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40 Examples Of How People Handled Neighbors That Would Only Interact With Their Partners
While everyone in life does their best to pick and choose who they hang out with, the folks who happen to live next door are generally out of your control. So most people do their best to be polite and cordial, when possible. However, there are always somewhat rude and often strange people out there.
A netizen asked “How do you handle a female neighbor who doesn't greet you but greets your husband?” and people shared their perspectives. So get comfortable as you scroll through, upvote your favorites and be sure to detail your own thoughts in the comments below.
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#1
Your husband should say, “you know my wife?” While putting his arm around you. This is more about how he handles it.
TheReader19 6 months ago
Now, that's what I call a good response. Let's see how she reacts to that 🤔
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#2
I'd reply as though she greeted me and ask follow up questions. Make her talk. Make her uncomfortable.
#3
Tell your husband to stop responding. F*ck that. Your husband should’ve already stopped on his own.
#4
My husband would just ignore her. He don’t acknowledge anyone who don’t acknowledge me. Nothing to do, just let her keep talking to herself until she gets the message. She will either starting greeting us both or none of us. And it wouldn’t matter to us either way.
#6
Have your husband ignore her like she ignores you. If he doesn't see she is purposefully disrespectful, have a sit down and figure if he too should be your neighbor.
#7
Just ignore her/it, not a big deal at all. I trust my husband and honestly I find it flattering she finds him attractive and amusing that’s she’s so petty to greet him and not me. Not something to get upset about or react to at all.
#8
Say hi. When she says hi to your husband simply call her tf out . “Why you always saying hi to my husband and not me?”
#9
Your husband is supposed to check her. Y’all are supposed to be a team. One band, one sound.
#10
That’s when your Husband steps in and say “I’m not sure if you have met my wife …”
#11
I’d go out of my way to interact with her and brag about my husband constantly with a big smile on my face.
#12
You ignore her existence and keep it moving. Who cares laugh at her for seeking male validation.
#13
Hubs needs to dead that immediately. “I appreciate you greeting me, however, it makes me uncomfortable that my wife isn’t included. Since we’re a unit, my greetings will stop after today. Should you want to revisit this conversation in the future, you know how to find us. We both wish you well.”
#14
Possible she knows his name and not yours? I wouldn’t go ballistic until I was sure it wasn’t something innocuous like that.
Binky Melnik 6 months ago
I say “Hello” to people whose names I don’t know. I also say “Merry Christmas,” “Happy New Year,” and so on to strangers. I don’t need a name to talk to them. I doubt most people do. I think this one doesn't understand the assignment.
#15
My parents have a neighbor like that. She doesn’t say hi to my mom or me but will break her neck to speak to my dad. My mama and I just laugh because lady…it’s never that serious. Since moving out I don’t really stop by my parents since having two toddlers. She hasn’t seen either until I came over with them. The girls yelled to my mama, “grandma!!!” She made sure to speak that day. Yeah, I know my babies are cute. Move along.
#16
What I did with a male neighbor that kept on hitting me, while me having a partner and expressing that. || We bumped into him together in the hall way. When we were past him I said: yess that’s him, about what I was telling you… in my whisper voice just hard enough. Let her know you guys are a team and talk about everything! She will feel that she doesn’t stand a chance and prolly feel shame that she got caught by doing what she does.
#17
I would simply ask her . Why you always speak to husband and not me ??? If you can't speak to us both then don't speak to us at all !!
#18
I would step in front of my husband in a heartbeat, wave my arms in her face and say hello hello! 😂
#19
Nothing. Your husband should be the one to just ignore her. You don’t acknowledge my wife, i don’t acknowledge you. Simple
#20
I don’t like to ever seem like the insecure gal- so I always choose to have a talk with MY HUSBAND how it makes me feel, or that as women WE KNOW the BS…. And ask him to be the sarcastic one… tell next time she does it to ask if she’s met his wife.. “have you met my wife let me go get her so y’all can talk” or tell him act Iike he ain’t see or hear her. It’s up to him to respect you and honor your feelings and boundaries not the ‘stranger’, because some females have no respect for themselves.
#21
Make sure that your husband ignores her. He will have to set the tone for how she treats you. And if he is a good husband, he will ignore her until he greets his wife
#22
Have your husband make her feel awkward the way she made you feel. Have him just be blunt and tactless and in front of you say... hey neighbor why do you always only say hello to me and not my wife? That's weird? Then just stand there in awkward silence staring at her while she tries to squirm away. 🤣 Bet she won't do it again lmao.
#23
Ask him if he has ever noticed that she usually greets him but not you and see how he responds. If the next time she does it and he doesn’t correct her or if he speaks then you have your answer. Don’t do anything because he will say you’re over reacting. But if he does correct her then you don’t have to say anything then either because he has established a boundary and denied her access.
Lyoness 6 months ago
This is nice (asking the partner if they notice) but also passive aggressive (wait and see what she does and how he reacts). Why not ask if he notices, then tell him how it makes you feel? And discuss how you'll both handle it next time? The conversation should be about your relationship, not how some random neighbour greets you.
#24
Sounds to me She definitely wants your husband. I’m that woman that would confront her because that is a major form of disrespect. When it comes to men, women will throw another woman under the bus for a man, even if that man belongs to you. I say confront her set your boundaries and if she do it again just simply embarrass her in front of everyone. You don’t even gotta put hands on her unless she test you.
#25
Give her an over the top greeting, make it obvious “yeah I see you and yeah I’m talkin to you and yeah don’t even try it.” Every time.
#26
Maybe your husband shouldn’t greet her back. Not suggesting anything, just maybe if he stops greeting her back and ignores her she will stop all together.
#27
Tell HIM to stop responding to ppl who don't respect you also answer for the both of yall saying "WE said goodmorning " "WE said have a nice day " ..these harlots know what they be doing but ya husband should respect you enough to not respond to someone who does that 🤷🏽♀️
#29
Look honey… Thank you but no thanks. He’s happy here & you should go & do the same.. And tell your husband to be present when you say it so they both can be reassured & everything is understood.
#30
She probably thinks you didn't like her, but your husband has always been friendly to her.
Ambrosius 6 months ago
Oh i know right! My husband is very polite and charming and there is this little old lady neighbour who adores him and ignores me completely for some reason. And she is not the only person doing that. And I don't mind at all. Perhaps I just look unfriendly or something. 😄
#31
Handle? I would be so happy to be left alone. Let my husband deal with her!
Also, I would say “neighbour who’s a woman.” “Female,” is used for animals that arn’t human.
“How do you deal with a female dog who doesn’t greet you but greets your husband?”
And in that case I would be really upset!!! Why doesn’t she like me!?!?
#32
Print all of this out and just hand it to her. “Hellllur ole raggedy a*s. I know you don’t like to talk much so here’s something to read tonight before bed. I would say have a good one, however, I don’t like to lie.”
#33
You answer for your husband. Don’t break eye contact with her. I’m not even joking. I did this to a waitress one time. Be a sl*t but not around me because I WILL check you.
#34
You do what I did. I told her in front of my husband and our daughter she is not to direspect me by speaking to my family and not me. I know exactly what she was doing and it was childish and petty behavior for a supposed grown ass woman. I guess that what she saw her mama do. I also told her I was only going to tell her once. She does it again, and she’ll have probablems with breathing properly for the rest of her life. If she didn’t belive me, I had references. She never did it again.
#35
I'm not handling anyone but my husband. The question to my husband would be, why is she so comfortable speaking to you? No matter his answer, I would ask him to make it uncomfortable, please.
#37
I used to greet my ex in the driveway when he got home. Give that man of yours a huge sloppy kiss on that face as soon as he gets out of his car! Make sure you are wearing something sexy too! Your neighbor will hate it, but your husband will love it!
#39
Make your husband remain quiet once she decides to greet him and then respond for him by saying he's fine, thanks for asking. As a matted of fact, we're both fine. Have a nice day. And make SURE that man DO NOT play with your presence when he is NOT in It! Keep Him aware that that woman has a JEZEBEL spirit and he is Never to engage conversation with her!
Poll Question
Do you think the neighbor should acknowledge both partners equally?
Yes, it's respectful
No, it's their choice
Depends on the relationship
Not sure
Total votes •
156
What do you think ?
DeeDee M 6 months ago
This is one of the worst threads I've seen on BP with the worst advice. First question, why is this woman comfortable talking to your husband and not you? Are you standoff-ish, or unfriendly? Is your husband an extrovert while you're more of an introvert? Because people feel very comfortable conversing with me, whilst my bald, handsome, brooding husband who would rather have his toenails pulled out than socialize and is like my own personal social anthrax. I've also been blocked recently by a man who I've been friends with for years (not close, but friends), and I'm 99% sure it has something to do with his wife being a jealous insecure stinker. I always went out of my way to be kind and speak to her, but the hositility from her was palpable so I just gave up. It broke my heart, but what can you do? Women need to remember this; he's married to you for a reason. What are you REALLY worried about? It's probably not the slutty neighbor, I'm just sayin'.
Ru Bee 6 months ago
Completely agree, all the women in this post have bigger problems than their husbands speaking to neighbours.
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Je souhaite 6 months ago
This is dumb who really cares maybe the husband and neighbour have a better rapport and the wifey doesn't really fit into the conversation
Little Bit 6 months ago
I really couldn't care less if a neighbour speaks to my husband and not me. My hubby is an adult and can speak to whoever he chooses. If I speak to them and they ignore me then that's fine too. If they want to be ignorant then it's on them. People like that are not worth your time or energy.
DeeDee M 6 months ago
This is one of the worst threads I've seen on BP with the worst advice. First question, why is this woman comfortable talking to your husband and not you? Are you standoff-ish, or unfriendly? Is your husband an extrovert while you're more of an introvert? Because people feel very comfortable conversing with me, whilst my bald, handsome, brooding husband who would rather have his toenails pulled out than socialize and is like my own personal social anthrax. I've also been blocked recently by a man who I've been friends with for years (not close, but friends), and I'm 99% sure it has something to do with his wife being a jealous insecure stinker. I always went out of my way to be kind and speak to her, but the hositility from her was palpable so I just gave up. It broke my heart, but what can you do? Women need to remember this; he's married to you for a reason. What are you REALLY worried about? It's probably not the slutty neighbor, I'm just sayin'.
Ru Bee 6 months ago
Completely agree, all the women in this post have bigger problems than their husbands speaking to neighbours.
Load More Replies... Je souhaite 6 months ago
This is dumb who really cares maybe the husband and neighbour have a better rapport and the wifey doesn't really fit into the conversation
Little Bit 6 months ago
I really couldn't care less if a neighbour speaks to my husband and not me. My hubby is an adult and can speak to whoever he chooses. If I speak to them and they ignore me then that's fine too. If they want to be ignorant then it's on them. People like that are not worth your time or energy.
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