WTF would he do if you weren't there, he sounds like he can barely function as an adult, let alone a father, he needs to sort himself out!

The husband is a d**k. More so as he is asking you to do things he can do himself. Brush your own kids' hair FFS. I work from home and sometimes, if I have important calls, I have to block the door so my son can't come in. My wife leaves me alone, as she puts it: "It's like you're not here which suits me". Regarding the lock, the kids will understand if you explain it to them nicely.

If he's the one without a job, he should be the one to do the housework while his wife works

I think she put the new lock on the wrong door!

She's right of course. The fact that he barges in to ask her to fix his phone or computer is a nice twist though.

"I already handle the chores when I'm not working..." This really stands out. It's clear that he doesn't see her work as a "real" job, and even though he's not bringing in any money himself, he wants her to get herself back to the kitchen and be a good little wifey.

Manchild deliberately sabotaging his wife's career. She needs a divorce, not a lock on the door.

This is a WAY bigger problem than just a lock on a door. * He is controlling and manipulative * He does not respect her * He is trying to sabotage her work * He is immature and irresponsible She needs to think hard about the long-term consequences of this relationship.

NTA. My spouse would barge into my space as I was taking exams for my masters degree to talk about where to put the dishes.

dude's a little twerpy loser. leave his ass.

I wish I had a separate room so I could put a lock on a door. I'm constantly being interrupted with my work. I don't like going into the office because it means uncomfortable business clothes, but I like the fact that I can put my head down and get more work done. I understand her pain.

I'm not seeing anyone bringing up how passive-aggressive this BS is. And manipulative. And abusive. Someone did ask if this guy was on medications or should he be? Yeah, he should be, but he'd never do it. This smacks of mania. And control issues. The dynamic changed when she went to work at home. So, Cry Baby lost some self esteem. He has to step in and take up the slack. He has to have some *respect* for his wife and he clearly thinks she has a "place" and she needs to keep it, no matter what. He throws infantile temper tantrums. When you use your kids as blackmail fodder and humiliate your wife in front of people and think it's OK because they'd no doubt see how neglected YOU are then you need help. She needs to get away from this. When the kids get older and stop catering to daddy he'll get like this with them, too.

Never mind a lock, get a divorce from the loser. I don't now why he is unemployed but the least you can do is be an adult and help out so the person making a real income can f*****g do their job!

My friend admitted that she did the same thing to her husband. He would try to explain to her that working from home is the same as working in the office, but she'd be in and out of his "office" all day, asking for help with the chores or the kids. As a result, he fell behind in his work. I understand that it was only small things she'd ask for help with, but they all add up.

All I had to do was ready the title of this article to say that this guy is an ass.

I'm thinking he is now going to be pounding on the door to get in.

My mom has been working from home since the pandemic started. And my entire family knows and respects that when the office door is closed she's in a video conference no to be disturbed. That husband doesn't respect his wife's boundaries and then is surprised when she has to take measures to ensure those same boundaries. As my mom would say , "He needs to grow up."

I smell a divorce cooking

He sounds dumb.

He’s a man child who needs to grow up immediately. Someone needs to give him a lesson on how bills are paid and how adults work. He’s inconsiderate to say the least.

Sounds like either the husband has some disorder which causes poor impulse control or he is a chauvinist who thinks that working women don’t do any serious job but it’s rather some kind of hobby (even when the woman brings food to the table) or he feels so emasculated he has to try to degrade her in front of her colleagues to make himself feel superior. I would say he is acting like a baby but that would insult babies.

Yeah sounds like the husband just isn't quite getting that you being home doesn't quite mean you being available . I am a person who doesn't always see what is obvious to everyone else . I would say that a serious discussion about the fact that you being working from home , means you're not home to be wife/mom... it means you working while at home. Lol. Honestly...it's not a stupidity thing , mine is related to ADHD and obviously you learn more as you get older and are able to see a situation the way anyone else would. I think often times people are quick to assume and quick to anger. It sounds like this guy just honestly wasn't understanding how much of a pain he was being

Some people go from their parents to a spouse. Perhaps they should take time to become who they are, a self sufficient, able adult before tackling wedded responsibility. Love is that. A fickle romantic notion and it feels so good and real. I am teaching my boy (9) how to cook, and even do minor sewing, and laundry and how to deal with household labor. Perhaps if more parents would incorporate this, our kids would not be so clueless .

I wonder if he lost his job for constantly barging in on people at work.

I think, Corona has destroyed all illusions about how we women thought our environment perceives us. We are seen as the same functional non-persons who just exist to take care of others, just as we've been looked at for aoens. Mothers, Wifes, enablers. The only difference to the pervious centuries is that we are now also expected to bring home the bacon.

What got me is “please watch the oven while I take this phone call.” ARE YOU SERIOUS?!?!?! Phones do not have cords like they did years ago, and even if they did, they were really long! In today’s day and age you can set a timer almost literally ANYWHERE! Why does the wife need to be responsible for making your food? Oh jeez! I’d seriously question his ability to even so much as care for himself at this point.

I worked with a man like that. He was just insecure and needed to be seen. It was irritating, but I honestly don't think he was aware of what he was doing.

your husband is f*****g stupid enough to not respecting boundaries and work ethics. Like he never experienced working before. why don't he try to do the work (as a man should) then you can go fix everything he can't do!

I work nights. Some people have trouble wrapping their heads around the fact that I'm on the reverse of a normal schedule. I sleep during the day. Some of the people I work with have family members who constantly disrupt their sleep by coming into the bedroom while they are sleeping, calling them at all times of the day for stupid stuff etc... In regards to the later I recommended calling that person back at 0400 or such and then they usually get the point about the person's sleep schedule. I would think in the OPs case the lock seems similar to the phone call.

The fact that he’s 36 and acting so childishly 🥴

Maybe a sign of "do not disturb- in a meeting" would have been a smaller gun to try and if that failed there would be obvious justification for the bigger gun of the lock.

This should work wonders for their marriage, putting their issues on the Internet.

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most submission to r/AITA are fake these days. stop recycling them boredpanda

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I get it, but a lot of these reddits are people who stewed for months and then do something "dramatic". He clearly doesn't get it, but and might need it pointed out multiple times. I'm guessing that is what he is like and has always been like. The lock can be, "okay I will leave it unlocked if you promise to leave me be." Rather than dismissing his feelings as pitching a fit.

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Another fake reddit story. Bad grammar always gives them away.