If this account is accurate, we still only have his side of the story. The situation might actually be something entirely different. I think the husband feels very inadequate & he's jealous of his wife & the good fortune that fell her way. Still, he's happy as long as her inheritance benefits him in the form of a new home, new cars, & new investments but he's not happy that his wife wants to use HIS income for personal items. This is a very troubling scenario because it says that the husband views his wife's money as THEIR money but the income HE makes is HIS money & only he gets to decide how to use it. His excuse for not sharing HIS money with HIS wife is that it somehow has more value because he "earned it." A dollar that's "earned" buys the exact same thing that a "free" dollar buys. What he's really saying is that he doesn't see his wife as an equal partner in their marriage. He thinks his wife & his child are HIS possessions, which they are not.

I don't understand how this guy doesn't know he's being an ungrateful a*****e. Wife lost the equivalent of a mother while possibly going through postpartum depression by the sound of it. forget that jerk. The wife should get rid of husband's car, take the retirement money, kick him out of HER house and divorce his a*s and demand child support since he's ok supporting the kid.. Then wife can use the rest of the money for herself and he can F off. She's too nice for him. Definitely YTA

I hope she leaves him. What a moron.

Easy fix just sell the car she bought him then she has money for her stuff and he can buy his own dam car

You need to read these responses several times until you really understand what a selfish, ungrateful AH you are. Then you need to grovel to your wife and ask for forgiveness. DO BETTER!

And this is a perfect example of a male who thinks he is OWED a woman and this life SHE created for THEM. He is a colossal åsshole

So she bought them a house and two cars, free and clear, along with putting away enough money to retire on, but he doesn't want to pay for her gym membership or sewing supplies? What is she sewing that it's worth the cost of a house and two cars? And he's complaining about working 36 hours a week? That's not even full time. Calm down man.

It's sad when a couple isn't working as a team. My husband & I have gone through ALOT in the decade we've been together. Jobless. Unemployment. Homeless. Lived with my dad while we got caught up. He left for trucking school. I was diagnosed with a chronic illness & can't work but powered thru cause we didn't have a choice. He started making good money. Forced me to stop working (in a good way. I needed to but I didn't want him to feel pressured to overwork himself) & since then we've adopted alot of animals & it's actually turned into a rehab/rescue center for feral cats & orphaned wild animals. I only do this. I don't make money. But it's our money that he makes. Because we are a team. We don't have kids I can't. But the animals are our kids & he loves them just as much as I do so it's him supporting his family. & I'm in the works of starting a business so he can retire in the next couple years. We are a team. 100%. If you don't act like a team. You'll never make it work.

The husband is completely out of line. Typically any money that both the husband and wife earn from work during the marriage is considered marital money in most states. However, her inheritance is NOT considered marital money unless, again depending on the state they live in, that money is combined with or used to purchase marital assets such as a house in which they cohabitate, joint retirement investments, etc. The laws are not always black and white on these matters. But laws aside, he is definitely ungrateful and selfish for refusing to acknowledge the wife's more than generous contributions to the household. She did not have to share her inheritance money, and she continues to contribute to the household by staying home to care for their child and run the household, while grieving the loss of her grandmother. He should be grateful he has no mortgage or car payments, no childcare expenses, his home is maintained and he enjoys all this while only working 36 hours a week.

I'm laughing at the fact that your mad about how you have to work 36 hour a week. You can cry about it when your pulling 80-90 hour weeks and still having no money to put away.

Sounds to me like the problem goes a lot deeper than the money. They should go to couples counseling to work things out.

He's a self-important leech.

I checked the original post on reddit and the coward didn't even reply to a single person. I really hope he either changes his attitude quickly or that the wife finds someone who appreciates her better.

You, sir, are a certified AH. I sincerely hope that your wife gets some much needed professional help along with a very good lawyer. Yes, you should try to work through it, but your attitude from what you've written, suggests that you're an ungrateful bum! You conveniently see your contribution as significant but not hers? How do you like living rent/mortgage free? How are you liking the new payment free automobile ? You don't deserve that woman. If she had decided to keep her inheritance to herself, you would be fit to be tied, wouldn't you? Get over yourself you ingrate! Look at her gym membership as part of her therapy. Lord knows she needs somewhere to get away from you! If her hair isn't done YOU will complain that she's unattractive. Examine yourself! You're a lout!

You know usually you have to see the other person's side to see when someone is being childish, jealous, and generally just throwing a temper tantrum. But here he says it straight out. "I want to be a SAHD as well but since I can't I will do whatever i can to ensure that she can't comfortably do it either". That's just plain unadulterated jealousy.

IMO based on the one-sided information provided: husband is a total jerk who shows no compassion or appreciation for his wife. He appears to be selfish, egotistical, jealous, ungrateful, uncaring and entitled. Poor husband…he has to work all of 36 hours per week. Plus he wants to be a stay-at-home dad on his wife’s inheritance. Don’t we all feel sorry for him?? NOT. I hope wife has protected herself financially from this grifter. Unless husband grows up, gets counseling, understands and accepts his responsibilities, I only envision his poor attitude will escalate over time. Wife, RUN, NOT WALK away from this immature child man. You deserve better.

Y T A! Wow! What a POS. She should divorce you and keep the house and both cars.

The only reason you even HAVE a life is because your wife's inheritance gave you one. It's a very good thing my words would be censored if I called you out. Show your wife some respect you spineless child. If your wife was the one writing I would advise she kick you out with nothing except your clothes.

Why is she still with this guy? As soon as he would've said something stupid like second hand clothes, he would've had to get out!

Talk about a "poor me!" The cost of everything she does at home (cooking, cleaning, laundry, caring for daughter) not to mention he isn't paying a mortgage or a car payment. He needs a swift kick in the pants...grow up!

What was the intention of putting this public? Was it to get another selfless man approval of his actions? In a family there is no my, yours, etc... is is all ours (everything belongs to the family) equal rights... you have the right to get a gym membership, so does she... you have the right of new clothing.. so does she... you have the rights to get your haircut.. so does she. You are a family, there is no more me.. but us.

He can pay her back for his car, personally I'd charge interest, followed by paying her back for half their house, again, with interest. By that time their kid should be done with college, which he can pay half of as well. Not to mention the fact he seems to think he's going to one day enjoy their investments, which are based on her inheritance. The fact he even thinks of himself in this selfish way when she's having depression/mental issues while being a SAHM says MORE than enough. He needs to just SAY LESS AND BE THANKFUL.

OP, f**k you from the bottom of my heart. You supportive jack as! Your wife should sell the new car she bought you and use that money and invest the rest so that she can continue to fund her hobbies. That is if she doesn't he just divorce you and take the house and the cars that she bought. Just to drive it home F**K YOU!

He is lazy, ungrateful, demeaning, cheap, insensitive, and a grown cry-baby! UNBELIEVABLE! She has done basically a lifetime of work with her inheritance. How many people can live that comfortably without the stress of paying the mortgage and a car note? Those, besides kids, are your biggest bills and he’s trippin’ about a gym membership and a clothes allowance? He sounds like a grown wuss. She should take some of that investment money and start her own stay-at-home business, make three-times what he makes in a month and make him keep working even though she could afford him to quit. I mean it’s only right if he is going by what’s yours is mine and what’s mine is mine, right? I have always said one good turn deserves another.

What's she doing having kids when she's too mentally unstable to work? Sorry, I have a problem with her.

Cheap piece of s**t