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Mom Asks Husband To Watch Kids, Realizes How Exhausted And Angry She Is After His Reaction
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Mom Asks Husband To Watch Kids, Realizes How Exhausted And Angry She Is After His Reaction

Mom Asks Husband To Watch Kids, Realizes How Exhausted And Angry She Is After His Reaction“AITA For Not Respecting My Husband’s Need For A Break?”“Are You Not Her Dad?”: Wife Loses It After Husband Refuses To Watch “Her” KidsMom Asks Husband To Watch The Kids While She's At The DMV, He Finds It OutrageousHuge Argument Ensues After Husband Throws A Tantrum Because He Has To Watch The KidsPeople Shame Useless Father For Acting Like Watching His Kids Is The End Of The WorldDad Throws A Tantrum Over Wife Leaving The Kids With HimHusband Is Livid Wife Dared To Ask Him To Watch The Kids On His Day Off, Wife Claps Back“Are You Not Her Dad?”: Husband Under Fire For Saying Looking After Kids Is “An Inconvenience”
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A day off from work is for relaxing so you can come into work the next day refreshed and energized. At least, that’s what it is when you don’t have kids. Children change the game completely: you can forget about “me time” as the time at work is probably the only kid-free hours a day you’ll get.

But what about stay-at-home parents? Do they get a day off? This is the argument this mom made when she asked her husband to watch their kids as she ran an errand. The husband started whining about how he wanted his day off to be kid-free, prompting the wife to explode with previously unexpressed resentment. After many accusations and some yelling, the mother started wondering if she was the jerk in this situation. So, she decided to consult with the Internet.

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    A couple got into a fight when a stay-at-home mom asked her husband to watch the kids while she ran an errand

    The husband wanted to take the time to relax, but the wife couldn’t take the children with her

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    The mother summed up the situation in two sentences

    She also gave more information about her husband’s work conditions

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    Working parents may not think so, but being a stay-at-home parent is a full-time job
    Mom Asks Husband To Watch Kids, Realizes How Exhausted And Angry She Is After His Reaction

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    Looking after two small children is hard, and the father in this story seems to acknowledge that. The problem perhaps stems from the fact that the father thinks he’s entitled to a day’s rest from work, while the wife is not.

    Clinical Psychologist Samantha Rodman Whiten explains how stay-at-home parents usually spend their day and why it’s not as easy as working parents imagine. Some people think that childcare takes minimal effort: you feed them, you watch that they don’t crack their heads, and you put them to sleep.

    In reality, Rodman Whiten writes that today’s parents have to do a lot more. They have to make sure the kids eat healthy and limit their screen time. They have to play with the kids, but the games have to be engaging and help with their development. That’s why stay-at-home parents might not have the time to vacuum, clean up, and make three meals a day.

    Stay-at-home-parents (who are, let’s face it, mostly women) also have to deal with social isolation. Research shows that parents who stay home to care for children are at higher risk of poorer physical and mental health. They’re also more prone to mental health issues such as anxiety and depression.

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    A 2012 Gallup poll revealed that stay-at-home mothers who don’t work at all report feeling sadness or anger. Employed moms, in turn, are practically as well-off emotionally as working women who do not have children.

    Rodman Whiten also points out how tiring spending all day caring for children can be. “Work is intellectually challenging and not physical,” she writes. “SAHMing is the reverse, and [it] is exhausting as a result.”

    So it’s understandable that the stay-at-home parent might need a break. It seems that the mother in this story doesn’t get time off being a SAHM. And if the father really wanted a break from the kids, the parents could’ve considered leaving the kids with another family member or hiring a nanny for the day.

    Having one parent stay at home can positively benefit the children
    Mom Asks Husband To Watch Kids, Realizes How Exhausted And Angry She Is After His Reaction

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    Not all parents have the luxury to stay at home and take care of their kids, but research shows that having a stay-at-home parent helps the child’s development. A 2014 study showed that the benefits of having one parent at home can help a child’s education up to high school. Children aged 6 and 7, however, saw the biggest advantages.

    When a child spends their preschool years at home rather than in a kindergarten, they tend to have fewer behavioral problems. Research shows that kids feel more stressed when they’re in a daycare setting. Staying at home and having a parent take care of them reduces that stress.

    Many parents choose to be a SAHM or a SAHD so they can have better control over their child’s upbringing. They want their children to intentionally spend more time with family members. The Pew Research Center found that SAHMs spend 18 hours a week with their children, while working moms spend 11.

    Taking care of a child at home can also be cheaper than daycare. The average weekly daycare cost in the U.S. in 2024 is reportedly $321. And 54% of parents said that waitlists for daycare are becoming longer.

    Whatever the parents decide, they should make this decision together and respect their roles. Parents are, after all, a team, and they should act like one, especially where their children are concerned.

    People said the mom was not the bad guy and called out the husband’s entitled behavior

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    Kornelija Viečaitė

    Kornelija Viečaitė

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    Hi there, fellow pandas! As a person (over)educated both in social sciences and literature, I'm most interested in how we connect and behave online (and sometimes in real life too.) The human experience is weird, so I try my best to put its peculiarities in writing. As a person who grew up chronically online, I now try to marry two sides of myself: the one who knows too much about MySpace, and the one who can't settle and needs to see every corner of the world.

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    Kornelija Viečaitė

    Kornelija Viečaitė

    Writer, BoredPanda staff

    Hi there, fellow pandas! As a person (over)educated both in social sciences and literature, I'm most interested in how we connect and behave online (and sometimes in real life too.) The human experience is weird, so I try my best to put its peculiarities in writing. As a person who grew up chronically online, I now try to marry two sides of myself: the one who knows too much about MySpace, and the one who can't settle and needs to see every corner of the world.

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    Viktorija Ošikaitė

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    I'm a visual editor here at Bored Panda and I enjoy a good laugh. My work ranges from serious topics related to toxic work environments and relationship difficulties to humorous articles about online shopping fails and introvert memes. When I'm not at my work desk, checking if every single pixel is in the right place, I usually spend my free time playing board games, taking pictures, and watching documentaries

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    Viktorija Ošikaitė

    Viktorija Ošikaitė

    Author, BoredPanda staff

    I'm a visual editor here at Bored Panda and I enjoy a good laugh. My work ranges from serious topics related to toxic work environments and relationship difficulties to humorous articles about online shopping fails and introvert memes. When I'm not at my work desk, checking if every single pixel is in the right place, I usually spend my free time playing board games, taking pictures, and watching documentaries

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    Tamra
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    7 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is a major reason women divorce their husbands. Not only is she raising children alone, but she's also having to navigate his pissy moods, his control of the only family car, his complete and utter lack of respect for her, and apparent inability to be a semi-decent parent. Men (not all of you): if you go to work and have a stay-at-home wife, this DOES NOT MEAN you have zero obligation to raise the kids you helped to spawn! It does not mean you get to sit on your a*s on your days off! Kids are *work*, so don't think you blessed your wife with a gift that she's solely responsible for. Your job didn't end when the sperm fertilized the egg.

    Hphizzle
    Community Member
    7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Two ways (maybe 3) to sort this. 1) Pack up, head out with the girls for one of his long weekends. 2) Marriage counseling. 3) You’re 26, do you really want a lifetime of single parenthood (yes, you’re a single parent at this point) while living with someone who values you so little?

    BoredPossum
    Community Member
    7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's a sad excuse for a father. If he works all day, he should be happy to finally get some time with his kids. I had a work from home job when my offspring were young just to be the one to care for said offspring, because my wife had a better career. And, it was all worth it, so enriching and I have a fantastic connection to my offspring now.

    Marnie
    Community Member
    7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I agree, except how could you work while also taking care of the kids?

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    Tamra
    Community Member
    7 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is a major reason women divorce their husbands. Not only is she raising children alone, but she's also having to navigate his pissy moods, his control of the only family car, his complete and utter lack of respect for her, and apparent inability to be a semi-decent parent. Men (not all of you): if you go to work and have a stay-at-home wife, this DOES NOT MEAN you have zero obligation to raise the kids you helped to spawn! It does not mean you get to sit on your a*s on your days off! Kids are *work*, so don't think you blessed your wife with a gift that she's solely responsible for. Your job didn't end when the sperm fertilized the egg.

    Hphizzle
    Community Member
    7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Two ways (maybe 3) to sort this. 1) Pack up, head out with the girls for one of his long weekends. 2) Marriage counseling. 3) You’re 26, do you really want a lifetime of single parenthood (yes, you’re a single parent at this point) while living with someone who values you so little?

    BoredPossum
    Community Member
    7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's a sad excuse for a father. If he works all day, he should be happy to finally get some time with his kids. I had a work from home job when my offspring were young just to be the one to care for said offspring, because my wife had a better career. And, it was all worth it, so enriching and I have a fantastic connection to my offspring now.

    Marnie
    Community Member
    7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I agree, except how could you work while also taking care of the kids?

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