If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all—a phrase most of us have heard before. Mostly because hurtful comments do more harm than good, especially coming from a parent.

Redditor u/Pizza-lover-13 opened up to the AITA community about his wife criticizing their daughter’s looks. He revealed she’s had difficulties before and after the pregnancy, which might have had something to do with the comments. However, he couldn’t take it any longer and eventually snapped at her.

Criticizing your child can negatively affect not only them, but other members of the family as well

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Man opens up about his wife making rude comments about their three-week-old daughter’s looks

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One in seven mothers can develop postpartum depression, which affects not only the mom herself but the entire family as well

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The OP revealed that his wife has been suffering from an anxiety disorder and depression, as well as postpartum depression (PPD), which might have influenced her actions and the way she views her baby. It is believed that one in seven mothers can develop PPD, which strongly affects their relationship with the child.

According to the American Psychiatric Association, postpartum depression usually entails extreme sadness, indifference and/or anxiety, changes in energy, sleep, and appetite. It is a mentally and physically debilitating state that can last for months or years if unattended to. However, it can be treated with help from professionals.

Unfortunately, by affecting the mom, PPD can influence the well-being of the entire family. In the OP’s situation, the critique about the baby’s features she got from her father was likely not only painful for the dad to hear, but damaging for the son as well. It might lead to developing a derogatory view towards body image or certain features. The mother’s words can also influence the opinion he’s forming on his baby sister.

In Psychology Today, the clinical psychologist Seth J. Gillihan pointed out that highly critical parents can become the cause of a strained relationship between kids. He also emphasized that because of them, children might have a hard time trusting themselves, or be reluctant to take a compliment or believe that someone likes them. Criticizing their appearance can make them self-conscious about it.

No one is immune to body shaming, so it’s important to be aware how your views on it can affect your child

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Sadly, more than half of adults have received negative comments about their looks. And even though no one is immune to such unpleasant remarks, young girls seem to be affected even more, as statistics reveal 94% of them have experienced body shame (versus 64% of their male counterparts).

A redditor shared in the comments how her body-shaming remarks directed at herself affected her young offspring. When she heard her three-year-old daughter wondering if she’s fat, she realized that such an example is the wrong one to set for your kid. Parents have a strong impact on their children, whether it’s actions that they are likely to copy or words that they might take to heart.

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Another community member opened up about how in a nearly identical situation to the one in u/Pizza-lover-13’s story, her mother’s comments about her looks made her feel worthless. The father was always there by her side, though, to assure her she was beautiful, which made a world of difference. Luckily for the OP’s daughter, she’s perfect in his eyes and he isn’t going to let anyone tell her otherwise.

People shared their thoughts and experiences in the comments, they believed the OP was not a jerk in the situation

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