I Need Advice For My Trans GF

My (long distance for clarification) gf has come out as trans a while ago and is dealing with dysphoria and I'm the main person- if not only- that accepts her. Everyone else calls her by her deadname and wrong pronouns and I don't think she'll stand up for herself or anyone will change. She's a minor so can't do much to be honest but she's moving to a new school soon so she'll have to decide if she'll come out to anyone and she'll have to find new friends while she has anxiety which would make it difficult. Anyways she's bought a few feminine clothes and she seems happy with them which is amazing but I'm not sure what else to do to help her with her absolutely awful dysphoria. We want to make a list of current and future things she can do to transition and feel more comfortable and how I can help her even better too potentially. (We're both in different countries in the uk btw)

If there's any information I've forgotten to give cause I'm a wally I'll edit it in and if u feel like u need more information please tell because I'd love as much advice as possible (please if ur going to be transphobic don't reply I genuinely want to help her)

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I forgot to cut out the bit where it says I'll edit it in if u guys need more info from reddit lol I'll just reply and/or put it in the comments it idk yet

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Aroace tiger (she/they/he)

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⁠queenaliyahbug (They/Them) 1 year ago

Buy her a trans pin w/ her pronouns, and something that has her name on it so people don't deadname her and use the wrong pronouns <3

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If her new school has any sort of GSA, or equivalent, that would be an excellent way for her to find support and validation, both of which can help, at least somewhat to ease her dysphoria. Also, there are definitely ways to present female beyond just clothing, such as using makeup to adjust the way your facial structure appears, and voice training, and you can find more specific details about both of those, and other ways to help online.

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Aroace tiger (she/they/he) 1 year ago

Thanks, I didn't even think about a potential gsa!

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Start with simple changes. There are a lot of things she probably wants to change, but baby steps forward will start the momentum. The clothes are a great start. Encourage her to buy herself panties and a trainer brassiere. Find a support group or pride center to help with resources and therapy/medical referrals. Ask how she’d like you to describe her both in public and in private. On her more dysphoric days, fire up a web browser or theSims and take her virtual shopping. Remind her that because she’s a girl anything she chooses is feminine. I’m meandering but I’m still on my own journey (ftm) and I’m over 50, so best of luck to her and kudos to you.

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Aroace tiger (she/they/he) 1 year ago

Aw thanks :) <3

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If she still has short hair and wants it long. You can get clip-in hair extensions. Which is good if her parents aren't accepting. She could wear them for school and then take them out before getting home.

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