ADVERTISEMENT

Canadian poet William Chapman once said, “Words cut deeper than knives. A knife can be pulled out, words are embedded into our souls”. That rings true with every insult, and most of us can likely attest to that. Whether it’s bullying at school, uncalled-for remarks on the street, or other outbursts of people’s hostility, it’s nearly impossible to avoid it.

Some spiteful comments stick with the receiver for years, even decades after. This has been pointed out by Twitter’s community members, who have answered the user Zaza Man’s question: what’s an insult they’ll never forget. Their heart-wrenching answers show just how much damage a word can do; scroll down to find them and see for yourself.

In order to better understand the subtleties of how certain wording can affect a person and what drives someone to use insulting language, Bored Panda has reached out to the professor of rhetoric and linguistics at Soka University, James Williams, PhD. He was kind enough to answer a few of our questions; you will find the interview in the text below.

Image credits: Zazamyodor

Professor of rhetoric and linguistics James Williams, PhD, explained how certain wording can influence a person: “Various studies have shown that positive thoughts and words have a powerful effect on the body, causing the brain to release endorphins and serotonin—hormones that reduce stress, relieve both physical and emotional pain, and produce a sense of well-being. 

“Given that we are a highly social species, and given that living in groups, whether family-based or not, can result in difficulties and even conflict, there are incentives to use positive language when interacting with others,” he told Bored Panda.

“With good reason, many linguistic and psychological studies have explored the following question: If positive language results in positive thoughts and feelings, what are the effects of negative language? Various studies have found that negative language activates areas of the brain that are associated with mental distress and physical pain.”

ADVERTISEMENT

Insults can have a long-lasting effect; it’s not just the moment you receive one that hurts. Quite a few examples on the list spoke about insults from years ago, which the receivers carry with them to this day. That reveals how deeply negative comments can ingrain into our brain.

Research reveals that hurtful words trigger sensations in our brain that can be compared to a “mini slap in the face”. By using electroencephalography (EEG) and skin conductance recordings, researchers determined that even under unnatural circumstances, such as a lab setting and no actual human interaction, insults have a strong negative effect on the receiver, which might not wear off even if repeated several times.

#4

Insults-People-Never-Forget

DSArrows Report

Add photo comments
POST
Take me to dinner first
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Leaving my grandma alone at supermarkets used to mean I would come back and she would have a new best friend who knew absolutely everything about my life

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
#5

Insults-People-Never-Forget

Kninemusic Report

Add photo comments
POST
Ranger Kanootsen
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Who wouldn't want to look like a police sergeant in the Bahamas?? I WANT THAT SHIRT.

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu

The fact that repeating insults doesn’t make them any less painful doesn’t sound all that surprising. In a way, when repeated, they become bullying, which, sadly, a lot of people have gone through at some point in their lives.

ADVERTISEMENT

To make matters worse, it often happens at school, around the age young minds soak everything up like a sponge. Statistics show that one in five students aged 12 to 18 have experienced it. And kids can be surprisingly cruel when it comes to concocting some of the most painful word combinations.

#8

Insults-People-Never-Forget

_mama_bear Report

Add photo comments
POST
Louisa Johnson
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

While slavery is not comparable, I'm white so the comments I get from my mum is not at all comparable to your mum's comment, but my god they would get along our mums. Mine is awful for saying s****y things about my clothes, she does it to my sisters as well. Little comments like "oh wow that is such a lovely top, it's a shame you don't have the figure for it. It's been this way forever.

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
ADVERTISEMENT

In an article for Psychology Today, clinical psychologist Barbara Greenberg pointed out that most people vividly remember their childhood bullies. She provided possible explanations for that, such as, for instance, the fact that the bullies confirmed certain negative aspects they were already aware of before. Or they might have destroyed the receiver’s safe zone or planted a seed of self-doubt.

ADVERTISEMENT
#11

Insults-People-Never-Forget

lgtarpley Report

Another article in Psychology Today, written by Dr. Nigel Barber, pointed out that hurtful remarks are often motivated by anger that stems from insecurity about a certain status. Since a lot of insults are reactive, they might be evoked by real slights from people around the bully, as well as imaginative ones that are perceived as threats to their position.

Dr. James Williams pointed out that insults can negatively affect both sides of the far-from-pleasant conversation. “What should be understood is that this consequence affects both the target of negative language and the speaker. The more intensely the person uses negative language, the more agitated and angry he or she becomes through a psychophysiological feedback loop,” he told Bored Panda.

#12

Insults-People-Never-Forget

queenjenkins Report

Add photo comments
POST
Ranger Kanootsen
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

See, this is the kind of statement that I say to people all the time. It's funny as f**k and not really offensive, just strange.

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
#13

Insults-People-Never-Forget

StrayCatAgain Report

Add photo comments
POST
Robert T
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My mum wasn't too keen on being referred to as an old lady recently. She's in her 80's. I've not yet been referred to as an old man, but that day will come!

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
ADVERTISEMENT
#14

Insults-People-Never-Forget

rcwhlr Report

Add photo comments
POST
Seamus Crumley
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's nothing. A long time ago, a girlfriend took me ( a young man) to meet her parents. Straight away they said to her, 'Darling why didn't you tell us you were a lesbian?'

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu

In Psychology Today, Dr. Nigel Barber also mentioned that a lot of hurtful rhetoric happens in the online world nowadays—it typically brings less consequences than it would in real life. According to Pew Research Center, as much as 25% of people have faced harassment online. It also pointed out that 75% of them experienced such troublesome situations over social media channels.

One of the reasons bitter internet users feel more at ease insulting others online is anonymity. Such keyboard warriors feel safe corresponding under their witty usernames, which shield them from consequences that might accompany harsh words said face to face.

#17

Insults-People-Never-Forget

johntaylorshow Report

Add photo comments
POST
Jp@nda
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

LMFAO 😂😂😂 aahhhh you couldn't even be mad at that, that s**t is hysterical... Have to protect Gotham.... I'm dead

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
ADVERTISEMENT

“Some research has found that the anonymity that characterizes the internet automatically increases the aggressive linguistic behavior of participants,” professor of rhetoric and linguistics James Williams pointed out.

“The process is associated with what is called deindividuation—which is the breakdown of the social and inner constraints that inhibit anti-social behavior. Deindividuation exercises a powerful effect on the internet because even if users post their names on a given internet platform, the platform characteristics and the inability to link user names to known individuals increase anonymity and encourage aggressive behavior.”

#20

Insults-People-Never-Forget

YannieM__ Report

Pew Research Center revealed that the vast majority (86%) of internet users agree that the online world enables people to stay more anonymous than they would be in real life. Moreover, 93% of them believe that the online environment encourages users to be more critical compared to how they would be offline.

ADVERTISEMENT

“Most platforms allow for anonymous participation, which strips the normal social restrictions and guidelines that regulate and control personal interactions in the real world,” Dr. Williams told Bored Panda. “Instead of facing consequences for unacceptable language, those who use graphic and abusive language on internet platforms are rewarded with a ‘like’ and the resulting feel-good serotonin.

“These rewards trigger the same oxytocin and dopamine receptors as positive language even though the linguistic reward is essentially negative. The result is a feedback loop: to generate more ‘likes’, participants are motivated to use increasingly negative language.”

Critique expressed in the form of insults can greatly disturb the receiver even if the slights seem minor (known as microaggressions) or indirect. Research carried out by Dr. Brea Banks revealed that repeated insults—often presented as backhanded compliments or implications—negatively affect the receiver’s cognitive abilities.

ADVERTISEMENT
#25

Insults-People-Never-Forget

that_tattoos Report

Add photo comments
POST
Ranger Kanootsen
Community Member
1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I once sat down on a park bench and someone just dropped money on me and said "buy some food with it"... truly says something about how I dress

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu

Psychology Spot suggested that another reason why people insult others is their belief that the target is at fault for a certain unfavorable situation. Whether it’s something disappointing, infuriating, or causing other negative emotions, the annoyed ones express their discontent and relieve their bubbling emotions by spitting out hurtful words.

Psychology Spot also pointed out some of people’s main features that get insulted the most—uselessness, stupidity, moral depravity, and peculiarity.

#28

Insults-People-Never-Forget

Lamar031000 Report

Add photo comments
POST
Louisa Johnson
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It should not put you off light skinned girls, just bitches. The love of your life could be light skinned and you wouldn't look twice because of a s****y comment. X

View more commentsArrow down menu
ADVERTISEMENT

Insulting others is rarely ever a good idea; however, if at any point you have to fight fire with fire, you can use this list to equip yourself with some colorful retorts. Or browse this collection of savage insults that can be disguised as compliments.

Continue reading with Bored Panda Premium
Unlimited content
Ad-free browsing
Dark mode
ADVERTISEMENT
#36

Insults-People-Never-Forget

LianaJacob Report

Add photo comments
POST
Jessica Seltenright
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I stopped wearing makeup and manager told me for weeks I looked tired and asked if i was okay 😫

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
#37

Insults-People-Never-Forget

rekal_total Report

Add photo comments
POST
Yvonne Dauwalder Balsiger
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A guy complained that his ex-girlfriend now dates his twin brother, awkward silence all around. Then another dude is like "well you're certainly not ugly, I guess it was just your personality" 🤣

View more commentsArrow down menu
#39

Insults-People-Never-Forget

_MeOhMaii Report

Add photo comments
POST
A girl
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was informed in 7th grade that I looked like joanne whirly (famous at the time but matronly) or Wayne Yulivich (9th grade jock @$$hole at my school). My dad was the most supportive. You're 12, you're smart, you're a little weird, and you're a 6' tall woman. It's going to take a couple years before people your age appreciate that. Thanks Dad. I'm a giant "little old lady" now and it amuses me to no end that people try to dis you for things you cannot control.

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
#41

Insults-People-Never-Forget

benryanwriter Report

Add photo comments
POST
Pieter LeGrande
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Him: "What you do that for?" You: "Practicing my method acting skills for showing anger".

View more commentsArrow down menu
#42

Insults-People-Never-Forget

WhoDat8107 Report

Add photo comments
POST
Ranger Kanootsen
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You dodged a bullet by not going out with him. What a nightmare he would've been in the long-term.

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
ADVERTISEMENT
#44

Insults-People-Never-Forget

Semper_Mello Report

Add photo comments
POST
Henry Russell
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

thats why you always eat the forehead first ( it also tastes like a crunch bar)

View more commentsArrow down menu
#45

Insults-People-Never-Forget

wfhsahm Report

Add photo comments
POST
Eva Kašu
Community Member
1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What? You´re sure it was a man not a three pre-schoolers in a trenchcoat? :D

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
#47

Insults-People-Never-Forget

mbaram Report

Add photo comments
POST
Jason C.
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I find that to be a very appropriate description of lettuce.

View more commentsArrow down menu
#49

Insults-People-Never-Forget

MartinChelt Report

Add photo comments
POST
Seamus Crumley
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I remember him. The chairman of the debate was being very kind to him. No wonder why most of the politicians are sitting sleeping during debates in Westminster.

View more commentsArrow down menu
#51

Insults-People-Never-Forget

foulsyke Report

Add photo comments
POST
Seamus Crumley
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Also Irish and went to London and was told the same thing. I said I know where your family live. I didn't, but I got free Guiness the whole night.

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
ADVERTISEMENT
See Also on Bored Panda
#52

Insults-People-Never-Forget

catherinewilts Report

Add photo comments
POST
Seamus Crumley
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You must find out who 'They' are, and try to find them equipped with as many insults as possible.

View more commentsArrow down menu
#53

Insults-People-Never-Forget

_a__n__d__r__a_ Report

Add photo comments
POST
Deborah B
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Wow! You sure are mean and ill mannered!" The only thing to do in this situation is to hit it straight on.

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
#54

Insults-People-Never-Forget

mrbillding Report

Add photo comments
POST
Seamus Crumley
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Went to a job interview once, and even before I sat down, one of the interviewers said, 'Thanks for coming - We'll let you know in due course' I was waiting for half an hour until the candidate before me had finished his interview. Real confidence booster.

#57

Insults-People-Never-Forget

solar_chase Report

Add photo comments
POST
deejak
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The way kids nowadays buy clothes pre-torn and hole-y, I hesitate to discard my old stuff, wondering if I should ebay it. Hey, it takes years to get genuine worn holes.

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
#58

Insults-People-Never-Forget

AllanRicharz Report

Add photo comments
POST
Seamus Crumley
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I agree totally with this - Trying to find employment on Linkedin is not a fruitful excercise. I just unsubscribed myself from it.

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
#59

Insults-People-Never-Forget

WooYnf Report

Add photo comments
POST
Ranger Kanootsen
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No matter how small an accomplishment, be proud. You are doing enough. 💝

View more commentsArrow down menu
ADVERTISEMENT
See Also on Bored Panda
#60

Insults-People-Never-Forget

KateWellham Report

Add photo comments
POST
Seamus Crumley
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just smile and take everything he says as a compliment. If it is not mean't to be one, it will really annoy him.

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
#63

Insults-People-Never-Forget

CathyReisenwitz Report

Add photo comments
POST
#64

Insults-People-Never-Forget

leonclarance Report

Add photo comments
POST
Seamus Crumley
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hate wine people who claim to be experts. At the end of the day, wine is just an expensive handful of grapes.

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
#65

Insults-People-Never-Forget

Mike59765518 Report

Add photo comments
POST
Pickles, Pennies, & Ponies
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I once heard a kid in school say to another kid, "Why don't your shoes have a party and invite your pants down." It's funnier today than it was back then.

View more commentsArrow down menu
#67

Insults-People-Never-Forget

NonagonNonsense Report

Add photo comments
POST
Miles Mawyer
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why does anybody care how many followers people have?? Not everybody is a social media try hard.

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
ADVERTISEMENT
See Also on Bored Panda
#68

Insults-People-Never-Forget

camerong98 Report

Add photo comments
POST
robin aldrich
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Similar experience here: I was a teenager babysitting a neighbor's kid, I had just gotten contacts, kid told me I looked funny without my glasses, I said thanks, he looked puzzled

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
#70

Insults-People-Never-Forget

nijigasakilove Report

Add photo comments
POST
#71

Insults-People-Never-Forget

PhilipTerzian Report

Add photo comments
POST
#72

Insults-People-Never-Forget

consentMfg Report

#75

Insults-People-Never-Forget

elehutch Report

Add photo comments
POST
Con O Cuinn
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

For context, Coppers is a relatively famous nightclub in Dublin

ADVERTISEMENT
See Also on Bored Panda
#76

Insults-People-Never-Forget

ezzbeane Report

#77

Insults-People-Never-Forget

Ozwxm2 Report

Add photo comments
POST
Seamus Crumley
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was once driving with my car mother in the passenger seat. It was snowy, and some wee f***er threw a snowball at my car. It went through a small gap in the window, missed my mother and hit me right in the face. All i could think of was, 'what a great shot'.

View more commentsArrow down menu
#80

Insults-People-Never-Forget

abdulio_206 Report

Add photo comments
POST
René Sauer
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That was weird, but what does that have to do with being somali? Are they known for having big foreheads or something?

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
ADVERTISEMENT
See Also on Bored Panda
#84

Insults-People-Never-Forget

ms_bee_parlay Report

Add photo comments
POST
USMCFelicia
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sounds like she's going to grow up to be a "mean girl." Hopefully she makes the wrong comment to the wrong person one day and they put her in her place by knocking her a*s down a few notches.

deejak
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Retort: "And we need to throw (student) a parent-teacher conference!"

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
#85

Insults-People-Never-Forget

AmyResnick Report

Add photo comments
POST
#87

Insults-People-Never-Forget

JRCT70 Report

#90

Insults-People-Never-Forget

losouknoso22 Report

Add photo comments
POST
#91

Insults-People-Never-Forget

DjAsIs Report

ADVERTISEMENT
See Also on Bored Panda
#94

Insults-People-Never-Forget

JayC_121197 Report

Add photo comments
POST
#96

Insults-People-Never-Forget

clemmiecanwrite Report

Add photo comments
POST
A girl
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm a girl who is borderline tenor. Think Sheryl Crow and Tom Petty had a child...me.

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu