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30 People Share The Unexpected Ways They Found Out Their Partner Was Cheating
Learning about a partner’s infidelity can feel like a kick to the gut. It can take the wind out of you, leaving you unable to process what happened for a few minutes. Some describe it as the “deepest pain” they’ve ever felt.
How you find out is another story, and it can either be an added insult to injury or momentary comic relief because of how stupidly laughable it is. As these TikTok users have shared, it can be a bit of both.
You’re about to read anecdotes about cheating discoveries through emojis, revelations from the affair partners, and while looking through a food delivery app. Hopefully, you’ve never gone through such traumatic experiences, but if you have, feel free to share them in the comments.
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#1
He brought her to our house and my toddler snitched, and my toddler even took a photo on his tablet 😭😭😭 now he resents our kid
Power puff scientist 8 months ago
what a d*****s, not even talking about the cheating itself, but who takes a woman home to cheat while your kid is at home
Nina 8 months ago
And then afterwards resent your kid. You should resent yourself for your actions
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Charles McChristy 8 months ago
Wow, imaging resenting your kid because YOU are a POS. He doesn't deserve to be anywhere near that child.
Charles McChristy 8 months ago
That's nearly how my mother found out. She asked me what I did that day and I said, "Dad took me to some lady's house who could stand on one leg and drink a beer."
Marianne Grann 5 months ago (edited)
If he resents your kid for this he is a very small human being, and you’ll do much better without him.
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#2
WHILE ON FaceTime with him, I received a “hey girl I know you don’t know me but” dm from the girl, her and I both dumped him and are friends to this day 🫶🏻
#3
The husband of the woman he cheated on me with pulled up in front of my house with a jansport bookbag FULL of proof. Told me I was too pretty to be getting played.
TheRightToArmBears 8 months ago
Looks should have nothing to do with sticking up for someone getting played
#4
His little sister gave me his Apple Watch & told me his password (I didn’t even know it) bc it kept going off & I found everything 🥲 ( she was 6 at the time 😭) shoutout to her 🙏
KatSaidWhat 8 months ago
Ben Aziza could use some fresh air and a cold bucket of water - if anyone comes across as being brainwashed, it's you mate.
#5
A girl I went to high school with was M*rdered, read her obituary and found out her “ significant other” was MY boyfriend 🥲
#6
He left his phone at her house. SHE went thru HIS phone, saw our messages and called ME !! She knew his password but i didnt
[>.<]/ 8 months ago
No such thing as a sidepiece. Both are being cheated on.
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I was watching the Knicks game and the camera panned on him lol
#8
She posted their pregnancy announcement.
(Awkward) Dumpster Fire 8 months ago
Now I am not a fan of cheaters. BUT if you are going to.. at least try to hide it 😓😞
#9
My mom broke the news to me. He cheated on me with my mom.
Jumping Jellyfishes 8 months ago
I know someone who had something similar happen to her. Her and her husband divorced and then her ex-husband bizarrely married her mother. Their kid now has a step-mother who is also their grandmother
Microwaved Robot 8 months ago
I am finding that A LOT of Mothers do this. Two reasons, that I can figure, Mom is jealous, of her child, trying to either steal the boyfriend and even other friends, and, as well, wants to know that they can still get 'the young ones'. This parent wants the daughters friends to like her more. Second, is the mother who would do this to prove that BF is not good enough for her, that he cheated and "how sick was he to cheat with Your OWN Mother!" Broken up, all's good now and sometimes Mom and BF continue for a few months or even years. Rough Family Life
Gayle Owens 4 months ago
The kind of mom who would rub that hurt right in. Narcissistic competition.
#10
he was cheating with my best friend, who would brag to her ex bf about it. her ex called me and told me. then i dated her ex. he was lovely!
Katharina Sei. 8 months ago
If your "best friend " is knowingly cheating with your partner, this person is not your friend at all. However you got the chance to get rid of 2 people.
Ben Aziza 8 months ago
Yeh when you are doing this ↓ with relationships something is off XD hq7201-67f...a1b61c.jpg 
#11
some random instagram account followed me and their bio was “bailey, he is cheating on you”
Ben Aziza 8 months ago
Reminds of a recent story in here about a woman who helped the new gf escape his insane ex. Either way one should double-check such a vague message as it can be the reverse situation of some unfortunate soul being stalked by an unhinged ex. In the previously mentioned case the heroic woman set up a meeting, showed evidence and offered along with her husband a place to stay in.
Cooking Panda 8 months ago
I bet it's one of his close friends or family. Doesn't like that your BF was cheating on you, but doesn't want to come out as a snitch
#12
He left his phone in the car while he was out getting gas. I locked all the doors and went thru his phone while he watched thru the window lol
Jay Scales 8 months ago
There's more to this story.... I'd love to hear the 'what happened beforehand' & 'What happened afterwards'
#13
girly pop literally commented on his ig post “how handsome, it doesn’t even look like you’re cheating on your gf” 🙈
#14
he posted her sitting on his lap on his story and blocked me from seeing it but forgot to block my best friend from seeing it 💀
nottheactualphoto 8 months ago
"On his story." Everyone on the planet is familiar with this terminology.
#15
He kept his organized bang list inside an animorphs book. I saw it and got excited because I love animorphs. the list fell out
Offbeat Quinoa 8 months ago
Ew who tf has a “bang list” 😂 that’s so creepy, the ways I’d judge someone so fast if I found out they kept a list like that
#16
He told me he was sick so I went to drop off comfort food. The girl opened the door.
#17
He charged tinder gold to my credit card 🤡
#18
His other girl viewed my tik tok profile LMAOO I love you Aileen you saved my life girl
#19
His boyfriend told me
#20
he randomly changed his passcode one day so I waited til he fell asleep & shined my phone flashlight angling the side of the screen and could see his fingerprints & got the code on the 1st try :)
#21
She left her toothbrush. So I used it to clean the toilet and left. ✌🏼
Katharina Sei. 8 months ago
The OP should have used HIS toothbrush, he probably her that his sister is temporary living with him.
hannahbahngswife 8 months ago
Yeah no. What if she didn't know? I don't understand the mindset of "take it out on the sidepiece" and not the cheater. Unless she knew. Then that's another story. But I'm sure there's better ways to be petty than "hey what if i put toilet bacteria in someone's toothbrush that they regularly use?"
#22
He blocked me from seeing his stories on snap while he was in LA, but his best friend was in love with me so he showed me 💆🏽♀️💆🏽♀️was it petty to start dating his bestie? Yes, yes it was.
Charles McChristy 8 months ago
As long as the bestie was okay with it and you weren't just messing with his head.
Gen X Feral 8 months ago
Petty , but completely understand. Sometimes you have to give karma a helping hand. F him
#23
We used locket and he sent a pic with sunglasses on and she was in the reflection taking the picture
Nina 8 months ago
I have zoomed on a floor and a pair of shoes, he send a pic from her house...
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#24
I had a gut feeling and he called me crazy so I said “screenshots don’t lie” and he broke down crying and apologizing
Snazzy Smurf 8 months ago
Gas lighting in effect.. That is before the receipts have been provided.
#25
Google photos made a collage of the photos he had saved in his phone
#26
Erm my little sisters classmate asked her if I was still dating him and when she said yes he hit her with “that’s weird bc he’s dating my cousin”💀
Borg 8 months ago
In Denmark we have a saying: "From Children and Drunks you shall hear the truth"
Jan Willem ten Dam 8 months ago
We have the same in Dutch: “children and druk people say the truth”.
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#27
his son called me on his phone and asked why i made his mommy cry. my ex told me they both died in a car crash . 😀
YDNinja 8 months ago
The man said that his wife and child had died in a car crash, then when the clearly alive wife learned about it, she cried and the kid called OP.
Load More Replies... E Menendez 8 months ago
This doesn't seem real. How did a little boy know it was her number and she was the reason his "mommy cried".
Katherine Forest 8 months ago
The guy told OP his wife and kid died in a car crash, so OP dated guy, made mommy cry who was very much alive as was the son. Dude posed as a widower to date other women, og wife and child found out.
winterwidow87 8 months ago (edited)
The guy told this woman his son and wife died in a car crash. They started dating and she found out that was a lie, because his son called her asking why she made his mommy cry, so kid and wife were very much alive and the wife probably found out about him cheating, that's why she was crying.
Load More Replies... Pittsburgh rare 8 months ago
It was a man telling a woman he was a widower and his child had died as well.
Load More Replies... #28
I went thru his notes app and there was a list of girls he slept with chronologically WITH A RATING out of 10 next to it. There was my name with about 8 girls after me 🤩
Offbeat Quinoa 8 months ago
Who cares what he rated her 😂 I’m sure he was a 1
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he was asleep with his phone under his pillow, i heard a notif sound i had never heard before, spent 20 minutes carefully inching my hand under the pillow to grab the phone without waking him up. it was grindr.
#30
i had a dream about it, the next day he walked into my apartment and i said “so what’s her name” he said “jennifer”, trust ur instinct babes
liam newton-harding 8 months ago
Dreams…We’re honestly counting dreams as, “evidence”…this is so cliche.
Sandella 8 months ago
Not evidence, the trigger. The evidence wasn't needed since he confessed at the first question...
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#31
She dmd me on instagram bragging. Posted it on my Instagram story and tagged her sorority 😊
#32
She cheated on me with a girl from her school later my friends found out the girl had a boyfriend & him and I met the next day & now we are married
Snazzy Smurf 8 months ago
Sounds like the Amy Robach and T.J. Holmes scenario. Their ex spouses are together.
#33
We were playing Roblox and his side piece joined and said “hi baby” the discord call got REALLLL quiet
Boredandsomea 8 months ago
If you where playing roblox... is it really his side piece or just another girl from kindergaren.
#34
I was at his baseball game in Gainesville and I got a “hey girly” DM while sitting next to his mom. Showed his mom the DM, said “you raised a piece of s**t” and left. Flew that night back to Miami.
Bi.Felicia 8 months ago
I'm confused about this one, if someone could decipher this, I appreciate it.
winterwidow87 8 months ago (edited)
She was at his baseball game sitting next to his mum when she got a DM from the woman he was cheating with informing her he was a cheater (that's what a "Hey girly" message is). She showed the DM to his mum and she left.
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I asked to look at his phone and then he proceeded to snap his phone right in half over his knee so that I couldn’t look through it 😌 that comfirmed it right there
#36
one of his friends thought i looked diff in a picture so he showed me and asked what i did different bc he couldn’t figure it out. the other girl look just like me 🤠🤚🏻
#37
Found the Ashley Madison app on his phone while looking for UberEats 🤡
Zoe Vokes 8 months ago
I just looked it up and apparently yes it’s still active.
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Syd 8 months ago
Ashley Madison was/is a site/app that allowed married people to meet up and cheat on their spouses with other married people. Horrible and ruined many relationships including mine.
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I use his ChatGPT account and the last chat on it when I opened it was a screenshot of his dms with some girl and him asking chat how he should respond to her in order to meet up with her that week
#39
“hey abby” jokingly said oh who’s abby and he said “im sorry who told you”. he meant to say baby
#40
Had a weird feeling. Drove by his house at night and my best friend’s car was outside lol
Robert Benson 8 months ago
Maybe he was talking to her best friend about interesting ways to propose? It guess it could start with that... and then one thing leads to another ... and s*x happens?
#41
I had to Google him because he went Mia. turns out he cheated on me, ☠️her and then got arrested.
Susan Robinson-Collins 8 months ago
Did you miss the part about the murder..??
Load More Replies... Zoe Vokes 8 months ago
I think it happens a lot. If the affair partner says, “I’ll tell your wife,” or is pregnant and the cheater is desperate not to lose their partner and family. I’ve seen many stories about husbands killing their affair partner (or their wife to be with the affair partner instead).
#42
i got mono after we had hung out for a weekend and i jokingly asked him who he cheated on me with…he told me everything
#43
He wrote about every detail in his ✨diary✨ and left it on the kitchen counter and I read every word then packed all my stuff and moved across the country
Pittsburgh rare 8 months ago
Sounds like he lacked the balls to break up so wanted you to do it instead
ScootyPuffJr 8 months ago (edited)
Agreed! Going through someone's phone is disgusting, too. If you have that strong of a feeling, just LEAVE.
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#46
Was picking my ex up from work and a random car rolled up to us, the guy driving rolled his window down and looked at me while pointing to my ex and said “he made out with my fiance” and drove away 😁
#47
We shared an Amazon account and he had ordered a bunch of baby stuff for an address in Washington. I wasn’t pregnant or in Washington 🙂
#49
He was on his death bed with stage 4 cancer, I was his full time caregiver and I went through his phone 💖💖💖💖💖
Pittsburgh rare 8 months ago (edited)
That's a really good moment to leave. The other part can take care of him
#50
One guy messaged me…then another…then another- come to find out I was one of TWENTY SIX
#51
He was live streaming on twitch and at the end of the live stream he turned to his dad and said “Teresa is coming over” :) (my name is Nicole)
Earonn - 8 months ago
Am I too old? What in that sentence makes him a cheater? So, yeah, another woman is visiting him, I get that. And?
BlackestDawn 8 months ago
Maybe I'm too old as well because I have no idea how that sentence alone can be viewed as proof of cheating.
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When he was at a “friends place” overnight after going out so I googled the complex & matched the bricks on the website to the bricks a girl who followed him posted on her page to confirm he was lying
#53
A detective left me a voicemail after Chris Hansen interviewed my husband 🙃
Nichole Harris 8 months ago
Chris Hansen was/is the host of to catch a predator 😲
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#54
She made a tiktok of them and it popped up on my FYP. TikTok really said for you babe!
#56
His iCloud was logged in on my laptop so I was getting all the messages while watching netflix 😻😻
#57
Well….he works on the same Navy Supply ship with my mom. My mom hid in the stairwell in the hallway for his room at 4:00 am and saw the girl coming out of his room.
#58
I told him I knew he cheated and to confess to who it was. He named a different girl I didn’t even know about 🥴
#59
I went through his archive Facebook messages and he was cheating on me with his friends MOM
#61
I walked in on them and crashed out full Maddy euphoria banging on the door
#62
used his laptop THAT I BOUGHT HIM for my college and saw tons of OF emails and turns out he was spending all his money on personal vids from sophie rain and bhad babie 😭 WE WERE ENGAGED
#65
his mom called me!! s/o to you ms lewis you're a real one sorry I broke your front door 🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻
#67
woke up from my sleep after having a nightmare that he was talking to his ex, woke up and found him on ft in the bathroom w his ex 😂
#68
He told me to help him find a gift for his sister whose birthday was in “FEB.” Out of curiosity, I researched his family online. To find out her birthday is in MAY :))
#69
I downloaded his Snapchat data & pulled his phone records lmaooo. I also looked at his cashapp transactions- no app is safe from me
#70
WAS TEXTING HER ON CLASH OF CLANS???
#71
Found an email with her credit card number on it from the airport. They went to TX together rented a mustang. She was paying our phone bill too?!? 😂😅
#73
He was talking to her through Bluetooth on max volume while parked in the driveway for 30 minutes then told me it was his MALE boss.
#74
Carrie underwood song came on the radio and he changed the channel SO FAST
#75
My intuition 😭idk what happened but I could literally feel when it happened my stomach dropped and I instantly knew. Still the strangest thing I’ve ever felt in my life
#76
His password came to me in a dream and I logged into his Tinder account (it was smok3w33d) (Beyoncé dropped Lemonade five hours later)
What do you think ?
Pittsburgh rare 8 months ago
Shout-out to all those women who could work for the CIA with those investigating skills 😂👏 I don't and never will feel any sorry for cheaters so out them, expose them and dump'em
Fellfromthemoon 8 months ago
About those "hey, girlie" messages: my grandma received a similar call. The woman on the other end told her that she was having a good time with my grandpa (during the call, she meant.) My grandma only asked the woman that what she thought, who was the man beside her? (My grandpa was at home at the time of the call.) Another fiend of mine also received a dm about her husband being unfaithful from a woman. The story didn't hold water. Hubby was pretty much at a different place at the time, when he supposedly romanced the other woman. Very much verifiably. So, these messages on their own aren't reliable.
Jac Carr 8 months ago
Apparently, most of the people who send these fake messages are men pretending to be women. Can't say I'm shocked
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Danger Muppet 8 months ago
While I was reading this a pop-up for a local divorce lawyer kept popping up.
CP 8 months ago
I hope people got better evidence than what was presented in most of these posts.
Jnk 1 month ago
I see your point, but at the same time, if they were this suspicious, the relationship probably wasn't worth it for either party?
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Caro Ansaldo 6 months ago
I was at a friend's birthday party with my now ex boyfriend. He was in the park with his mobile. I was in the gazebo talking to some friends. I approached him and saw he was reading a message. I couldn't read the message, but saw the name of a woman. We went home (he stayed at my place that night) and next morning when he left, I looked for her in his facebook's friends list. She had him tagged in tons of messages where she said she loved him... When I asked him who she was and how long they have been together, he tried to invent an excuse that someone was filling my head with lies, I told him I found her posts... He invented more excuses and I told him I didn't want to see him ever again... This was in 2008. Never even run into him again...
Chewie Baron 8 months ago
I found out a boyfriend was cheating on me when I found a home made spreadsheet hidden in the cupboard with all the mugs and cups. He’d written down all the names of various guys he had come round for “s**y shenanigans time” and how they took their tea or coffee. Moved into the spare room.
Mel in Georgia 8 months ago
Not exactly cheating on me since I knew we weren't exclusive, but I was visiting a guy I was dating at his college and got on the elevator with a girl at the same time. She asked what floor, I said 4th, and she said, "Me too!" Had a little chat and when we got off the elevator we realized we were heading to the same door. I asked her if she was going to see the guy I was going to see and she said, "Yep!" We decided to stand together and knocked on the door. The look on his face when he answered was priceless. I just laughed and left her to deal with whatever was going to happen between them. Didn't see him again. :)
Pittsburgh rare 8 months ago
Shout-out to all those women who could work for the CIA with those investigating skills 😂👏 I don't and never will feel any sorry for cheaters so out them, expose them and dump'em
Fellfromthemoon 8 months ago
About those "hey, girlie" messages: my grandma received a similar call. The woman on the other end told her that she was having a good time with my grandpa (during the call, she meant.) My grandma only asked the woman that what she thought, who was the man beside her? (My grandpa was at home at the time of the call.) Another fiend of mine also received a dm about her husband being unfaithful from a woman. The story didn't hold water. Hubby was pretty much at a different place at the time, when he supposedly romanced the other woman. Very much verifiably. So, these messages on their own aren't reliable.
Jac Carr 8 months ago
Apparently, most of the people who send these fake messages are men pretending to be women. Can't say I'm shocked
Load More Replies... Danger Muppet 8 months ago
While I was reading this a pop-up for a local divorce lawyer kept popping up.
CP 8 months ago
I hope people got better evidence than what was presented in most of these posts.
Jnk 1 month ago
I see your point, but at the same time, if they were this suspicious, the relationship probably wasn't worth it for either party?
Load More Replies... Caro Ansaldo 6 months ago
I was at a friend's birthday party with my now ex boyfriend. He was in the park with his mobile. I was in the gazebo talking to some friends. I approached him and saw he was reading a message. I couldn't read the message, but saw the name of a woman. We went home (he stayed at my place that night) and next morning when he left, I looked for her in his facebook's friends list. She had him tagged in tons of messages where she said she loved him... When I asked him who she was and how long they have been together, he tried to invent an excuse that someone was filling my head with lies, I told him I found her posts... He invented more excuses and I told him I didn't want to see him ever again... This was in 2008. Never even run into him again...
Chewie Baron 8 months ago
I found out a boyfriend was cheating on me when I found a home made spreadsheet hidden in the cupboard with all the mugs and cups. He’d written down all the names of various guys he had come round for “s**y shenanigans time” and how they took their tea or coffee. Moved into the spare room.
Mel in Georgia 8 months ago
Not exactly cheating on me since I knew we weren't exclusive, but I was visiting a guy I was dating at his college and got on the elevator with a girl at the same time. She asked what floor, I said 4th, and she said, "Me too!" Had a little chat and when we got off the elevator we realized we were heading to the same door. I asked her if she was going to see the guy I was going to see and she said, "Yep!" We decided to stand together and knocked on the door. The look on his face when he answered was priceless. I just laughed and left her to deal with whatever was going to happen between them. Didn't see him again. :)
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