Yeah, that husband is not a good one. Tolerating racism is just as bad as racism itself, sometimes worse.

I feel so sorry for this woman. My elderly Chinese MIL being confronted with a real westerner for the first time in her life eagerly tried what ever I cooked. Obvoiusly, she didn't like it all just as I didn't like everything she made.The rest of the family also politely tried everything.

They should have welcomed learning about your culture. I’m embarrassed by her behavior. What kind of grandmother would she be? Could you leave your kids alone with her?

Time to throw the whole husband away.

I'm starting dieting and just finished a small dinner, still famished. My heart is crying revenge for those poor baos! Also, parents-in-law are bastardi, and husband is a stronzo to make her wait an hour by herself in the car.

BOTH families are racist a$$holes. MIL says Eastern food doesn't belong, then the woman says her family was against her marrying a white person not of their culture. "My mom was never happy with me marrying him in the first place and I didn't have a wedding because of it"

“My parents are racists” is NOT the kind of thing to bring up after something like this, as a kind of “Oh, by the way…” kind of statement. Why TF did he not warn her ahead of time? Is this a thing between him and his parents, where he does whatever he can just to shock them? Was the only reason he married OP nothing more than a “Gotcha!” to his racist family? Time for OP to put her foot down HARD, right on his balls, and read him the riot act. If he doesn’t toe the line, she will serve him with divorce papers. Please let her not be pregnant, because that would be the shitshow from hell with those a******s.

NTA. Your MIL is a cuñt, and your husband doesn't have bãlls.

OMG she brought soup dumplings - the most delectable thing ever and this witch wouldn't even try them? She's an idiot. Get out while you still can.

He sounds like another one of those dudes with a weird Asian fetish. Divorce - problem solved.

The husband is a spineless pvssy. A real man would have stood up for his wife instead of letting his family humiliate her like that. That her in-laws are white trash goes without saying. Sounds like it might be time to reconsider that particular relationship.

Are there really people who are eating only "their" food? Never curries, noodles, sushi, dumplings,paella, pasta...??? That family is disrespecting their daughter in law and her husband is also. Everyone has the right to be proud of who they are and where they come from. Only marry someone who appreciate you and your background.

If husband is supportive and you're happy, divorce is a ridiculous suggestion. But having racist in laws is tough, best advice is just have as little to do with them as possible. Travel during holidays or have your main even be with friends, and just do limited family time. Sounds like OPs family has similar issues. Find a community where mixing cultures is normal, and live your great life.

Oh man....I would've gobbled those right down!!!! I'm so sorry she dealt with this. That sucks. Her husband isn't very supportive and he should've said something BEFORE they even got married. I'm curious how the inlaws acted at their wedding!

There are some things you cannot be "neutral" about. If you aren't immediately and strongly against it, then you are enabling and therefore supporting it.

When people do something racist/sexist, you need to step up and make them explain themselves. Ask them why, and tell them to give you details. She should have asked the MIL if that was how she felt about her, too. Then she should have called her husband over and had the MIL explain it to him too. Then tell him if he is OK with that, then he can stay there when you go home and come get his things later.

this happened to me once. i was dating a guy and i was at his house alot. wen a jewish holiday came around i wouldnt hang out with him. my dad is jewish and my mom is catholic. wen he finally explained to his family y there were times i didnt see him his parents and siblings said he should break up with me and fine a pure catholic girl. after that he started releasing the anger he had towards his family onto me. he got very abusive cuz of it so i ended it. the reason he got so angry and i got so hurt by that is bc im adopted and have no idea wat religion i was born into and my parents said that i could choose one or both. they never forced religion upon me. he knew this. didnt mean he needed to take his anger out on me tho. i consider myself catholic but i respect my dads religion. i had a catholic ceremony for my wedding but at the reception we included jewish wedding traditions. we couldnt do the chair thing cuz it was 2020 and the venue didnt allow dancing except for the traditional ones. it was my husbands idea to include the jewish traditions and i was so grateful for that. no one should ever be judged based off of religion or race. its wrong and hurtful and unfortunately happens more often then u think

OMG she brought soup dumplings and this b*tch wouldn't serve them? She's also an idiot.

Never had xiaolongbao, but if they’re basically just dumplings (anything like pelmeņi or pierogi), then I can’t see why or how the MIL could turn them down so vehemently; rejecting it just because it’s foreign and not because it may be something you may not be used to eating or seeing as food (I would personally be hesitant to try octopus, for example, but I wouldn’t dare ask somebody to throw it out if they brought it to my house)? Come on. All cultures likely have their own equivalent of fried/boiled/cooked dough and meat.

What would happen if she had children with this dude? "This (slur) child doesn't belong in my family?"

You don't have to marry within your culture the way OP's family said. But you do have to marry someone who accepts your culture, and that includes any family members important to them. Like if he was no contact with his mom, then her racism would be less relevant.

no matter how close you are related you never treat a guest like this- even if you don't like the person or dish. It's called manners

They made her throw it out? That's cartoonishly evil. It's hard to believe there are even people that awful.

It is not just country, race, or color. My situation was just I was from outside their community. But city vs. rural. I had the same attitude thrown at me. I have been married 45 years. I was accepted by the family after the parents passed. Although, at a certain point, I quit wrenching. I looked at it as a mental illness and showed grace and mercy when needed. I began to just let them have their opinion. I am not married to them. I have a wonderful husband , wonderful life, wonderful children, a wonderful career, and a wonderful home. When I was young I wrestled with my emotions over it. At a certain point, I realized, I cannot change other people, I can only change me. I.changed my thinking. They say, the best revenge is doing well. BTW... I LOVE authentic Chinese food. I am fortunate have many Chinese friends who teach me how to cook it. Yummy!!!!

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Hahaha hahaha hahaha guess never met the family till way after wedding