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I Invited More Than 100 Lonely Strangers Into My Home, And Here’s Why
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I Invited More Than 100 Lonely Strangers Into My Home, And Here’s Why

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Statistics in Denmark show that more than 210.000 Danes often feel lonely, which is roughly 1/25 of the entire population.

I too felt lonely for many years, but that all changed December 7th 2016, when I wrote the message you see below.

“I am desperate to meet new friends. I’m lonely and going through the hardest period of my life. I’ll sit on the stairs in front of the town hall from 2pm to 8pm. I have black pants and a North Face bag on.” You can read what happened here.

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In December of 2016 I started a free nationwide peer-to-peer network in Denmark, where lonely people could find new friends and someone who they could relate to. To help new members getting settled, I would invite them into my home each week for dinner, parties or game nights.

It was very important for me, that every member had a good first time experience and would leave feeling part of a community.

In January of 2017 I decided to take a student loan so that I could throw weekly dinner parties for free. I knew most of our members were students with limited means, so I wanted to eliminate the financial aspect so that everyone could participate.

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Occasionally I would even offer members transportation money, so that they join the rest of us.

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By March of 2017 the network had grown to 10,000 members and I had made the decision to drop out of my education as a programmer.

I wanted to commit 100% to my voluntary work, but that also meant that I would not have any income, except from a few public speaking gigs.

All of these people, myself included, chose to reach out and ask for help and now none of us is alone.

I feel like this story could help and inspire a lot of people sitting at home feeling lonely. Long-term loneliness can be dangerous, it can effect both your physical and mental health, so please reach out to someone. We are not alone!

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P.S.

I am currently planning a non-commercial 20,000 km walk from Denmark to China to raise international awareness about loneliness.

It would be of great help, if you guys would like and follow my Facebook page.
The more followers, the better chances I have of finding sponsors.

I thank you for your time.

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John L
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This reminds me of the main difference between 'loneliness' and 'solitude'. One is self-imposed, and the other is not.

Corey Deame
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

THIS is the very kind of thing that will reduce gun violence, suicide rates, drug abuse, alcoholism, cutting, etc. AWESOME Stuff!

Starflower
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I saw this a few months ago. Since I am new to central Maryland, the post gave me the idea to start groups with Meetup.com . We had our first luncheon a couple weeks ago for Asperger's, and next month I will start one for fellow veterans.

Rebekah
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wish there was something like this in my area. I'd totally go.

Tess
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think this is great! Sometimes we forget that people get lonely, especially as we get older and establish our 'group', sometimes we forget that others don't have that. I moved to Canada from New Zealand and it has been challenging to find and meet new friends without the help of being at university or school, something like this would of been great!

Shruti Naik
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is an amazing project! You should come to Singapore! I think a lot of student and people of the working class need you here!

Starflower
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

@Darleen S alkalili - There may be Meetups near you. I would only go to ones that meet in a public place and in daylight. Good luck!

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Desiré Yen
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'd love to follow and like your facebook page, but I can't find it🤔

Aish Siva
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As insane and silly as this might sound, it's quite awesome! So many people are so incredibly lonely, especially when they go to a new country. All it takes is to reach out like this and it's the person on the other line's duty to respond if they want to branch out.

Aunt Messy
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Were you planning to pay back that student loan that you didn't spend on an education?

El Lie
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not every country uses the british elitary university system (i didnt know how else to call it) Rather in most developed and a lot of "under"-developed countries, education is considered a basic right and you dont pay any horrendous fees. At most some arbitrary student association or bus ticket fee

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John L
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This reminds me of the main difference between 'loneliness' and 'solitude'. One is self-imposed, and the other is not.

Corey Deame
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

THIS is the very kind of thing that will reduce gun violence, suicide rates, drug abuse, alcoholism, cutting, etc. AWESOME Stuff!

Starflower
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I saw this a few months ago. Since I am new to central Maryland, the post gave me the idea to start groups with Meetup.com . We had our first luncheon a couple weeks ago for Asperger's, and next month I will start one for fellow veterans.

Rebekah
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wish there was something like this in my area. I'd totally go.

Tess
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think this is great! Sometimes we forget that people get lonely, especially as we get older and establish our 'group', sometimes we forget that others don't have that. I moved to Canada from New Zealand and it has been challenging to find and meet new friends without the help of being at university or school, something like this would of been great!

Shruti Naik
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is an amazing project! You should come to Singapore! I think a lot of student and people of the working class need you here!

Starflower
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

@Darleen S alkalili - There may be Meetups near you. I would only go to ones that meet in a public place and in daylight. Good luck!

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Desiré Yen
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'd love to follow and like your facebook page, but I can't find it🤔

Aish Siva
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As insane and silly as this might sound, it's quite awesome! So many people are so incredibly lonely, especially when they go to a new country. All it takes is to reach out like this and it's the person on the other line's duty to respond if they want to branch out.

Aunt Messy
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Were you planning to pay back that student loan that you didn't spend on an education?

El Lie
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not every country uses the british elitary university system (i didnt know how else to call it) Rather in most developed and a lot of "under"-developed countries, education is considered a basic right and you dont pay any horrendous fees. At most some arbitrary student association or bus ticket fee

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