You do not tell your wife, let alone your post-partum wife AND your child to leave your house. If you want space, you go.

It's odd that his wife's punch set him off but his mother slapping her didn't?

You don't tell a woman with a brand new baby that she can afford to skip a meal. These make feel alright for being single and happyish.

Went through something similar. My partners mom loved me for the first three years. Then her married lover died, and she moved in with us full time. She flipped. She took our bedroom, wouldn't allow me to cook, made comments about my 'laziness' (I worked nights), and refused to speak English around me. I told my partner about her behavior, and she started pretending I wasn't there. One morning she came into our bedroom and threw a pot of cold water on me. She called me every name in the book. When I tried (naked) to get away, followed me screaming. He just stood there with wide eyes and said nothing. Five years of love immediately gone. I moved the next day.

Okay, this is a little off topic. I have read so many posts on BP where folks talk about cooking a certain number of "portions" of food. This is so strange to me. When I cook, I make sure there's enough for everyone, but not EXACTLY enough. There are almost always leftovers.

If I say what I want to say, BP will ban me for life, so I'll just say, 'I hope she doesn't come back to that...mmm...excuse for a man & and his birth giver.'

Abusive behavior towards a DIL, right after she becomes pregnant? Sons inability to set boundaries with his mother and defend his wife? Well look at that. It's our old friend emotional incest again! The wife needed out and I'm glad for her. She's right. Her ex-husband NEEDS therapy I doubt his father was the only abusive parent in the family. There needs to be more acknowledgement of emotional incest and support for victims that are predominantly male. The devouring mother is an ancient symbol of toxic motherhood for a reason.

Deck the MIL, kick the baby daddy in the happy sack, send the overweight child to Weight Watchers, and live your best life.

Dear wife, just so you know, we all 100% support you! And I do not think for 1 hot busted moment, anyone believed your ex husbands’ tale of woe! It was “ em me me me me “ from the start! I would’ve punched her also! Wonder what his sister was doing? Also , I bet, pretty traumatized by both her deceased dad as well as her mother! Grandma may be over feeding the older grandchild, in a round anout way, to protect her from all men. Who wants to marry or date “ a fat girlfriend or woman” in her mind… but with her state of trauma also, it’s back aspwards, and she is psychologically messed up, likely forever. She definitely needs meds.

Make sure the custody agreement explicitly bars MIL from any contact with your little girl. She hates you, how do you think she’s going to treat your child? No being in the same room, house, car, park, or eventually, school. No surprise visits when Dad has custody. Get away from these abusive morons! Good luck.

With how stupid he sounded, I cringed so much. His poor ex-wife!!! I feel so bad for her! And her child. She deserves someone better!! Her ex-husband is the scum of his mother's weight-gaining soup.

so, she called his wife fat, and then physically hit her, and then went all shocked Pikachu face when the wife hit her back?

It's obvious that mommy realized that her son (OP) was not coming back to her when DIL became pregnant. OP should have kicked everyone out except his wife and baby, and he should have taken a walk around the block if he needed "space". Then, he should have groveled to his wife and apologized for allowing this beatch of his mother to abuse her for so long. Make sure there are good locks on the doors so beatch/mom can't get in. I feel incredibly sorry for this new mom and her baby and I wish her a great life going forward.

I'm SO glad that poor wife divorced him + that reddit tore him a new one. :) From the wife's account of that whole disaster-of-a-marriage + that MIL!! Sheesh!! I would've divorced him a long time ago, def. B-4 I got pregnant. Good on you, OP's soon-2-B ex. You now have a better life ahead of you. P.S. Please advise your ex to get counseling - he needs help.

so your mother was being really nasty to your wife, and you did what? told her to cut it out when your wife was 7 mos along? What about the 7 mos your wife had to put up with your mother??? You invite problem mother to dinner, you let her steal your wife's dinner plate and you let your mother assault your wife and slap her. And you blame your wife for defending herself??? Why the eff didn't you tell your mother that she had it coming for hitting your wife??? Now, what would you have done if, when you told your wife to get out of her own house, your wife had left on her own and left you with the baby?? The baby she had missed dinner for? The baby she breastfed and put down and did all the work while you socialized with the dinner guests?? It's ok for you to abandon wife and child?? And now she's called you out on it, you're all "poor pitiful me"???? Bah, humbug, you deserved it! YTA.

As a nursing mom, there is a LOT of stuff you have to take with you. Hell, there is a lot when you have a baby who isn't nursing!!! What sort of psycho thinks this is rational?!

The sad thing is that the mother got it her way, and she got it by grossly overstepping a line. One can only hope that she feels punished for it by never seeing her grandchild again. It is sad to see a marriage go down the drain as a result of a wrong split second decision that was made under the influence of intense feelings as these tend pollute our minds to such an extend that we can't think rationally. The marriage might be saveable, but that requires a lot of work, with the first step being him kicking the mother out of his life, at least for a long period until she has demonstrated that she has learned the lesson by showing a significant change in behavior. But I honestly don't think there is much motivation left in his wife to do go through the process of teaching him how to deal with his trauma and how to handle such situations like an adult. I understand if she just needs some time alone to pick up the pieces that is left of "her" family (e.i. herself and her daughter.) marriatal couseling basicaly only works if both parties have a wish for it to to work, and it sounds like she is too worn down to do that. Many make the mistake of going to the consulor when it is too late and things has gone down the drain.

Glad you knocked her on her bùtt. Actually amusing to see that happen to a bully. Sorry you had to go through that. Keep your head up. Wish my first MIL did something that stupid. Hope things get better. Husband now you know how not to have a good marriage. You have a textbook case never do that. Your mom needs mental help. That comes from a crazy person trust me.

Bet his mom is thrilled at how she got her son "back." That mom is bad news. That boy wrecked his marriage because of his evil mother. What a fool.

I hope she takes him for everything he has so ha can go crawling home to mommy and die miserable and alone and still holding mommy's apron strings. The one and only time I ever had an outburst with my ex was when he came home late in a bad mood and went to grab the baby off my chest, mad I was cuddling my son. I warned him off. Three times I warned him. Told him you never touch a child when you are angry. He wouldn't stop. So, I kicked him across the room and into the litterbox. I told him do for s drive, go for a walk, go jerk off, whatever he needed to do, but to get out until he calmed down. He came at the baby and I again, and I nearly killed him by throwing a hammer at him. That was when he realized I was really going to hurt him if he didn't listen to me. So he went out the door and left. I slumped on the floor and cried my heart out, sure he was gone forever. But he came back and apologized for not walking away. If OP was SOOOOOOOOOO distressed, HE should have walked away.

Mother and son are just two psychologically deranged people. Emotional Incest is alive and well with those two.

If I were her I would have said NO YOU LEAVE no way would i be packing up everything me and a newborn needs! Off you trott take yourself out to the bin on your way

What an AH man. He should have hit his utterly disgusting mom, not his wife.

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They should try again,go to counselling.

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I think we will be hearing frome these two multiple times in the future. Neither will ever have a happy relationship.

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The punch split an eyebrow open and was bleeding. This is not a good reaction no matter what and I'm still wondering why the family went for dinner if they are not getting along.