she. Wolf - he. Slavic languages are nightmare in learning 'gender' area of things.

4points

Formal-Original7874 Report

#60

I don't have to obey every man and every order he gives me. (Yeah... a rather nasty internal belief I'm unlearning with difficulty.)

Final score:

11points

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ZAPanda 2 years ago

wait whaaaaaaaaaaaat? Surely we all know that mom is the boss of the house and the final court of appeal??

6points

#61

That the only thing I have to offer a man is my body.

Chimples10 Report

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11points

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ZAPanda 2 years ago

And the reverse stereotype is that men assume women only want them for money. So here we are. What are people worth? How do we measure it? Is it becasue we enjoy a person's company? Is it because they're fun to be with? Is it because they're smart? A good life partner? It depends on what you are looking for in a partner. Some men are ridiculously superficial and ONLY want someone who looks like a model. I only know one guy like this, however, and I told him it's grotesque. All the others want: a good conversationalist / intelligent, with a job (preferably), who helps run the house (not do all the housework), with looks being the least important feature. I only know ONE guy who thinks the housework is women's work. Needless to say he's not popular with his wife.

6points

Substantial_Past6803 Report

#62

I've been bullied by boys and girls in school but I remember the girl's bullying as much more painful because I desperately wanted to be part of their groups. I'm still working on that mindset of "I get along better with guys" to justify having more male friends than female friends. Really, men just have a different agenda when talking to women and it's therefore a little easier to get along with them. I don't actually have to show up 100%, I just have to look cute.

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ZAPanda 2 years ago

bullying is a disgusting feature of anglo- schools and schools split by grade. It's inevitable, because the grade system inherently creates a sense of superiority in the older kids rather than a sense of leadership obligation. It affects both genders and can only be eradicated by revising the education system completely.

3points

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#63

That most women are the same when it comes to being unfaithful. There is many women out there who are faithful.

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Dillon Hughes 2 years ago

Nice another unbiased honest comment! Men and women do good and bad.

0points

#64

Armpit hair on women makes me really uncomfortable. I‘m not an ass about it to anyone obviously and I know it’s unreasonable, but it still does.

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8points

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Andy Acceber 2 years ago

Hair is okay. It's normal. Admitting your discomfort is, I guess, a step in the right direction. But really, just get over it. Others' bodies don't exist to please you.

9points

#65

Starbucks isn’t lame (I’ve have better coffee, but I can always enjoy a good dirty chai from starbees)

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Tiny Dynamine 2 years ago

They don't pay nearly enough in taxes. That's why I look down on them.

1point

#66

That I don't get along better with men, they get along better with me because they have incentive to do so.

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Mystery Egg 2 years ago

huh? What a load of tosh. I get along with people that have similar interests/sense of humour as me. Being male or female is irrelevant.

6points

#67

Judging my appearance

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Dillon Hughes 2 years ago

Judging isn't a bad thing. Its what comes afterwords. I was judged as a mechanic, sadly I couldn't help to much... I don't care that I was judged.

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#68

That I should wash his underwear. We have been dating a month. He showers at my place sometimes and brought a change of clothes once so now he leaves some clothes when he changes Misogyny tells me I should wash and fold his underwear. But until he puts a ring on my finger I fight myself not to and to just give him them back dirty

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Susie Elle 2 years ago

Also after he puts a ring on your finger you shouldn't feel obligated to wash someone else's underwear.

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Tobias Rieper 2 years ago

wouldn't toxic femininity be a more appropriate term

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Ozacoter 2 years ago

Yes. Toxic masculinity is internalised sexism from men to themselves and other men. So this is toxic femininity. Sexism harms everybody

13points

Leo Domitrix 2 years ago

My mother said this to me when I was about ten: "You don't need a man to be a person". And that has shaped my thinking more than I realize ever since, after I read this post. Memo: Thank Mom again.

12points

elSti 2 years ago

but is the goal to be a person or to be happy? my mom thought me i don't need a man to be happy.

1point

ZAPanda 2 years ago

For me I have witnessed internalised misogyny many times. It's particularly bad amongst religious people in our country, e.g. where a bride swears to "honour and obey" and the man does no such swearing. For me there is much work to be done in this matter.

7points

Susie Elle 2 years ago

For me it's that I don't always have to be in control and be as level-headed as I can, because losing my patience or getting emotional would mean I'm 'getting hysterical'.

5points

Kimi Tomminello 2 years ago (edited)

Someone needs to get Damon a bubba, a binky n a blankey n put him back to bed.

4points

Ozacoter 2 years ago

For me it is that its ok to like flowers. I love nature and that is fine in my head. But i also love bouquets of flowers and that makes me feel guultt and shallow. Only quite recently i started getting them for myself and now my partner buys them occasionally (like cheap ones not too expensive)

4points

elSti 2 years ago

is that a misogynyst thing to like bouquets? my wife likes them and i have my own favorite flowers. i always thought it would be the other way gender wise.

1point

Lyone Fein 2 years ago

TBH, I got somewhat pissed off that a couple of men decided to try to monopolize this whole post. I found this to be quite obnoxious. To me the title of the article and the introductory paragraphs make it pretty clear that it is inviting *women* to discuss this issue/phenomenon. When a man is displaying misogynistic behavior can that even be called internalized? Isn't that just plain misogyny? The phenomenon being discussed here is specific to women, is it not?

3points

elSti 2 years ago

The topic is internalized misogyny but the floor is everyone's to share their thoughts.

4points

Jo Choto 2 years ago

Acceptable womanhood has been defined by men for centuries. Feminism has helped us move some way towards moving us away from this, but some of that message has been lost in man-hating rhetoric, both from the female side, and from men trying to negate the forward movement of feminism. I think a really good question to ask yourself, and be honest with yourself about, is: am I doing this because I want to/because it makes me happy, or am I doing this to please a man? Whether it's your appearance, your job performance, what you choose to say or not say, etc.

2points

RandomBeing 2 years ago

I had to undo a a lot of negative associations with my gender I developed growing up as a hyperactive girl and It's definitely been worth it trying actively to undo them.

2points

Lara Verne 2 years ago (edited)

Also, I don't have to wear heels If I don't want to. One woman once told me: "If I want to feel like a woman, I wear high heels. " Well, I feel like a woman regardless of my shoes.

1point

SB 2 years ago

Agree. And wearing heels often damages feet. Heels also slow you down if you need to run anywhere or are being stalked.

0points

Stefan 2 years ago

Why "empowered" ? Can someone explain me the meaning of this word exactly ?

1point

Lyone Fein 2 years ago

Here, empowered refers to women who already have some level of awareness regarding the patriarchal social programming that we all receive from birth. We are aware of it and we reject it because of the inferior, servile position it places us into in virtually every single society in the world. Instead of accepting this imposed identity, we strive to assert and define ourselves for ourselves.

2points

Missy Moo Moo 2 years ago

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SilverSkyCloud 5 months ago

women wearing revealing clothing were "asking for it" if we heard about a woman getting r*ped my dad would say she deserved it and was probably dressed like a slapper

0points

Just saying 2 years ago

I think there is a lot of gender confusion about what femininity is - it's seems that if a young girl wants to kick about in jeans and t-shirt, short hair, play football, not bother with styling, make-up, clothes, accessories, that she must classify herself as non-binary or demi-girl. I think it's misogynistic, internal or otherwise, to say that a girl can't really be a girl unless you are into 'girlie' things.

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A Jones 2 years ago

Just because I'm a lass, doesn't obligate me to wearing dresses. TBH I don't like them as they're too drafty. Trousers are much comfortable. I don't even wear shorts, even on hottest days. <:D

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GaeFrog 2 years ago

One is that everyone assumes animals in videos or pictures are automatically male, even women! I think It's because people don't try to identify with women so sometimes it seems like they forget we exist

0points

Lucas 2 years ago

Hmm... guess it must be different for me. Grew up on a farm and so tend to look! Though a field of cattle I'd mostly assume would be female (very easy to spot the difference with cows!). Same for a field of sheep. The dogs we had were a mix but the cats were all tom cats so I never heard of the whole cats = female thing that elSti mentions. When I first read it (here on Bored Panda) I thought it was extremely strange. Personal experience makes such a difference.

3points

elSti 2 years ago

personal experience with my pets: people see cats as females and dogs as male.

2points

Katchen 2 years ago

I think there’s an idea that the default— be it person or animal— is male, and you need to add a bow or something to tell that a person or animal is female, ie “other” and “not the default.”

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Tobias Rieper 2 years ago

wouldn't toxic femininity be a more appropriate term

16points

Ozacoter 2 years ago

Yes. Toxic masculinity is internalised sexism from men to themselves and other men. So this is toxic femininity. Sexism harms everybody

13points

Leo Domitrix 2 years ago

My mother said this to me when I was about ten: "You don't need a man to be a person". And that has shaped my thinking more than I realize ever since, after I read this post. Memo: Thank Mom again.

12points

elSti 2 years ago

but is the goal to be a person or to be happy? my mom thought me i don't need a man to be happy.

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ZAPanda 2 years ago

7points

Susie Elle 2 years ago

For me it's that I don't always have to be in control and be as level-headed as I can, because losing my patience or getting emotional would mean I'm 'getting hysterical'.

5points

Kimi Tomminello 2 years ago (edited)

Someone needs to get Damon a bubba, a binky n a blankey n put him back to bed.

4points

Ozacoter 2 years ago

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elSti 2 years ago

is that a misogynyst thing to like bouquets? my wife likes them and i have my own favorite flowers. i always thought it would be the other way gender wise.

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Lyone Fein 2 years ago

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elSti 2 years ago

The topic is internalized misogyny but the floor is everyone's to share their thoughts.

4points

Jo Choto 2 years ago

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RandomBeing 2 years ago

I had to undo a a lot of negative associations with my gender I developed growing up as a hyperactive girl and It's definitely been worth it trying actively to undo them.

2points

Lara Verne 2 years ago (edited)

Also, I don't have to wear heels If I don't want to. One woman once told me: "If I want to feel like a woman, I wear high heels. " Well, I feel like a woman regardless of my shoes.

1point

SB 2 years ago

Agree. And wearing heels often damages feet. Heels also slow you down if you need to run anywhere or are being stalked.

0points

Stefan 2 years ago

Why "empowered" ? Can someone explain me the meaning of this word exactly ?

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Lyone Fein 2 years ago

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Missy Moo Moo 2 years ago

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SilverSkyCloud 5 months ago

women wearing revealing clothing were "asking for it" if we heard about a woman getting r*ped my dad would say she deserved it and was probably dressed like a slapper

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Just saying 2 years ago

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A Jones 2 years ago

Just because I'm a lass, doesn't obligate me to wearing dresses. TBH I don't like them as they're too drafty. Trousers are much comfortable. I don't even wear shorts, even on hottest days. <:D

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GaeFrog 2 years ago

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Lucas 2 years ago

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elSti 2 years ago

personal experience with my pets: people see cats as females and dogs as male.

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Katchen 2 years ago

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John Peterson 2 years ago

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