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Overprotective Woman’s List Of Rules Before Allowing Husband To Go To A Bachelor Party Goes Viral
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Overprotective Woman’s List Of Rules Before Allowing Husband To Go To A Bachelor Party Goes Viral

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One woman has given new meaning to the term ‘overprotective.’ Recently, a concerned wife turned to Facebook to share a bizarre set of rules she insisted her husband follows if he wanted to attend a bachelor party. Now don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing wrong with trying to keep your partner out of trouble. There is, however, something very, very ridiculous about grown-up men being forced to party under conditions that would make a primary school disco look like Las Vegas. Yeah, that’s right, the woman not only demanded her husband follow the rules but his friends who attended the bachelor party as well.

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There is something very ridiculous about grown-up men being forced to party under conditions that would make a primary school disco look like Las Vegas

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Naturally, people on Facebook expressed their concerns for the poor guy’s sake. And to the lady’s credit, she did hear them out. Heck, she even realized that she had no control over men. So, she did the only thing she could — she forbade her husband from going to the party in the first place.

Bachelor and bachelorette parties are a time-honored tradition. They usually involve a wild night out sometime shortly before getting married. These last moments of “freedom” can be controversial, especially since the stereotypical bachelor party is all about hard partying and strippers. Of course, that doesn’t mean that every bachelor or bachelorette party is pure infidelity. Plenty of men and women have low-key get-togethers to mark their last days of being a bachelor/bachelorette.

Interestingly,  like many modern things, the concept of this occasion is traced back to ancient Greece, as early as the 5th century B.C. According to TIME, it is believed that the ancient Spartans were the first to make a celebration out of the groom’s last night as a single man. Spartan soldiers held a dinner to honor their friend and made toasts on his behalf — with, one assumes, a Spartan sense of decorum. Since then, however, this event has become wilder.

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Mindaugas Balčiauskas

Author, BoredPanda staff

I'm a visual editor at Bored Panda. I kickstart my day with a mug of coffee bigger than my head, ready to tackle Photoshop. I navigate through the digital jungle with finesse, fueled by bamboo breaks and caffeine kicks. When the workday winds down, you might catch me devouring bamboo snacks while binging on the latest TV show, gaming or I could be out in nature, soaking up the tranquility and communing with my inner panda.

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Alex Bailey
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A neighbour of mine isn't allowed to watch the odd football match in the house - even on a TV not being used by his wife. Some people just love to control. Sad.

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Minnie-me
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ok, this is why religious people/religion, in general, get a bad rap. Don't blame it on Christianity because you want to control your husband. Get over yourself.

L McN
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Agreed. There is nothing about being a Christian couple that says..well, ANY of this. From either spouse (although some may misinterpret portions of the bible to say "ownership" is involved), this is plain abusive. Maybe not physically, but it traps the other and forces dishonesty.

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Hans
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Who needs trust and friendship when you cna have total control? I recommend an implanted GPS tracker with an automatic electro shocker to deal shocks when swearing.

Vic
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She had 2 simple options: 1. Go with her husband, carry a whistle and monitor the party like a referee. 2. Make them have the bachelors party at Chuck-E-Cheese 😁😁

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Kusotare
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"But we are Christians, so telling other people how they should live their lives comes as second nature..."

Carney
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've spent decades working with women and children (and some men) affected by domestic violence. Just because there is no physical violence mentioned here does not make this okay. This IS abuse and there is nothing funny or amusing about it. The need to control to this degree is the mark of sickness. Emotional abuse is as harmful as physical abuse and does a great deal of damage. Her need to control reflects on her lack of trust and ability to accept her husband as a separate individual capable of making his own choices. If the tables were turned and this was a man doing this to a woman, I suspect most people here would see this as abuse.

Michelle Line
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Run!! Run FAST! As fast as you can! It will only get worse from there.

Mewton’s Third Paw
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No. Stay put. If he’s got this far with her, he’s probably exactly like her weird a*s. Contain them.

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Laura Habermehl
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is not what a Christian marriage should look like. I'm in a Christian marriage and I trust my husband not to do certain things. I don't need to tell him because we share the same views and we have a very close friendship.

Just saying
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Same here. And she clearly doesn't respect or trust her husband and has control issues

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Owiella Freddie
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

S**t. If there's no alcohol or illegal drugs allowed, then why the "taxi" requirement?!?

NotMe
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I love how she says "but we're Christians" as if that meant taking the fun out of everything and justified being manipulative freak xDDDD

tuzdayschild
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Have I missed anything?" Yes, you seem to have missed growing up.

Mick Fowler
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Reminds me of how my ex became over the years, which is why she was my ex.

K. LNU
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hope this is a joke. However, the one comment that if the roles were reversed, people would be yelling "emotional spousal abuse", is very true. It does happen to men as well as women, just not as reported. But I do hope this is a joke.

Άρης Παπαδόπουλος
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

1. Thank God for LEGAL drugs 2. Cigars and pipes ok 3. Tea (the special one) 4. Is there really a place that has no women at all? Gentlemens club it is 5. Bikes are the answer 6. Phones stay at the hotel 7. How is she going to check this? 8. Midnight of which day? 9. What does she think that men do at bachelor parties? Slap each other? 10. I BET that she can't check him about this You will miss having a "hubby"...

HoffLensMetalHedLovesAnimalsUK
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If my wife tried this or i tried this with her, we would not be together much longer. We have something called trust and respect.

guy greej
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ok, So setting rule. fine. Posting that you've set the rules... ok? Specifically mentioning the christian inspiration for setting those rules??? Sounds like a smear campaign to me.

Little Wonder
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My ex decided he didn't like me going to classes at the community centre because I was talking to men. Note the use of ex.

Carney
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've spent decades working with women and children (and a few men) affected by domestic violence. Here's the thing with all of this: This is abuse! If a man was ordering his wife in this manner, we would recognize him as controlling and his behavior as abusive. Emotional abuse is violence. Just because you don't have bruises does not negate the impact of this type abuse. For any partner to be this controlling is beyond unhealthy and well into sickness. This has nothing to do with religion and everything to do with lack of trust and a very unhealthy relationship. There is nothing funny or amusing here.

Hassini
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"i'll can't monitor/ track him after he leaves so i just decided not to let him go" LMAO

L McN
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If this is true, I have one...ok many things I could say. First, my wife and I are a Christian family, and neither she nor I would EVER impose such ridiculous garbage on a simple outing. This is showing plain stupidity, and lack of respect for each other. If my wife did this (and I know for a fact that she would not, it is called trust) it would be over simply because to get to that point means we have already lost everything else. I disagree with divorce, but I married my best friend, my better half, my confidant. She knows what I would and would not do, and accepts it. Just as I do her. so my parting comment here: I sure hope that this is attention getting and fake. Otherwise some people here would need some serious help.

YsaPur
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If she were a Christian for real, she would know that the head of a woman is her man. She is either a troll or deluded.

Mewton’s Third Paw
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Excellent point. But she’s also fighting for the safety of his soul lol. Tough position to be in.

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Jason Doakes
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This c**p was funny back when it seemed genuine, now it seems people are just being extremely obnoxious or especially friendly, just trying to go viral. The only good thing about this "trend" is that people are trying to find animals to save, so they can film it hoping to go viral. Also, if this was a ironic twist on an "overprotective groom", which I would totally understand and support, it's done badly.

Full Name
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People "buy" the story because they want to. They want that feeling of outrage/superiority. It feeds them. Wether the story is true is irrelevant to them.

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Celtic Pirate Queen
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah, another post that is so wrong on so many levels. First of all, you don't get to "allow" your husband to do anything. He's a f*****g adult - which is how you discuss things - like adults. If you don't trust your husband to go to a bachelor party without a) getting drunk, b) taking drugs or c) having sex with a stripper you have a lot more problems than just your overbearing control issues. Seek therapy, like now.

Tony Moon
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If this is true... and I am not saying it is... this would be a classic example of spousal abuse. Imagine if a man did this to his wife, the prison time would be measured in life times, and rightfully so. So either this is completely false, and a joke, or this man is in serious trouble and needs friends to go over, do an intervention, get his a*s out of there, and put him into the witness protection program.

JillVille
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My Mother in Law tells her dad and one of the grandsons that she is allergic to Sports so they can't watch it on her tv when they are over. This is controlling of her to do, but dang it's funnier than this other Special Wifey and her poor Hubby.... yikes.

Trash Panda
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can't imagine this real but, if it is, this guy must be one of the most miserable humans walking the earth. What a dismal prospect for his future.

Alex Craig
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have met women (and some men) like this. I asked an ex-friend of mine when she stipulated all these rules on her (and my) husband going on a camping/fishing trip. Now this is in the middle of nowhere Australia so I didn't think rules were necessary (other than don't die. Australia is isolated to extreme). Before they left she told me the rules and I said 'why do want to act like a mother and not a lover?' She said 'men need to be controlled'. OUr husbands returned and I am glad to say we moved and therefor just drifted apart naturally. But I have never understood a woman who wants to baby/mother a man. Over 15 years later and been with my forever partner/lover/best friend for 9 years. And don't have toxic behaving women in my life anymore and couldn't be happier. This lady is extremely insecure and I feel sorry for her.

Mad Haberdasheress
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow. . .just wow. If this was a man posting such a list for his "wifey" this would be instantly and thoroughly called out for what it is: psychological and emotional manipulation and abuse! Poor guy.😞

Grace Wiebe
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Kinda don't believe this is true. If it is...maybe don't marry that one, dude. And for the record, chickie, Christianity is not done this way. Pick up your Bible sometimes, maybe.

John Montgomery
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So glad my wife was never this crazy. I went to a strip club on my bachelor party. We talked about it before hand, and she understood that just like porn that's just a fantasy. She knows I'll always come home to her.

BryanR
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Control freaks are the bain of the world. It is sad to see.

Rinpai
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Personally I think 1 makes sense and while its overboard if it had only been 1-3 and could see it from a perspective of being well meaning at least....but yeah this list is absolute insanity. Find someone else asap.

Bill Taylor
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Does she keep this guy's penis in the jar on the table in the hallway where they stash the car keys? Geesh, trust issues much?

Melisa K.
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He should just neck himself, I'm sure it'd be far less painful than being married to this pyscho.

thepotatogirl
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Seriously, why do some people have to be so controlling of their SO's? They're their own people and have their own lives too!

Tracy Rowe
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

this is abuse. No one has the right to tell someone what they can or cannot do. Being married or in a relationship is not ownership. He needs to run. Fast.

Maggie Collins
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This will teach her "hubby" to be a sneaky liar. Bottom line. How in the world could either of them think this is healthy? If you cannot trust this man, do not marry him. It will be a marriage made in Hell and you both will hate every minute of it. Cancel plans NOW, please.

Grace Skerp
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My rules 1. Whatever you take with you, bring it back 2. Don't leave anything there. Get it? Got it? Good. Have fun.

Carla Olavarría
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I CAN´T BELIEVE THIS IS REAL. JUST CAN´t. And why call her an "overprotective" wife?? she is just F*****g crazy!!!!! guys!!!! this is not normal, not tollerable in any way!!! still can´t believe it

Leo Domitrix
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If a significant other treats you like that? Flee. Just sayin'.

Lisa Larson
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"I've decided not to let him go"? WTF? I hope her hubby said F**k you and went, tuned his phone off, drank some alcohol, smoked a cigar or two, gambled away their life savings, hung out with strippers, drove a fast car (before drinking) and had a ball! The only thing I would tell my hubby is "we don't have bail money, so don't get arrested". Women like this deserve to be alone!

Jerry Katz
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He's not even her frigging "hubby" yet. It's not too late go get out of the nightmare, dude.

Jerry Katz
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A wild bachelor party is like eating a whole cake and a hot fudge sundae because the next day you're starting a diet.

cybermerlin2000
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Im in the exact opposite to this. I went to my brothers stag party and all my mrs said was Bring him back in one piece and no permanent damage or stuff that wont come off straight away Then she shoved me out the door with a kiss and a slap on the a**e

Lynda Momalo
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm thinking that if her husband "play wrestles" with other men enough for her to mention it that he's not likely to be tempted by (female) strippers. Closets may be involved here and she subconsciously realizes it.

Lisa Shaw
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My next door neighbours have a relationship like this, the husband is not "allowed" to speak to my husband while they are both cutting the grass, if her husband breaks the "rule" she makes his life hell, all day everyday, we can hear it all. I believe the husband is being mistreated, but not sure how to help, the whole street talks about them and what an awful situation it is.

deanna woods
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I know I am answering your question late, but if you feel that the husband is being mistreated, you have every right to speak up in his defense and ask her what her problem is. Depending on their ages, you can also contact Adult Protective Services and tell them what's going on. Have some of your neighbors back you up.

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Mama Panda
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hope he makes a list similar to this one for her for when she is out with her gal pals!!! She must give great BJs LOL

Sara Young
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Please don't let this woman (with problems rooted in herself - not her religion) sway your opinion on the religion. I hope people won't hate Christianity because someone misrepresented it.

deanna woods
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Thank you for saying this because there are people who think religious people are weird for reasons like this.

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elfin
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Apparently this woman has never heard of the Ten Commandments or else believes we need a hundred or so (and she's going to write them).

Shannon Blackwell
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She is a pathetic excuse for a woman, wife & Christian. I agree with most here that she's delusional & obviously doesn't trust him. He should either defy her & go to bachelor party anyway, get into counseling without a doubt, & be looking at the door. I want to upvote the post to get more people seeing it, but I also want to downvote it because I'm horrified at the thought that she'd go higher in thinking it was approval of her thoughts/actions!! WAY DISAPPROVE!!

Id row
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm picturing this woman as Gladys Kravitz. She's not overprotective, she's delusional and a little crazy.

elfin
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If someone is determined to misbehave they will usually find a way.

Danielle Renee
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i doubt she had to stop him from going, he's friends stopped him from going. she's a nightmare

Mewton’s Third Paw
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Lmao no way is this real. But I guess if they were religious freaks, it would make sense for them. Hey if it’s real and this is normal for their relationship then who cares? Religious people should follow their own rules, f**k it. For normal people, this would be extremely weird.

Carol Lewis
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5 years ago

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Where did it say they are Christians? I'm a Christian and would never put that nonsense on my husband. Love how people like to attack Christianity even when its not mentioned. Also as to telling people how to live there own lives, I was taught not to cast the first stone. Judging is a no no, but plenty people do, even non Christians, putting all of us in big old judgemental pile.

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jknbt jknbt
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

if your wife to be will be so demanding & controlling before the marriage, try to imagine how awful it will be after the marriage when she is holding ultimatum divorce papers over you.... RUN WHILE YOU CAN, BUD! RUN, RUN!!!

Kjorn
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i hope it's a joke, car it look too surreal for being true

Aunt Messy
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why would she want to marry someone she thinks is too stupid to go to the bathroom by himself? He needs to RUN away from her. Thankfully, the wedding hasn’t happened yet....

Galaxy Nerd
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Jesus are they from alabama because she's acting like she's his mother

Valerie Fawn
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I only agree with the no strippers, everything else is necessary though!

okpkpkp
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am 65 and have never, ever been to a bachelor party. I guess I'm lucky if these were the rules...

Sadie Jayne
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'd be willing to bet they worked on this together just for kicks and submitted it just to see who bought it!!!!

Panda Kicki
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Her trolling was A -grade! Well played getting everone so worked up. I dont think this is a real domestic abuse case, but sadly , many are. If it is real, hope he gets help to end a unhealthy relationship.

Sara Young
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Please don't let one individual (with problems rooted in their self - not their religion) sway your opinion on the religion. I hope people won't hate Christianity because someone misrepresented it.

Nirity
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5 years ago

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There are so many movies for bachelor parties went wrong. Many ppl say that night is meant to officially get drunk, while strippers dance on your crotch and is a legitamete excuse to cheat with another woman "for last time". Many of the other guys on those parties are already married but use it to excuse hard drinking, strippers and whores. If there was nothing true those shits happen why so many movies show exactly this, why so many women expect and fear exactly this? I don't like this tradition too, it's lame and only was born in us, but other countries also started it, to evaluate profanity by us example.

Mewton’s Third Paw
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Most guys don’t even go to strip clubs for their party. And most strip clubs dont allow actual sex. I know both because I was a stripper. If men touched beyond a handshake, they’d be thrown out. It would be weird if a guy went hooker hunting for another guy. Guys don’t do this s**t. They may go to a bar and have some shots with random chicks, party a little, smoke cigars, do something expensive like a party boat or party bus, and basically just bro out all night and drink with some women who are in the same bar. Even bachelors who come into strip clubs aren’t that bad, they look for a while and ask funny questions and get drunk. Most men love their fiancé and aren’t about to cheat just before they marry her.

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Tiffany Marie
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5 years ago (edited)

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I've known several men who end up drunk with strippers & have some sort of sexual relations with them. .. The wife never knows until later on. I've told a few women. How did I find out, usually find out from the men that go, they talk about the great time they had. It happens so much, hard to trust or believe anything else happens. I would have a hard time with letting mine go, due to knowing the nature of them & I'm a Borderline so anything else they say I'd see as lies. I'd literally dump someone over anything like this, freak out and rather be alone and think about suicide. Because I couldn't handle the thoughts & am mentally unstable. I usually result in screaming & violence when I hit a trigger like something related to this.

Alex Bailey
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A neighbour of mine isn't allowed to watch the odd football match in the house - even on a TV not being used by his wife. Some people just love to control. Sad.

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Minnie-me
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ok, this is why religious people/religion, in general, get a bad rap. Don't blame it on Christianity because you want to control your husband. Get over yourself.

L McN
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Agreed. There is nothing about being a Christian couple that says..well, ANY of this. From either spouse (although some may misinterpret portions of the bible to say "ownership" is involved), this is plain abusive. Maybe not physically, but it traps the other and forces dishonesty.

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Hans
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Who needs trust and friendship when you cna have total control? I recommend an implanted GPS tracker with an automatic electro shocker to deal shocks when swearing.

Vic
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She had 2 simple options: 1. Go with her husband, carry a whistle and monitor the party like a referee. 2. Make them have the bachelors party at Chuck-E-Cheese 😁😁

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Kusotare
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"But we are Christians, so telling other people how they should live their lives comes as second nature..."

Carney
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've spent decades working with women and children (and some men) affected by domestic violence. Just because there is no physical violence mentioned here does not make this okay. This IS abuse and there is nothing funny or amusing about it. The need to control to this degree is the mark of sickness. Emotional abuse is as harmful as physical abuse and does a great deal of damage. Her need to control reflects on her lack of trust and ability to accept her husband as a separate individual capable of making his own choices. If the tables were turned and this was a man doing this to a woman, I suspect most people here would see this as abuse.

Michelle Line
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Run!! Run FAST! As fast as you can! It will only get worse from there.

Mewton’s Third Paw
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No. Stay put. If he’s got this far with her, he’s probably exactly like her weird a*s. Contain them.

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Laura Habermehl
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is not what a Christian marriage should look like. I'm in a Christian marriage and I trust my husband not to do certain things. I don't need to tell him because we share the same views and we have a very close friendship.

Just saying
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Same here. And she clearly doesn't respect or trust her husband and has control issues

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Owiella Freddie
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

S**t. If there's no alcohol or illegal drugs allowed, then why the "taxi" requirement?!?

NotMe
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I love how she says "but we're Christians" as if that meant taking the fun out of everything and justified being manipulative freak xDDDD

tuzdayschild
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Have I missed anything?" Yes, you seem to have missed growing up.

Mick Fowler
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Reminds me of how my ex became over the years, which is why she was my ex.

K. LNU
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hope this is a joke. However, the one comment that if the roles were reversed, people would be yelling "emotional spousal abuse", is very true. It does happen to men as well as women, just not as reported. But I do hope this is a joke.

Άρης Παπαδόπουλος
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

1. Thank God for LEGAL drugs 2. Cigars and pipes ok 3. Tea (the special one) 4. Is there really a place that has no women at all? Gentlemens club it is 5. Bikes are the answer 6. Phones stay at the hotel 7. How is she going to check this? 8. Midnight of which day? 9. What does she think that men do at bachelor parties? Slap each other? 10. I BET that she can't check him about this You will miss having a "hubby"...

HoffLensMetalHedLovesAnimalsUK
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If my wife tried this or i tried this with her, we would not be together much longer. We have something called trust and respect.

guy greej
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ok, So setting rule. fine. Posting that you've set the rules... ok? Specifically mentioning the christian inspiration for setting those rules??? Sounds like a smear campaign to me.

Little Wonder
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My ex decided he didn't like me going to classes at the community centre because I was talking to men. Note the use of ex.

Carney
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've spent decades working with women and children (and a few men) affected by domestic violence. Here's the thing with all of this: This is abuse! If a man was ordering his wife in this manner, we would recognize him as controlling and his behavior as abusive. Emotional abuse is violence. Just because you don't have bruises does not negate the impact of this type abuse. For any partner to be this controlling is beyond unhealthy and well into sickness. This has nothing to do with religion and everything to do with lack of trust and a very unhealthy relationship. There is nothing funny or amusing here.

Hassini
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"i'll can't monitor/ track him after he leaves so i just decided not to let him go" LMAO

L McN
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If this is true, I have one...ok many things I could say. First, my wife and I are a Christian family, and neither she nor I would EVER impose such ridiculous garbage on a simple outing. This is showing plain stupidity, and lack of respect for each other. If my wife did this (and I know for a fact that she would not, it is called trust) it would be over simply because to get to that point means we have already lost everything else. I disagree with divorce, but I married my best friend, my better half, my confidant. She knows what I would and would not do, and accepts it. Just as I do her. so my parting comment here: I sure hope that this is attention getting and fake. Otherwise some people here would need some serious help.

YsaPur
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If she were a Christian for real, she would know that the head of a woman is her man. She is either a troll or deluded.

Mewton’s Third Paw
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Excellent point. But she’s also fighting for the safety of his soul lol. Tough position to be in.

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Jason Doakes
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This c**p was funny back when it seemed genuine, now it seems people are just being extremely obnoxious or especially friendly, just trying to go viral. The only good thing about this "trend" is that people are trying to find animals to save, so they can film it hoping to go viral. Also, if this was a ironic twist on an "overprotective groom", which I would totally understand and support, it's done badly.

Full Name
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People "buy" the story because they want to. They want that feeling of outrage/superiority. It feeds them. Wether the story is true is irrelevant to them.

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Celtic Pirate Queen
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah, another post that is so wrong on so many levels. First of all, you don't get to "allow" your husband to do anything. He's a f*****g adult - which is how you discuss things - like adults. If you don't trust your husband to go to a bachelor party without a) getting drunk, b) taking drugs or c) having sex with a stripper you have a lot more problems than just your overbearing control issues. Seek therapy, like now.

Tony Moon
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If this is true... and I am not saying it is... this would be a classic example of spousal abuse. Imagine if a man did this to his wife, the prison time would be measured in life times, and rightfully so. So either this is completely false, and a joke, or this man is in serious trouble and needs friends to go over, do an intervention, get his a*s out of there, and put him into the witness protection program.

JillVille
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My Mother in Law tells her dad and one of the grandsons that she is allergic to Sports so they can't watch it on her tv when they are over. This is controlling of her to do, but dang it's funnier than this other Special Wifey and her poor Hubby.... yikes.

Trash Panda
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can't imagine this real but, if it is, this guy must be one of the most miserable humans walking the earth. What a dismal prospect for his future.

Alex Craig
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have met women (and some men) like this. I asked an ex-friend of mine when she stipulated all these rules on her (and my) husband going on a camping/fishing trip. Now this is in the middle of nowhere Australia so I didn't think rules were necessary (other than don't die. Australia is isolated to extreme). Before they left she told me the rules and I said 'why do want to act like a mother and not a lover?' She said 'men need to be controlled'. OUr husbands returned and I am glad to say we moved and therefor just drifted apart naturally. But I have never understood a woman who wants to baby/mother a man. Over 15 years later and been with my forever partner/lover/best friend for 9 years. And don't have toxic behaving women in my life anymore and couldn't be happier. This lady is extremely insecure and I feel sorry for her.

Mad Haberdasheress
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow. . .just wow. If this was a man posting such a list for his "wifey" this would be instantly and thoroughly called out for what it is: psychological and emotional manipulation and abuse! Poor guy.😞

Grace Wiebe
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Kinda don't believe this is true. If it is...maybe don't marry that one, dude. And for the record, chickie, Christianity is not done this way. Pick up your Bible sometimes, maybe.

John Montgomery
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So glad my wife was never this crazy. I went to a strip club on my bachelor party. We talked about it before hand, and she understood that just like porn that's just a fantasy. She knows I'll always come home to her.

BryanR
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Control freaks are the bain of the world. It is sad to see.

Rinpai
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Personally I think 1 makes sense and while its overboard if it had only been 1-3 and could see it from a perspective of being well meaning at least....but yeah this list is absolute insanity. Find someone else asap.

Bill Taylor
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Does she keep this guy's penis in the jar on the table in the hallway where they stash the car keys? Geesh, trust issues much?

Melisa K.
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He should just neck himself, I'm sure it'd be far less painful than being married to this pyscho.

thepotatogirl
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Seriously, why do some people have to be so controlling of their SO's? They're their own people and have their own lives too!

Tracy Rowe
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

this is abuse. No one has the right to tell someone what they can or cannot do. Being married or in a relationship is not ownership. He needs to run. Fast.

Maggie Collins
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This will teach her "hubby" to be a sneaky liar. Bottom line. How in the world could either of them think this is healthy? If you cannot trust this man, do not marry him. It will be a marriage made in Hell and you both will hate every minute of it. Cancel plans NOW, please.

Grace Skerp
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My rules 1. Whatever you take with you, bring it back 2. Don't leave anything there. Get it? Got it? Good. Have fun.

Carla Olavarría
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I CAN´T BELIEVE THIS IS REAL. JUST CAN´t. And why call her an "overprotective" wife?? she is just F*****g crazy!!!!! guys!!!! this is not normal, not tollerable in any way!!! still can´t believe it

Leo Domitrix
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If a significant other treats you like that? Flee. Just sayin'.

Lisa Larson
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"I've decided not to let him go"? WTF? I hope her hubby said F**k you and went, tuned his phone off, drank some alcohol, smoked a cigar or two, gambled away their life savings, hung out with strippers, drove a fast car (before drinking) and had a ball! The only thing I would tell my hubby is "we don't have bail money, so don't get arrested". Women like this deserve to be alone!

Jerry Katz
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He's not even her frigging "hubby" yet. It's not too late go get out of the nightmare, dude.

Jerry Katz
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A wild bachelor party is like eating a whole cake and a hot fudge sundae because the next day you're starting a diet.

cybermerlin2000
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Im in the exact opposite to this. I went to my brothers stag party and all my mrs said was Bring him back in one piece and no permanent damage or stuff that wont come off straight away Then she shoved me out the door with a kiss and a slap on the a**e

Lynda Momalo
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm thinking that if her husband "play wrestles" with other men enough for her to mention it that he's not likely to be tempted by (female) strippers. Closets may be involved here and she subconsciously realizes it.

Lisa Shaw
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My next door neighbours have a relationship like this, the husband is not "allowed" to speak to my husband while they are both cutting the grass, if her husband breaks the "rule" she makes his life hell, all day everyday, we can hear it all. I believe the husband is being mistreated, but not sure how to help, the whole street talks about them and what an awful situation it is.

deanna woods
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I know I am answering your question late, but if you feel that the husband is being mistreated, you have every right to speak up in his defense and ask her what her problem is. Depending on their ages, you can also contact Adult Protective Services and tell them what's going on. Have some of your neighbors back you up.

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Mama Panda
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hope he makes a list similar to this one for her for when she is out with her gal pals!!! She must give great BJs LOL

Sara Young
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Please don't let this woman (with problems rooted in herself - not her religion) sway your opinion on the religion. I hope people won't hate Christianity because someone misrepresented it.

deanna woods
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Thank you for saying this because there are people who think religious people are weird for reasons like this.

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elfin
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Apparently this woman has never heard of the Ten Commandments or else believes we need a hundred or so (and she's going to write them).

Shannon Blackwell
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She is a pathetic excuse for a woman, wife & Christian. I agree with most here that she's delusional & obviously doesn't trust him. He should either defy her & go to bachelor party anyway, get into counseling without a doubt, & be looking at the door. I want to upvote the post to get more people seeing it, but I also want to downvote it because I'm horrified at the thought that she'd go higher in thinking it was approval of her thoughts/actions!! WAY DISAPPROVE!!

Id row
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm picturing this woman as Gladys Kravitz. She's not overprotective, she's delusional and a little crazy.

elfin
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If someone is determined to misbehave they will usually find a way.

Danielle Renee
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i doubt she had to stop him from going, he's friends stopped him from going. she's a nightmare

Mewton’s Third Paw
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Lmao no way is this real. But I guess if they were religious freaks, it would make sense for them. Hey if it’s real and this is normal for their relationship then who cares? Religious people should follow their own rules, f**k it. For normal people, this would be extremely weird.

Carol Lewis
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5 years ago

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Where did it say they are Christians? I'm a Christian and would never put that nonsense on my husband. Love how people like to attack Christianity even when its not mentioned. Also as to telling people how to live there own lives, I was taught not to cast the first stone. Judging is a no no, but plenty people do, even non Christians, putting all of us in big old judgemental pile.

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jknbt jknbt
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

if your wife to be will be so demanding & controlling before the marriage, try to imagine how awful it will be after the marriage when she is holding ultimatum divorce papers over you.... RUN WHILE YOU CAN, BUD! RUN, RUN!!!

Kjorn
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i hope it's a joke, car it look too surreal for being true

Aunt Messy
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why would she want to marry someone she thinks is too stupid to go to the bathroom by himself? He needs to RUN away from her. Thankfully, the wedding hasn’t happened yet....

Galaxy Nerd
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Jesus are they from alabama because she's acting like she's his mother

Valerie Fawn
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I only agree with the no strippers, everything else is necessary though!

okpkpkp
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am 65 and have never, ever been to a bachelor party. I guess I'm lucky if these were the rules...

Sadie Jayne
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'd be willing to bet they worked on this together just for kicks and submitted it just to see who bought it!!!!

Panda Kicki
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Her trolling was A -grade! Well played getting everone so worked up. I dont think this is a real domestic abuse case, but sadly , many are. If it is real, hope he gets help to end a unhealthy relationship.

Sara Young
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Please don't let one individual (with problems rooted in their self - not their religion) sway your opinion on the religion. I hope people won't hate Christianity because someone misrepresented it.

Nirity
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5 years ago

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There are so many movies for bachelor parties went wrong. Many ppl say that night is meant to officially get drunk, while strippers dance on your crotch and is a legitamete excuse to cheat with another woman "for last time". Many of the other guys on those parties are already married but use it to excuse hard drinking, strippers and whores. If there was nothing true those shits happen why so many movies show exactly this, why so many women expect and fear exactly this? I don't like this tradition too, it's lame and only was born in us, but other countries also started it, to evaluate profanity by us example.

Mewton’s Third Paw
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Most guys don’t even go to strip clubs for their party. And most strip clubs dont allow actual sex. I know both because I was a stripper. If men touched beyond a handshake, they’d be thrown out. It would be weird if a guy went hooker hunting for another guy. Guys don’t do this s**t. They may go to a bar and have some shots with random chicks, party a little, smoke cigars, do something expensive like a party boat or party bus, and basically just bro out all night and drink with some women who are in the same bar. Even bachelors who come into strip clubs aren’t that bad, they look for a while and ask funny questions and get drunk. Most men love their fiancé and aren’t about to cheat just before they marry her.

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Tiffany Marie
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I've known several men who end up drunk with strippers & have some sort of sexual relations with them. .. The wife never knows until later on. I've told a few women. How did I find out, usually find out from the men that go, they talk about the great time they had. It happens so much, hard to trust or believe anything else happens. I would have a hard time with letting mine go, due to knowing the nature of them & I'm a Borderline so anything else they say I'd see as lies. I'd literally dump someone over anything like this, freak out and rather be alone and think about suicide. Because I couldn't handle the thoughts & am mentally unstable. I usually result in screaming & violence when I hit a trigger like something related to this.

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