That was my thought. I understand that he is in shock, but if he needs to process, that means that he needs to step away.

Absolutely. He had balls enough to father a child but not enough to back up his wife. His whole family sounds like a circus sideshow. The wife will be far better off without him.

Yea, a normal response is to take a walk or separate yourself from the situation, not kick your spouse out of the house for not doing anything wrong.

I wondered that. It would take ages to pack up the baby and all the stuff. He had probanlt5half an hour to realise what a s**t he was being. Ah knew full well what he was doing- clinging to mummy's skirt and throwing his family away.

Neither of them even needed to leave, I’m sure they have more than one room in the house, he could have gone to another room and just asked her to leave him alone for awhile. Or he could have gone for a drive or a walk. Kicking her and their baby out was ridiculous!

You don't think rationally when you are in a state of shock or anger. Your only though then is "How can I make this hell stop as fast as possible" and unfortunately this lead him to the wrong "solution". It is only when things cool down that you can do the analyzing and see the situation for what it is. A lot of people do a lot of stupid things in panic. That is why training for that kind of situations are so important, and needs to be done in a low-stake environment. Unfortunately, it sounds like that was not an option where he grew up, so he has never learned how to properly deal with his fight or flight reflex.

@Ivona ha ... Looks like we found the psycho mother's bp account

There would still have been a lot of "growing up" left for him to do, even if he had handled that particular situation correctly. First thing he'd had to do, would be to put his mom on pause, by kicking her out of their lives, if not forever, then at least until she had consistently demonstrated that she had learned the lesson.... and to be honest, unless she gets a lot of therapy, I doubt that that would happen, as she sounds like a truely toxic person. It looked like this was destined to go down the drain sooner or later and that that was just the moment it happened. If it hadn't been this time, it probably would have been next time, or the time after that.

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Why would OP go out? His wife was lucky he didn't call the police on her and have her charged with a violent attack on his mother.