Love how a 20 -year-old man can get "snipped" no questions asked, here I am a woman at 30 still jumping through hoops trying to get "fixed"... 😑

Am i the only one who thinks that it's the wife who is dodging a bullet. A contract is a contract? Contracts are updated and amended ALL THE TIME - What an a*s

Claims he loves her but marriage is a social contract and she broke the terms they agreed to. Nope not love, you don't turn love on and off like a light switch a.hole, you are all in, as your vows stated or you are loving the social contract you created not the person, you are a controlling a*s wipe and she will be so much better without you. Had a vasectomy but still using condoms....as a married man? Really? I See a complete lack of spontaneous intimacy and utter lack of trust here. Marriage and monogamous sex between 2 in love partners just does not look like that, it's bizarre. Don't trust her to stay on the pill? Even though you are sterile? Or is it stds you might bring home that concern you?

Definite YTA. What sort of marriage is it when you don't understand that your spouse needs your support in a difficult time?

Not enough info here to form a unbiased opinion.

This one is completely fake it’s the extraneous details that give it away - vasectomy at 20 (no doctor does that) but still uses condoms with his wife, wife has been hospitalized twice because he left her but he isn’t worried about that, housework isn't a factor because he “staffs the house” etc.

Sounds like they aren't compatible. He clearly has a strong attitude to what work is admirable and what is beneath him/his family. She can do better, but having deal breakers to a relationship doesn't make you an AH, it's how you handle the discussion and break up if that has to happen. He's not perfect, they aren't compatible, why would divorce be a bad thing?

Sounds more like she hates her job and didn't see any other way outz and felt useless otherwise. I hope she takes him up in his offer of a full college ride if she also pays attention to her mental health. She should focus on a therapist first for a bit to treat possible depression.

If he's at work, he's not at home. So if she's at home, he doesn't see her anyway. If it makes her happy, can't he just PRETEND she's working? It's her happiness we're talking about.

Why is it on every post where there is an issue between partners, the person posting (usually the one with the problem) gets BOMBARDED by texts from family & friends? Like, I'd never in a million years text my friend's husband that he's being an a-hole unless he was beating her. I don't get it. Me texting my SIL that my brother is right and she should be punished for her behavior? No freaking way. Listen, support, but dear lord why get involved so obnoxiously? Sorry, rant over.

The fact he would rather divorce her rather than help her work this out makes him a total AH.

I think maybe she was thinking she could save the money and time spent on housekeeping and lunch by doing it herself. However, it isn't a job. I think maybe you stuck with your position out of point or principle. Neither of you are a******s specifically but this entire relationship seems toxic.

Im honestly curious y hes so against the idea if they can afford it and shed be happier, but at the same time she could get a new job so idk i just need more information honestly edit: if sonja is being truthful hes an a*****e