Y’all need some marriage counseling. Your communication skills are sorely lacking. ESH

It was her choice absolutely but how have they never talked about this? That feels like a very strange omission.

This was a poor communication issue. She should have told him way in advance and not blindsided him like that.

I wouldn't want anyone to see me giving birth, that's valid but he should have been told beforehand

I can't believe all those saying OP is in the wrong on this. Unless the mother is sure the father will be useless in the birthing process and will just cause more stress the father has a RIGHT to be present at their child's birth. This is a once in a lifetime, miraculous experience and to deny that to a father just because you "don't want him to see you like. this" is just so wrong. Particularly since she didn't have a problem with her sister and mother being there. So unless she expected him to be an utter jerk (which there is no reason to assume in this post) she had no right to do this. Most fathers get to "catch" the baby during a delivery. They are literally the first person to hold the child. She denied him that experience with no good reason that we know of. How cruel.

Yet another occasion where the father is devalued.

I think she was cruel and selfish not letting him be there when he so clearly wanted to be. My husband got to cut both of his kid's umbilical cords. Still has the scissors from the second one too.

Lack of communication was/is the root of all this. Wife absolutely should have informed husband that she had no intention of letting him into the delivery room, and husband should have asked. ESH.

NAH but communication could've been better. He was within his rights to leave, and she likely read posts where fathers were unable to be intimate with mothers after seeing a natural birth

I know a couple who went through something similar when their daughter was born. He never got to feel the baby kick, and pretty much got left out of the whole process. Things were not the same between them ever since. In OP'S case, he was done dirty by his wife. By circumventing any possibility of a discussion, she literally treated him like a sperm donor and an inconvenience. Maybe she should just pay him his stud fee and leave. NTA.

NTA. You are married. You are not separated. You had made a plan together to pack and call her mother and sister. In this case, there would be no reason "for the father to ask if it was ok to be in the delivery room." If she felt differently, she should have brought it up earlier. To everyone saying, "what if something went wrong or she died?" Well he still wouldn't have been let in unless right before she passed out she instructed him to be brought back and in that emergency situation, they wouldn't bring him back anyway. If she felt the need to exclude him completely then no, he doesn't need to sit there just to be the taxi service home. Everyone giving her a pass because of her hormones is delusional. That is no excuse for this situation. Sadly, I think getting a paternity test is a good call. I also doubt that you can have a good relationship with her after this. Once trust has been broken to this extent, it's hard to get it back. Now the question is, "Do you even want to try?"

Maybe she read an article about that weird phenomenon where some men can't find their wife sexually attractive after watching them give birth? Still something that should have been discussed and op should have stayed there for his baby ESH

MY husband stayed in hospital 'doing nothing' with me for DAYS while I gave birth. OK I didn't chuck him out of the L&D Room, but even if I had i think he would have fought it, properly. Its so weird she didnt want him there and I can agree he probably felt like 'whats the point i'll go home' but dont do that. It's weird this was of the cuff, there has to be more to this.

YTA, should have discussed things, but he only suspects she decided that before hand, and in the end it is HER DECISION. A lot of you people seem to think that just because a woman is giving birth that HER BODY is fair game to anyone and everyone. It's a huge problem and shows how much further we still need to go. A woman does not loose her autonomy just because she marries a man, a woman does not loose her autonomy just because she sleeps with a man, and a woman does not lose her autonomy just because she's giving birth to a man's child. It's his CHILD, and she didn't deny him even a second of seeing his son after he was born, the man did that. The man went home because he didn't get to make the decision over his WIFE'S body. The child would have been presented to him as SOON as he came into this world, the man is bitter, and so many people are feeding his ego.

ESH. Yes, she absolutely should have told him in advance she didn't want him in the room. But no, he absolutely should not have stormed off and not been there when she got out of delivery. He was being a petty, whiny child. Both suck.

I'm a very low-key person. When we had our 1st my husband & I went to Lamaze classes & had a birth plan with props & such. During labor, I threatened to kick the nurse's @$$ & kick the doctor in the nutz. I grabbed the focal point my husband was holding & threw it at another nurse, and told my husband if he tried to massage my back, I'd cut his hands off. So yeah, labor can cause temporary insanity.

NTA.... so shocked thay people think you should wait over 15hours in a waiting room while that is going on while getting minimal information.. I doubt any of them would have waited ...

I agree with jadesisto's response above.