Let me guess, your husband and his “friend” share a great room in a four star hotel and you get Motel 6? If a friend of mine ever called my wife “entitled” he would not be my friend any longer. Being a spouse is a lot more involved than making money.

She doesn't work? Who does he think is raising his children? I am sorry, probably I have very little tolerance for assholey bahavior, but I would leave him. Not only does he disrespect the work she does, but obviously he doesn't value her as a person.

I see it as a “bros before hô’s” situation, which is a huge red flag.

When your significant others friends are rude to you - it’s often because your SO is rude to you behind your back.

This is humiliating. I presume they agreed that she would be a sahm so all income is shared. Next step would be the a$$hole husband controlling her more and more. The selfishness of husband and his friend is horrible, maybe those 2 nitwits should get married !!!!

Stay at home mom here . It makes me irate when they claim we don't work . I stay home because of my health but that doesn't mean that I'm not the primary parent 90 percent of the time because of my husband's work schedule. I do 80 percent of the house work . Stay at home mom is exhausting and emotionally challenging. I don't get to clock out , I don't get breaks . It's very hard to be a sahm and on top of that being medically screwed when it comes to my health . I do have a job and it is to keep my kids healthy, safe , and as happy as they can be .. on top of that of we sent the kids to a daycare or nanny if I worked . Why are they ok with recognizing that they should be paid and it's WORK to take care of children but when a parent does it then it has no value. My husband has no idea how to handle the kids for am extended amount of time but when he does he gets a good taste of it . When he has a bad day he can come home and decompress but when I have a bad day it's considered being a mom and to suck it up. It's a partnership. He brings in the money and I manage the house so he doesn't have to worry about a lot when he's home .

Your husband is probably gay. Why else would he choose his guy friend over his wife for years, and then sit with him instead of you? He is likely using you to put on a straight front for others - he has a wife and kids, trappings of a 'normal' straight guy. I have nothing against his being gay, but own it!

Get out now this man is not your partner. Let the little b***h go live with his boyfriend.

Op should get a good divorce lawyer. This is clear a toxic relationship where she is only a second class person. Please op should leaf asap!

Keith O right down there just spoke every word that was going through my mind. Especially the Brokeback Mountain thing. I don't fathom this at all. I'm single and 60 so I'll never have a real relationship again, but if I had been lucky enough to have had a loving wife such as you she would be by my side before anyone else.

What an A*****e of a Husband,I Hope She Divorced His Sorry A*s After That

What a total T***t he is, i'm wondering why he finally invited her along with his 'best friend'. No doubt she would have been expected to stay alone in the hotel room during the day, whilst he did best bud things with his friend ...what a horrible man

What a piece of garbage she can do better.

Jeez, tell him you're going on the trip, first-class, end of discussion. If not, change the locks. Any other problems, divorce him and make a judge see how equal you two are. Unless there is a pre-nup in play. I mean, just look at relationships nowadays. Would not surprise me in the least. If you're considering a pre-nup, my poor fool, you are nowhere near ready to be married because you have not found a partner, you just found a body.

When a spouse demands that the other spouse not work for whatever reason, they don't get to fault or abuse that spouse for not receiving a paycheck. It sounds like the OP's husband is in love with his friend.

He DID exclude you, his friend is entitled and wildly inappropriate and I would bet a body part he is having se* with your man. Boy, BYEEEEE

I also believe that the friend doesn't like her and had a hand to play on putting her away from them . He probably resents the fact that she's coming at all . He thinks she's going to interrupt his guys trip . The husband is trash for not recognizing his wife has a valid job and if he wants to pay for child care so she can work then he can foot the bill for that . She hasn't been om any trips with the girls yearly, leaving him in charge of the kids for a week. She is not valued and is treated as a burden or a brood mare . She is an object that cooks ,cleansing, watches the children, and an object he can have sex with . I also bet anything that he's never looked after his kids for any amount of time .

She should tell his friend who texted her to FU and never contact her again or show up at their house

guy is probably just gay and hiding it

As a Mother, Housewife, and SAHM, you are invaluable. It's sad that your husband doesn't think so! If we really break it down your job is priceless and more valuable than any job in the world! As a SAHM your job description is: Caregiver, Chef, Housekeeper, Shopper, Taxi-driver, Sexual Satisfier, Counselor....do you see where I'm going? He can NEVER pay you enough for what you do for him. The least he can do is take you on a nice vacation every year. But, instead he prefers to go with his buddy. The writing is on the wall, chica! Get a divorce and take him to the cleaners. Don't be nice to him! He doesn't even like you from the sound of it. Teach him a huge lesson! Go ahead....it's time!

This is not a marriage. Personally I would book my own vacation first class leave him to take care of the house. Put cameras up you may find the truth about "hubby and friend " . Get a good lawyer and wave him goodbye. How dare his boyfriend text you and tell you how to conduct your relationship. Hubby should have made him apologize I'm almost sure he didnt.. Your are a convenient maid nanny and all around slave for this self centered Jerk get rid of him. Trust the other posts he does not love you.

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I am in agreement with other commenters that your husband is in a relationship with his best friend. If this is the kind of relationship you can live with they stay with your husband. You deserve to be treated better by your husband and if you can’t see things will change you need to go see an divorce attorney and discuss your financial options and move on. Sending you hugs!!

Guess he forgot the golden rule of marriage: "Happy wife, happy life." It'd be the equivalent of comparing it to ship travel. He'd be cruise level and you'd be stuck in the galley or the brig. OP is not entitled, the husband is just a jerk.

Use your so called husband as long as you can. Get an education while using him. Get a job and kick him out!

I'm suspicious of the entire story. It's so over-the-top it seems made up for internet traffic sake.

This is a true scumbag man. I would put my wife in first class and sit in economy myself if it was a money or booking issue. To throw money in her face Is very painful and degrading, I know this from experience. My wife makes significant amount more than I and I live a lifestyle well above by means because of this. When we fight, as all couples do, she throws it in my face sometimes and I don't really have a good response. Being a SAHM is a job that doesn't stop and is stressful. I would address his actions and request a nanny(just to screw with him). I would also ask him to reach out to his friend and act like a true partner....unless maybe that friend IS HIS partner. You may have disturbed the friends "Beoke Back Mountain" excursions or he was upset that couldn't get hookers. Either way none of my wife's friends would speak to me like that without an immediate response from her.

Took bros before hoes too far

You feminists need to stop with your bull$h1t. You keep acting like staying at home raising kids is the hardest job in the world, and a father having to actually go deal with the daily grind is so much less than being comfy at home in charge of some kids. I guarantee you, your kids aren’t more difficult than having to go to work, deal with people, and be a slave to some heartless company. Feminists have been pushing the agenda that being a stay-at-home Mom is so difficult and demanding because they don’t want society to wise up to how fkn easy they’ve got it. Maybe you need to go get a real job and you can both pay for daycare, then when you split the bills evenly you can both have first class tickets. Until then STFU and stop trying to overplay how difficult it is to be home and do housework while the kids watch cartoons all day. Why do you think with covid everyone wants to work from home now? Because doing anything from home is just EASIER!!!

He's definitely being mentally and financially abusive. But by her responses to others... she's not ready to see the truth of what he is. She's become so dependent on him she doesn't even realize how much control over her he has. She doesn't even have the confidence to accept what people are telling her in mass.

F**k this s**t!!!! F**k him and his f****d up friend!!! You are a sahm. You raise his kids you do not need to be treated this way. Where the hell does he even get off treating you this way. I would say divorce his a*s take him for everything he’s got and let go off and enjoy his life with his boyfriend oh I’m sorry his best friend . NTA!!!

That is not fair, I don’t care, If you don’t work, But you are taking care of your 3 kids, It’s like, Who am I to you, A decorations in the house, If we’re you, Give him some thing that he will regret it for the rest of his lives fe, Give him an ultimatum!

Divorce him. Take him for half, child support and alimony. Good luck affording his trips then. No women needs a narcissist in their life.

I think like many on here that you're husband may be gay and his friend means more to him than you do. You're just his beard as gay men describe other gay men who are married to woman it's just to hide the fact they're gay. Get a good lawyer get everything you can and don't rush into another relationship take time out learn to live independently away from any man . Get counselling to help you move past this. It's not uncommon. Lots of men who are gay still get married because for whatever reason they're afraid to come out as gay . It's really not a big happy tolerant world we live in .In many countries you can still be jailed for being gay . In time you and he may become good friends your children will be better for it make them your priority

Your husband is homosexual, and is having an affair with his "best friend"

I knew a guy like this. Went on trips all the time with his single friend and left his SAHM wife behind. More specifically, they traveled to the Philippines. It's honestly sad that you all, and this woman, don't recognize why the friend is so vehemently opposed to her going on this trip.

I would need to know a few more things. Is this considered his 'time with the bois' during the year? Does it happen often or very very regularly every year around the same time? If so you shouldn't of asked to go along really xD and since he said yes I'ma guessing the whole first class and other was more to just have some time to still at least have a little of that time while still having you come along at the same time, etc. maybe those two every year get first class and do this etc? And did they have time to buy first class when they found out you were coming with? Or were they all sold out already or now like 2-3x the prices they were months ago when they made the bookings?

NTAH!!! I think you should stop doing his laundry, etc. and when it’s dinner time afford him an economy bag of peanuts while you give you and the kids a first class meal every night!

These lemming white middle class republicans who thinking making 100k a year makes you rich like lil dik trumps are turning gay and disrespecting their wife's Fk these lame lemming white middle class republicans who suk dik.

Start invoicing him for the work that you do at home, cleaning, washing, ironing, cooking, shopping then book your own seat on a trip without him !

Your husband is too immature to be a good spouse. He needs to grow up and drop the "I am the victim " attitude. If my husband tried this with me, he would come back to an empty house and divorce papers on the dining room table.

First your Husband is a jerk. Second, the best friend is a jerk. I am going to assume that they both went on trips without you until this one time. He has not taken you on a trip anywhere and you are being called entitled and what is really happening is you are being NEGLECTED. I'm not sure what happens on a daily basis but being someone who was married to a man just like this and tried to flip the script so you are the "bad guy". I will tell you one thing you must not do and that is "do not take his c**p". You must not forget that you are important and valuable. I'm not going to tell you what to do with your marriage because that is not my place but what I can tell you is you are being mistreated in this situation and I hope that it does not apply in other situations. Your husband should learn to value you or lose you. And my suggestion would be to find a destination and take a best friend who values you. The only person acting entitled is your self absorbed husband.