Shades of Ye with Bianca 🙄

Obviously, he wanted his "birthday" cake and eat it too. Wear this tiny bikini with your a*s and nips poking out, I want all my friends to see what I'm tapping tonight. Oh. They're "looking" at you. You're mine. MINE! Me no wanna share. No look at me sexy wife!! Cover up!! Do what I say!! Whaaaaaa! 😭

That last comment on the post is absolutely baffling to me. The commentator's point is that she's TA because she spitefully refused to change the bathing suit he asked her to wear and she shouldn't have done that on his birthday. Oh my f*cking god. That can't be a real comment.

"but I felt bad saying no to him on his birthday." STOP. Say "No". Something makes you uncomfortable? I don't care what day it is, it's the day for you to say "No." NEVER let yourself feel guilty about having boundaries. Doesn't matter this guy is technically your husband. It's a disrespectful order and you're right to not feel right about it.

God, I hope she doesn’t procreate with that creep

Controlling what someone wears is as massive red flag for domestic abuse. If he's behaving like this now, it will only get worse.

This is exactly how I imagine married 22 year olds

I'm sad for any woman who would agree to something like this when she wasn't comfortable with it. Your body is your own - you're not a show dog.

I'm sitting here wondering if those AITA posts are real. This sounds sooo made-up, like an drama from afternoon TV. But maybe I'm just an old fart from another part of earth (and I used to have different problems at 22), so what do I know....

Immature idiot.

He's treating you like an accessory instead of a human. Tell hime you want him to wear a thong speedo the next time you have your friends over.

Wife=property=basic christian conservative "value". If you think getting told what to wear is bad...just imagine your husband pissing away your medical autonomy with his vote. Not that that would happen... I mean, that's crazy talk right!?!? No woman with an IQ above room temp would find it acceptable right!?!? Any party that transparently freedom crushing would have zero support right!?!? 🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️

Divorce in 5... 4... 3... 2...

A man showing off his wife (for her look) is so low. Doesn't he have other things to show off, like his intelligence maybe? I guess not

They both messed up, I see as they are 22, it is one of "I did a stupid thing when I was young lol" things you come back to, but she could have put her foot down, but then there is the way I WOULD HAVE DONE IT I would have come out in the MOST SEXIEST DRESS, face full of makeup and everything, and be like "Oh! this? he told me to dress sexy~ Something about... Want'n to show me off? so I did hahaha~" (this is better when you realize that I am 38yr old Gay Male, and have done something like this to someone who was an AH}

I bet I know exactly what happened. He wanted an ego boost and was expecting all his friends to congratulate him on marrying such a hot wife. That didn't happen and instead, he got treated to having to watch all his friends google her and possibly get flirtatious with her. This falls under "careful what you wish for." I would not be at all surprised if one or more of his friends approached him asking how he could "allow" his wife to dress like that in front of so many other men, which may have made him feel emasculated (whipped). I bet he won't ever make that request again...

Nobody should be wearing butt floss in public ever! I would have flat out REFUSED to wear it when his friends were there. He wanted to show you off like a possession and got mad/jealous when he got what he wanted. He is definitely a major AH.

It would be interesting to hear what the fight was about, her doing what he said, her not doing what he said. Also, why did he get charged up when his friends responded to his sexy wife? AND what friend ogles his pal's wife openly at a party for the pal? So AHs all around except the wife, she might need police protection.

It's your decision how you want to dress not his one. I would never tell my gf what to wear and would never let me tell what to wear, except I ask for her opinion for clothing for a certain event.

The man has no respect . He’s treating the woman like a piece of meat. She should have told him to wear a thong.

Actually ESH, you didn't WANT TO wear it or take the padding out THEN when he says change into something you'd be ore comfortable in you say no. He's TA for asking and putting it that way, you're not Barbie doll. and You're just being a b***h by NOT saying think about THIS the next time you want me to be sexual provocation for your ego in front o your friends and changed FOR YOUR OWN COMFORT.

Husband begs wife to wear revealing bikini to "show her off" to his friends. (Eew) Wife grudgingly does so. Husband gets exactly what he wanted, and as a result yells at wife. OP, your husband is a major a*****e. Expect the domestic violence to being within two to three years.

This is the first stage of "grooming"... wherein, your "husband" will request you do more and more uncomfortable, overtly sexual things, and then act as though you're the one in the wrong. This will end one way: you'll become his prisoner, and possession with no rights and no voice of your own. Get out now!

Ew. Serious, cataclysmic ew. Ick on an almost astronomical level. What a fuϲking wanker. Why do women STAY with αssholes like that? She’s older than sixteen, she should know better than to put up with this pubertal mess.

What irks me about all these comments are the people that are screaming "leave him" "he's an toxic as****le" " divorce him instantly" "don't marry at 22" We know nothing about them at all! This is one incident at one day. Yes, he did wrong, yes, at this specific moment, HTA. But please, hold your horses! He might see he's wrong. He might see what he did to her. It doesn't sound like he's constantly controlling her and such. Marriage isn't something to throw around, leave and go again. We shouldn't judge their relationship thru just this one thing

If one is truly grateful for what they have, then there is no desire to show off.

her husband is a creep, and likely one of those morally bankrupt Andrew Tate fans.

I think your husband is secretly gay.

Question (non native English here): is "ogling" always a disrespect/negative thing? I mean, if I feel/look pretty I don't mind people watching. If I'd have a fancy dress on I wouldn't mind people looking and admiring it. Would it be nice if it was ignored? If I feel confident in bikini (it differs from time to time) I don't mind people noticing me and watching me. It's not that they are not allowed to look at my breasts if I'm walking around topless. But leering and sexual hints is a no. Also only looking at them, also while talking, would be a no. Sneakily looking would be ok imo. I about is sometimes hard to divert your eyes when you see something interesting. So, back to the question: is ogling the disrespectful looking, or is it he secret but respectful "wow she looks good!" looking?

No, she shouldn't have refused to change. But she should have done so and could have done so with dignity. I'd dress however comfortable or whatever I'd want and leave the hosting for him while I relaxed as the sexy self I am and be catered to. Treat me LIKE THIS, or you won't be able to at all. Of course, after advocating for your own self-respect.