No one seemed to mention that this guy thinks women are supposed to be dumb -- and they have a daughter. GET HIM AWAY FROM HER. Kick him to the curb and fight for full custody; if she comes home with straight A's, he's gonna make fun of her.

Idk... 116 is a very high IQ for a toddler.

I come from a family of smart people. We are all intelligent in our own way. My mom is good with math, grammar, and technology and my father has never felt bad about having a wife that is more intelligent than him in certain areas. He is more intelligent when it comes to geography and location. Married couples should be proud of each other, not jealous.

I took a booklet-type IQ test that I got in the local bookstore on sale. Scored in the 'Mentally Challenged' range. I decided there and then to be the Founder and President of my new organization (DENSA - natch!), and not going to take it again in case I get booted out!

What an insecure little misogynist. A real partner is someone who is excited and proud to find out that their mate has skills and talents because that is going to give the couple more opportunities and options. Those are the people who understand that the whole -- the couple -- is made stronger by each person's contributions. They see their partner as a collaborator, not a competitor.

Put that intelligence to work and get rid of him.

As someone with all the frilly papers and s**t for a "HiHg iQ," let me tell you that intelligence is worthless in everyday life. I'm no savant but the classic "they see the world differently" type. Being good with shapes and patterns can't help you in a romantic relationship and it doesn't make you superior to anyone else in any way. Numbers change nothing about how you are as a person and isn't even ever relevant beyond academics/work/certain reddit threads. I suffered from narcissism for quite some time and had to work on myself to get rid of it and fit in with society successfully. I try to never bring it up except in very certain situations because it sounds tacky and braggy. This guy will be in for a rude awakening though if he ever decides to take a real one though lol.

There’s something societally wrong with the expectation that men should be stronger, taller, more intelligent, etc. Most of my girlfriends (and my wife) have been at least as tall as me and I couldn’t care less, and my wife is the smartest person I know.

You have a daughter. Try the therapy. You both need some help working through this, even if it only means split up on more amicable terms for the sake of your daughter.

What a dumbass!!

If my girl got a higher I.Q. score than mine, I'd be all over her!! Smart women are the BOMB 💣💣💣!!

Weird. My partner is better at some stuff than I am, I’m better at some stuff than she is. It is exactly what makes us human AND what makes her attractive to me. She’s the yin to my yang and when it matters we each pull together to make this life work. I celebrate her strengths and vice versa, our various strengths don’t threaten each other at all.

IQ test are highly inaccurate and is based off knowledge more geared towards white males of upper middle class and the reach and are negatively biased against black ppl. It doesn’t matter what either of them scored, it’s false. www.theneuroethicsblog.com/2013/09/intelligence-testing-accurate-or.html?m=1

"I told him I wasn't stupid".-- He knows that, he saw the test results.

It sounds like the straw that broke the camels back somehow. I understand the trust thing, but she is ready to bail with an 8 month old. I think this is just a focal point of a magnifying incident of him overall. Plus he is trying to gaslight her. Think hard. Brainiac. Most wouldn’t offer therapy. Leave him kicked out but give a few sessions of therapy a go. Keep him out for at least 6 months and then reassess. Your child is young enough to adjust either way.

One, you are probably not attracted to him now because he showed how sexist he is. He's been hiding it all this time. Two, the guy who accused you of escalating drama just had a few weeks temper tantrum because his wife did better than him on a fake IQ test. You don't need an IQ test to see which of you is smarter. He just showed you.

I would have had to say something along the lines of why you being so stupid about this

IQ tests do not measure your intelligence. It is used for different reasons such as Educational assessment and placement, Assessment and diagnosis of intellectual disability, Cognitive research, Job candidate evaluation, assessing cognitive abilities including memory, speed, and attention. What's he going to do if his daughter scores higher than him? Put her up for adoption and replace her with a dumber kid from the adoption agency? Get rid of him. He sounds like he is looking for an excuse for a divorce, so he can chase his co-worker or your SIL's sister

I did an online test to see what my education level was. Turns out I have a PhD and am teaching college classes. I thought I had about 10 college credits.

SMH. I readily admitted and fully acknowledged that one of my GF's from the past was smarter than me, I even told her so. It's not a big deal. This guy's an idiot for letting something like this wreck his marriage.

Sounds to me like the IQ test was just the straw that broke the camel's back. The guy's obviously got some issues and the test was more likely a symptom of his lack of respect for his wife rather than the cause. Clearly it's made things worse but the fact that he asked her to take the test, as if it would make things better to prove that she was less intelligent, implies that he's already got a problem with her.

Sounds like my ex

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Well we know for a fact that his emotional IQ is zero.

He can't strut like a peacock about his little lady looking up to him as the intelligent superior being he believes in his own mind he is. If she is smarter she won't blindly worship this demigod in his own mind and didn't that idea just wilt his peepee. Get rid of him, he is joke.

Ordinarily I would say, "separate for three months, then decide what to do." But given the husband's attitude towards women (borderline misogynistic), AND they have a daughter, I don't see much hope for this marriage. Did he honestly think he was married to a Beanie Baby? What if his daughter's I.Q. turns out to be higher than his? His openly flirting with another woman in front of his wife sounded the death knell of this relationship. The trust is gone. The best that OP can do is get a lawyer, file the papers, and make sure that she and her daughter won't be destitute. Whoever gets stuck with this loser will find out soon enough that they got the booby prize.

Yes, awful husband and all. As much as I rally for women in these stories, am I the only one who notices that there’s been a lot of “Bad Husband” stories on BP lately? The men bashing is kinda tiresome ngl, like not tryna say the men in these stories aren’t awful people, but you know what I mean. And I’m commenting about this as a woman.

Girl, use that high IQ and get the heck out of there. Take that invitation and find someone (if you want that) who will respect you and see your intelligence as an exciting challenge.