Woman Grows Suspicious After Multiple Close Calls With Sister-In-Law That Seem Too Coincidental
Family gatherings are supposed to be full of laughter, shared meals, and maybe a little bit of lighthearted bickering. But what happens when that bickering feels more like a psychological thriller in real life?
Today’s Original Poster (OP) found herself wondering if her sister-in-law was trying to intentionally harm her after a series of events that took place while she was visiting her in-laws with her husband.
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While one or two incidents could be written off as bad luck, it could be said that a pattern occurs after three times and more
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The author visited her parents-in-law at their lake house with her husband, and her sister-in-law was also present
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However, certain things took place that were quite a threat to her life, and her sister-in-law was in the center of all those events
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Netizens insisted that she stop laughing things off and that she should rather be very careful around her sister-in-law
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In an update, the author mentioned that she discussed her fears with her husband, who believed her and was upset about the things that happened
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Her husband also revealed that his sister’s antics weren’t news to him as she had a history of getting on people’s nerves
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However, the author has decided to keep her distance despite her sincere desire to have a good relationship with her sister-in-law
The OP explained that her relationship with her husband’s younger sister has always been… let’s say, complicated. She noticed some passive-aggression from the sister’s side while she and her husband were still dating, and despite even making her one of her bridesmaids, she had been difficult on the wedding day. Despite their rocky history, the OP had always tried to be cordial.
The OP and her husband had gone to visit the husband’s family at their lakeside home, where the sister was also staying for the summer. However, things took a dark turn at the lake when the sister-in-law nearly suffocated her during a game of chicken fight. Though she managed to break free, the sister-in-law offered no apology, only a strange, dismissive chuckle.
Hoping for a bonding experience, the OP also accepted an invitation for a jet ski ride. But instead of a fun outing, she was subjected to reckless, high-speed maneuvers that left her clinging for dear life. And if that wasn’t concerning enough, she later dangerously sped toward the OP in the water, splashing her much closer than she had with anyone else, all while laughing it off.
The final, and perhaps most disturbing incident came at dinner. The OP, who has a severe dairy allergy, was assured by her sister-in-law that the dish she prepared was safe to eat. However, soon after consuming it, she became really sick, only to find out that butter had been added at the last minute.
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According to Calm, marriage isn’t just about partnering with your partner, it also means forming a relationship with their family, which can sometimes be challenging. They acknowledge that while navigating a spouse’s family dynamics is a learning process, dealing with toxic in-laws can quickly become overwhelming.
WebMD defines toxic behavior as a pattern of disregarding others’ feelings, violating boundaries, refusing to compromise, and manipulating situations for control. Toxic individuals often avoid taking responsibility, rarely apologize, and can be overly critical or demanding.
To handle such behavior, they advise involving your partner in setting firm boundaries, choosing battles wisely to avoid unnecessary conflict, and keeping a healthy distance when needed.
Assertive communication can also be effective, as recommended by Simply Psychology, as it allows individuals to express their thoughts, feelings, and needs in a direct, respectful, and confident manner. It helps maintain boundaries while respecting everyone’s rights.
To handle difficult situations, they highlight that it’s important to first identify and describe the problem objectively, then express concerns and emotions clearly. Finally, they suggest asking the other person for their perspective and seeking reasonable changes.
Netizens insisted that the OP stop making excuses for her sister-in-law’s behavior and start taking action to protect herself. They strongly advised taking a more assertive approach, such as recording conversations with the sister to address the problematic incidents directly. Others expressed their concern for her safety and urged her to avoid any further situations where she could be alone with her sister-in-law.
How would you approach a conversation with someone who repeatedly puts you in dangerous situations like this? We would love to hear your thoughts!
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I would have punched her lights out during the "chicken" incident. I sure wouldn't have gotten on a Sea-Doo with her.
You and me both. People like that need to learn a hard lesson sometimes
Load More Replies...F*****g enabler family. Who cares about her intentions if she risks people's lives? Time to let her know that if she ever endangers anyone or anything again she's removed from the family for good. Nobody has to be in danger just to coddle someone who doesn't seek more help for their mental issue when the current help isn't working.
I hope OP is *never* around that see-you-next-tuesday again - E-V-E-R. And if OP gets preg? Hire security guards!
I know the word gets thrown around a lot, but the sister genuinely sounds like a sociopath
Best to stay far away from her. It doesn't matter if this is "just her personality" or if she has a true problem with you. Initially I would agree with brushing it off / not reacting because it would seem that she wants attention. But this is not-so-passive aggression and needs to be called out. Loudly. EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. For example : "What the he11 are you doing holding me under water for so long?" Or "You know I'm allergic to dairy and you forgot to tell me there was butter in this? That's a load of bull. You just wanted to see me get sick." Again, very loudly so everyone in the family knows every time the brat acts out against you.
Sounds like brother should have let his sister get her butt whooped back in school. It would have had a high chance of straighting her out.
My thoughts exactly. Had she had her assed whupped for doing her usual sociopathic s**t all those years ago, it might just have given her a good solid lesson in consequences.
Load More Replies...I noticed that OP'S FIL chewed the little psychopath out about driving the seadoo too close to her brother. Perhaps HE (via OP'S husband) should be made aware of the situation. The more (responsible) family members are made aware of the goings-on, the more likely Psycho-in Law will be called out and held accountable. Just a thought.
Basically risking your life and bullying you because apparently you're shy. I am glad the husband on your side but there seems to be a lot of excuses made for her behaviour and someone needs to talk to her about what she did during that weekend. Like she could have literally killed op multiple times during that weekend. Drowning her during the chicken fight,not calculating her distance properly on the sea doo thing and suffocating her with butter. Jesus
It’s most alarming that OP seems to passively give this weirdo the benefit of the doubt.
I would also be furious with my husband. They KNEW she had a severe personality disorder. How about giving your wife a heads up instead of keeping it a family secret.
OPs husband should have told her about his sister's "mental health issues". It actually sounds like she has antisocial personality disorder. OPs SIL is an actual psychopath.
My sister in law is currently stabbing me with a pitchfork…I asked her, “Do you…possibly…that you might stop that, soonish…it’s starting to get a little achey, and I appear to be losing quite a lot of blood…AITA?”
Just wow! Reminds me of the little girl in the movie The Bad Seed!
To quote Ian Fleming - "Once is happenstance, twice is a coincidence, but three times is enemy action."
Are you kidding me? I would grab her by the collar and tell this monster to back off or else. No one has stood up to her in the family obviously. Tell her that you have had enough of this behavior and that you'll be watching her very closely from now on and keep your cell phone on record when it's just the two of you. Little punk needs an adjustment.
Oh... NO... SIL would be getting one hell of a throw down from a former Correctional officer. And no, she wouldn't make it too far!
She is going to k**l you and it will be zn accident!! This woman is certifiable!
I would have pushed her into the water and held her down to give her a taste of her own medicine. I rarely get mad... but when I am I go tit for tat.
Yeah, maybe an 'accident' or testing your limits, but it only takes ONE misstep (or the stars to align just right; however you look at it) for someone to die--and you can't take that back. I feel for the OP; I have a sister with serious a*******n issues that I WILL NOT be alone with under any circumstances (5 yrs now), especially not after we think she tried to poison another sister AND alluded to killing a sister in the woods while they were on a hike...OP needs to STEER CLEAR & give up trying to make friends with her--the mental issues are the SILs, not the OPs
The writer is a coward and needs to learn to stand up for herself. I would have punched the SIL a few times very hard after she tried to drown me! You need to stand up for yourself!
I think the writer is a door mat and lets people walk over her way too much. You’re a coward and you need to learn to stand up for yourself. After the “chicken” incident, I would have punched her very, very hard!
The chicken episode was not pushing boundaries - it was attempted murder. With the rice, sounds like SIL is a very good actress - clearly it was intentional
I would have punched her lights out during the "chicken" incident. I sure wouldn't have gotten on a Sea-Doo with her.
You and me both. People like that need to learn a hard lesson sometimes
Load More Replies...F*****g enabler family. Who cares about her intentions if she risks people's lives? Time to let her know that if she ever endangers anyone or anything again she's removed from the family for good. Nobody has to be in danger just to coddle someone who doesn't seek more help for their mental issue when the current help isn't working.
I hope OP is *never* around that see-you-next-tuesday again - E-V-E-R. And if OP gets preg? Hire security guards!
I know the word gets thrown around a lot, but the sister genuinely sounds like a sociopath
Best to stay far away from her. It doesn't matter if this is "just her personality" or if she has a true problem with you. Initially I would agree with brushing it off / not reacting because it would seem that she wants attention. But this is not-so-passive aggression and needs to be called out. Loudly. EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. For example : "What the he11 are you doing holding me under water for so long?" Or "You know I'm allergic to dairy and you forgot to tell me there was butter in this? That's a load of bull. You just wanted to see me get sick." Again, very loudly so everyone in the family knows every time the brat acts out against you.
Sounds like brother should have let his sister get her butt whooped back in school. It would have had a high chance of straighting her out.
My thoughts exactly. Had she had her assed whupped for doing her usual sociopathic s**t all those years ago, it might just have given her a good solid lesson in consequences.
Load More Replies...I noticed that OP'S FIL chewed the little psychopath out about driving the seadoo too close to her brother. Perhaps HE (via OP'S husband) should be made aware of the situation. The more (responsible) family members are made aware of the goings-on, the more likely Psycho-in Law will be called out and held accountable. Just a thought.
Basically risking your life and bullying you because apparently you're shy. I am glad the husband on your side but there seems to be a lot of excuses made for her behaviour and someone needs to talk to her about what she did during that weekend. Like she could have literally killed op multiple times during that weekend. Drowning her during the chicken fight,not calculating her distance properly on the sea doo thing and suffocating her with butter. Jesus
It’s most alarming that OP seems to passively give this weirdo the benefit of the doubt.
I would also be furious with my husband. They KNEW she had a severe personality disorder. How about giving your wife a heads up instead of keeping it a family secret.
OPs husband should have told her about his sister's "mental health issues". It actually sounds like she has antisocial personality disorder. OPs SIL is an actual psychopath.
My sister in law is currently stabbing me with a pitchfork…I asked her, “Do you…possibly…that you might stop that, soonish…it’s starting to get a little achey, and I appear to be losing quite a lot of blood…AITA?”
Just wow! Reminds me of the little girl in the movie The Bad Seed!
To quote Ian Fleming - "Once is happenstance, twice is a coincidence, but three times is enemy action."
Are you kidding me? I would grab her by the collar and tell this monster to back off or else. No one has stood up to her in the family obviously. Tell her that you have had enough of this behavior and that you'll be watching her very closely from now on and keep your cell phone on record when it's just the two of you. Little punk needs an adjustment.
Oh... NO... SIL would be getting one hell of a throw down from a former Correctional officer. And no, she wouldn't make it too far!
She is going to k**l you and it will be zn accident!! This woman is certifiable!
I would have pushed her into the water and held her down to give her a taste of her own medicine. I rarely get mad... but when I am I go tit for tat.
Yeah, maybe an 'accident' or testing your limits, but it only takes ONE misstep (or the stars to align just right; however you look at it) for someone to die--and you can't take that back. I feel for the OP; I have a sister with serious a*******n issues that I WILL NOT be alone with under any circumstances (5 yrs now), especially not after we think she tried to poison another sister AND alluded to killing a sister in the woods while they were on a hike...OP needs to STEER CLEAR & give up trying to make friends with her--the mental issues are the SILs, not the OPs
The writer is a coward and needs to learn to stand up for herself. I would have punched the SIL a few times very hard after she tried to drown me! You need to stand up for yourself!
I think the writer is a door mat and lets people walk over her way too much. You’re a coward and you need to learn to stand up for yourself. After the “chicken” incident, I would have punched her very, very hard!
The chicken episode was not pushing boundaries - it was attempted murder. With the rice, sounds like SIL is a very good actress - clearly it was intentional











































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