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Sexism can manifest itself in ways that are serious or minor, outrageously offensive or so normalized that you don't even recognize it. But as countless women around the world can tell you, it's there.

In an attempt to show the internet just how imbalanced gender relations can be, the Facebook page "Humans of Patriarchy" is sharing memes, testimonies, and all sorts of other content that exposes the ugly side of today's society. And it appears to be working — as of this publication, the online project has over 415K followers.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Also about how sad it is that society has convinced many people that romance is the only kind of love that is important. You barely see in media people showing family or friendly love to each other.

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    Looking at these posts, it's clear that our society hasn't achieved gender equality quite yet. But that doesn't mean the situation is hopeless.

    Chilean writer Isabel Allende, whose novels are often based upon her personal experience and historical events and pay homage to the lives of women, thinks that we're certainly progressing.

    "I have lived enough to see great changes in the situation of women," Allende told The New York Times in an interview. "Little by little, women are chipping away the patriarchy. The fact we have not been able to replace it yet doesn't mean we have failed; it means that the job is monumental. But it's not impossible."

    "I believe it will happen, but not in my lifetime, and it will happen only if women are educated, informed, connected and active. It takes very little for us to lose the rights we have obtained. Best recent example: the Taliban. In a few days, women and girls lost all their rights in Afghanistan, and the most awful form of patriarchy took over the country. We have to be vigilant: Given the wrong circumstances, it can happen anywhere."

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And these are the same people screeching about "CRT" being taught in schools because they still prioritize White feelings over truth

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    Nadia Monteira
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This one is powerful. I don't want to be beautiful as a woman to conform to a norm expected from me since I was a toddler. I want to be strong, resilient, intelligent, cultured, friendly, helpful, any adjective but beautiful. I am not a flower, I am a woman

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    But can we verify this quantitatively? Actually, yes. Since 2006, the Global Gender Gap Index has been measuring the extent of gender-based gaps among four key dimensions: economic participation and opportunity, educational attainment, health and survival, and political empowerment. Tracking the progress towards closing these gaps over time, it reports benchmarks and provides country rankings that allow for effective comparisons across and within regional peers. According to its 2020 findings, there is still a 31.4% average gender gap that remains to be closed globally.

    Across the four characteristics, on average, the largest gender disparity lies within political empowerment. Despite being the most improved dimension that year, the gap on this subindex has only been closed by 25%, meaning there are still not enough women occupying seats in government across the world.

    However, it's important to note that the political empowerment subindex fails to measure the legal rights of women and girls in comparison to those of men, which plays a significant role in determining the extent to which a society is equal.

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    "Although progress [has been] made in advancing women’s rights, it has been slow and inconsistent, and many sex-discriminatory laws remain entrenched,” Romina Canessa, a human rights lawyer at Equality Now, told Global Citizen. “When governments deny women and girls the same rights as men and boys, this legitimizes discrimination and abuse, and means they have no formal recourse if their rights are violated.”

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It may be cultural. I've seen this some times in bored panda but I can affirm that in my country they will explain and they can be very explicit. And, if being among some men, all of them will talk much and at the same time.

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    Caro Caro
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If a man thinks this then he is an idiot and doesn't know how to have normal interaction with women.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I once was in a training class with a man who felt that a woman, who reported to police, having her bum slapped by a man at a party was over reacting (this was in a training scenario) When asked how he would have felt if the woman in question was his wife, he said he’d have been outraged. He genuinely couldn’t grasp that it was exactly the same thing whoever the woman was. He was training to be a police constable.

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    The economic and labor market gender gap has been closed by 58%. This is due to the fact that, on average, only 55% of women are participating in the global workforce, and their presence in higher-yielding positions is even lower.

    Plus, this disparity is exacerbated by the global wage gap, which affects women across all industries and backgrounds, and has remained relatively stagnant throughout the last five years or so. These components highlight the challenges women face to escape poverty and become financially and economically independent. 

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And it hurts everyone, to paint emotions as a weakness rather than a part of humanity

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    On the other hand, I invite men to have more fun (only people who wants to!) in their appearance. It's also feminism to allow non cis women to wear make up, jewelry, coloured clothes and other clothes different from a shirt or t-shirt and plain trousers. I mean, as a chice, never mandatory!

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    At least 35 of the 153 surveyed countries have closed the education gender gap by 96.1%. However, this number varies across education levels.

    Globally, girls are less likely to receive an education due to gender-based discrimination, child marriage, and the burden of fulfilling domestic chores, all of which prevent young girls and teens from attending school. 

    While more young girls and women are attending primary and secondary school, less than half are going on to attend college.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This i good and sad. Good that there is a illustration! Bad that neither me nor they have seen one.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Every female expert has to deal with these sorts of men almost every day. It is so deeply frustrating.

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    Although the global gender gap for health care and survival has been closed by 95.7%, millions of women worldwide still do not have equal access to health care, especially reproductive health care.

    Jennifer Weiss-Wolf, vice-president for development at the Brennan Center for Justice, thinks that period poverty and menstrual stigma play significant roles in holding society back from achieving gender equality, noting that these barriers can also hold them back from participating in politics, the workforce, and education.

    “If menstruation inhibits anybody from any one of those things, it inhibits them from all four, which places it squarely in the heart of what it means to achieve full gender equality,” she explained. “If we don’t have policies in place to ensure a safe and open, and accurate discussion around menstruation, treatment of menstruation, in all of these ways, we are leaving off the table a considerable component.” 

    In order to achieve gender equality and make all of these pictures a thing of the past, countries across the globe must increase the number of women in government, ensure education is accessible to all women and girls, create free or affordable child care so that more women can participate in the labor market, and provide access to safe reproductive health care.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    if they can understand straight couples then they can understand gay couples

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Are they gonna start making pockets when they realize the women are evolving?

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, I'm not going to respect you when you just told me my entire existence disgusts you. Now, if you'll excuse me, I have some gay s**t to attend to

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I buy extra and keep it at home so my wife won't have to panic because pads or tampons are not there.

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    Samantha Lomb
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Women's contributions are consistently erased. Science is particularly bad about that. Or giving credit for women's ideas to men.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They didnt think this through. If their penises are so big, wo wants them? This would be just painful.

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    Ozacoter
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Also we all need to remember that privilege and oppression are not a one or zero aspect of life. A person can be privileged as a man but be opressed as a etnic minority or be white and disabled, rich and gay...

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Someone said that to me once. I said, "Oh, well, what are other girls like?" And when he finished his diatribe, I said, "Well, it just sounds to me like you really hate women." There wasn't another date after that. Fortunately.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    please do not look at the misogynistic comment below for information, it is absolutely inaccurate for women are quite blatantly paid lesser for the same job, whatever crackpot justification they come up with next

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How many women here on BP have had a loud or 'controversial/equality based' opinion attacked, and then been personally attacked for it too? Accused of being xyz, or the age old deflection of "oh you, a woman, disagree with me, a man? You must be obsessed with me" 🙄 Just about every deflection just to avoid the point you try to make? I've got my hand up

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    2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    i dont really see how this is patriarchy it's more of how bad buisness pay is getting. you work your ass off and they give you minimum wage or no raise

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    2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    From all my young relatives and friends (40-20) only one could afford buying a house. Three others have a home because their parents/in laws could afford giving them a loan. The only one that can afford a baby is my 38yo cousin and only because his mum paid for the house. How are we supposed to have children? (Not that i want them)

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm sorry, I hope this doesn't offend anybody here but I wasn't taught that and I can't imagine it's something that is being taught nowadays. At least, I hope not.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    nope, that's not historians who say that, that's filmmakers... historians actually claim the opposite - she wasn't physically pretty, she had other qualities

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why can't just once in awhile when there is a person who has no brain cells comments that I can't just give them a couple extra 200 or so downvotes?

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    Samantha Lomb
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Its not hard to remember what a person wants to be called. Its just basic respect, which is of course why the transphobes consistently deadname.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And that is vest case scenario. Worst case they refuse to do chores even if you distrubute them but then whine because "women are nags".

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    2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When I got soft any form of "No" and it was often, I thanked them for their time, wished her all the best and walked away. That was that. Rejection is part of life. Parents should have taught their kids, regardless of gender, how to gracefully accept rejection without feeling hurt about it. That being said, I have had women get offended too because I did not persist as if I should have known that their NO was their code for me to put in more effort, so they would feel desired and pursued because according to them, men are hunters and women are prey. Frankly, I find this type of thinking f****d up and it is all about their ego-tripping. No means no. Full stop.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is extremely important. I have always considered myself an open minded person and I had disabled friends and family in the past. And I am embarrassed now that I am disabled of how many things I missed when it comes to accessibility. Yes, that metro might look like its almost flat and accessible but its too hight for my disabled scooter. That elevator is amazing but its too small for most disability aids. That street has 1 place where you can drive a wheelchair to cross so you need to do the most stupid detours to cross it. Any city planner should be forced to use a wheelchair or other disability aids for a couple of weeks in order to truly understand how not accessible cities are.

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    2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is an over-generalization and not necessarily true. People change all the time. Anyone can change. Even different life-circumstances can make a person change on accident without the person really doing any work on themselves. Imagine if the person actually tried. The real decider is if they want to.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am sorry but this one is wrong. It is ok to fight inequalities and to be angry about them. But there is a fine line between that and giving in hate, considering everybody else your enemy. As a migrant and disabled I know very well how tempting that is. But I wont convince the xenophobes around me that I am a decent person by irrationally hating all people from this country. Or all able bodied people.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And teach women and doctors about the huge risks of pregnancy and how to detect them. A friend of mine recently lost her baby because she had complications and she went two times to the doctor to be told that she was overreacting and nothing was worng. The thrid time she went to the ER and her baby had died. Her placenta was terribly bad, her hormones too and they could have seen it with an eco and a blood test. Now she risks permanent demage and chronic pain and lost her baby because of their negligence

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Do men not just plug the number into their phone and instantly call you so "you have their number too"? Or take the number and keep chatting away, flirting harder now they have your number and implicit approval? I always wanted to use the fake number thing but couldn't see how it would work.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It’s difficult when you have no money, no income, nowhere to go, your family and friends have been chased off and your every move is watched

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    is totally true. only the last couple of decades have things like textiles and embroidery being taking more seriously...but this is also because many non-western and other cultural elements weren't consider relevant until a few decades ago...the fun fact, is that women where more involve in art than we usually think, but only "the great male creators" got recognition

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My 2 cats are my kids. And I have a large extended family I am very grateful for. 🥰

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    mental illnesses are just as bad, if not worse, as physical ones, and should be counted such as well

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh GAWD! I once had a supervisor who was the living embodiment of toxic positivity! She was like "If we're all positive and smile and cheer each other on, this bad idea will work!", instead of "If we're positive, we can think of an idea that will work!". How do such people exist in this world.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    but; my parent says it all the time not even if I do something bad mind you

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    yeah i always hear my dads voice, you could do more, could be better or my favourite half a job Helen

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    2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Does anyone know any books/movies that contain a number of these? I'd love to expand my collection with better representation of women. updated - Thank you!! I will look into all of these!

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don’t know about this one, Hitler was so bad that his siblings consciously decided not to have kids just to make sure his genes couldn’t live on.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's what I keep thinking when I read those stories about people raising money for others' health treatments: I give 17% of my monthly salary to a health insurance system. I am young and healthy and don't need health services worth 17% of my salary, so the money is used to treat others who need it. Should I ever develop a serious illness and require long-term treatment (which is likely as I age) I will receive these services, even if they surpass my net payments. It is not only a compassionate system but an example of a functioning society(and generational contract) in the best sense.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well Frost would have approved of her choice even if he would have been dismissive of the reason. He hated the interpretation that taking the less traveled road was a good idea,

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    2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not to be that guy, but... As a trans dude, when I was perceived as a girl, I was always told that as a girl I had to stand up for myself because people would want to take advantage of me. I was told I would have support & help if anything bad ever happened to me. But after I transitioned & people started seeing me as a boy, I was never offered any of that help again because people forget boys can be victims of abuse too. People forget that boys need support & help as well. Boys are expected to accept being treated badly in silence as well & it isn't addressed the way it is for girls, & I'm sorry if I get downvoted for this, but it's important to point out that this isn't actually a double-standard; or maybe it is, but the other way around. EVERYONE deserves encouragement to fight against abuse & EVERYONE deserves validation in their experience, regardless of gender, but people get so focused on the gender perceived to be neglected that they neglect another even more. I hate that it's a gendered issue at all, when the real issue is abuse, mental health, & victim advocating.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    everytime my brother and my mum had an argument because of something he didn't do/couldn't do (ADHD is a bitch), he got so angry with himself, with my mum and the world allaround, that he yelled "sorry that i was born! i didn't choose it" and my mum looked so shocked.. i guess it helped her to realize that we didn't owe her or anybody else anything.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I had a boyfriend who claimed I was being clinging, and he dramatically told me I should find a guy who's world revolved around me. He was two hours late coming home, and I texted him ONCE to ask if he was ok (and he didn't even text me back). I'm pretty sure it's not unreasonable to expect someone to communicate when they are going to be late.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've started saying, "I accept your apology in the spirit in which it was given." It makes people mad when they realize what I really said: If you give me a half-*ss apology, I will half-*ss accept it. Lol. Also, "being the bigger person" should mean walking away when there is no feasible way to resolve the situation; but that doesn't mean you accepted it. Sometimes there is literally no legal or ethical way to deal with a situation; you just have to cut your loses and get out of there.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wish friends and family understood this. If I don't have a good enough "excuse" then my time must be up for grabs. "Oh, you're not working tomorrow! Great, then we're doing this or that that will take 12 hours!". Just because I have a day off doesn't mean I'm free to do that, or I want to do that, or that you shouldn't even ask and just declare my time yours. I especially hate social media and chat programs because of this. Yes, they are awesome, you can stay connected with people who are not near enough to visit often. But at the same time, you're pressured to connect at any time, regardless of your mood or s*** you have going on. Back in the day when you got a letter by post, you could not open it for days. You could answer when you felt like it. Now the notification is just blinking, blinking. They expect you to answer because you little "green light" says you're online, so why don't you?!

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    does it have a name when people are doing it to me, or is that there fault too

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    2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Unless is about your own health and the experts tell you that you are fine and you feel ill. Specially as a woman, who are very likely to be ignored by doctors and so called "experts". My best friend lost a baby recently and risks permanent damage and pain for listening to doctors telling her that she was overreacting. I risk death if I ever get pregnant for trusting an expert who lied to me and considered me being infertile worse than me dying. I will need a hysterectomy (that risks my livers health due to the anesthesia and risks makjng my CFS worse) because of that lying psycopath.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Understand, for these people, suffering and allowing yourself to be abused for decades, and "making it" through anyway is a point of PRIDE... Despite the effects on mental health, their children, their marriage, their ability to live comfortably and pain free in later years, "suffering" with "nobody's help" or any "handouts" is the Murican way!

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    Freya the Wanderer
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Years ago I quit a toxic job because of all the male bovine solid bodily waste ejecta they flung my way. Employees had to go through some training that was 100% pure hogwash and had nothing to do with productivity or business. We had to parrot the most ridiculous baloney. Our training entailed going through some half-a$sed kiddie games. I confess that I sabotaged a scavenger hunt - and I AM NOT F#####G SORRY I DID!!!!! Mwa ha ha ha ha! Soon after the so-called training was over, I quit.

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    2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why are we called crazy for getting out of toxic/abusive relationships?

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    Dave
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Actually when people bump into each other in crowded places or if they were distracted by something is nothing but a misfortunate incident and nothing to make an issue out of it. Apologising is a decent, human thing to do. Regardless of gender. It does not invalidate anyone.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have a tummy and the "innocent" jokes and comments are so numerous that I stopped counting. I know I have a bit of a tummy, thank you for pointing out the obvius.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    okay as a white as snow person.. is this true? is this a thing?? how horrible!

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    Demi Zwaan
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm afraid the majority of people need some explanation here. I'm not familiar with these terms, but they seem Indian?

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Using karen just shows how misoginistic is that person

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Colonial Grammar" really. I agree with all the posts, but this one is bullshit. Grammar is grammar. Full stop. It is not colonial, it is the English Language. Though British English rules and simplified U.S. grammar are two different things. That being said, when debating about an issue, those who attack the grammar have no valid contribution to make to the debate and they focus on things that do not matter in order to invalidate the opposing side.

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