WTF - a broken ankle IS an emergency - you want your kid to be in more pain for longer than necessary, YTA person? Husband total AH here - refusing therapy and allowing kid to suffer because of past trauma not even remotely related to this shituation. Nah, get out.

Would have physically hauled his ask out of the car and told him to "wait two minutes on the curb for all I care" and taken the kid in OUR car. The YTA people saying "call an ambulance" must not know about US ambulance fees that cause even people experiencing heart attacks to argue and demand just to be driven there. The US is not a place of ready health access. To be fair, neither is Canada due to huge wait times in ER, and not enough staff... But hey, at least our taxes pay for it when we finally DO get seen... Literal days later.

100% should leave him when he brings his family to harrass her. I hate when people start airing their business to get a justifaction and letting them bully others.

All the noise aside, I asked my retired judge neighbor how she would have responded to a divorce hearing like this. She said his condition or excuse for sitting in the car wouldn’t be heard. If he acted as guardian for that child in any way, even by sharing a home, he had a responsibility to act in that child’s best interest no matter who else was present. She said it was neglect on his part & absolutely grounds for divorce. Also, should he have any rights to custody, guardianship or visitation with the child, his actions then would greatly affect that and only then would his “condition” be considered and it wouldn’t be towards his interest. I’m paraphrasing, but she read OPs statement, edit & responses. Bottom line: OCD or trauma isn’t an excuse to neglect getting the child medical care as timely as possible.

If it’s the US, then an ambulance is expensive. But she didn’t need one, her husband was right there. But the consensus is correct - therapy and demonstrate sustained improvement or divorce.

What kind of parent are the 'yta' people supporting? I'm fairly sure OP didn't sign up for "marriage with a partner who can't/won't be in any way reliable in an emergency, ever." 10 minutes is a *long time* when very bad things are happening. It's not like there was some sort of agreement wherein OP had said "I accept that I won't be able to rely on my partner for anything, so even though we're married, it's like I'm fending for myself anyhow - and that is how I'm accepting this marriage works."

This may be an ESH moment but, I'm focused on a potential life-or-death emergency. Imagine he was just down the road on the weekend doing an errand and her son had a life-threatening emergency, or perhaps she did herself, and her son ONLY knew to call him. That 10 minutes could be life or death. He already refused professional help so she is IMO correct to divorce him.

Most people work during the day: would you rather waste time banging on a dozen doors trying to find someone who can actually help you (not a little old person or someone watching very young children), or call someone who you know can be there quickly and can actually help? I don't blame her for not reaching out to the neighbors directly.

LMAO. If you even think YTA, and can justify him literally sitting quietly in a car for ten minutes while a kid is wailing in pain inside, then you're unhinged.

My husband has a PHOBIA of bees. I am ALERGIC to bees. We drove through a swarm of bees (Arizona has killer bees) with the windows open. He immediately pulled into a store parking lot, yelled at me to get out, and drove the car behind the store to get the bees away from me. He did not let his PHOBIA out weigh my severe allergy. His first response was to protect me. He would have ran through the bees to protect me. His love outweighs his phobia. He is my hero.

Dude walked in on his ex-wife *cheating* she didn't st@b him or anything - that is *not* "trauma" - this dude has far worse neurosis and to refuse to attempt any help for this issue, is entirely on him and his *choice* to live with his issue. Everyone is jumping on the wrong fact - this time it was a kid with a broken ankle, what if next time it's a head injury? Broken back? Choking incident? And this neurotic idiot is still *counting down 10 whole minutes* - I'm sorry, I'm all for supporting mental health issues, but for crying out loud if you don't *try* to help yourself then no one else *can* help

Confused by the comments saying she should have called an ambulance. Do ambulance really come for a broken ankle? I really doubt that. Ambulances aren't taxis to the hospital, they are hospitals on wheels. Meant to keep you alive on the way to the hospital. They need to keep those available for people in serious danger, they can't just send those out for anyone who doesn't have a ride.

She is definitely an "a$$hole" yet she should absolutely get a divorce. Her husband deserves to be married to a sane, empathetic, caring person.

Gotta love the YTA that can't seem to comprehend that OP was waiting FOR THE CAR Not every family has more than one car, and in the US not every family can afford several thousand dollars to take an ambulance

I have debilitating PTSD that causes me some major compulsions and behavioural issues, but I have always been able to shove them back when an emergency arises. I might break down afterward, but I can override the internal triggers when the adrenaline hits. That's what it's for. If this guy is functional enough to hold down a job and live a relatively normal life, there's no way his PTSD is so bad that he's literally unable to get out of the car to help with an injured child. The condition doesn't work like that. Husband is selfish AF, and he's weaponized his "trauma" as a power move to make others dance to his tune and prove his own importance. He wanted his wife to show that she cared more about his feelings than her son's wellbeing. When one has PTSD, it is that person's responsibility to get the treatment they need to function. Fine if he likes 10 minutes in the car on a regular day to unwind before coming into the house. Not when someone needs a ride to the hospital.

I'm with the person up above who stated the OP should have called a damn UBER instead of making her baby wait in f*****g pain for her looser husband to come home. I feel for the kid cause he's got two dipshits in his life. Well, one now that his dingleberry mother has divorced the nutjob. Oh, for those of you who are SJW's I have mental health issues, so don't bother coming for me.

All the people complaining about the husband... Once you get locked into PTSD behavior it's incredibly difficult to break. Simply "getting help/treatment" usually isn't possible without intense and incredibly difficult work and often seeking that help is a MASSIVE hurdle in the first place. People without the disorder are incapable of understanding, but these behaviors are pretty much permanently locked in. It really isn't possible to choose to do what other people want. Arguing about it will only make the problem worse and further cement the behavior. It takes a great deal of time and effort to crack that, and his partner obviously doesn't understand or care about his reality