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“Smile”: Wife Shares The Unhinged List Her Husband Prepared For Daily Chores She Must Follow
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“Smile”: Wife Shares The Unhinged List Her Husband Prepared For Daily Chores She Must Follow

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Having a set schedule for the day can lead to a more productive day for many people. Most people have at least a morning routine; in fact, the Harvard Business Review found that 97% of people say that they do. There’s one crucial element, though: a person has to want it.

Recently, there’s been a certain list circulating online. Titled “Lisa’s Daily Routine for Becoming a Better Wife”, it has taken the internet by storm. People on many different social media platforms, from Threads to TikTok and Reddit, are reacting to it. And – spoiler alert – many are pretty furious about it.

People online are reacting to a list a husband supposedly made for his wife about how to be a good wife

Image credits: Anastasia Shura / pexels (not the actual photo)

It describes a strict daily routine where the wife’s duties are more similar to a maid’s or a cook’s than an equal partner’s

Image credits: authoress_rosy_library

Many people couldn’t tell if this was real or rage-bait, yet they still called out the absurdity of the list

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“Lisa” and her list of rules might not be real, but they did spark a heated conversation online

The list first started making rounds online when Rosy Johnson, who goes by @authoress_rosy_library, posted it on Threads. Shortly after, the entertainment website Amomama picked the story up and one of their writers came up with a fictional story inspired by the post. In the story, “Lisa” gets back at her husband by coming up with her own list of rules for her husband, “Jake.”

But there’s no way to know where the list came from originally. Other media outlets claimed that a mother-in-law made the list instead of a husband. Eventually, TikTokers began to react to the list, and, when people started asking who’s Lisa and where the list came from, some speculated that someone just posted it online for discussion’s sake.

On Reddit, the list ended up on two very different subreddits in terms of their ideology: the r/tradwives and the r/NotHowGirlsWork communities. In the latter, netizens ripped the daily routine and the supposed “husband” to shreds.

Surprisingly, the reaction at r/tradwives was lukewarm as well. Many folks pointed out how, even if the list is real, it isn’t an accurate representation of a loving relationship. “The idea of a loving partnership in marriage with a wife that manages the home while the husband brings the income really has nothing to do with dominance, control, or submission at the end of the day,” user u/sourisanon wrote.

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Image credits: Gülşah Aydoğan / pexels (not the actual photo)

Fewer women want marriages with traditional gender roles nowadays

With all the housework the wife supposedly has to do in the routine, it’s clear that the rules rely heavily on gender roles. And while it’s true that most of the domestic housework still falls on the shoulders of women, many people (as evident from the reactions in the comments) don’t take well to these types of misogynistic posts.

In a previous article, we spoke with life coach and educator Laura Danger about the reasons why housework is so feminized. She said it’s all about how we’re socialized to assign certain types of work to either men or to women.

“The social messaging that men should define themselves through work and women should define themselves through care and domestic labor is loud!” Danger explained. “Housework is seen as women’s work, so women are taught to do it, encouraged to do it well, and are judged on it.”

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“Even if you’re not explicitly taught that your job is to do housework, the messaging is loud and clear in the media and in so many other aspects of our culture that women are innately better at housework,” Laura pointed out. “It’s simply not true. Domestic work is skilled work. Gender has nothing to do with how well someone does it. It’s learned.”

This is often the reason why many women nowadays opt not to marry at all. The sacrifices they would have to make don’t outweigh the joys and benefits they would be getting from marriage. Brooklyn-based psychotherapist Tonya Lester, LCSW, writes: “If she’s already bringing in an income, is still doing most of the housework and childcare, and doesn’t feel seen or understood by her partner, she may tally the reasons to stay and come up short.”

“Women expect emotional care and empathy. A partnership devoid of emotional intimacy no longer feels worth the sacrifices that come with any long-term relationship.”

Image credits: cottonbro studio / pexels (not the actual photo)

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Even the folks at the Trad Wives subreddit didn’t think the daily routine was appropriate

However, a few people didn’t think it was that bad

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Kornelija Viečaitė

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Hi there, fellow pandas! As a person (over)educated both in social sciences and literature, I'm most interested in how we connect and behave online (and sometimes in real life too.) The human experience is weird, so I try my best to put its peculiarities in writing. As a person who grew up chronically online, I now try to marry two sides of myself: the one who knows too much about MySpace, and the one who can't settle and needs to see every corner of the world.

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Kornelija Viečaitė

Kornelija Viečaitė

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Hi there, fellow pandas! As a person (over)educated both in social sciences and literature, I'm most interested in how we connect and behave online (and sometimes in real life too.) The human experience is weird, so I try my best to put its peculiarities in writing. As a person who grew up chronically online, I now try to marry two sides of myself: the one who knows too much about MySpace, and the one who can't settle and needs to see every corner of the world.

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Hi there! I am a Visual Editor at Bored Panda. My job is to ensure that all the articles are aesthetically pleasing. I get to work with a variety of topics ranging from all the relationship drama to lots and lots of memes and, my personal favorites, funny cute cats. When I am not perfecting the images, you can find me reading with a cup of matcha latte and a cat in my lap, taking photos (of my cat), getting lost in the forest, or simply cuddling with my cat... Did I mention that I love cats?

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Gabija Saveiskyte

Gabija Saveiskyte

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Hi there! I am a Visual Editor at Bored Panda. My job is to ensure that all the articles are aesthetically pleasing. I get to work with a variety of topics ranging from all the relationship drama to lots and lots of memes and, my personal favorites, funny cute cats. When I am not perfecting the images, you can find me reading with a cup of matcha latte and a cat in my lap, taking photos (of my cat), getting lost in the forest, or simply cuddling with my cat... Did I mention that I love cats?

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Korthias
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2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you read about halfway down, the list was made up by someone on Threads, then some other "journalists" made up the story to go with it

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Anton Swanepoel
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2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Maybe one of the Bored Panda writers could write something about how many of the stories posted here are obviously made up.

Ben Aziza
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2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When faced with a slavery contract my reaction would be a slave revolt! Thankfully, in this instance, it is fake rage bait. I really don't like this aspect of the internet. The ppl who do it are vile. It is so insulting to ppl who suffer from real sexism too...

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Korthias
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2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you read about halfway down, the list was made up by someone on Threads, then some other "journalists" made up the story to go with it

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Anton Swanepoel
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2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Maybe one of the Bored Panda writers could write something about how many of the stories posted here are obviously made up.

Ben Aziza
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2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When faced with a slavery contract my reaction would be a slave revolt! Thankfully, in this instance, it is fake rage bait. I really don't like this aspect of the internet. The ppl who do it are vile. It is so insulting to ppl who suffer from real sexism too...

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