I agree with the comments that basically say she is still there for every reason except him. He can go ahead and build up the imaginary sex she is out having - those are his cheat-ghosts haunting him. He gave up his right to peace the minute he cheated. She hasn't and won't ever forgive him, she is just waiting until the divorce is less inconvenient.

So this person kicks his wife when she's down (commenter mentioned post partum depression) and is looking for sympathy because he hurt her so badly that she can't forget it. Sir. Do not complain that she doesn't give you backrubs after you cut off her hands.

You boned a woman a few times an made an effort to hide it and got caught. She can't trust you it was only that one woman regardless how many time it was only with her. You broke her heart an her life. She's being with you only to keep the kids sane an to give them a stable life. She might not even be with anyone but out enjoying a spa or alone time from you. And if she is with someone then that's her business since you agreed to keep her an make a home for the kids on your end. Honestly you are holding on to her as a trophy. Beautiful woman that you broke because you needed your d**k in fresh water. So you can either get a divorce if your aren't physically being satisfied. Find another play partner an keep it quiet as she is and stop bothering her for sex as she sounds like she's over that with you. Or lastly you Al can accept that you caused this an just continue til the kids are teens and then go your separate ways.

So you thought it was fine for you to have extra-marital sex, but now she's possibly/likely having other partners you're "dying each day". Your relationship has changed permanently, because you cheated. Now you need to either divorce and move on, or embrace your open marriage, and accept being your wife's roommate and co-parent. She's not punishing you, you dimwit, this is her new normal, not loving or desiring you any more, because you were not the man she expected you to be. I suggest you get some counselling, and work out why you're such an a*****e and how to fix yourself.

Divorce is not the end of the world. This marriage is over, accept it and move on.

This is hilarious. OP is hanging onto possible forgiveness that isn't coming without realizing that she's subjected him to a punishment that's worse than divorce. He needs to cut his loses. The worst part for me is there's little mention of the kids. Can't imagine what they've gone through at those ages. Get divorced and try to co-parent the best you can OP, because your relationship with your wife is over. She's getting perfect revenge on you every day and you know it.

I’ll have “We’ll look how the turns have tabled” for £500 please Alex!

What a sack o shite. His whole tone is victim and that overbaked casserole has the nerve to use that tone whole talking about how hard it was on the kids! The 4 people's lives he wrecked.

wow, karma works in least expected ways

What a weak, pathetic excuse of a man

Has he done anything to earn back her trust? It doesn't sound like it. It sounds like he hates that she's happy but it was great when he was happy and she wasn't. He ruined the relationship and she is practically a saint for continuing to live with him (she probably still sees him with her in her mind) for what I assume is the kids' benefit.

This marriage is clearly over, and this man has only himself to blame. Getting a divorce is probably the best option at this point. Staying together "for the kids" is really about the adults being unable to admit things are over and move on. My mom told me growing up that she used to wish her parents would divorce because they fought all the time.

I like how this guy is playing the victim card here.

Just get a divorce dude. No reason for you to be married at this point.

I'm no marriage counselor, but I think it's safe to assume that this marriage is kaput. Those two might as well call it a day and file for divorce. It would be far better for their kids to come from a broken home than to live in one. Split the sheets, divide the property, split custody, and move on. The present situation isn't doing anyone any good; in fact, it's doing more harm than good for all concerned. It could even escalate to the point where the police have to get involved. The kids are not unaware of the tension in that household; imagine the stress they are under. The facts as they stand: he cheated, she'll never forgive him. Also, if she is being intimate with several partners, she's playing a very dangerous game, physically and health wise.

Man just leave... it's broken

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I was cheated on. He "loved" me, but he "liked" her. I had previous trust issues, but this destroyed any trust I had in him and men in general (seems like an overreaction, I know), but that was the end of that relationship.

What cracks me up is that he didn't do that good of a job hiding the affair, did he? What was it? The Find my phone feature? The hotel receipts? Text messages? I guarantee he was careless with his affair because he didn't think there would be consequences. What a moron. At least don't let the entire Internet in on the stupid, stupid life choices you made. His wife made the punishment of Sisyphus and Tantalus look like a walk in the park.

You guys need to divorce. The relationship you are modeling for the kids has got to be terrible; they need to learn what a healthy relationship looks like - mutual respect and affection.

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