At 33 and 27 they're older? And here I am in my running shorts and a neon pink top at 39, still pulling it off.

The thing that struck me most about the story is that he considers 50k as low income.

If you're putting in all that work to do something for someone, why not do it the way they want it?

I make my own clothing and by his definition my clothes by shape and style are old lady clothes. I like a bishop sleeve and a knee length skirt but that's my style because I chose it (well actually it fits my body shape really well, so that influenced it a lot) but I don't do grown up colours my latest dress is covered in bright rainbow cats - because I want to wear crazy styles that I choose. If I had a partner trying to get me to change my style I probably would change my relationship status instead (to single). If he had been offering more conservative styles in bright colours for her to choose from it would have been ok as she chose them out of his offerings but to make a blanket decision maybe she should be either looking to buy her clothes or get rid of him . . .

What an a$$bag. But to think, the poor guy only made $50,000 a year once upon a time!

I don't think I have read one of these before where they are so close to NTA but so far the other way. If his genuine reasoning was simply because he liked making those sorts of clothes and thought she'd like them too, I'd have said NTA, though maybe a little naive. But it's clearly not that. He's fixated on income, whether his wife is "in shape" and "young" enough to pull the design off and what his rich "conservative" friends think. He also has a very warped view of what he is doing and the gratitude that he should expect from it. Her opinion and feelings are not invalidated just because he is doing the work for free.

I am 38, I guess I just go and kill myself. Heavens.

I can buy the point that single people in their early 20s often have different fashion needs than married professionals in their late 20s. The clothes you wore to raves and nightclubs at 22 might not work at 27 if your social life is now more about upscale restaurants and professional networking mixers. In other words, it's not the actual clothing issue that makes this guy the AH. It's the snobbish, classist, controlling, fat phobic, misogynist vibe that oozes through his explanation.

"Man takes control of how his wife dresses under the disguise of 'helping'." Is she buying clothes she likes only to find them altered without her knowledge? Does she not take part in the design and fitting process? I have so many questions about how this tailoring went unnoticed. Am also highly suspicious that this older man with a trophy wife is consciously making her look less appealing to other men. This is the weirdest thing I've read in a while. 😅

Dude just fell off the apple cart yesterday? It has nothing to do with who benefits and who is contributing. He just poked at the most painful spot a woman could have, at the age of 27 no less. And she's his wife...

I think he's trying to exercise control by telling us about their incomes. Definitely TAH.

The money vs the problem is stupid. Dress how you want. 33-27 years old is a jump in perceived life roles. At 27 I would drink like an animal and party until sunrise. At 32 that’s a hell no. Perception is your reality and these 2 have different perceptions. And a combined 350k a year, STFU.

Smart rational people adjust their personal style (1) to fit the occasion and (2) to fit the person’s unique body style, as it may change with age and fitness. It is foolish to follow fashion trends that do not fit the individual. Anyone criticizing the clothes without knowing more does a disservice to the man and to his wife.

People, smart, rational people, should adjust their personal fashion (1) to the situation and (2) to styles that flatter their unique body, whatever the current fashion trend for international models.

He should have said it was more professional. Few people like to hear they've gotten fatter and more boring, (though he should realize he is included in that "more boring". But he seems aware and accepting of his maturation) There's no way she'd be able to wear the clothes he describes at a 150k, professional job. Regardless, he doesn't owe her a bespoke wardrobe, so if she doesn't like what he makes, she can buy stuff. For the sake of peace, he can keep up his designs as they are, but throw in the occasional date outfit.

He's got a Madonna/Wh0re complex concerning his wife. Thinks all women are supposed to fall into the categories of 'hot and f0ckable' or 'matronly mom' and there is no in-between.

i think you would be the a*****e only if you demanded her to wear the clothes you made. if not, YNTA

Weird post. Weird couple. Why does he make clothes for her without asking her what she wants? And why is she wearing things she doesn't like? They should try 'talking to each other'. I heard htat works wonders for couples.

Poor thing trapped down with a man at the age of 20 and married already at 22 with his making all her clothes. Guess it was partially romantic. They're both daft.

Again non-issue that could have been solved if they had talked even once about it, yes they are young and no dictating what someone wears is not cool, but obviously she is doing financially very well so she can buy the clothes she wants if the ones her husband makes feel too "old lady" like. But as I said, just discuss about it.

33 and 27 and they're jointly pulling down 350K? Damn. Impressive. Anyway, come on, dude, she's 27. . . .stop trying to dress her like some frumpy old maid.

Have you seen the prairie dresses at target? Yeah, nobody wants those.

The wife must be really stupid if she needs photos to see the cloths aren't the same anymore.

I'm having trouble seeing the problem here, though i'm not at all surprised by the response to the post. So lets break it down...1) A 20 year old body, is much, much different than a 27 year old body. The older you get, the more you have to work to keep the figure you had when you were younger. 2) Yeah, salaries are kind of relevant, because it reflects what your social circle looks like. If you're making that kind of money, showing up to the office wearing something from forever 21, probably isn't going to go over real well. 3) No one should be wearing the same thing they wore as a teenager when they're closing in on 30 4) and this is the obvious one...He's making the clothing. He seems to be designing it as well. That means, he can make whatever the hell he wants. If they're earning $350k a year between the two of them, if she doesn't like what gifts she's being given, she can probably get in her car, go to literally, any clothing store, and buy whatever the hell she wants.

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Do not think he is the AH love that he takes everything into account. Not everyone pulls off neon whatever at 39. I understand why he designed what he designed.he did it with the up most respect for the woman. Her career, her role as a wife. Age and role appropiate clothes can make you years younger and feel better about yourself. No matter what age you are. As an aging woman myself i am always on the look out for cool and stylish clothing. Nothing neon pink in my war drobe.you keep doing you honey. One day she will sure love you for it.