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Annoying behavior from your partner is nothing new; we all have a habit or two that our partners might find insufferable. In fact, one poll of 2,000 people revealed that people think their partner is "the most annoying person in the world."

While that sounds harsh, it may be the truth for many partners on this list. We've scoured the Internet and found the most angering examples of boyfriends and husbands acting in ways that make their partners' blood boil. Opened cabinets, piles of undone dishes, and just general untidiness: just looking at them can make you furious!

#1

Gone For Two Weeks. My Husband Piled His Clothes By The Washer Instead Of Doing His Own Laundry

Overflowing laundry basket in a cluttered room, showcasing infuriating boyfriends' and husbands' household habits.

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Beth Wheeler
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1 hour ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would leave them right where he left them. You know how to do it so go take care of your mess.

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#2

My Husband Will Never Close A Draw Or Shut A Cupboard

Kitchen drawers left open, showing contents, a common source of frustration in relationships.

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#3

I Asked My Husband To Stir My Drink, Aaaaand This Is What He Did. Thank You. Exactly What I Had In Mind

A hand reaching into a green cup filled with ice cubes, illustrating a typical infuriating boyfriend or husband moment.

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The same poll where people said that their partner is the most annoying person on the planet revealed the most annoying habits people cite their partners having, too. The most common pet peeves people mentioned are snoring, passing wind, loudness, messiness, and rudeness.

The less common offenses include never listening, talking through TV shows, being bad with money, leaving crumbs on the kitchen counter, using their phone mid-conversation, and tossing their dirty clothes onto the bedroom floor. Despite that, 41% of the respondents said they secretly love these bad habits and wouldn't have their partner any other way.

#5

Never Letting My BF Stock The Tp Again

Toilet paper rolls messily stacked in a holder, highlighting infuriating habits of boyfriends and husbands.

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Riley Quinn
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27 minutes ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This needs to be punished. You need to find a secret place in the bathroom for your own personal roll, and hide the rest.

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#6

My Boyfriend:“Don’t Put The Socks Away, I’ll Still Wear Them“

Boyfriend sitting in a chair playing video games, scattered socks on the floor.

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According to Mary Jo Rapini, M.Ed, LPC, the bad habits our partners have aren't the problem. We are. "Everyone has blind spots and what annoys you in others is often a reflection of yourself," she writes. She claims that we project our controlling needs onto our partners, be it about a pristine kitchen or a clothes-free bedroom floor.

"If you're honest with yourself, you should be able to see flaws or weaknesses within yourself," she observes. "No one expects you to be perfect; thinking you are superior or better than others is not mentally healthy. Living a life where you see flaws in everyone but yourself will lead to a very lonely and limited life."

#8

My Wife Said Measure The Door, I Told Her All Doors Are The Same Size

Door installed backward, showcasing infuriating boyfriend's work.

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A 2003 study suggests that men and women find different things annoying in their partners. What annoys men are things that threaten their autonomy, for example, jealousy, their partner's moodiness, etc. For women, in turn, it's about the behaviors that threaten the relationship: condescension, aggression, being emotionally distant, and so on.

#10

My Husband Unnecessarily Seasoned The Stainless Steel Pans I Bought Today, Making Them Look Burnt And Like They’ve Been Used For Years

A burnt pan bottom overlooked by boyfriends or husbands in the kitchen.

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In a previous interview for Bored Panda, clinical psychologist Forrest Talley, Ph.D., offered some advice on how to differentiate between bad habits that are just minor annoyances and those that are deal-breakers. First, consider whether your partner cares about the impact their bad habits have on you. Maybe what you're calling an infuriating bad habit is just a personal quirk.

#13

My Partner Moves The Drain Catch Out Of The Way Before He Rinses His Cereal Bowl In The Sink. We Do Not Have A Garbage Disposal

Messy kitchen sink with food scraps left by boyfriends or husbands.

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Alice Landers
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1 hour ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No problem until he gets the plumbers bill ! ( told you so sweetness)

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#14

My Mom's Boyfriend Threw Away My 9 Year Old Collection Of LEGO Just Because I Hadn't Played With It In A While. There Are Sets From The 1990s In There And Also Sets In The Harry Potter Series

Trash bin filled with LEGO bricks, household items, and plastic bags, illustrating the messy habits of boyfriends and husbands.

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Second, consider if your behavior is reasonable. Echoing what Mary Jo Rapini said about projecting your controlling tendencies, Talley, too, suggests that it may be a "you" problem. "Let's be honest; all of us are capable of overreacting," he told Bored Panda.

#17

Is This Grounds For Divorce? Does Anyone Else Empty The Dishwasher Like This?

A chaotic pile of utensils crammed in a dishwasher, illustrating infuriating behavior by boyfriends or husbands.

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#18

The Boyfriend Left A Sharpie In His Jeans Pocket The One Time I Didn't Check Them

Ink stains inside a dryer, likely caused by a careless boyfriend or husband.

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However, perhaps the most important thing to ask yourself is whether you can live with these "quirks" or "bad habits" long term. "For example, if every time he eats something, the love of your life smacks his lips loudly and slurps, can you imagine sitting across the table listening to that for years upon years?" Talley recommends asking yourself.

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#19

How My Boyfriend Stores His Cords

A chaotic tangle of cables and wires mismanaged by boyfriends or husbands.

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Ray Ceeya (RayCeeYa)
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1 hour ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just give up. Throw it into a box and donate it to Goodwill. Start over again from scratch.

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#20

The State My Husband Leaves Our Kitchen In

Messy kitchen with open cabinets and cluttered countertops, highlighting typical infuriating habits of boyfriends and husbands.

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Relationships are about choosing your battles, Talley told us back then. "If the behavior appears innocent and harms nothing other than your sense of annoyance, try to let it go. No relationship is perfect, and every good relationship is packed to the brim with compromise and forgiveness."

#22

BF Put An Empty Box Of Double-Stuffed Oreos Back In The Pantry

Empty Oreo package held by a person, showing missing cookies, showcasing infuriating boyfriend's actions.

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#23

My Boyfriend Told Me This Was Just The Top Of His Canoe When He Was On His Trip This Weekend

Beautiful autumn trees by a lake under a clear blue sky, capturing nature's serene landscape.

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Melancholy Kitty
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1 hour ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't understand this one....is she implying that he was with someone when he said he was alone? Is that the top of someone's head? EDIT- Checked the original reddit post and yeah, looks like he cheated 😑

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However, that doesn't mean that we have to completely overlook every gross and questionable habit our partners have. "Those things that annoy you today will very likely annoy you five years from now," Talley explained. "Consider all the qualities of the person you are with and weigh this against how disruptive the annoying behavior is to your relationship. The results of this comparison will tell you whether to put energy into making changes or simply let it go."

#27

I Present To You My BF Who Eats A Block Of Cheese Whiteout Anything While Driving

Boyfriend leaves a messy sandwich in the car's cup holder, causing frustration.

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The key to avoiding drama about infuriating habits is in the ability to listen and empathize with your partner, whether you're the offender or the annoyed one. The Gottman Institute, for example, found that 81% of men who don't listen to their partners are more likely to have their relationship end. 

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#29

Fiancé Regularly Leaves Dirty Clothes Directly Next To The Hamper

Laundry basket with clothes scattered around, capturing typical boyfriends' or husbands' infuriating habits.

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#30

The Way My Boyfriend Eats Pizza

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Jossh Nine
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1 hour ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nothing wrong with that. I've done it. If it's all for me, who cares if it's cut or not?

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So, Pandas, how furious are you after scrolling through this list? Have you got any annoying and infuriating habits of your partner to share with us? Feel free to go off in the comments. And if you want to see more moments that made people rethink their relationships, head over here and here!

#33

Imo There's Too Much "Waste" When My BF Cuts His Strawberries

Strawberries with tops left on, sliced in a frustrating manner, beside a reflective spoon.

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#34

We Had 6 Sliders Left Over From Dinner Last Night, And This Is How My Fiance Stored The Leftovers

Containers with unevenly placed sliders, highlighting infuriating habits of boyfriends or husbands.

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#36

I Bought A Spoon With A Built In Rest That Keeps The End Up Because My BF Always Makes A Mess With Them. This Is How He's Left It

A utensil left obstructively on a stovetop, representing frustrating habits by boyfriends and husbands in the kitchen.

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#38

My Husband Wanted A Bagel, Apparently

Bag of bagels with an infuriating hole in the middle, illustrating boyfriend-husband frustrations.

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#39

Where The Toilet Paper Goes vs. Where My Husband Chose To Put It

Empty toilet paper holder next to a roll on the floor, highlighting typical boyfriend or husband frustrations.

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#40

I Was Feeling Unwell, So My Partner Decided To Surprise Me With Homemade "Sushi"

A plate of sushi with unusual ingredients, humorously showcasing infuriating boyfriends' cooking attempts.

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#42

And *this * Is Why I Can't Trust My Husband To Put A Load Of Washing Going

Random items including a toothbrush, pen, and coins representing infuriating habits of boyfriends and husbands.

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#48

The Way My BF Opened A Pack Of Clorox Wipes

Clorox wipes pack left open on a kitchen counter, showcasing common habits of boyfriends and husbands.

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#50

So I Just Learned That Apparently This Is How My Husband Eats A Sandwich?! Thanks In Advance For Your Thoughts And Prayers For Our Family During This Difficult Time.

Partially eaten sandwich showcasing infuriating boyfriends or husbands' frustrating habits.

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#52

My Over 6 Ft BF Never Lowering The Showerhead For Me 4'11

Shower head installed incorrectly by boyfriend or husband, facing the ceiling on white tiled wall.

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Tyranamar Suess
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1 hour ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How would he lower it? Do you raise it. Is it awful to take a shower when the head is 2 feet above you? Seems like it'd still work that way.

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#53

My Boyfriend Going To My Female Friend's Place Multiple Times A Week Despite Him Claiming He's "At Work"

Cartoon avatar of a boyfriend on a location map, wearing headphones and a black outfit.

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#54

I'm Grateful To My Husband For Cooking Dumplings For Me When I'm Tired, But... I Usually Add 2-4 Bay Leaves, He Adds 24-∞

Pot of water with bay leaves and whole black peppercorns floating, related to infuriating boyfriends' cooking habits.

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Trista JW
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1 hour ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That seems perfectly normal for someone who either does not cook regularly, does not understand the recipe, or maybe cannot decipher how the recipe was written.

#56

The Way My BF Holds His Glass

Man holding a glass of water near his pocket, showcasing boyfriends' infuriating actions.

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Kerry Fletcher
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37 minutes ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Better his than yours. Why do you care? This is why women get hit

#57

My Boyfriend Left A Smushed Up Soap Bar And A Leaf In The Drain After Taking A Shower

Soap and leaves clogging a bathtub drain, illustrating infuriating boyfriends' habits.

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#58

My Husband Says "I Help You At Home". The Help At Home:

Stacked plates in a kitchen cabinet, illustrating infuriating boyfriend's organization habits.

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Tyranamar Suess
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1 hour ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Cleaning people do c**p like this too. I can't get anyone to understand the smaller pots go in the bigger pots. Not all haphazardly shoved together. Seems to be a hard concept to people.

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#59

How Boyfriend Has Been Eating This Brownie

Cake with uneven piece missing, showing an example of frustrating boyfriend behavior.

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#60

Are You Kidding Me? You Drove It Last Night, Even Came Back Home To Get The Gas Can For Someone That Had Ran Out Of Gas And This Is How You Leave My Car? Glad I Didn't Go Into Labor Over Night. It's A Good Thing I Love You

Car dashboard with empty fuel gauge, oil warning light, and infuriating situation for boyfriends and husbands.

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#61

I Hate When My Husband Opens The Non-Resealable Side Of The Tortillas And Puts Them In The Refrig To Harden

Upside-down tortilla package opened and left on a countertop, showcasing infuriating habits of boyfriends and husbands.

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#62

I Hate My BF

Tangled earphones on a countertop, representing infuriating boyfriend habits.

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Kerry Fletcher
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35 minutes ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Did... Did he just tangle them? Looks like they've been like that for some time due to not being used.

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#63

This Is How My Fiancé Set Up The TV

Modern TV on a wooden stand in a sparsely furnished room, reflecting the silhouette of a person taking a photo.

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#64

My Husband Swears He Doesn’t Hog The Covers And Says I Framed Him Last Night

Boyfriend wrapped snugly in a blanket, resting peacefully in bed, illustrating domestic humor.

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#65

Hubby Is Letting Our Neighbor Use Our Oven…

Roasting meat in the oven with fat dripping onto foil, highlighting infuriating kitchen habits of boyfriends and husbands.

I’m good w him borrowing the oven but thought maybe since he was cooking several things, he would use our oven for one of his less messy items. Like, something inside a pan or dish or…

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#66

How My Boyfriend Drinks A Capri Sun

Capri-Sun pouch opened incorrectly by boyfriend or husband, next to a glass of juice on a wooden table.

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Kerry Fletcher
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34 minutes ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

See women like this need to stop. He can drink it however he likes to. So can you. Who the hell cares. It doesn't affect you

#67

How My Partner Stacks The Dishes To Dry

Messy kitchen counter with dishes and pots scattered, showcasing infuriating boyfriends' husbands' habits.

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Tyranamar Suess
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1 hour ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is f e. You don't have enough room there for him to stack the dishes any better way. Get a bigger dish-rack.

#68

By Boyfriend Broke The Stove Top With A Cast-Iron Pan

Broken stovetop with exposed wiring, illustrating a frustrating household mishap by boyfriends or husbands.

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#69

The Way My Fiancé Puts Away Cereal Boxes

Messily opened cereal box, a relatable scene from infuriating boyfriends or husbands.

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#70

This Is How My Boyfriend Carries Shopping Bags

Boyfriend wearing a tote bag awkwardly as a shirt, standing outdoors holding a power drill.

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