Yes. Thanks to better acceptance and awareness of the LGBTQ+ community, I didn't have to spend many years wondering who I was, like many people have had to do - I already knew that being bi was a thing, and so when I first caught feelings for a girl, I knew what that was. I am lucky that my parents are very accepting, but there is so much casual (and not so casual) homophobia out there that nobody would 'choose' to be gay, or bi, or whatever. Besides, it's not a choice, it's who you are. Anyway, sorry for the long reply, but yeah - nobody is LGBTQ+ because it's 'trendy'.

Do they even know what a trend is? Following trends should make you feel included, popular, somewhat of a conformist. Coming out often has the opposite effect: it can alienate you from the family, friends, even damaging your reputation in some places. It can cost you so much and it angers me when someone argues "they do it for the attention". Losing people around you is the opposite of getting attention.

Thank you! Your comment means a lot!

to me it seems like a trend bc now everyone i know says they are bisexual.

That is absolutely true and very well said.

@Marie-Louise Chenois When I brought up LGBTQ+ in my family as I was thinking about coming out they were all like well I believe that children don't fully know if they are until your older which is s****y because if I came out as straight they would be like fine with it and no second guesses!

@Ben Smith I came out as Bi at my school like a couple of weeks ago and I litterally know NO ONE who is doing it to be trendy! I am scared to death of my parents finding out and I have been bullyed for being bi and people have told me I'm doing it for attention because of comments like yours! While I imagine some people do it for attention your comment is a waste of time and wrong! Cause seriously are you saying everyone that comes out now is doing it for the trend what does now even mean?

I totally agree with you Marie. I was lucky enough to have (mostly) supportive parents (my mother thought I would change my mind, etc, but she is over that now) when I came out, and I’m sad that not everyone has that. Thank you for your post!

Hey Ben. I’m a (mostly) out bi person, and honestly your words hurt. I did not come out because it is trendy, but because I could no longer lie to others and myself about who I am. Being offensive is not just “understanding the obvious”. To be honest, this seems rude, ignorant, and hurtful.

well some people i know are WAAAAAYYy to yong to know if they are LGBT.

I haven't to my told anyone that I am bi. The worst part is that my siblings always joke and call me gay like its some hilarious insult. Like I have come so close to telling them that was bi amd to f-off,but I am scared what my parents will think

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Correction, it’s “trendy.”