Wife Is Tired Of Husband Going To The Gym 4 Hours A Day: “He’s Not Going To The Gym”

Physical activity can do wonders for your well-being. However, maintaining a regular workout schedule can be challenging, and Mumsnet forum user RubyRedEye feels like her husband isn’t doing a good job with it. But not because he skips leg day or anything. The problem, she believes, is that he’s become too absorbed by his fitness goals. In a candid public post, the woman explained that she thinks her partner prioritizes his lifestyle over their marriage, and asked people if she was being unreasonable in expecting more of him.

This woman believes her husband places too much importance on his workouts

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So she asked people on the internet if they agree

Wife Is Tired Of Husband Going To The Gym 4 Hours A Day: “He’s Not Going To The Gym”

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Wife Is Tired Of Husband Going To The Gym 4 Hours A Day: “He’s Not Going To The Gym”

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We should respect our partner’s sleep, but even couples who live on different schedules can still develop a joint routine

Wife Is Tired Of Husband Going To The Gym 4 Hours A Day: “He’s Not Going To The Gym”

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Building your life around unusual hours isn’t that unusual. For example, a 2017–2018 survey from the U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics reported that around 16% of American workers had work shifts outside a regular daytime schedule.

However, we have to respect our partner’s rest. Not getting enough sleep drains us in a wide variety of ways.

Science has linked inadequate slumber with several health problems, including weight gain and a weakened immune system. One analysis even linked insomnia to an increased risk of heart attack and stroke.

Sleep deprivation also makes us feel more impatient and prone to mood swings. It harms intellectual performance, academic achievement, creative pursuits, and productivity at work.

While the idea of having a routine in your relationship can sound boring, clinical psychologist Sabrina Romanoff, PsyD, who specializes in relationships, says it provides grounding, consistency, and stability.

So if two people are lacking a sense of structure in one area, establishing it elsewhere can strengthen their bond and create a sense of security.

According to Romanoff, some of the simple yet effective ways to establish it are:

taking a morning walk together;
having dinner together;
brushing your teeth together;
watching TV together;
planning a date night once a week;
trying out new things together;
traveling together.

The story has received a lot of reactions

Wife Is Tired Of Husband Going To The Gym 4 Hours A Day: “He’s Not Going To The Gym”

Some folks were suspicious of the man’s routine

Wife Is Tired Of Husband Going To The Gym 4 Hours A Day: “He’s Not Going To The Gym”

And some said the woman should give her husband a break

Wife Is Tired Of Husband Going To The Gym 4 Hours A Day: “He’s Not Going To The Gym”

Eventually, the woman behind the post made an update and said they’d talked everything out

Wife Is Tired Of Husband Going To The Gym 4 Hours A Day: “He’s Not Going To The Gym”

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People were glad to hear the couple were moving in the right direction and listening to each other

Wife Is Tired Of Husband Going To The Gym 4 Hours A Day: “He’s Not Going To The Gym”

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Joelle Jansen 1 month ago

There's updates further in the thread, they had a good conversation about it. Husband is not cheating, he's just really on a health kick and apparently has put himself on rather extreme diets before. They seem to have reached a compromise at the end where he goes to the gym less. That said, I personally would really wonder if this man needs therapy for orthorexia (having an unhealthy obsession with "becoming healthier") because like... Going to the gym for 4 hours a day out of nowhere while basically only eating protein shakes and raw eggs is not normal behavior.

22points

Laughing otter 1 month ago

I agree with you. I know from grim experience that over-exercising is addictive. At one point in my life I biked the 15 miles to get to the gym, worked out for three hours, and biked home… and still went for another 20 mile bike ride at night. Every day. I had recently gotten sober and just substituted a new addiction for the old one.

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