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Men Turn On “Heartless” Woman For Not Helping Out Bedridden Wife After Hysterectomy
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Men Turn On “Heartless” Woman For Not Helping Out Bedridden Wife After Hysterectomy

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People have different definitions of being neighborly, but it usually involves sharing a friendly conversation after bumping into each other, participating in local events, lending a tool, or contributing a missing ingredient to complete a recipe.

But for Reddit user NoConversation5833, it was about to extend even further. Her husband’s friend wanted her to look after his bedridden wife. In a post on r/AITAH, however, she said that she refused to help the nearby couple due to having recently given birth herself.

This caused tension between the families, and now the Redditor is no longer sure if she made the correct call.

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    This woman refused to help her neighbors around the house since she had just given birth

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    But they weren’t happy with her decision

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    After having a hysterectomy, women are often tired and in pain, but is it really the responsibility of the neighbor?

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    It depends on the woman’s age and general level of health, but the average recovery time for a vaginal or laparoscopic hysterectomy is 3 to 4 weeks and for an abdominal hysterectomy, the recovery may take 5 to 6 weeks.

    During this period, it’s important to look after oneself and get as much rest as possible for at least 2 weeks. So the Redditor’s neighbor is still going to have to be cared for.

    When State Farm Insurance and consumer research firm Harris Interactive surveyed over 17,000 Americans, the results showed that:

    • Names count: almost 50 percent of respondents indicated they know at least a fair amount of their neighbors by name;
    • They watch out for each other: 46 percent of people watch their neighbors’ homes several times a year;
    • Neighbors matter: 50 percent say that neighbors affect their happiness by at least a fair amount.

    “We’ve always known good neighbors are important in good times and in bad,” said Mike Davidson, State Farm Vice Chairman and Chief Agency Marketing Officer. “What’s encouraging is that people in every state are willing to step up and assist. Some will help a neighbor find a job. Another may help with chores to save money. Others may bring over a meal. Some are even willing to let neighbors move in for a while if they’re displaced.”

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    “It’s heartening to see this and underscores that in every state in our union, neighbors are an untapped resource for good as we struggle through challenging times,” he added.

    But while Tim may have rightfully sought help, given the circumstances, the question arises whether he has fully considered and empathized with his neighbors himself.

    Building a supportive community is a two-way street; it involves understanding each other’s needs, not just asking for favors when it’s convenient.

    As her story went viral, the woman joined the discussion in the comments

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    Even though most people thought she had every right to refuse, some said the situation wasn’t so clear-cut

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    Hphizzle
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    11 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    YTA people?!? What!?! Umm she just gave birth literally days ago and has another kid at home! She’s probably barely functioning herself. Then she is asked to be a caretaker for someone she barely knows. NTA. Boys (because that is how they are acting) need to stop smoking joints and get in the damn house and figure out how to be a good partner.

    Jane Doe
    Community Member
    11 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    None of the YTA people are telling the dad to call on his family, to take time off. They are proud that he had a solution. P**n off his responsibility onto another woman. And she’s the a*****e because he won’t (not can’t ) step up.

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    Zedrapazia
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    11 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So you are seriously telling me this pathetic worm of a man (the neighbors husband) decided to go and get OPs friend to smoke a freakin' joint instead of helping his WIFE??

    StumblingThroughLife
    Community Member
    11 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Those last 2 (ESH & YTA) probably don't have kids/babies themselves. Pregnancy and birth take a lot out of you, no matter how 'smoothly' the birth is. You're bleeding like a stuck pig, sore, tired, lacking sleep due to feeding patterns (which are approx every 4-5 hours - my experience, at least), even more so when your partner/Hubby disappears with his mates - and getting high? Yeah, he'll be incapable to help after that. The sheer nerve of the hubby to even ASK! He should have said no from the get-go. Those last two mentioned are also the AHs.

    VioletHunter
    Community Member
    11 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Feeding only every 4 to 5 hours sounds great. Most newborns cry for milk every 2.5 hours in my experience.

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    Hphizzle
    Community Member
    11 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    YTA people?!? What!?! Umm she just gave birth literally days ago and has another kid at home! She’s probably barely functioning herself. Then she is asked to be a caretaker for someone she barely knows. NTA. Boys (because that is how they are acting) need to stop smoking joints and get in the damn house and figure out how to be a good partner.

    Jane Doe
    Community Member
    11 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    None of the YTA people are telling the dad to call on his family, to take time off. They are proud that he had a solution. P**n off his responsibility onto another woman. And she’s the a*****e because he won’t (not can’t ) step up.

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    Zedrapazia
    Community Member
    11 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So you are seriously telling me this pathetic worm of a man (the neighbors husband) decided to go and get OPs friend to smoke a freakin' joint instead of helping his WIFE??

    StumblingThroughLife
    Community Member
    11 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Those last 2 (ESH & YTA) probably don't have kids/babies themselves. Pregnancy and birth take a lot out of you, no matter how 'smoothly' the birth is. You're bleeding like a stuck pig, sore, tired, lacking sleep due to feeding patterns (which are approx every 4-5 hours - my experience, at least), even more so when your partner/Hubby disappears with his mates - and getting high? Yeah, he'll be incapable to help after that. The sheer nerve of the hubby to even ASK! He should have said no from the get-go. Those last two mentioned are also the AHs.

    VioletHunter
    Community Member
    11 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Feeding only every 4 to 5 hours sounds great. Most newborns cry for milk every 2.5 hours in my experience.

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