“AITA For Telling My Sister Her Reaction To My Daughter’s Name Was Way Over The Top And Rude?”
Each of us has our own skeletons in the closet – small or big secrets with which some negative memories are associated. Moments when we felt bad, were ashamed, or when we were completely disgraced – and we want to forget these situations forever, but we can’t.
It’s quite possible that this is exactly what happened to the sister of the user u/New_Possibility_9820, the author of our story today, who was triggered completely out of the blue by the name the new mom picked for her newborn daughter. No, no bizarre language constructions – just the name Alannah. Okay, let’s get to the story itself.
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The author of the post recently gave birth to her second child, a girl named Alannah
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It was the parents’ combined decision to give their daughter this name – and everyone was happy with it. Everyone but the mom’s sister
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The woman got mad and claimed this name was ‘ugly’ and inappropriate for her niece
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However, the woman didn’t offer any reasonable grounds why she thinks so – except that the girl could get bullied over this name in future
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The mom didn’t follow the sister’s lead and decided to leave everything as is – and the sis got offended by this
So, the Original Poster (OP) says that a few weeks ago, she gave birth to her second child, a girl. The new mom agreed in advance with her husband that they would name their daughter Alannah – and solemnly announced the name to relatives and closest friends. It’s unlikely that the couple expected a violent reaction from anyone – after all, Alannah isn’t a very common name, but also not so strange, as sometimes happens.
Quite suddenly, the author’s younger sister showed a weird reaction, acting like the name Alannah meant something completely terrible to her. The woman stated that this was a completely unacceptable name and that it would be very difficult for her niece to live with it. To say that the mom was surprised is an understatement, because her sis had never exhibited such drama queen-style behavior before.
Moreover, after some time, the sister approached the original poster again and literally begged her to change her decision about the name for the girl. When the OP asked about the reasons for such conviction, the sister didn’t give any reasonable answer, but said that later, years and years later, her daughter would only thank her mom and aunt for ‘saving’ her from such a terrible name.
Well, the author, of course, didn’t intend to rename her daughter – but she sincerely tried to understand which reasons motivated her sister. According to the woman’s own words, they had been quite close since early childhood, so she’d have perhaps known about some conflicts with someone named Alannah. But the original poster remembers nothing like this.
The sister said that by refusing her advice, the OP is acting rudely and in general she should listen to her, otherwise later, when Alannah grows up, she will be bullied, and that only renaming her will save the girl from ‘torment’. In turn, the author sincerely believes that this is just a whim, and nothing more.
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We did a little research and found out that Alannah is indeed quite a rare name. So, according to datayze.com, in 2021 there were 206 baby girls named Alannah in the US. However, for example, The Bump states that this name is likely derived from British names Alana and Alan, and directly translates to ‘little child.’
According to other versions, Alannah is an anglicized version of the Gaelic word a leanbh, which in turn means ‘O child.’ Makes sense, considering that the original poster’s husband is, according to her, of Irish descent. By the way, the name Alannah is quite popular, for example, in Canada and Australia – just remember the Grammy-winning Candian singer Alannah Myles or the Australian fashion designer Alannah Hill.
In any case, Alannah is a wonderful name, and we’re sure that the girl will have a wonderful life full of good events. Commenters on the original post also believe that the author’s sister is 100% overreacting. “Alannah is a familiar name for a girl when I was growing up, and I don’t remember anyone being made fun of for it,” someone reasonably wrote.
By the way, here’s another version – the sister could have ‘picked’ this name for her future kid in advance and got upset at seeing it ‘stolen.’ “Either she had had experiences with someone who goes by This Name, or she would have liked it for her future daughter,” another person tried to guess. Yes, such situations can also lead to serious conflicts between relatives.
Regardless, most people in the comments do believe that the original poster did the right thing by refusing to follow her sister’s lead. “Tell your sister to get over herself and stay in her lane,” someone added. And do you, our dear readers, agree with this mother’s decision? Please let us know in the comments below this post.
Well Alannah isn’t that common of a name – however, it’s pretty familiar and the commenters also think it’s nice and beautiful
I named my daughter this name. She’s 33 now. No such bullying occurred. There is something else wrong here
It's a lovely name! I got teased/bullied a bit for my name (Crystal) when I was a kid in the 90s (kids are dumb) but there was an Alana in my class that same year and no one bullied her. It's a perfectly acceptable name.
Load More Replies...Ha ha! Hell no! Keep the name you choose. Your sister is delusional for demanding you believe her and do what she says no questions asked. She sounds a bit unhinged.....
The OP writes that it's out of character, so maybe it's the first sign of a mental health issue. It's certainly an odd situation.
Load More Replies...NTA. Sis has some "splain'en" (as Ricky would say). I do have a feeling it may have something to do with her boyfriend or husband, perhaps an old love. Now, we're all hanging on hooks wondering the "real" reason. Hope you find out & share it with us. Congratulations on your new addition with such a Beautiful name.
I named my daughter this name. She’s 33 now. No such bullying occurred. There is something else wrong here
It's a lovely name! I got teased/bullied a bit for my name (Crystal) when I was a kid in the 90s (kids are dumb) but there was an Alana in my class that same year and no one bullied her. It's a perfectly acceptable name.
Load More Replies...Ha ha! Hell no! Keep the name you choose. Your sister is delusional for demanding you believe her and do what she says no questions asked. She sounds a bit unhinged.....
The OP writes that it's out of character, so maybe it's the first sign of a mental health issue. It's certainly an odd situation.
Load More Replies...NTA. Sis has some "splain'en" (as Ricky would say). I do have a feeling it may have something to do with her boyfriend or husband, perhaps an old love. Now, we're all hanging on hooks wondering the "real" reason. Hope you find out & share it with us. Congratulations on your new addition with such a Beautiful name.
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