Anyone who puts the sex of their child above their partner or the health of Mum and the children has got their priorities properly twisted. I’m a Dad of one, a daughter, we didn’t know her sex until she was born, we wanted one of the few surprises left in this world to be ours alone and one that was a beautiful moment. She is the best thing I’ve ever experienced and I’d like the world to know that as a Dad I wanted a healthy baby and a healthy Mum, I was blessed with both. The whole ‘Dad wants a son’ thing is just some bizarre macho thing or a bloke who doesn’t want to learn how to raise a daughter.

That kind of explosive reaction and those kinds of vile things to say lead me to believe things were never as perfect as she made them out to be. I was so shocked to read about the husband's reaction at the gender reveal after her description of their relationship. What an absolute 180... I'm so, so relieved that she left him.

One of the few times I'm impressed with a church, fantastic they are going to support and gave the husband a harsh time. He is the absolute worst.

I just find myself thinking of all the women out there who have awful partners but don't have relatives to lean on.

I am a father of two boys. My wife and I wanted only two kids. When we knew that our second kid was also boy, my wife looked at me anxiously and said “are you disappointed? I know you wanted a girl”. I answered “No, that’s fine”. And it was. My two sons cannot be more different. The oldest, who is 10, reads lots of books, plays video games, hates sports, plays with dolls. Most of his friends are girls. He is a very sensitive and caring child. He told me “I hope I’ll be rich when I grow up so I can build you a laboratory with lots of 3D printers”. The youngest, who is 7, is the stereotype of the boy. He plays rugby. And soccer. He gets crazy when he cannot get outside and run or play with a ball. All his friends are male and play soccer. Yesterday he told me “I can’t wait to have hair on my chest and hit on girls”. I have the same pleasure talking about videogames with my oldest and going for a bike ride with my youngest. I feel blessed. I have everything.

He is toxic, misogynistic and has some anger management issues. I wonder how he was able to hide this all this time? But good thing he goes to church every sunday ...

I’ve heard so many people say they want their child to be a boy or a girl. If you actually have a preference and will be disappointed that the child is not the gender you wanted, you’re just a bad person and need to do some serious introspection. To get violent and say that you won’t love your children because they are the “wrong” gender just makes you a monster that people need to stay far away from until you completely change yourself, if that ever happens.

I don’t fry often at BP stories but this one made me shed a few tears 😔 people can be so cruel to each other for the stupidest reasons. I’m so happy OP found a happy place to be with bro and BIL, that kindness is what made me cry!

But this happens... I feel so sorry to read this 😞... Had a similar situation here. Not the same, but the part of that all the love for him left your body when he said it cost him a son, when it was you who carried him and bright him... I had a girl, we discovered she didn't have a heartbeat and we had to go through intervention. He took her and threw her down the toilet. I couldn't say goodbye or see her. All the love left. But you know sis... better soon than later.

SheamusFanFrom1987 philosophy on starting a family: Boy or girl, he or she carries a part of me and the Mrs within them, hence it is our responsibility to care for and provide them with love until the day they are mature enough to live their own lives. Even then, we will probably never stop caring. That's not to say I'm married or seeing anyone but the philosophy still stands: no matter the gender, that's still my baby no matter his or her age and I will do what I can to make sure he or she is loved before my time on this mortal coil is up. OP and her 3 girls deserve better than that husband. Until he learns that ultimately gender doesn't matter, he will never be more than a belligerent little boy who failed to get his way. Believe me, as a guy from a Chinese background, they are way too insistent on the importance of sons carrying the family name that at times, I feel like telling them I'd happily take a different name just to stop this nonsense -_-"

No matter how stubborn some people want to be about it, gender is a social construct and it is NOT destiny. This is especially true for stereotypical gender behavior such as masculine or feminine assigned activities. Which is why I’m already skeptical of the miso-misandrist practice of “gender reveal” parties & worry for the children who are products of them. Here’s a great a take it all - https://www.instagram.com/reel/CwyvfBeOJCI/?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==

Which idiot knows the gender of the kids is a Big Deal for Fragile Ego Man, yet thinks it's a good idea to keep it secret and publicly reveal it? What could possibly go wrong, except for... this? And as a biologist, "wanting sons is natural for men" --- that's "natural" as in "expected", and only for indoctrinated men (&women); it's not "natural" in any natural sense whatsoever.

The husband is clearly screwed up over the death of their son but that is no excuse to treat his wife with such cruelty. Thank goodness her brother and bil have so generously stepped in and that she has support from a loving church family as well.

I wouldn't trust the husband's mother as far as I could throw her ...she raised this monster.

These very public gender reveals give make my stomach queasy. I actually fear for the lives of the mother and baby(s).

Brother and BIL are heroes!

Those mothers are disgusting. The only good parent here is OP.

This one feels too nicely wrapped to be real. Also a couple issues with the setup. You lose the first child, which increases the chances of complications in future pregnancies no? And then when you find out you're having triplets (which is already a high-risk pregnancy) you decide to have a baby shower / gender reveal party anyway? Also baby shower before the gender reveal party? Seems like anyone who cares enough to have a gender reveal probably wouldn't be excited about gender-neutral / unisex clothing/toys/etc so I can't imagine how their friends and family navigated picking out gifts before the sex was revealed. I admit it's possible I'm just being extra critical, but a lot of the time when I read these posts I look for stuff that doesn't seem right and this one just gives me that sort of feeling.

First of all, you can divorce him for whatever reason you like. He's shown his true self, that's all I need.

The first time I read that title I thought it meant that all three babies "shot out pink" and I was so concerned

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Wonder if he can have his next wife checked for the "I can only have boys" gene?

I hope this guy doesn't own a gun. He seems like the type.

Hope child support leaves him enough for a studio apartment, and lots of rice and beans. Or maybe he'll move in with mommy.

I know this is old, but I really wish she would update us!

My parents married in the early 50s and times were different then. Still, it turned out my father had never wanted girls, only a son. He was never like a father to us girls, only to his son. I'm sure, if your husband gets that emotional and enraged, life with him around will be hell for your daughters. Run. I'm sure there will be people around you who will support you, anyway it can't be worse than a marriage without love

Her BIL shouldn’t pay for her hub’s therapy. Hub must pay for his own, else it’ll mean nothing to him. He’ll have No skin in that game, so to speak.

Glad you have your brother and BIL. Let's hope people stop these gender reveal parties. The reveal should happen when the babies make their appearance. Best of luck to you.

Yeah. I don't know if I believe this isn't a fake sorry.

Yikes. Hopefully that awful man keeps a continent of distance while the mother-to-be and her family of Brother, BIL, Mother of BIL, niece, and the forthcoming babies get to live in familial peace. Also, props to the congregation for having her back.

Nowhere have I read anything in this article about child support/alimony. We hear far too many stories on the internet about abuse of these, but this is certainly one place where it's absolutely justified. OP doesn't work, I bet because hubby demanded it, and it was certainly 50% his responsibility that OP got pregnant, so he should certainly contribute.